feelings on getting pregnant.

Neisha - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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How did you feel when you got pregnant at such a young age? and how old were you when you were pregnant and what did your parents say and the father?

I was scared only being 13, i didnt know how to feel. everything was going through me. The father of the child had left after he found out. he moved to another town. I never heard from him till 2 months before she was born. at on stage he said it wasnt his.
My mum said we should get you tested you diseases. and made go with my dad in the truck for a couple of days. he wanted a DNA test. it was upsetting.

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Hailey - posted on 10/10/2010

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i was 18 my bby dad was horrible he wuld just sit in front of the tv id go collage and work then cum clean the mess he wuld of made he was kinda abbusive chockin me or gave me a slap so i throw him out and he wuld use tht to get to me tht i made him homless and he wuldnt want my daughter just make me cry day and night i wasnt in a gd stage at 9 month but i nw found my mr right and he great for me and my lil girl she has nothin to do with her dad

Stifler's - posted on 10/10/2010

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I was 20. I was like "my life is over". I was wrong though, because I've still had fun and done things I want to since having a baby.

Brooke - posted on 10/10/2010

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I was 18 when I got pregnant, the dad was 19. I had graduated high school, moved out of my parents house, was working as a retail store manager and going to school full time when I fell pregnant. My partner was working 30+ hours at a gym, living in an apartment with friends, and going to school full time. I was terrified when I found out I was pregnant, I was in denial and couldn't believe it was happening to me. I always wanted to be a mom, but I didn't picture myself being 18 and unmarried. Our daughter is 3 and I am glad I had her, she is my whole world and the reason why I get up everyday! My parents were very disappointed but as time when on they became more and more supported. My mom could tell I needed her and we have struggled with getting along, but she came around quite quickly. I text her saying I was pregnant and she's like okay, I am going to find someone to cover for me, I'll be over by lunch. His parents were not supportive at all! They wanted nothing to do with either of us. We only see his family occasionally on holidays and we do not stay long, we just feel awkward and although his mom and dad have come around his extended family has not. When I told the father he grabbed me, and pulled me close and said "I will love you forever! Well get through this." He was super supportive every step of the way, we have never fought for custody, we do not do child support we try to split receipts equally and it seems to be working. We are still together four years later. He is graduating this spring with a B.A. degree in Business Management and I just stopped working full time and am only working about 16 hours a week and going to school full time hoping to graduate by 2014.

Melysa - posted on 06/04/2010

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i was 16 when i fell 17 when she was born my now husband was scared but wanted to make it work i told him it was both of us or none of us and he said he could not live without me, my mum was awesome she told us it was a girl that day(she was right) his parents were a little worried we might be too young but they were thrilled to be grandparents and my dad well he just started with a lecture (luckily it was over the phone so i didn't have to listen to it all) at the end of the day the people who were most important stepped up and did the right thing

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I was cluelessly happy. Father was happy as well, we meant for it to happen. I was 17 at the time. My mom asked how can I ruin my life but actually that was such a wonderful gift I had. My dad just said I love you. I am 21 now on our third child, only 3 months to go and my baby daddy is my hubby and we are so happy together.

Shelby - posted on 05/31/2010

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I was shocked and upset, I figured it would be the end of my life as I know it. But I've realized that my life isn't ending, it's just changing it's course and instead I'll get a little passenger along for the ride. =]] I'm 11 weeks pregnant and I'm 18. I'll either be 18 or 19 when the baby is born, because the EDD is one day before my own, which I find pretty exciting. My mom was upset, but she has warmed up to the idea a lot, and she's even excited to have a grandbaby. I understand about the father thing. The father of my child denies paternity, even though he knows he's the only one I've ever been with. But, that's okay with me. It means that I won't have to involve someone in my baby's life that doesn't deserve to be there.

Emma - posted on 05/30/2010

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I was 18 wen i fell preg and the father was very supportive and did everything possible to be there, we are still together and we love our amazing 5month old son. Life has changed so much but for the better. Wen i told my parents they were obviosly shocked but once that wore off they were just excited and both my parents now love there grandson soo much.

