How much ME time do you get?

Annabeth - posted on 11/06/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 month old son and since i was 6 months pregnant i have barely left the house except to go shopping for essentials like nappies, formula etc. My son is a very demanding baby and lately i have felt like i get no ME time. So i have arranged with my mum to go out with my cousins once a fortnight just to have some time to myself. Tonight is the first night that i will be going out with them all and i am excited. Ever since i had my son i haven't really had much time to think let alone go anywhere. We are only going to a movie and dinner but still it is better then nothing. I am worried about leaving my son because he is still so young but i just need some time to myself even for an hour or 2. I just want to kow how much Me time do you get? Do you ever go out with friends or anything even for a little while?

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Merry - posted on 11/13/2010

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I worked part time from when Eric was 6 weeks so I was away from him for three hours four days a week. He was with dad but I hated it. So bad I hated it.
I have left him with dad so I could do something with my sister like three times so far. (he is 1 1/2 years old)
And my husband and I have left Eric with grandma three times to go on a movie night. Once at 11 months and two more times since then.
I don't do me time because I don't want to. I want to be with Eric and I don't enjoy myself much away from him. It's more stress to be away then to do things with him.
So I go to my friends houses with him, they have kids too so it's a playmate. I take Eric everywhere cuz I wNt to and I would feel bad leaving him.
He's also breastfeeding every few hours in the day and a few times at night so I can't be away long anyways.
I quit that job a few months ago and now I work as a babysitter so Eric comes with me.
Now I'm pregnant again and I will be with this new baby even more then I was with Eric cuz I won't have to leave it to go to work at all.
We still will do date nights but not so often as most I guess :)
I have time to myself when Eric naps or is playing by himself so I am able to do stuff like comment here!
I don't feel deprived of me time because I wanted Eric so much and this is what I wanted!

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Kathleen - posted on 11/21/2010

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I am a 49 yr old mother of 3 and grandmother of 2 mykids r 29,19,and14 My grandkids r 6&7 learn to trust someone to watch your son I was a single Mom for the first five years if it was not for my mom I probably would have gone crazy don't feel guilty Just Do It You need time to reenergize believe me I know and after all these years they still try not to give me any me time you have to take it for yourself

Carman - posted on 11/20/2010

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I have a 22 month old and a 7 month old. I never get ME time.. Last time was when I randomly up and drive back to Texas (We now live in Cali) back in August. They spent the night at my husbands parents house. Before THAT It was back in June maybe?? Other than that, the kids have been with me, and I havent had a night where they werent by my side. It sucks kinda cause its stressful since Ive been with them since birth and have rarely had time to myself. Wish I had more ME time D:

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for your own sanity, it is perfectly ok (and healthy ) to have me time!!! You are still a good mommy!! I felt so guilty the first time i left my daughter with a sitter, but now (she is 8 months old) and I try to go out once a month for some well deserved me time, even if it is just eating at burger king with out having to sit near the play place :)

Bryce - posted on 11/19/2010

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My daughter just turned 2 months old on November 14th , and i get NO me time at all. Since she was born i have been looking after her 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I get 10 mins maybe while someone feeds her for me once and awhile . and then she gets handed back to me. God i wish i had the time for me. && everytime i ask a family member to babysit her , they say no because " I should be responsible for her full time , and shouldn't be asking anyone for help unless i'm ill ". SO if you can get me time then get it from whoever is willing to do it.

Kaara - posted on 11/19/2010

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i didn't get any me time till after my son turned 9 months old, i also have an 8 yo son and im never really alone, once my youngest turned 9 months i started letting my mother-in-law watch him so myself and my partner could go to dinner or to a movie, i really enjoy those 2-3 hrs away from my kids i feel that it makes me a better mummy i come back feeling refresed and relaxed and less stressed.

Katrina - posted on 11/18/2010

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My Son is almost 8 months and the only Me time i get is when he naps or when he goes to sleep for the night.

Alisha - posted on 11/18/2010

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Babies will adapt to whatever you are doing, I take my daughter everywhere! I don't go out to bars or anything though, I'd rather be with her. When I'm with my friends they have children too, so our kids play and we talk.

