had mi lil gurl 4months ago and pregnant again !!! scared

Hayley Louise - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 53 moms have responded )

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im only 18 and never wanted kids but now i have a 4month old lil girl and pregnant again i have no idea what to do i am against abortions help xx

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Emily - posted on 01/08/2010

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Quoting Felicia:


Im 19 and my daughter will be 1 on the 25th. I was on birth control (the pill) and can honestly say it failed me but I dont have any regrets about having my child and Im ready to have a second child. Im on mirena now which has worked fine for me but there are tons of women with it who still get pregnant on it. So no, not all birth control works even if you follow a schedule on the pill or have a IUD. Its the luck of the draw.





There aren't TONS of cases where people have gotten pregnant on Mirena. It's actually very rare. And when it does happen there's usually something wrong with the pregnancy. Ex: Ectopic, the IUD growing into the placenta, and usually the pregnancy has to be terminated...



 



Regardless, I think what she's trying to say is if she would have been on birth control, there is a 99.9% chance that this wouldn't have happened ;) Besides, Hayleys opening statement was that she never wanted kids, and now she'll have two within practically a year. I think we all know that if we don't want kids, there are plenty of ways to prevent that from happening :)

Amber - posted on 01/08/2010

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You do what you feel is right cuz no matter how many people give you advice it's always gonna be your choice.



Oh and Brooke I was on the nuvaring when i got pregnant with my daughter. So it can fail. And also just becuz my daughter wasn't "planned" doesn't make her unwanted. And rather or not she or anyone else used protection its really none of your business she wanted advice about the baby not what she did or should have done to prevent it so maybe you should stick with the subject at hand instead of attacking her or anyone for not preventing it. This is a SUPPORT system so if your gonna bash her instead of support her then you don't need to be on here. Simple as that.



Hayley, I hope you find what helps you make your decision I kno you will make the right one. Good Luck..

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i have 2 boys that are 1 year and 10 days apart in age my oldest is almost 3 now and youngest 2 and i think it was actually easier having them closer together because myoldest wasnt so curious about the baby because he was just over a year old. but as they get older they do fight a lot but they're best friends and keep each other occupied. its not to bad u can do it :)

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Tara - posted on 01/19/2010

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I was in the same situation! My fiance and I had planned to have a child, and when my son was only 4 months old, I found out I was pregnant again! I was very scared! But now my son is 16 months and my daughter is 5 months. It's difficult, I won't lie, but you can do it. I don't know your situation, but I'm am currently a stay at home, so it's a little easier for me, but once the second baby is here you will learn to adjust. Having two small babies is hardwork, but it's also so much fun!

Brooke - posted on 01/12/2010

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Amber obviously some people just don't see how it could happen. There must be a lot of uneducated people around if everone is falling pregnant ON contraception as they claim. I know you and basically everyone else disagrees but how is it that we are all from the same generation yet some don't know how to use protection. That is the one thing in sex eduaction we were taught most about!

And just to clarify I did give her my advice after my little rant. Abortion or adoption are her only options IF she does not want this baby! I personally would go abortion because the thought of someone else raising the baby I gave birth to, that I concieved would be heart-breaking and if I couldn't cope with having another child in my life then I could see no other way. I encourage Hayley to do what she feels is best. It would be nice to see her keep her child, to love and cherish this enexpected miracle.

Ariel - posted on 01/11/2010

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hey dont worry i had my son when i was 18 and got pregnant with my daughter when he was 2 months old. So my kids are 12 months apart almost to the day...lol. It's hard dont get me wrong but i wouldnt change my decision for the world. And now that my daughter is 9 months and my son is 21 months they play together and i know they're gonna be really close.

Amber - posted on 01/11/2010

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I'm sorry if anyone thinks im out of order here, but i am absolutly disgusted in some ppls comments!!! She did not ask about contraception, because obviously she knows she should have been using some now! Also she should have been given all information needed after having her first, so maybe less of the facts now eh? Lets try and concentrate on what her problem is and try and imagine ourselves in her situation. We need to try and skip the contraception bit becuase thats been and gone...
As for a select few that seem to think they r gods gift because they arnt in this situation, i really think you should shut up! Your not in this situation and you never have been...so what precise advice could you give exactly?

My advice for you is to read from those who HAVE been in this situation...right now thats proberbly the best advice available. Try to ignore those who seem to think what you've done is the worst thing in the world...because it really isnt!