Kristen - posted on 05/29/2010

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i got pregnant & gave birth to my son when i was 15. i was scared & really sad. me & the father both thought about an abortion. but we didnt, because we could never be able to do that. i cried a lot. but now all hes brought me is joy & im so happy. my dad was upset but never said anything to do, i just knew he was. my mother didnt say anything, she knew i was mature enough & that i could do it. she has a lot of grandchildren already and was excited to have a new one. especially because i was her first daughter to have a baby. after we told everybody about it, my boyfriend was getting excited & started to be happy about it. even though i was still scared and cried a lot... mainly because i was the one who would be giving birth. but me & my boyfriend are still together, and liam is now 9 months old :)

Hope - posted on 05/25/2010

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With my first, I got pregnant shortly after my 16th birthday. I was devastated, because I had such plans! But, when I got my first ultrasound and got to hear her heartbeat, those plans changed real fast. :) Her daddy is a big part of her life. When she was 15 months, I fell pregnant again! This time, with my beautiful, now 5 month old, son. Neither of them were planned, or really {not to sound horrible or anything} wanted. I didn't tell my mom I was preg with my daughter til I was 28 weeks. I told her with my son at almost 3 months, but hid it from a lot of people. My mom was very disappointed in me, because she had wanted me to go to college first and all kinds of things like that, but... I postponed college for my children. I have a full time job, but I don't miss a minute of their lives. They are my world, and I love them so very much. They have the same father, which things are coming to an end for he & I, but he will always be here for his children, and me. My parents knew I wouldn't lie to them about who the father was, so.. there wasn't a problem when it came to paternity with my parents, but his questioned it.. Apparently he's perfect ;) lol.. Don't get me wrong, I love him.. But being doubted that way does hurt. I was devastated with both pregnancies. And before anyone jumps my shit for ending up pregnant twice, I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL AND BOTH OF MY CHILDREN ARE CONDOM BABIES. We are apparently just extremely fertile! :)

Nickole - posted on 05/24/2010

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I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant but I was 19 when I had her. I was really scared of what my mom would think come to find out she wasn't the one I had to worry about my dad wanted me to hide the fact that I pregnant from everyone. Her father left when I was 8 months pregnant and has been in and out of her life since then.

Alyson - posted on 05/24/2010

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i was 17 when i found out i was pregnant. i found out on the last day of my junior year in highschool. i was really disappointed in myself and dident know how to handle it i told the father of my baby and he was ok with it at first then kind of freaked out and said he thought i should get an abortion which is against how i felt but eventually he was ok with it again. it was hard to tell my parents i ended up texting my mom to tell her because i couldent do it face to face and she told my dad who dident talk to me for 3 almost 4 months.

Angelique - posted on 05/24/2010

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i fell pregnant at the age of 16, in feb of my matric year... i never really took it to heart though, and only told the parents in june! (i was 17 by then). my parents were shattered and felt as though it was partially their fault for allowing me to have a boyfriend and accepting him into our family. they did, however, become more supportive as time went on, though were never happy with the idea. His mom, however, reacted completely differentlt to the way we expected, saying I should have an abortion as my life would be ruined otherwise. Her influence over him was huge, eventually causing us to break up. However, after giving birth to our baby, all the grandparents went crazy over her, and are absolutely amazing grandparents. I have just turned 20, and my daughter is now 2 and a half years old. I finished my matric year, with the exception of my final paper which I could not write as i was in labour, but wrote the following year. I took a gap year to be with my daughter and am currently studying, in my 2nd Year. My daughter's dad and I are no longer together, though he does keep regular contact with her. I now have a wonderful boyfriend who loves her as his own!! My message to you is to keep strong and never lose faith! It is tough! But with God as your rock u can make it through anything!!! Goodluck to you for the future!

