have you lost best friends since you had a baby at such a young age??

Crystal - posted on 11/27/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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when i had my fist son my best friends would stop calling and we have grew apart over the years and it just determines who you real friends are and who arent...it sucks to know that someone that was soo close to you would just sstop talking to you just because of the fact that you have a kid...its doesnt mean that you have changed as a person..yeah maybe how your daily plans are but not as an individual...has this happened to anyone else and what are YOUR stories??
xx ♥ crystal

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Kirsty - posted on 07/17/2012

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i am 20 years old and ever since i had my daughter i havent heard anything from any of my friends... before i got pregnant i had about 8 really close mates almost like we was sisters... its hard going from so many close friends to having no one to talk to u know girly conversations dont get me wrong ive found my fiance is my best friend and i know he will always be there for me and we talk about anything but it will still be nice to have a girl mate for company but its their loss im a much better person now ive settled down in my own house with my fiance and daughter and i might be a stay at home mum and housewife but i love it

Ashleigh - posted on 07/02/2012

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Hi - I am 20 years old now and my son is 11 months old. It is tough loosing friends or going to the mall and you get the odd look and stare from people you know that are almost too scared to even wave or say hi. You have far more important things to worry about now. I don't worry about the friends I have lost because obviously they were not worth keeping. I know exactly how you feel though. Everybody I know my age is almost finished their studies and if they ever ask me what am I doing with my life they always look down on me because they think I have messed up my life and ruined it for myself. I think the exact opposite. I feel that children are the only people in the world that can teach you all the life lessons you need. e.g: they teach you; to be kind, gentle, patient, to drive better, to be responsible, to put others before yourself, to smile when things get tough, to control your language, look decent, to be safe, to be clean, to smile when things get tough, to laugh at silly things, to enjoy the simpler things in life, to love and care about the people who really matter, to teach you what life is worth. The list goes on. I am also lonely but I know that I am a better person now that I have my son.
Hope it helps.
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Beth - posted on 06/30/2012

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I think anyone that blames their friends as not being "true" friends might want to quit pointing fingers. It is not realistic to say you have not changed a bit since having kids. Of course you have changed, and more than a little bit. The common interests you both had have changes so quit blaming others. Its no ones fault, yours nor theirs, it happens. You have kids who are the center of your life, respect others rights who don't have kids to not feel the same way as you. Plenty of moms are in the same boat so seek them out and you will find compatibility.

Karleigh - posted on 01/04/2012

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i lost almost all of my friends because of my drastic change in lifestyles! but i have one or two friends that changed with me for the better and are there for me ! i have also made much better friends that can relate to being a parent and having a responsibility for someone other than yourself. Even though i lost alot of my friends after having a child, i gained respect from the people who mean the most

Jessica - posted on 01/04/2012

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I lost every single one of my friends when I had my baby girl. I dont stress over it though because I am glad that I got away from that lifestyle I was living and now I have the best gift I could have ever been given and I wouldnt trade her for the world!! It just goes to show you that your friends werent really your friends because of who you were but because of the things you did or had or else my friends would still be around everyday. I had a hard time adjusting to losing my "friends" but in the end I am a lot happier now than I was when I had them.

Carmen - posted on 01/02/2012

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yes, i lost so many and my bf lost almost all of them, in the end its better.you can always make new ones, they are missing out :)

Heather - posted on 12/03/2011

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I was pregnant in high school and all my 'friends' were excited about me having a baby. Most of them do not ever visit or call. Only one of them was truly a friend. She was there while I was giving birth and she was holding my leg up!! Now that's a true friend :) Now she is expecting and we can go through raising children together. I'm so thankful for her.

Crystal - posted on 12/01/2011

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very true... you kids are more important than anyone in the world they are well worth the loss of a friend..

Kkaytlynn - posted on 11/28/2011

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I am a mumma to be and my friends love the idea of me having a kid and they would do anything for me or my child. I love my friends so much. I hope we don't fall out or I don't know what i'll do.

April - posted on 11/28/2011

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I am 25 yrs old, I have an 8yr old and a 3yr old. I still to this day lose friends because they do not understand what I am going through. Sometimes my parents offer to watch my kids but even when they do usually I am just too tired to go out! I say if you are losing friends to having kids(NO MATTER YOUR AGE) then they weren't your real friends in the first place. My friends are my kids right now and I wouldn't have it any other way :)

Crystal - posted on 11/28/2011

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see even my best friend stoped talking to me then not long after i had my first son she soon got pregnant then she wanted to start calling again...

Toni - posted on 11/28/2011

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I have losr friends since I had my son, but I honestly do not care. My best friend has been with me through everything.
She lives in Queensland now and I still live in Victoria, and we dont speak very often, but when we do speak it is as if nothing has changed at all. That is what I love about her.

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