how do i tell my parents im pregnant?
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Mina - posted on 09/01/2012
I got pregnant at 17 and didn't even find out until I was a little over a month pregnant. At that point, I was already living with my boyfriend and my mom figured I was having sex. I told her I needed to talk to her about something important, so we sat and I just said, "You know me and Ryan are sexually active, right?" She said yes, so I just kind of blurted it out! She's not exactly the traditional "American" parent, so all she said was, "Oh, I knew that was going to happen eventually." She was a little disappointed, but got over it pretty quick. I was lucky to have been able to tell her without her getting too mad, but your parents will love you no matter what happens. Even if they are sad/mad/disappointed, just give them time to get used to the idea. Just be honest and straight forward. Good luck!
Tyla - posted on 08/31/2012
I had a friend who called her mom and said "well mom what do you want your grandbaby to call you" her mom hung up on her and called back about 5 minutes later and said "your kidding right" and she told her "no mom I am not kidding" her mom then replied "well I guess I want to be called Nonni then"
Tyla - posted on 08/31/2012
I was also 15 when I found out I was prego but I didnt have to tell my parents my dad was in the room when they nurse told me my test was positive and man was he p.o.ed but he told my mom and my mom told EVERYONE but since then my son is 2 now and I have thought alot about how I would have told them if I would have had to and I think I would have told the parent that would take it better first (my mom) and had her tell my dad.
Tami - posted on 08/29/2012
I was 17 when i conceived. when i told my mother it went something like this...
Me: mom i have bad news for you.
mom: your running away with your boyfriend.
mom: your getting married to him...
mom your pregnant...
me: welll yes
Mom: i knew it was going to happen.
It made it easier not saying it out loud. but i began to bawl my eyes out because she took it well and in a sick way it would have made it easier if she gave some sort of fight.
you don't know how its going to go. the sooner you do the better. try to include your parents in on your plan one you do tell them. making them feel involved helps. easing it on them will relax you... saying "I haven't gotten my period this month " so they will ask if you think or are pregnant... its easier when you don't have to say it.
Holly - posted on 08/27/2012
Wow your question hits home with me i had the same situation please please come to my blog http://teenhelpspot.blogspot.com/ read my story and look at my contact info i would love to help you anyway i can. I had my daughter after i turned 16 now that im older im trying to reach out and help other girls. hope to hear from you
Melissa - posted on 08/13/2012
I was also 15 when i got pregnant and it was hard for me to tell my parents cause i was scared and nervous bout what they were gonna do and say to me so i just came clean and told them when i was 2 months pregnant and they got so mad they wanted me to get a abortion but i denied it!!! But what you should do is have your parents sit down and tell them both your pregnant before they find out on their own or they might here it from somebody else so it's best to tell them your self. At first their going to be mad but after a while they'll come around and support you cause your their daughter and they both love you very much ....
Once your belly starts growing they'll start to support you more than anything and if the father of your baby ain't there to help you then you still have your parents
GOOD LUCK & CONGRATS ON YOUR BABY :)
Bridgette - posted on 08/11/2012
Everyone's situation is different, for instincts, my Mother was the first to know, she was there when the result on the pregnancy test came up. The sooner, the better, so you aren't stressing. Stressing during pregnancy is harmful for the baby, but you also got to think whether you are keeping it or aborting it or even putting the baby up for adoption after birth - sometimes it's helpful when your parents and there to talk you through it, it's rather overwhelming. But it's all those decisions that now you have to put in place, it's a huge responsibility to have a baby, also a blessing.
Parents are there to love you and support you no matter what, my Mother and my Father weren't on the welcome wagon when I first told them but they do come around and help you with these decisions to make your life some what easier for the first part of the pregnancy.
Alyssa - posted on 08/11/2012
Just tell them....I'm now 18 but got pregnant at 17. I never told my parents (even though I was moved out) and when they did find out it wasn't through me,....and believe me they will find out...just tell them. My relationship with them went from, non-speaking terms, to now they talk to me all the time. and share in the excitement (even if it's not that exciting to you right now, I was so sacred at first) But believe me, they will help you out, and be more understanding then you think. they might be mad at first, but they'll come around I promise
Leyla - posted on 08/09/2012
I was 16 when i got pregnant, but lucky for me i didnt have to tell my mum after 2weeks of pregnancy my mum just knew. she wasnt happy at first, but when she came around she told me she'd support me in every way possible, on the other hand my dad he was so upset but now hes in love with hes grandchild.
They might be angry, sad, disapointed or confused it will wear off and they will come around
Tell them as soon as possible, you stressing over this is not healthy for you or the baby and when you do finally tell them it will feel like a huge weight off your chest.
Emily - posted on 07/23/2012
It's nervewrecking but once you tell them, it will be a huge weight off your shoulders. I got pregnant at 16. When I found out that I was pregnant, there was a resource center and they did an ultrasound and gave me the pictures. I brought the pictures home and showed my mom, she was sad (only because of how young I was) but not mad. My dad was the hard one, probably because I thought he would wring my neck, but he took it ok. Your parents will love you no matter what, my dad who was dissappointed, is now in love with my son and enjoys being a grandfather.
Toni - posted on 07/21/2012
I told my dad first. He is the softy, lol. He had a quick shot of scotch, and then got all clucky when he realized he was going to be a grandfather.
My mum and I have never really seen eye to eye, so I waited until I was starting to show before I told her. Here in Australia you cant get an abortion after 12 weeks(I think?) So I told my mum when I was well a truly past that, so she had no way to try and get me to have an abortion.
When I told her I sat down and said "mum, I gotta tell you something", and then she knew.
I must say, it went a lot better than I expected it to. Mum said she wasn't happy, and that I was too young, but she couldn't force me to do anything so she would support and help me any way she could.
Mum was with me when I was in labor, and when she set eyes on her first ever grand child, she was the proudest grandmother.
A lot of the time, when we are thinking of how to tell the parents, we really get worked up over how they will react. Just tell them, and be mature about it. If they get upset, don't yell at them, don't have a tantrum, lol
Casey - posted on 07/21/2012
I totally agree w/ Belinda on this one. When I got pregnant my mom and I were fairly close so it wasnt all that hard. I just kinda told my mom. Can you make me a dr apt Im late getting my period. Her response was "Are you pregnant?" I just said I dont know. She bought me a preg. test that came back inaccurate well 2 that did. And then the dr confirmed I was pregers. Telling my dad on the other hand was a little harder. I didnt live w/ my dad so when I went to tell him I brought me brother who already knew for moral support. All went well. Its never an easy thing to do. I suggest you take Belinda's suggestion of talking to them alone w/ no siblings. There is really only one way to tell them. "I think im pregnant." or "I am pregnant."
You know your parents better then I do. Do whatever you think you need to do to lessen the blow on them. Be prepared to answer the questions you know they will have. Consider all options, Keeping the baby and adoption (the only time I believe in abortion is if the child was conceived as a result of a rape or if having the baby would put the mothers health in serious risk)
There will be tears there may be yelling. The is only the start if the many hard things you will have to do.
Belinda - posted on 07/21/2012
The longer you delay it, the harder it will be to tell them and the less likely that they will take news well. (My own mother didnt tell my grandparents she was pregnant until she was in labour...30 min before I was born!! So needless to say shock certainly took hold)
I would be upfront and honest. Tell them that you need to speak to them together, and that it is important. Speak to them alone (no siblings around, etc) and try to stay calm. Be honest with your feelings.