HELP!! Want to know what you think...

Ashley - posted on 03/06/2010

I have this problem with both families. Its frusterating because they never come to our house but constantly ask us to visit them. My mother also always tried to get me to pump or give bottles to my son so she could watch him. I told her I had no reason to let anyone watch him. I breastfed him for 17 months and he has still never been babysat by either side because they dont respect our decisions that we make for him. They always try to say that He's fine or Its okay to have that. If I said no, then it is NOT ok!

I also dont like those grandmothers who think they have "rights" to their grandchildren simply because they are your kids. They dont have any rights, your BABY does not have to spend the night or stay with anyone unless its a need or must for you!! These 1 and 2 year olds should be with their parents and I wish that the grandparents would support us in being their parents instead of trying to take over our roles!

You dont have to do anything you dont want too, its your child and you decide!

Amber - posted on 03/06/2010

ok, my daughter sees his side of the family sometimes, like when they come over and see her, i occasionally stop by for a few minutes to his grandmas and moms. maybe like 2 or 3 times a month if that. they don't demand, they ask sometiems but tnothin major or rude.
It wouldn't hurt the child at all, they don;t know whats going on, and they dont care!
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she is being VERY rude and demanding. you should tell her she can stop by once in a while to see him, but you are not going to go out of you way to take him over to see her. you are not her property and neither is your son! it is none of her business. If i was you, if she actually threatened me like that!? i would get a restraining order on her. tell them she is trying to take him away from you and she is getting obsessed with the idea. that is truely rediculas!!! you are the parent! not her!

Tracey - posted on 03/06/2010

honestly she needs to relax. she thinks you cant take care of your son but you know you can. if shes threatening to get a laywer in order to see him more tell her go ahead because its not like your purposely keeping him from her and your not doing anything wrong. your being a parent and unless hes in danger or being mistreated theres really nothing she can do but complain. if it were me id sit her down and be like look this is my child. your the grandparent and nothing more. if you dont like the way i raise my kids then too bad. hes feed, clean and healthy so back off. the choices i make for my family are final and if you dont like them then tough because you have no say in it. either learn to live with it or live without it. it up to you and if she still doesnt stop nagging then cut back visits until she realizes its hurting him to see you guys fighting and that if she doesnt stop she wont see him at all

Kylie - posted on 03/06/2010

You just need to set his mother straight, show her you are responsible and mature and that you know how to raise your child. She probably thinks that since your young you won't know how to take care of your child, and she's wrong your already doing good by breastfeeding, don't stop that just because she's pressuring you, that's one of the best things you can do for him.

Just sit her down and let her know that your trying your best but you can't just drop everything and walk on glass for her and her opinions. Tell her to lighten up and be gracious for what she gets or she won't be able to see him at all and if she wants to take you to court just tel the jusge that she's causing you a lot of mental stress that will start effecting your physical health.

Your the mother not her and you just keep doing whatever you think is best for that child!

Clarissa - posted on 03/06/2010

You are the only parent of that child, his parents are not. Stand up for yourself and if they really get out of hand contact a lawyer and have restricted visitation visits. You have to be at peace with your child it is your right.

Ashley - posted on 03/05/2010

my mother-in-law always complaines that she never gets to see my son but when we try to go and visit she is always busy and she just wants to see him on her time whenever she is free but we have a life too and its not that simple. so i see where yall are coming from

Katie - posted on 03/05/2010

I am kinda in the same situation, except it's the other way around. My family is the nagging ones. I got to the point that I sat down & told them "look, they are my children, I make the decisions for them, you are more than welcome to come over to our house to see them whenever you choose as long as we don't have anything going on. That's how it's going to be & if you don't like it, you won't see them at all."



The baby is yours & that's the bottom line. You make the decisions about when & where he goes. If your mother-in-law has a problem with you breastfeeding, that is her problem, you are doing what is ABSOLUTELY best for YOUR son. I would sit down with her & polietly talk with her. She may just not see what she's doing. Tell her how you feel. And remember, yes, she can go & fight it, but point out to her that you will tell the lawyers that you do let her see him, that the only times you don't let her have him when she wants is if someone is sick, or you have already had plans. Bottom line, you are being the best parent you can be & your son will grow up perfectly fine.