Feeling like a failure...

Dawn - posted on 04/25/2011

Honey, it's seriously no ones business at all!! As long as you don't allow your educate to go down the tubes. There are a lot of teen moms that don't further their education because they got pregnant young or they still go out all the time regardless of the fact that they are now a mother. As long as you take care of yourself and your child then don't worry about what other people think. Sadly, most people love to judge others and look their nose down at them because they want to feel better by finding something wrong with someone else. Just be happy and do what is right.

Aimee - posted on 04/25/2011

it does not matter that u have no qualifacations as i left school with non and i got preg at 17 and got married when i was 19 and i had little jobs 2 and i am not still with the dad know for private reasons but im a good mom to all 5 of my kids and thats all that should matter if people say anythin to u u say im a good mum i work to put food and clothes and a roof over my daughters head and that is all that should matter if they dont like it then they will have to live with that. if u want to do better and get a qualifacation in time then u can do so it is better when older u know more trust me im trainin to be carer so prove everyone wrong and carry on beein a good mom hope this helps

Tina - posted on 04/24/2011

that's not true i know people who had kids young and they're doing well for themselves have been able to do their sace a little later on and get into a good job. Having kids gives you more incentive do want to do better with your life to be a good role model and to be able to support them.

Chanielle - posted on 04/24/2011

I got pregnant with my first son at 17 and my second son at 20. I'm still with their dad (who is now my husband) and I still get looks from family and the sense that they are just waiting for me to fail. My mother went through some what of the same thing, being 17 with me, and it didn't pan out well in the end. They don't like the fact that I have another son with my husband and really, I believe that they have no room to talk anymore. I'm married with my own family now, what I do is my business, not anyone else's. I appreciate their concern, but I would also like it if they kept their comments to them selves.

Valerie - posted on 04/24/2011

my advice is stay away from those who say those things, they are toxic! you have plenty of time and opportunity to further your qualifications...by the way, being a parent is the most prestigious role there is...those who put you down have serious self-esteem issues of their own.

Mandy - posted on 04/24/2011

Thank you all for your kind, reassuring comments :-D you've all seriously cheered me up big time, THANK YOU.

Monica - posted on 04/23/2011

I was 17 when I fell pregnant and 18 when I had my son. I got the same response but hey if you are happy and you husband and son are happy you will be SUPER!!! everyone who hates is trying to help (but dont realise they arn't) and as long as you realise that you don't want to impress them im sure you and your family are healthy and great! good luck with the future!

Meshele - posted on 04/22/2011

Im 23, married and a mother of 2 kids. I dont have a clue as to what I want to do career wise for the rest of my life. As long as you love your kids, show them that you care and try, there isnt much else worth doing. Does that make sense? We have a place to live, food to eat and clothes on our backs. We also have a happy life. Thats what matters most.

Toni - posted on 04/22/2011

They say that it is too late to do anything with your life?
Think of it this way, you were 16 when you got pregnant, so when your child is old enough to go to school, so can you. When your child is old enough to look after himself, you will be young enough to do what you want. When your child is an adult and starts having children, you will still be young enough to have fun with your grand children.
You are a good mother, and you know it. That is all that matters.

April - posted on 04/22/2011

Don't listen to people who make you feel bad about yourself. Do they really know you? Do they know what your capable of? Yes you got pregnant at 16, yes maybe you don't have all the qualifications for now BUT you have a daughter, you have a husband and above all you have TIME.

Just because you had a baby at 16 doesn't mean it's the end of the world, let people talk. Let them say whatever is in their small minds. No one has the right to make you feel bad. The fact that your working at all shows that you want a better future for your family. I bet your a great mum. You can always go back and continue with school, a lot of people do that so who are they to judge.

Life is what you make it, never let ignorant people drag you down with them. You have your family and their love and support. Your husband, your daughter and whoever else supports you are all that matter. Stick with the positive and stay away from the negative. I hope everything works out for you. :)

Gillian - posted on 04/22/2011

Dont listen to them!
I fell preg with my 1st at 14 had him when I was 15, everyone said I would never get my qualifications and I would end up claiming money and living of other people, well I got all the qualifications i needed/wanted I am with his dad we are married have another child and one on the way, I used to work full time untill my 2nd was born then stopped as childcare would have been too much for both of them but my husband works 63+hrs a week, we dont get any money from anyone, both my kids are very happy healthy and we take great care of them I plan to go back to work when this new baby has turned 1.

You are doing great and as long as she is healthy and happy that is alol that matters, if you want to go back and get your qualifications then you can, yes it will be hard but you can do it dont let people get you down

Marty - posted on 04/22/2011

I know a girl from my hometown who got pregnant at I think 14 or 15. She is now on her 3rd child and she's a few youngers then my 23! She got called all sorts of names and was surely judged in many ways but you know what... as far as I could ever tell...her kids are beautiful, educated, happy, and so is she. I think in the end as long as YOU know your doing a good job, your reward and reassurance should be right in front of you... unless shes getting into trouble behind your back! :P