Hi I need advice!

Jenna - posted on 07/24/2009

Thank you for responding! I know he looks like both of us and i know its natural for his family to see more of Stephen in our son than me and thats fine i just would like for them to see that he's part of me too. I personally think he looks more like my baby pictures than his dads but i guess everyone see's things differently. Its just hard when his dad is never around but when we have to take our son to see his side of the family I feel like they are giving him all the credit . Its very painful for me to hear those comments.. All i really want is for them to accept me.

Jade - posted on 07/24/2009

And his family can pick out his features because that's his family. And babies change all the time. I know the only time it hurt the most that my child looks like his dad is when we fought, my son would cry cause he knew I was upset and dad wasn't around and I wouldn't even be able to look at him because he looked so much like his dad.

Jade - posted on 07/24/2009

I kinda feel the same way, like it hurts cause I think he looks like both of us and I never got any credit contributing to his cuteness. My boyfriend's family says our son looks like him, and some are now saying they think he looks like me. It was just irritating when they say, "Awww, he's so cute. He looks like Justin." I was like to myself there's some of me in there?! Which there was a very strong feature of Justin that our son got, but I would just respond in sarcastic/cocky way, "Ya he looks like Justin, but he got the cuteness from me (; ", don't let it bother you, it seems more like jealousy. If he was not a great father and/or you carried your son and grew him, it's hard cause it seems like your son's father is getting all the credit.

Jamie - posted on 07/20/2009

people tell me all the time that my son looks like his dad and i havent been wit him in almost 2 years. it hurts sometimes but i know that he does look like me too even if his dad is a butthead lol ur son will always have a connection with you

Claudia - posted on 07/20/2009

oooh i did, i always thought my lil ones looked like me everyone calls my oldest my mini me, but my mother in law thinks the opposite, she thinks my lil ones look like her son, there are times when i want to yell at her and show her my baby pics and pics of me growing up, but its best to not sweat the small stuff, its just unecessary drama.

Heather - posted on 07/19/2009

I have 4 boys and they all look very similar. However when my husbands family looks at them they pick out all the features that look like their side. And when my side looks at my children they look at the features that look like my side. So ask your mom and dad what on your son looks like you? I am sure they will see your smile, eyes, or your character in his laugh! He is a part of you and no one can take that away!! Just remember he is a sweet baby who you get to raise, who knows he might end up more like you from the inside then the outside!

Heather - posted on 07/19/2009

it is a shame they make u feel this way, in my experience ppl c wat they want 2 c and babies change every day so i wouldnt worry, and by them saying he looks like his dad is probebly there way of makeing them feel involved in ur sons life. no1 can ever take him away from u andu will always b t most important thing in his life, soas hard as it is jst try 2 ignore them nd enjoy t time u hav with ur son. x

Ashley - posted on 07/17/2009

I understand how that could hurt your feelings. My daughter's dad and I are not together anymore either and his family is always saying she looks like him, but I do get a lot that say she looks like me. And he really makes me mad when someone says she looks like me and he says whatever she looks like her daddy, I feel like hes calling me ugly. Everytime someone talks about how beautiful she is he says of course look at her dad. But I know my daughter looks like me, she looks a lot like me, and yeah she does look like her dad too. But like they said above, he will always be apart of you, and theres nothing stronger than the bond between a mother and her child. Don't let them get you down, just know that your son is gorgeous, and he is yours and be proud!

Tamara - posted on 07/17/2009

Hi Jenna, I could see how that would hurt your feelings. The best thing is knowing that he has a strong bond with you no one can break, that he may not have with his father. I must share with you ladies though, my son looked just like his father when he was a baby & toddler, 14 years later he looks just like me. Jenna, if it bothers you maybe you could politely tell them that you would appreciate that they keep their comments to themselves. I hope everything works out for you, good luck he is a cute little guy :)

Katie - posted on 07/17/2009

Yeah I'm not sure why But I also would like people to say my son looked more like me. It's wierd. And no problem for the reply!!

Jenna - posted on 07/17/2009

thank you so much!! i really wish it didn't bother me but it does it breaks my heart when people say that and most people especially his dads family dont understand.. i really appreciate your reply!! :)

Katie - posted on 07/17/2009

You're baby will always be a part of you. You carried him, not the father. Always remember that no one can take that mother - son bond away. You felt his kicks inside you, you did the hard work. Don't let anyone take away your pride a joy :)