Do whatever feels right for you...this is your body, your baby, your choice! All i can say is...you've been given another very precious gift, try 2 keep positive.
Im sure you will come to a decision thats best for you...whatever that may be, it will be right!

Kristy Lee - posted on 01/11/2010

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omg i dont feel so bad, my husband and i welcomed a little boy in march 09 and we got married in novemeber and are planning for our 2nd. i was worried pple would judge me, having another one so close, but i gues if all you wounderful women can and have done it.. and dont JUDGE. i guess im not so worried what pple will think. thanks for making it not so scary.. xxxxxxxxx

Amber - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hey, I had my first son when i had just turned 18. I too fell pregnant soon after his birth when he was around 3 n a half months. I carried on with my pregnancy and unfortunatly suffered a still birth due to pre eclampsia. The best advice i could give you is...although you might feel scared 2 have this baby, surely having your first was wonderful enough? Yeah sure its gna be hard to bring up 2 so close together, but knowing myself what its like to lose a baby, i think you should feel so pleased for this wonderful gift. I also have a friend who suffered a miscarriage in July 09 and has recently found out she cant have any more children. Try and take our 2 experiences here, and understand just how lucky you are for this to happen. If you still feel the same then maybe adoption would be your best choice, and give that baby to someone who can't have their own.

Brooke - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have simply been saying that she should of thought about prevention before it actually happened! I know just because a pregnancy is unwanted the birth is most commonly accepted and the love for that child is strong. BUT most women wouldn't have to be thinking of these things if they took precautions.

YES contraception fails... RARELY!

-most contraception has a failure rate of less than 1% whilst condoms and diaphragm have a failure rate of 14-20%.

To be properly protected Dr's will tell you to use 2 forms... eg. the pill and a condom.

If you don't do this than that is you putting yourself into a chance of pregnancy.

Now because she is already pregnant.. is she able to support another child? will she cope emotionally? if not then I think termination and adoption are your only choices. whether you believe in it or not you have to make a choice. If this was something I personally were going through I would say termination. I wouldn't want to bring a child into this world that I weren't ready for...

Madison - posted on 01/08/2010

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omg my son is 4months and am terrified to get preggo again any time soon cuz like you, i am against an abortion. i wish you the best of luck!

Cheryl - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hey,I think when someone asks for advice we should be supportive and not judge.speaking from personal experience I had my first baby at 14 years old and two more by the time I was 21.It was not easy and there was many struggles,my kids are older now,but everyday I look at them and I think I back I wouldn't trade those time for anything.I couldn't amagine my life with out them.my children are a blessing and yours will be to.you will find a way to make things work.what ever decision you make is yours alone.just know somebody is out there sending you prayers and good vibes.good luck and take care.

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hey don't worry I know it seams scary at first but at the ed things will work out. Whenmy son was 9 months old I found out that I was 4 months pregnant. At first it was hard becasue they where both diffrent age's and stages but now she's almost 10 months and he's 2 and thing have gotten so much easier, my personal oppinion is I actually think it is a lot eassier now then it was having just one becasue they intertain themself now so I don't have to constently keep an eye on him and i have more time to do other thing arround the house.

I hope things go well, good luck and plz keep us posted on how things go for you with anything you deside.



p.s. I use the IUD and it's been working great for me and with such a busy life I don't have to worry about it is good for 5 years

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Quoting Brooke:

Ok Angie B.. I made a smart arse comment. Get over it.
I know im going to piss a lot of people off here but was there one person in any of these posts who were actually using contraception?? If so were you using it properly?? The withdrawl and gravity methods don't count!
If for some reason you can not actually use the pill or something similar and you don't want kids then maybe you shouldn't be having sex.
It is ridiculous seeing how many unwanted children are brought into this world.
Oh and I dont think anyone can use the excuse my contraception failed seen contraception has a VERY low fail rate! I am very fertile but have managed not to fall pregnant after the birth of my daughter 1 year ago.


Im 19 and my daughter will be 1 on the 25th. I was on birth control (the pill) and can honestly say it failed me but I dont have any regrets about having my child and Im ready to have a second child. Im on mirena now which has worked fine for me but there are tons of women with it who still get pregnant on it. So no, not all birth control works even if you follow a schedule on the pill or have a IUD. Its the luck of the draw.

Brooke - posted on 01/08/2010

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Ok Angie B.. I made a smart arse comment. Get over it.