Merry - posted on 11/18/2010

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All I need to be happy is to be with my baby! I don't want to leave him. I worry if I do. I'm happier and more peaceful when we are together.
And this helps me connect with him more, if I am there to see everything he does, I know better what he needs cuz I see the whole picture.
But when my husband needs time out with me we make it work. I can't say I want to leave Eric, but my husband is important and I do enjoy myself. But it's a guarded fun, because I know no one could care for Eric like I do. Date number four is coming up for us this tuesday! I'm excited and then not so much, but Eric is 1 1/2 so I know he will be ok with grandma, but moms will worry and that's because we love our babies! Whatever feels right for you is what you should do. But keep in mind that you have to do first what's right for your baby, mom comes second and that's how it has to be since babies are dependent on mom to survive, we don't NEED time out, but babies NEED time with mom so it's a balance and every mom finds her balance.

Ariel - posted on 11/18/2010

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I get out about once a week without my six month old daughter. I have been ever since she was one month old. It's actually recommended by doctors because it helps mothers stay sane. Even strong women have a breaking point and listening to a baby cry and not knowing what they want and not being able to figure out what they want right away will work your nerves quick. Babies can tell when their parents are frustrated and that upsets them so getting out doesn't just help the mother, but it helps the baby too. My daughter is all smiles all the time now, besides when she's hungry or ready for a diaper change.

Dimity - posted on 11/18/2010

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I am 18 almost 19 and have a 10 month old baby and i very rarly get any me time as i also have a demanding son.. my mother tries to help me out but sometimes he just does not like staying with her.. i am very lucky to have a beautiful fiance who helps me as much as he can when his not at work...
Me times is always very nice i left my son for a weekend when he was just a month old and i was a mess i hated leaving him and even know i hate no having him with me bu i feel it is alot better for us and the babys to have some space from each other

Jessica - posted on 11/17/2010

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i have a 16 month old boy and a 1 month old boy, i get maybe one night a month of me time. going out even for a couple of hours is ok, every mom needs some me time. your son will be ok, just have fun and relax while you are out, have fun!

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2010

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I get none! I do inhome daycare and have 4 children! My fiance works long hours and when he gets home we spend as much time together before bed! My 2 oldest just started going with their bio dad about a month ago, and my 2 youngest have been going with their dad for almost 2 yrs on the same wkends, but I have daycare children on the weekends so I don't get a break! Does it suck? No, I got used to it! I get to go to the dr alone! Haha, and get groceries! But honestly it doesn't get to me.

Krystal - posted on 11/16/2010

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I am going to see the midnight premiere! lol, when babies are sleep and that's when I am most comfortable. And I completely agree it is natures way! I put my kids to bed by 8. They get the dinner, books, teethbrushing, songs, the whole bed time routine which helps me relax knowing I get to relax in 45 minutes too. lol And then my "me" time is spent with my husband doing a puzzle, watching him play xbox, a movie, whatever and it's what makes me happiest. None of my friends, or family members understand that we are happy spending as much as we can with our kids and not going out, or even real "me" time and go out separately.

Merry - posted on 11/16/2010

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It's natures way of keeping mom and baby together for those vital first years! I guess the bond for mom and baby is more important then free time. I feel it is, but yes a few dates are wonderful! We are going to go see the new Harry potter movie next week! Yay! I'm excited but we will go after nap time and during erics most active happy time so he is good for grandma.

Krystal - posted on 11/16/2010

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Laura I know what you mean breastfeeding is a huge factor why we don't part ways!!!

Krystal - posted on 11/16/2010

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I don't have any me time. lol, and I am okay with that. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a six month old. I love taking them everywhere with me, and they are not crazy attached me or anything I just like having them around but sometimes I wish I got me time or even HUSBAND and WIFE time out side of the bed. It'll happen for us eventually but everyone is different!! :)

Leah - posted on 11/12/2010

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Im a stay at home mum to my little boy who is nearly 6 months olds, and I went through a stage feeling like I was never going to have time to myself ever again. But to save my sanity I have left him with my mum a few times, it was hard the first time I was constantly texting her! But it was great to spend a few uninterrupted hours with my husband. And since I have started self settling with him, me time just got better!