Neisha - posted on 05/23/2010

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Thank you to all the mums who responded. and thank you to the ones who congratulated me. It is people like you who make me happy in being a young mum. as i have always been the type of person to care what people think. i just wish some of you were in mackay. I dont hae many friends only one and she is 6 hours away. and she is not a teen mother. She is just a friend that has always been there for me.

Congrats to all. and thank you again.

Faith - posted on 05/23/2010

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with my first, i got pregnant at 18 had him when i was 19. That time around, was not planned. i found out the week of mothers day. i was afraid to tell my mom, as i just told her i was taking a leave from school (due to health issues) two weeks into my leave i found out i was pregnant. we had our son on our 1 year anniversary together (jan 3rd) then he asked me to marry him by the bedside of our son on January 7th.
I am pregnant again and i found out at age 20, and will have the baby when im 21. I found out in february and the wedding was on april 3rd. We have been together for almost 2.5 years.
i comend all you mums that become momys young. i had a hrd time at 19, i couldnt imagine at 13-17...as not even legal adults!

Chloie - posted on 05/23/2010

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i was 19 when i found out i dont really think we are ever ready to tell our parents my friend was 29 when she found out married for 3 yrs or something n was scared t tell her parents I think you are an AMAZING person for keeping this baby and doing everything you are all the best to you n congrats!!!

Hayley - posted on 05/21/2010

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i was fifteen with my first baby, seventeen with my second and im not eighteen pregnant with my theird and everytime its gotton worse. no one in my family believes in me. the father of my babies has always been a part of the picture (not that my fam likes that) but i think he's amazing. all i can teel u is try ur best not to care what people think or say and just think about ur baby

Shelby - posted on 05/21/2010

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I was 17 when I got pregnant, 18 when I had my daughter. When I found out i was both scared out of my mind but happy. I got into a car accident when I was 13 weeks pregnant(we rolled our car 4 times) and I was SOO scared that I was going to loose my baby. I spent the whole night in the hopsital getting tests and ultrasounds to make sure and everything ended up being fine i jsut had to watch for signs of misscarriage. Luckily I never had any signs. I do believe that my baby was effected by it though because she had a really high heartbeat up untill she was born and even after( her heartbeat got up to 208bpm a few times) it really scared my and my partner. I went into early labor at 34 weeks and was inthe hospital for 3 days. It ended up stopping itself and then I had my baby at 39 weeks exactly. she was 7lbs 11oz She is very strong and healthy and is 41/2 months now and is starting to be able to sit on her own. My doc says she has quite advanced development and motor skills and is growing at a perfect rate. Her father and I are still together and Planning our wedding for next summer. He proposed to me at new years last year and we are so happy together. Im here if you ever need to talk, Im a great listener.

Monica - posted on 05/21/2010

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i was 17 when i got pregnate i went home (where i wasnt living with my parents and called my mom.. i told her and she wasnt mad or disapointed she was just like this is going to be hard but i will help you as much as you need! i love my mom she is so supportive. my dad was never really in my lifeand has no room to talk about what happens to me) just to add in i was pregnate at 14 but lost my son on august 24 2006, right before i turned 15 he was full term but i got into an accedent and crushed my baby thought god was punishing me for being so young... so when i got pregnatethe second time i was scared.. i told the father and he was so excited he to was 17 we went to the firlst ultrasound and found out we were having twins as scared as i was i was so excited but so scared god was going to take my daughters my daughters were born august 29th 2008 both very healthy and very much alive i was the happiest mother i think ever... but feelings about my pregnance i dont honestly know there was just so many.. expecially after i found out i was having twins. but young or noe i wouldnt want it any other way then it is i love my girls with all of my heart and there father is now my husband ~ we have been together since we were 13 with very few break ups in between~ and got married november 22,2008! and i am very sorry to hear about the father being like that it is sad but just remember hes missing out NOT you or your daughter! congrats!

