Kendall - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
I became pregnant at 16 (I am 17 now) with my ex-boyfriend, we were together for two years. Things started going down hill after I found out I was pregnant. He begged, and harrassed me because I wanted to keep my daughter. I cried myself to sleep for nights because of the horrible things he would say to me. He made me feel like I was a bad person for wanting to keep her. Finally, he got used to the idea, and accepted that he was going to be a father. Throughout my pregnancy, we would fight. We would be having a good day, and he would be doing all of these nice things for me...then all of a sudden he would turn mean and start cussing at me (which being pregnant and emotional) was hard for me to take, so I would cry. These fights got to be worse everytime, and they were always over him doing bad things. I got so upset all the time, I would worry about miscarrying my baby. Thankfully, she remained healthy. Once the baby was born, our fights started escalating into violence. I never really did anything that horrible for him to get upset with me. He would always just get so upset if I did not do what he wanted, or if he could not see the baby for some reason. He choked me one day when I was over at his house, and ever since then things really have never been the same. I told my parents, they wanted to press charges at first, but I begged them not to. My family has had several conversations with his parents but, his parents always twist things around and manipulate the situation by saying it is my fault for everything. On Easter Sunday, I found out that my ex was out doing drugs and seeing another girl, so I ended things. Ever since then, he has been constantly harrassing me by calling me names, sending all of these texts and constantly calling me. I only have stayed with him this long because I was scared of him taking me to court. I do not trust him alone with my daughter, so I do not want him to have any rights. Being with him, I have been contstantly scared of him getting mad at me. I could not go out and do simple things, without him...and if I did he would yell at me. I felt so trapped, and I still feel that way. I just do not think I can ever get away from him because I have a child with him. I really have not done anything to deserve what he has done to me, but he still tries to manipulate me and make me feel like its all my fault. I did not let him see our daughter for a week because of all of the bad things he did, and it probably was a mistake because he has been harrassing me for days over it. He called me the "C" word and wished I was dead, and said all of these terrible things to me...like I AM the bad person. He was the one who has been screwing up this whole time! I am so tired of being walked all over. I just do not know what to do. There is more to the story, but he has done so many bad things I have lost count. Any advice??? I did speek to a lawyer, to know what my rights are, but it still has not reassured me. If he were to ever get any rights of my daughter, I would be a complete wreck and scared for my daughter's well-being. I don't even want my daughter to have anything to do with his parents. I do not trust them, either. I know when we go to court he is just going to manipulate everything and get them to be on his side. I just hate this situation so much.