How often do you go out?

Kayle - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )

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I know other teenage moms who go out every weekend all weekend and leave there child with a babysitter the entire weekend. Just wondered how often everyone goes out and If I'm the only one that only goes out like once a month.

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Melissa - posted on 03/26/2011

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well i go out with my child alot I don't think as a teen mom u should really be looking into going out much your a responsible parent now so they come first you come last i'm 16 to a mom of a 7month old baby I've just graduated and i live on my own with my babys dad

Heather - posted on 03/26/2011

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I'm struggling to get a weekend to myself & my son is 18 months. I worry too much when I'm not with him, if I'm not at work I'm with him, i dont trust anyone with him for the most part.

Ronda - posted on 05/12/2010

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good for you! I was the same way until i felt comfortable leaving my daughter. I think when you start going out so much when kids are such a young age that is a little irresponsible...no offense to anybody! I do go out once a week but this just started recently and since me my daughters dad broke up thats when he has her anyways and its my opportunity to get a little me time! Just do what you feel comfortable with doing not what people tell you. If you want to stay with the baby or go out its always going to be completely up to you!

Claire - posted on 05/11/2010

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Heck no! I go out maybe once every two or three weeks. Everyone tells me to go out more, and even though I really want to, I feel irresponsible and I want to be there for my 11 week old daughter. I also breastfeed exclusively so when I do go out, I have to pump and that's totally a drag. I don't work and I take online classes so I am home all the time. Sometimes I go to my parents' and I get a break because my siblings and parents always want to play with her. My fiance and I do try to make it important to go out every once in a while so we don't go crazy and we can actually enjoy each other again. It feels nice.

Jemma - posted on 05/11/2010

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i have a 3 month old and fri night is my first night out.... my first time away from her. that is only because it is my 18th

Ariel - posted on 05/11/2010

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I go out bout once every 2 weeks and I live wit my parents so I leave my baby wit them. I come home at like 2 or 3 most of the time. go get her from their room and put her in her crib. So I can get up wit her in the morning. I love her so much but mommy needs time out too have fun wit her frands too.

Samantha - posted on 05/11/2010

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My daughter in 6 months old and i have been out 2 times with out her in her whole life. one for a funeral for my friends baby and we thought it was innapropriate and then once for 2 hours to go to walmart lol

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2010

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me and my bf go out about once a month without my son and we are usually only gone for a couple hours. when we moved into our new apartment my bfs mom watched my son at our new place so when we were there i could see him. we were gone for like 40 minutes at a time. i cant imagine not having my son there for a whole weekend. i miss him so much for being away from him for 3 hours. he is 3 months now. and me and my have seen 2 movies since he was born.

Kira - posted on 04/27/2010

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I have every weekend to myself to do whatever i like. melody my daughter stays with her nan, either my mum or her dads mum or her dad. works great melody loves it and i get time off from being super mum!

Martina - posted on 04/12/2010

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addition: my son's turning 6, i was more uncomfotable when he was younger and didn't go out that much then :-)

Martina - posted on 04/12/2010

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"partying phase" *lol*
well, i CAN really hard party, and do it, too, but this is - let me think - about three, four times a year?
"most" of the time i go out after bedtime story, drinking 1-2 glass of wine/beer and coming home before midnight.

and i NEED this, my girlfriends don't even think about PLANNING kids, concentrating on career now, and i have to meet them sometimes, simply chatting, listening music, exchange news - i don't want to be shut away from the friends i had my whole life

Crystal - posted on 04/12/2010

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Oh darling no, I am 37 and have three children my oldest is 17 and my youngest is 8 which dont live with me. I do however have a 10 year old and she takes up most of my time in the after noon that by the time night gets here i am to darn tired to do anything but relax. What I am trying to say is that no matter the age of your children it is hard and it drains you at any age.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/12/2010

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ive only gone out twice in the 5 months my daughter had been born. one time it was overnight which was the most horrible experience of my life and the second time was for a few hours on my birthday. and i couldnt handle being away soo long so i went home early. im too attatched to my daughter to feel comfortable leavin her for so long. idk how anyone could go out all the time while havin a baby, if ur not gonna make them ur world, you shouldnt have kept them(adoption people) or be fuckin parents not dead beat teenagers.. its people who go out all the time n make their child last in their lives that make all young mothers look bad.

Tiffany - posted on 04/12/2010

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i dont really ever go out. i usually always have my daughter with me. but going out is great. have your friends come see you. or do something the baby will enjoy too like going to the park or something.

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 04/12/2010

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Id rather stay home with my daughter and my partner over going out. If I go out at all its with my daughter, my partner and the family. I have been out to town once since she was born and she is 8 months old. Sometimes a break is nice, maybe going to the mall by yourself but I couldn't leave her with someone for a whole weekend and go out.

Kayle - posted on 04/11/2010

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In my opinion if your still in the partying phase in your life you need to get over it when you become pregnant or make sure you are perventing pregnancy.