I know im going to piss a lot of people off here but was there one person in any of these posts who were actually using contraception?? If so were you using it properly?? The withdrawl and gravity methods don't count!

If for some reason you can not actually use the pill or something similar and you don't want kids then maybe you shouldn't be having sex.

It is ridiculous seeing how many unwanted children are brought into this world.

Oh and I dont think anyone can use the excuse my contraception failed seen contraception has a VERY low fail rate! I am very fertile but have managed not to fall pregnant after the birth of my daughter 1 year ago.

Mas-mas - posted on 01/08/2010

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im not in the same boat as u but when i found out i was expecting my daughter, i didnt know what 2 do as i felt i was immature & not ready 4 a kid. but like everything there options. having her has been the blessing my life needed but i did alot of thinking because children r not pets they need real love, time,attention& patience! 2 children means two times that ,the best thing 2 do is think long & hard about wat u want 4 u & ur family, having a 2nd child wont b plain sailing but if ur mature enough & really ready for what 2 children brings u should defo have it, but u should do whats best 4 u & only u as u will have 2 live with the decisions! if u have a partner it would b helpful 2 talk it over, having a close support natwork really does help....all the best 4 u & ur family!!!

Hayley - posted on 01/08/2010

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yeah why not adoption!! so many people out there that would love to have a baby and you could be the one to give it. But if that not for you, just take one day at a time and you will do great, hope all works out for you and family :)

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Every child is here for a reason. I know its hard but you have to think long term. Will I be happy with myself for my actions now. If the answer is no then you know what to do. Just think things through. Remember people have had children for years close in age so you aren't the first and will not be the last.

Emma - posted on 01/07/2010

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my son is 10 months old and im due in 11 weeks with a baby girl im so excited yea they will only be 12and a halve months apart and being 19 with 2 young kids is guna be tough but girl u obviously love the baby u have and u will love this one too u need to listen to ur heart and make sure u make the right decision 4 u. i think the fact that ur askin for help and that u havent already had an abortion or signed adoption papers says u love and want this baby u just need support and thats ok every1 needs to ask for help some times but pple shouldnt be judging u or lookin at y ur pregnant weather u were using birth controll or not is no1 elses buisness and if u werent it dosent make u stupid i think ppl who r going to be negative should just log off and dont come back this is a SUPPORT system good luck honey i know u know wot to do

Chelsea - posted on 01/07/2010

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i was in the same boat just about except that i wanted kids. i had my first son at 17 and my second at 19. Do you have suppotrtive family and are you with the father? I know me and my husband wouldve never gotten through without the help of family. Take all the help you can get It will be hard for the first few months but you will adapt and get into a schedule soon. Make sure you give both babies attentoin and that the older doesnt feel left out with the new baby home. Make sure she knows mommy and daddy still love her and let her participate as much as she can.



On the other hand, if you don't think you are ready then i would consider adoption. One baby is a handful and two is even more. I ahve a feeling that everything will fall into place for oyu once tha baby is born. There is no stronger bo than a mother and her children no matter how many you have...my boys are now 3 and almost one and i couldnt ask for anything better.

Teneesha - posted on 01/07/2010

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i am 20 and my children are about 13 months apart and i understand how you feel but that is a personal decision no one but you know your living situation and wat you can handle... i also dont believe in abortion and knew adoption would kill me therefore i had both of my children... me and their father go back and forth so i live with my mom working 2 jobs to take care of them and save enough money to moe out soon...im not going to lie it was, is , and will continue to be very hard. its starting all over again... it takes a strong group of support... but i am making it and believe you can to in the right conditions... if you ever need support dont be afarid to message

Kayla - posted on 01/07/2010

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I'm not in the same boat, but I had my son when I was 17, and he is the best thing in this world. He'll be a year old next month, and dealing with life these past two years hasn't really been that hard. Being pregnant and trying to finish school was way easier than I thought, and then raising a child when I wasn't with his father isn't as horrible as everyone made me think it was going to be. His father and I are best friends, and we love this little boy more than anything. What I'm trying to say, is that that it's not going to be as hard as you think it will be. God put this problem into your life, and if he didn't think you could handle the decisions of your situation, then he wouldn't have done it. None of us wanted kids while we were so young, but it happened to us, and we're the best moms that we could possibly be. No matter what you say, you'll love your second as much as your first baby, and your family will too. They will love and support you too, and remind them that you'll need your "break" days, to just go out and be alone, without your kids to have some time to yourself to keep your mentality. Just after this baby, try using Mirena so this situation doesn't happen again. There's no guarantee with NuvaRing (6 of my friends are pregnant even while using that so avoid it!), so try something that's a little more safe for birth control. 2 kids under 2 will be easier to deal with than 3! Remember, you're built mentally and physically to deal with this! you can do it, it's just a matter of gaining mental control. (try prenatal yoga, it's amazing)