Rachel - posted on 11/12/2010

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Finding time for me is a rare occasion. I have one son who it 4 and another who is 4 months. I get up at 5 30 am so i can shower and do my hair and stuff lol. Once in awhile i will get grandparent to watch them, or dad but dads a lil nervous about watching the two of them. Lucky for me my best friend has a 3 yr old so ur kids play together amazing so its like we have time to ourselves and they have time to their selves. Its nice.

Mare - posted on 11/12/2010

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haha.. thats a great question. All moms should get me time.. your right. My daughter is a little over 1 years. And ive only gone out 4 times.. since she was born.. But my personal oppinion is i get nervious and worried if im not around her. Im usually home everyday with her.. My me time is 7 pm until 730 am lol :)

Amber - posted on 11/11/2010

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My son is 14 almost 15 months and my boyfriend and I go out on an occassional weekend maybe once or twice a month other then that Rafe does almost everything with me. he only naps once a day and when he does i straighten up the house and do school work so its not very relaxing but at least its quiet for alittle. Although I feel bad leaving my son even though its only ever for a few hrs I know that every parent needs a break. It was nice to see someone post this because I'm leaving Rafe for 3 days for the first time this weekend. My boyfriend is a US Marine and the birthday ball is this weekend so we're going away for a few days and I feel so badd for leaving him but its with someone i trust so I know he'll be okay ♥

Stifler's - posted on 11/10/2010

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I ditched him with his dad for a few since birth to get my hair done and go shopping and grocery shopping. We went out every week for tea and baby slept in the pram and we had dinner and drinks with friends. I just take him shopping in the pram and he's always good or goes to sleep. I get heaps of me time when he naps too I refuse to do house work and after he's in bed at night I refuse to do the dishes or fuss around folding washing and stuff.

Stephanie - posted on 11/09/2010

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im a stay at home mom to a 16 month old daughter. i have devoted me time to her nap time. during the time that she is sleeping i do laundry, take a shower/bath, clean our room, and relax and watch tv

Kayly - posted on 11/09/2010

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I get absolutely no ME time. Unless you count going to work me time. Lol. Other than work, theres not one day that i get time with friends. Theres an occasional weekend day that my mom will watch kason, but that time is always spent with kyle because he dont like me to go anywhere without him. And he never watches him for like a cpl hours so i can go out with my friends....so basically.....i have no friends anymore either!

Aubrie - posted on 11/09/2010

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I have two kids ones a year and the others almost a month! i dont really get any me time at all aha ! but probably every 2 weeks i get to go out on a friday for a little while to hangout with friends which is really nice (: ! and its really good to have some of your own time anyways, it helps you relax a little!!(:

Roberta - posted on 11/08/2010

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I see being a Mother as my "Me" time. There's nowhere I'd rather be than with my son. Every moment is precious, even when he's asleep, and I couldn't stand the thought of him waking up in the night and needing me, and me not being there. I rarely go out, and I don't usually leave him with anyone else, and that's just the way I like it.

Ambyr - posted on 11/08/2010

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I am actually very fortunate to be able to get some time to myself. By the time I was 18 yrs old I had two kids (one week from being exactly 1 yr apart) so I have done everything I can to be a good mom since I am a young parent. At first I didnt feel right about going out becuase I didnt want ppl to think that I was one of those young moms that send their kids to their parents and goes out partying. So I dont go out drinking often..I prefer to be with my kids but my boyfriend will take the kids and go visit some of his family or just sit at home with them while I go out with my mom and sister to go get our nails done or for lunch or what ever.Even if it is only an hr or two it is always nice to not have to worry about diapers, crying kids what they are getting into how much they've eatin ect.

Tiffany - posted on 11/08/2010

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My daughter is almost 14 months and I get about once every 3 months to myself, but while she is napping I do stuff for myself to help me feel young again, I paint my nails, curl my hair, get in a really cute outfit and take pictures, I just got 1000 piece puzzle to do at nap time we all need a break sometimes.