Lacy - posted on 05/21/2010

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I got pregnant at 16 and had my daughter at 17. Her father was 18 when she was born. We stayed together and lived with his parents. My mom was not happy at all. She didn't talk to me threw out the whole pregnancy. We still don't talk. My daughters father and I broke up about a year and a half after high school. But we still get along and talk.

Shelby - posted on 05/20/2010

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I was 17 when i found out i was prego...my b/f was living w/ me at my moms ((kinda)) I wasnt scared...it really didnt hit me till i had him! lol but i was soooo happy!!! My mom cried when i told her then she called the whole family! lol she LOVES being a gma! she was there for me every step of the way! i'm luck to have her for a mom! lol i'm almost 19 now i'm living in an apt w/ my fiance now and going to college! and if i hadnt had this lil blessing i'm sure i'd still be sitting on my ass living at my moms...he gave me a reason to live...sorry i got carried away!!! lol...

Sarah - posted on 05/20/2010

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New at this Circle of Mom....
...i was 18 when i fell pregnant (havn't had bubz yet due in 6wkz)...i was shocked, being unplanned and only been with the father for exactly a year! also im in the middle of my degree which makes it harder as i wana finish my studies too! the father is happie we moved in with each other after 12wkz of the pregnacy and now he can't wait to meet our baby and enjoy life together...my mum bascially used the quote "if you play with fire long enough you will get burnt!" but she fine with it all and can't wait to be a grandma as this be her first grandchild hehe and my dad took the news well when i thought he wouldn't as he comes from a Christian background but nar he happie and can't wait either!!!!

Ashley - posted on 05/20/2010

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sweetheart, im so sorry to hear that. I hope everything is going okay. My pregnancy wasn't planned. But a month after I graduated from highschool, I found out I was pregnant. I was graduated and moved out of my parents house, living with my boyfriend (the father of my daughter) and i just had a feeling that i was, I wasn't even late with my period yet.. I took three at home tests, different days different times, all came back positive, and then i went to the doctor and took one, positive. My boyfriend was worried becaue the first time i took the test i came home from work and went straight to the bathroom...and obviously id been in there awhile. I was on my way out with the test in hand and he was waiting at the door...i said, "Im pregnant, for real" and he a smile came across his face, with a sense of scared... we were both really happy but also scared at the same time. I called my mother and she was the first one i told. She didnt want to believe me. She thought it was a false negative and was hell bent on getting me to the doctor. Well even after I went to the doctor the test still came back positive, she was kind of disappointed i guess because my sister whos 3 years older than me was 6 months pregnant and her baby daddy left her for a stripper. So my mom thought maybe something like that would happen with me and Paul. Well when I told my dad I said, "Dad, I'm pregnant." and his exact words were "What do you want me to do about it?" and I started crying. It took them a few months, but they both came around and they're really good parents and even better grandparents. Me and Paul are still together and have been for about 2 years and a few months...our daughter will be 15 months on the first. We're still going strong and are planning to get married sometime next summer (hopefully, if we can afford it).

Brittany - posted on 05/20/2010

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i was 16 when i got pregnant with my first son and 17 when i gave birth. i actually found out he was a boy on my 17th bday! but the first thing my mom asked me when i told her i was pregnant was if i would get an abortion. and i of course said absolutely not! i was thinking about adoption until i heard his heartbeat for the first time and i couldnt do it. his "sperm donor" as i like to call him tried to become abusive, was verbally abusive and just crazy after i found out i was pregnant so i left him and he told me he wanted nothin to do with me or my son. now that my baby is 4 1/2 he is tryin to see him and i dont think so. i also have a 2 yr old got pregnant at 18 and had him when i was 19. my mom asked the same crap and his father left me and wants nothing to do with him which is fine with me. he tried to say i was never even pregnant in the first place which im like right thats why i have a 2 yr old. now im pregnant with my 3rd son and engaged to the wonderful guy who got me pregnant this time! yeah i got lucky he didnt leave and he is helping me with my older boys he loves them as his own and he is their daddy because he's all they have ever had and we're all a big happy family!