Molly - posted on 01/07/2010

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I was in the same position you were in; I got pregnant again when my daughter was 4 months old&I've thought about adoptions plenty of time but towards the end of the pregnancy I couldn't do it. My daughter is going to be one next month&my son is just 2 months old. It's really hard and stressful but I'm really grateful that the dad is there to help me. If the babys father is there to help you&support you through this you have no problem at all. Plenty of moms had done it out there&I'm sure you can too. :)

Justine - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am kinda in the same boat. I have a 6 month old daughter and am now 5 months pregnant with another one. I personally decided to keep both because it will be better for both children when they are older. the second child wont have to wonder why they weren't good enough to keep but the first was. Looking on the bright side at least you already have all of the baby stuff that you need from the first child. :)

Christina - posted on 01/07/2010

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I was 18 when I had my first and got pregnant again when she was 3 months and had my 2nd at 19 they are both born in October and are 11 months and a few weeks apart I hide my whole 2nd pregnancy cuz I didn't want people to judge me in my family it is very stressful havin a 14 month old running around and a 3 month old thank god they're father helps me and I have a lot of support from my family there are days when I feel like I'm goin crazy and I cant catch a break but wheneva they smile or laugh it reminds me that its all worth it

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Quoting Brooke:

Umm were you using protection in the first place?? if not then that is just stupidity... if you were then tough luck I suppose. If you don't want the child then seriously think about termination or adoption cause the last thing that baby is going to want to find out later on is that it wasn't loved nor wanted.


   u know, that was really rude. this site was made for helping people, not for judging them. just because she is worried does not mean she doesnt love her child. u dont know what she has been through so think twice before u make smart ass comments to her.


 

Kentrina - posted on 01/06/2010

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DONT WORRY, MY SON WAS 6 MTHS WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT THEY ARE 1 YEAR 18 DAYS APART SO TO ME ABORTION OR ADOPTION NEVER WENT THROUGH MY MIND CAUSE THIS WAS MINE BABIES AND BELIEVE ME EVERYTHING WILL FALL RIGHT INTO PLACE NOW I HAVE A 7,6, AND 4 YEAR OLD AND MY HOUSE IS NEVER DULL.. BE STRONG AND JUST PRAY AND GOD WILL WORK IT OUT. HE DONT PUT NO MORE ON YOU THAN YOU CAN BARE!!! BE BLESSED!!

Kendra - posted on 01/06/2010

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I too am against abortions. if your not prepared physically,mentally or financially im not sure what your situation is but there are other options. if you really arent ready for another baby there is always adoption. im not saying just give your baby away but there are alot of successful adoption stories and im proud to say i am one. my mother was 19 when she had be and i was her 3rd child. She choose to have an open adoption and thats when the biological family is still present in the childs life. My mother wasnt capable of raising me but i never faulted her for that because i know ive had a better life then what she could provide for me at the time. i was adopted by a very loving family and i feel lucky because my mom put me b4 herself. alot of ppl have alot of negative things to say about ppl who give their children up for adoption but sometimes we have to make those hard choices in life to better ourselves and our children. Alot of ppl cant have children and would love a baby to complete their family and too spoil. i dont know how you feel about adoption but there's positive options out there and i hope you find one that suits you and good luck.

Brittany - posted on 01/06/2010

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bashing isn't a very nice thing to do! alot of us never saw ourselfs with children before we were prego but it doesn't mean we don't love them! and maybe there was a reason she wasn't on birth control! good luck to you hayley! ♥

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im 19 and i had my daughter when i was 18 and when she was 5 months old i got pregnant again, not planned. I was so scared and didnt know what to do. My boyfriend and i dont believe in it abortion. Now im 32 weeks and I know its going to be hard because there close in age. Just keep in mind your daughter has alot of growing up to do before the other baby is born. Just please dont have an abortion i know people who got one and they regret it every day. just stay strong and i hope you make the right decision :)

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me and my oldest sister are 12 months apart .. my mum coped and she now has 6 children in total raging from the ages of 21-15 .. with an 11month old grandson (my son). she was 18 when she had my sister .. 19 when she had me.

my mum is also profoundly deaf. sorry i'm rambling a bit here .. but what i'm trying say is that shes a damn good mother and i love her too bits .. so if she managed to cope with 2 babies when she was a teen .. pretty much anyone can!!

i'd talk it through with your partner though but if you still can't face having another child i'd definately consider an open adoption.