Annabeth - posted on 11/08/2010

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I did go out 2 nights ago and i had the best night out in ages. I actually had fun and felt like a teen again. But because i got home late my mum is kinda pissed. She has made up all these new rules so i am thinking of taking Xander with me every time i go out anywhere that way i won't have to rely on her to watch Xander while i go out.

Demi - posted on 11/07/2010

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i hadnt really done anything for myself since i was pregnant up till she was probably 3-4 months and i started having weekly lunches with my friends but since they dont hav kids its a bit awkward looking after my lil with them round so now bout once a fortnyt when i can get someone to watch her me and the girls hav a girls nyt along with our lunches..........

Brooke - posted on 11/07/2010

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My daughter is 3 and she goes everywhere with me. My "me" time would be when I am at school or work. My boyfriend and I try to get out once a week together, but usually we are at home with our daughter.

Amanda - posted on 11/07/2010

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i dont ever get any me time and my daughter is 15 months. if i go some where she comes with. i really need some i think its important.

Alyssa - posted on 11/06/2010

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I only get me time when Carter is napping, but i'm fine with that, it's enough for me, I love to be with him...and hate being away from him! When he get's older i'll probably want a little more me time because he'll get me worn out pretty good :) I believe it depends on each mom how much time they need for themselves.

Alicia - posted on 11/06/2010

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other than 2 - 3 hr nap for daughter, son dont nap hes almost 3, but he stays in his room while she naps. he plays. i dont get out much which sux but i would love to

Iysha - posted on 11/06/2010

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time was me time. lol...all she did was eat, sleep and that's it. so i just carted her around everywhere with me and still did my own thing going to people's houses, to the mall, etc. My fiance and I went on a date when my daughter was 2 months old. We went to parties with friends and left her with her grandma at 6 months and again at 7 months. Now, we have moved to a state away from our families and we dont have babysitters so the only me time I have is the 2 hour naps my daughter take and that is spent online or cleaning, and the time from when she goes to bed and my fiance gets home from work....today i had a whole 30 min extra me time because my fiance was home and walked down to the gas station to use the pay phone to call my mommy (our phone isnt working) ...so, I'm going a bit crazy with the isolation now. lol. I actually want to start working again so i can feel like me again and not just mom or girlfriend...I can be Iysha and feel sane and like a real life person and not a 50's house wife....

Stephanie - posted on 11/06/2010

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Im the same as you i only go out to get things for my baby who just turned 9 months he is a very fussy sleeper so my whole day pretty much revolves around his nap times and i also make all of his food so its a pretty big effort to leave the house but i make the effort to take him to playgroups and swimming lessons etc but i only ever really go out by myself with friends about once or twice a month ussualy because im invited to a friends birthday party my parents are actually telling me to leave the house now lol coz i just stay at home with bub everyday but i enjoy it im going back to uni next year so i really want to make everyday with my son count i dont like leaving my baby when i do i make sure he is fast asleep in bed all his toys are picked up his bottles are sterilized and filled with boiled water ready for the next day then im home before he wakes up in the morning so i can get up to him

Stephanie - posted on 11/06/2010

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I go out with my son all the time. You should join a playgroup or mothers group or something! Even if you have nothing to do taking the baby in the pram for a walk is good. It's nice to get some fresh air and bubs will see new things. My me time is at night cos my son goes to bed at 6 and when I am finished cleaning the house and I can sit down and watch TV or read or whatever! My son is also very demanding but don't worry, it gets better!! People used to say that to me all the time and I didn't believe them. He used to cry all the time, hated being in the pram and hardly slept but now at 5 months old he loves being in his pram and playing with toys so it makes going out a lot easier. I would recomment just persisting and he will get used to it.

Kym - posted on 11/06/2010

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My son is nearly 3 but I think it's good if the mums get a little ME time.. My son loves to go to his granparents place just so I get sum time for ME.. Im a stay at home mum so Im with him 24/7 & i love it but we always need our time away! I've now put him in daycare once a week (He starts in 3 days) just so I can have my time to clean or do my grocery shopping or just relax =) Go out and have fun, Yuur son will be fine!!

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