Cori - posted on 05/20/2010

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i got at the age of 15 and had my little girl at 16 i was scared cause what everyone would say i lost all my friends and got treated different like i had diese or something it sucked when i went on marturnity from school they were suppose to send a tutor out to my house so i wouldnt fall behind and she never showed up so of course i fell behind and they tried to flunk me and i fought and fought but they failed me anyways now i am a stay at home mom i love it but i love to work

Claudia - posted on 05/20/2010

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I was 15, her daddy was 17. I also had her at the age of 15.
I myself was very scared. When my parents finally found out they were very upset but also very supportive. I didn't let my age get to me though...I graduated from High School and had worked part time at a grocery store all through my school years so that I could provide for my baby girl.
Her daddy who I'm still with was around the whole time. He would watch her while I went to school and to work...she's daddy's little girl. It did get very hard at times...especially at that age b/c you have to just grow up in an instant.
Now at 24 and 26 yrs of age we're still very happy and 2 yrs ago we added another bundle of joy to our family.
No matter how old you are if you really want what's best and you work for it then you will eventually get it...it takes time though...especially when you're trying to get through it without any outside help.

Emma - posted on 05/20/2010

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I found out i was pregnant when i was 15 and had him just before my 16th, my boyfriend was 20 at the time. I was scared and very very excited. My mum and dad where shocked but my mum came round to the idea better then my dad. He still thinks me having my son has ruined my life but it has only just started. I am now pregnant with my 2nd and making the most of being a mum as its the hardest but best thing ever.

Kaela - posted on 05/20/2010

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I got pregnant at 18 and had my daughter at 19. Before I told my parents, I was looking for places to live just in case they kicked my out. I was expecting the worst. My parents were shocked and hurt but eventually they started rejoicing with me in the excitement. I was excited, and scared, at the idea of me having a child growing inside of me and having my baby born for me to take care of. I new it wouldnt be easy but I was preparing myself. Itsnever an easy thing but I believe that I was ready (although there are probably many out there who would disagree) and I love every minute of it. My daughters father is married to me now and we enjoy our baby girl. He has been 100% committed to us since the day he found out. My brother took it a little harder but loves his niece.
I am sorry you are having a more difficult time but keep it up and love on that little one.

Tiffany - posted on 05/19/2010

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16 and twice at 18 they where very upset but my bf and I where really happy

Tiffany - posted on 05/19/2010

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I had just turned 19 when i found out i was pregnant, and my boyfriend was 31 ( and yes i know thats a big age difference) It was like every emotion in the world hit me at the same time. Me and my boyfriend had been trying to get pregnant but didn't think it would happen so quickly. He was so excited when i told him i thought he was gonna start jumping up and down. Our son is 5 months old now and i could not ask for a more wonderful handsome baby and wonderful boyfriend.

Jackquline - posted on 05/19/2010

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I was 17 when I fell pregnant and had my daughter at 18. Her father had just turned 20 in march and we found out that I was pregnant in may. We have been together for 5 years prior to our daughters birth. My parents were disapointed but as soon as we found out we were having a girl everything changed. They were so excited. His parents were crazy. His dad was like ok and his mom was scary. She was telling him that he wasnt the father of our daughter stright up till the day she arrived. But they are all supportive of me and him. We love each other more then anything know. Both our parents are very excited and since it being my moms FIRST grandbaby she is overwhelmed with excitement.

Kia - posted on 05/19/2010

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i fell pregnant at 15. had my daughter at 16. her father felt like he ruined my life but we deffinently stayed together. my parents were absolutely shocked, but supportive. his parents were the exact same way. we are still together, happily and our daughter is now 14 months old & i am finishing up highschool. we plan on getting married & having a child soon after, we both cannot wait!