Steph - posted on 01/06/2010

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you might of not wanted babies but seeing a baby in your arms has so much of an effect on you...every bodys minds change..just make a decision before it gets to late hun xxx

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i had my lil girl when i was 18 ive just turned 19 and shes 7months old..im not going to say its your own fault as i feel preg on the pill..but if your against abortions then you will have to go through with it..if your in early stages of pregnacy your bby is not a baby yet but you have to think if you bring this baby into the world what best for the baby could you look after it...im against abortions if the baby has a heart beat and formed into a baby..but you need to think whats best for you and specialy the baby...im sorry i cant be much help...a few of my friends have fallen preg and had another baby and they have coped but its your decision..think whats best..one of my friends is 19 and has 4 children shes copied so well and the father also left...if you have surport it will be easier..it will be hard at first but im sure you will cope hun x either way good luck...and if you have the baby im sure you are going to be a brillant mum xxx

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my lil boy is 6months and im 24weeks pregnant i caught pregnant 5weeks after i have decided to keep him cause i am also against abortion but u should really think about what u and your partner want and wats best for u instead of asking people there opinion no1 can make your mind up but u as u may live to regret ur decision and come to hate people if u think they made ur mind up 4 u. i am 19 so rather close in age and im makin the best of it. hope this helps x

Brooke - posted on 01/06/2010

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Umm were you using protection in the first place?? if not then that is just stupidity... if you were then tough luck I suppose. If you don't want the child then seriously think about termination or adoption cause the last thing that baby is going to want to find out later on is that it wasn't loved nor wanted.

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i was 17yrs old when i had my first and 18 when we had our second...14 months apart they are now 6 1/2 and 5 and they are the best of friend..they do fight alot but they are so close.

it was hard 4 us for a while but our eldest was walking and really independant..i was a little scared at first but looking back its better to have them close together so u dont need to go out and buy as much baby stuff..now we have 4 beautiful boys and want to try 4 a girl in afew years, im against abortion too and could never do that i think u will be fine hun wish u all the best

Brenna - posted on 01/05/2010

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I had my first baby at 18 also she was 3 months old when I got pregnant with my second. It's a very scary experience but my daughter loved it when I was pregnant she would always kiss my tummy and say baby sis. It's hard having two kids but it is all worth it! I was scared shitless when I found out I was pregnant with Rosealee but I accepted it and now I am so happy I have two beautiful baby girls and I couldn't ask for anything else!!!!! So stay calm everything will work out for the best! We may be young mom's but we can do it!!!!

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First off I would like to say: I thought they made this website so that us moms could talk openly and not be judged or have some one be rude?! some moms need to think about that we don't right questions for people to be rude!
2nd My mom had me and my brother close in age when she was really young and we are best friends now we hung with the same people, when he falied we were in the same grade we did everything together now she had my sister alot later and me and her don't get along very much

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Take reasonability for your actions and be the Mom that your babies need you to be. You might also consider birth control....Best wishes!

Ashley - posted on 01/05/2010

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I was 16 years old when i found out i was pregnant with my daughter. I had her when the day after i turned 17. i went to my 6 week check up and found out that i was pregnant again. i was so scared and disappointed and nervous about what i was going to do with two babies i was only 17 years old. i know how you feel. But i had a choice that i needed to make i looked into adoption but it just wasnt right for me and abortion to me just wasnt an option. So now im 19 years old with a two year old girl and a 1 year old boy. Its hard work and i struggle but to me it is worth it. i love my kids and couldnt image being with out them. good luck to you and dont let anyone pressure you take a step back and look at you options and think about what would be the best thing for you and your daughter.

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well hun all i can say,is that if you never wanted babies,then i guess you should of been protected against getting pregant...but in all fearness i was 19 when i had my first baby,and then again at 22,not as young as you,but i was still a young solo mum,my older two i now nearly 16 & 13,they are best thing that have happen to me,i guess there is reason why you have been gifted with another baby.you should enjoy them,and count yourself lucky,that you can have babies,there are loads of mums that cant have bubbas,trust me im not having a go at you,im trying to get you to see,that it isnt all doom n gloom,by having two kids,so close togeather, as long as you have a ton of support,you will be fine.all you need to do right now,is make sure you have a dam good routine for your gurl,you have now,yes it will be hard,as when your new bubba is due,your older girl,will demand alot of attention,and its bout keeping structue,with her,be firm on her bedtime,and make sure she has a routine in place,cos beleive you me,you are going to need one,in saying that all kids need a routine and structure in their life,it all comes down to a balance life and time mangement.the reason why am telling you this,is cos i have a 16mnth old,and she takes up alot of my time,as shes very demanding,just be aware of that,when you are trying to deal with a newborn again,im not trying to scare you,im just letting you know,what you may be in for,and you know what so many mums do it. i live in new zealand,and we have the highest rate of teenage pregancy,here and i know alot of mums that have had kids close togeather,and they have done all right,cos its based upon routine,consistancy,it can be done,you just have to beleive in yourself hun,thats all.i feel you can do it.as long as you have the support of your partner,you should be okay,love.im giving you this advice cos i have been there and done that,not as close as your kids,but close enuf,and it is hard,but i tell you what,the older they get,the easier it gets,but im going to stop there,i hope ive given you sum tools,to make your life a wee bit easier,on what you can do.just enjoy life with your kids,and if you ever wont some advice,seek a support service,there are plenty out there,that will support you thru this,tough time.but good luck for the future.take care,and all the best.jodie,from new zealand.

Brittany - posted on 01/05/2010

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i was int he same boat my daughter was born and when she was 6 months old i got pregnant again and im only 19 right now it is not that bad it is really stressful at first when you think about it but as the pregnancy goes along you get better with the idea of having two and besides they can go to school together and all that lol

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my personal opinion is that if you put this child up for adoption the first question i would ask would be why did the first child get to stay and not this one? It is a big responsibility having a child, let alone two so close in age but really this is up to u and only u can make this decision. I am agaisnt abortions also, but my advice would be to perhaps look into it and consider the pro's and con's of having this child and not having the child. There is no point in bringing a child into a situation that u dont feel you'll be able to handle. good luck babe. big decision

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I got pregnant with my first at 18, and again when she was 4 months old. At first I was terrified, I didn't know how on earth I could love another baby, and it was really hard to cope after my son was born. I felt like my daughter didn't have enough time to be "the baby". There were days I felt like I wanted to die. But you just have to get into a routine, just like with having your first. You stay busy, but it does get easier. Now I'm glad I had them so close together because I get all the baby stuff all done and over with at one time. I think it is actually better to do it this way instead of say having one start school and then starting from the beginning all over again. If I had it to do over I would definitely do it again!

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im in the same position as you and im terrified i know its scary at first but things are gettin better for me so they will with you i had my first baby at 17 and ive only justv turned 19 and im preg with twins...but just make sure you have your family there to support you

Erin - posted on 01/04/2010

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I had my daughter when I was 19. When she was 5 months old I found out that I was pregnant again. My daughter is now 19 months old, my son is 6 months old and I once again am pregnant. I have come to realize that even though me and my husband of 2 years have a hard time juggling the family and work. But we have made it this far. I dont regret anything, im just blessed.

Krystal - posted on 01/04/2010

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i no wot ur going thow my son was 5 months when i fel preg agane and i thout about aboting but the thout off killing my baby haert me more then the thout of being preg agen im not gana lie it is hard but there dad left when my 2nd son was 1 manth but i had lots of suport from famliy and freind and i carnt suport my kids my self but i am on benifits it ant a lot but we just get thow but i think if u have suport from famliy and freind u will be fine but im not u its ur chose u relly need to think about it long and hard hope u r ok

Chelle - posted on 01/04/2010

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hi im also 18 and have a little girl. she was three and a half months when i fell pregnant again.

shes now 8months and im 18weeks pregnant. i know its gunna be hard for the 1st few years what with double nappies and bottles but mums are made for coping. lucky for me i have a house big enough for a growing family and enough income to support two children.

only you can decide what to do in this situation...you have to think long and hard about what is best for your daughter and if you can support two children at this moment in time and of corse if you can hadle two children so close in age.

Cheyenne - posted on 01/04/2010

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do u have any one that you know wants to have babies? iuf so wat about an adoption...but close to home so you can see her if wanted

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