Mikayla - posted on 05/19/2010

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I was 17 when I got pregnant and the father was 16. At first when I found out I was scared and upset because my family was pushing abortion and or adoption cuz they too thought i was ruining my life. But on the other hand the fathers family was being very supportive, saying they would be there no matter the choice we made, so I felt very torn as well. Do i make my family happy and myself miserable, or do what I felt was right and let them adjust. No we weren't financially stable he was a junior in high school and i was a senior we weren't ready for the responsibility but there are so many people who have done it I had to at least try. And I give you major props for trying at 13!  Well my boyfriend and i made the choice to keep the baby and my family eventually came around. I just turned 20, and my son just turned 2, now my mothers family is very involved I would say my mom is too involved to the point where it's annoying...lol and the fathers family is also very involved. The father and i have been together for it'll be 5 years the day of our wedding. And right now we are living with his parents until we have enough money to get our own place We've had our fair share of disagreements but were still holding strong. We should share some more id love to hear more about your story.....your not the only one who's been a young parent that's for sure. Hope all goes well for you.   

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2010

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WOW 13 is young but when it comes to loving your child anyone can do it!!! I was 18 yrs old when I had my first and 19 yrs old when I had twin boys!! Their father was 20yrs old and then 21yrs old when the twins were born we were together for 3 years and I kicked him out when my twins were home for 2 weeks it was really hard but now we got back together after 2 years and things are great!!! Things aways happpen for the best!!!

Staceyanne - posted on 05/19/2010

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Thats really good to hear! Yeah without him i dont know where id be either. its good to have the help and support.

If you ever need a chat , drop me a line =]

Neisha - posted on 05/18/2010

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Thank you very Staceyanne. I am with some one else now who does a good job with her. I thank him alot with out him id probably be a stress wreck. lol. I love being a mother. I wouldnt have it any other way no matter my age.
and congrats on your relationship its nice to know that not every father is a jerk. :)

Staceyanne - posted on 05/18/2010

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It may be annoying but thats the choice you made. Im sorry to hear that you LO's father isnt fully involved. I guess im lucky in that aspect me and my boys father are still together and have been for 3 years.



Anyways keep doing a good job and remember to smile =]

Neisha - posted on 05/18/2010

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i too grew up very quickly and it was kinda annoying my friends were being teenagers while i was changing nappies and waking up all hours of the night.

I am 16 going on 17 and my daughter is 2 nearly 3. and i know its too young but i dont care what any one thinks bout it. .

her father dont even ring to ask how she is. the last time he spoke to her was probably January this year.

Jessica - posted on 05/18/2010

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i was 19, her father was 18. it was less than a year after highschool graduation. my mom took it pretty good. my dad meh, it took him awhile. HIS parents totally went onn their rocker. we broke up when i was 20 weeks pregnant and he didnt meet our daughter until she was 3 months old.

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wow 13, thats very young! how old are u and your baby now? i was 19 and half way through my degree, and been with my partner for over 3 years at the time. it was so scary finding out, and it was hard for my parents as they had very high expectations of me with getting my degree etc. now my girl is 1 and i am back doing my studies through correspondence. im out to prove all those wrong who said i had ruined my life, and in my aunties words 'fucked up everyting' (that was painful to hear). i cant wait to graduate and have another baby!

Staceyanne - posted on 05/17/2010

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I was 16 when i fell pregnant and i was living with my boyfriend, i was scared but excited. My mum and i hadnt talked for months but when we finally got back in contact my tummy couldnt hold a lie in if it wanted to. They needed time. But soon enough my mum and nan were excited and helping me baby shop and decorate the nursery and that kinda thing. My dad didnt really say much or have much to do with it til the nigth my son was born and i dont know it changed something in him they were attached at the hip and my son loves his poppy.



I remember sitting on my hospital bed having contractions screaming at my then boyfriends now partner telling him it was his fault and telling my mum i was sorry and i loved her and i appreciated everythign she did for me.



Im now nearing my 18th birthday with a 10 months old little boy. Being a mum changed me, but in a good way. I grew up the day i gave birth to my son. I found out truely what love was.

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