Brooke - posted on 04/11/2010

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well I have gone out 4 times in the past 15 months. I am happy with that. my daughter has also only stayed over nanny and poppy's once in 15 months and that was just before her first bday. I hate being away from her and feel no one knows my baby girl like me and her daddy. I dont want to leave her to go out.

Simple_starving_to_be_safe - posted on 04/11/2010

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I'm 20, I have been out twice since I had my son and he is 19 months now.

Jenna - posted on 04/11/2010

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my husband & i are lucky enough to have my mother babysit for us once a week =] were responsible about going out though, my mom would def stop watching our children if we tried to pick them up hungover or anything like that. we call a few times to make sure everything is going well & we never let anyone other than our parents babysit.

Summer - posted on 04/11/2010

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i love how most people have 6-10 diffrent people that will watch there kids. i have two. that have full time jobs, plus i get my two step kids, plus my husband has a full time job so we go out maybe once every two months dont get me wrong theres been times were weve gotten lucky an been able to go out at random times but normally its bed by 8 lol.

Roselyn - posted on 04/11/2010

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well, I go out probably once every two months. Otherwise I take my son with me to my cousins house or my husband and I take him with us to the movies. I feel so annoyed about the so called "women" that leave their kids with other people as if they're their responsibility, and go out trying to live their "teenage years". there's only ONE thing wrong with that, the moment you start having unprotected sex, you relinquished you're teenage years because you thought you were grown. Now you've got a baby and girls just need to grow up and mature to take care of their babies. I'm not saying going out is bad, but there is a limit and a fine line between going out to take a break from motherhood and going out partying every weekend and being irresponsible.

Martina - posted on 04/11/2010

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i love to go out, but it's restricted to me :-)
most by b/f and i don't go out together, only about once a month, when my or his parents look after my son, and then we are always home by midnight except he sleeps at his grandparent's which happens about 4 times a year.
Most of the time we go out alone and one's at home.
but what makes me sad is thats mostly my b/f who goes out, not me :-(
and whether he is going or me, it's always me to stand up 8 in the morning for our son :-( so i'm not out too late

Eleni - posted on 04/10/2010

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my family would look after my son but id rather spend the time with him and save the money. xx

Kayle - posted on 04/10/2010

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Oooh FUN STUPID FACT....the person i was talking about when I posted this..she leaves her son with a 15 year old that has no idea how to deal with a child and this 15 year old has the baby probably 4 days out of the week.

Jensy - posted on 04/10/2010

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I'm 19 and my girl Bianca is 4 months and I've been out once. I would never leave my daughter with a babysitter only family. And I dont mind not going out now when she is so small.
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Kiara - posted on 04/10/2010

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hi im kiara,im 19 with 3 kids ,i go out with my kids mostly everyday n i love it! but i do like to take at least 1 day out of every month to go out with my hubby n i have a great time!....as long as you go out by yourself twice a month i think is good!

Holly - posted on 04/10/2010

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My daughter goes to her dads every weekend because we split up. I can go out every weekend but I usually don't, I miss her so much when she leaves for her dads

April - posted on 04/10/2010

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they are some lucky teen moms if they are doing that, Im home like all the time i dont get out as much as i should. when i do i miss my girls

Bekah - posted on 04/09/2010

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ONE A MONTH.... YOUR LUCKY!!!! lol ive gone out TWICE! since my daughter was born in September.. onces to see New Moon at the theater and once to the bar for my 20th birthday... and i felt soooo bad for leaving her.. even though i put her to bed and its okay to go out.. ahhaha

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2010

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along with most of the posts I just read, I only go out once a month for a night out that is. My daughter just recently turned 2, and she usually goes to my mums or goes to her dads - on the rare occasion she goes to my dads. If I have a party to go to I usually take her with me, and don't drink.

I also do a lot of community events and if she doesn't come with me she will stay with my mum or sister. Twice I have left her with my friend who has a 6month old son, and she loves to see my daughter (her son loves to stare at her) and it gives us a chance to catch up when I get back from what I'm doing.

The first time I went out out was when my daughter was about 9 months. I managed to have my "alone" time by visiting my mum or dad and they would play with her while I chilled out. Now that she is bigger though she always hunts me out so it is a little harder to get some time alone without leaving her there.

Also if I am at my mums and she falls asleep and I need to get something from the shop, or take my siblings somewhere, I just leave her - rather than disturbing her sleep!

Chantelle - posted on 04/09/2010

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I don't go out very often. I only go out when I get my monthly money...and my son is always with me. I try and bring my son out with me whenever I go out. I think me and my boyfriend go out like once every 3-4 months for dinner or a movie.

Samantha - posted on 04/09/2010

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girl your not alone. Im 20 yrs old but ever since I had my daughter I cant stand being away from her for long periods of time. Im lucky to have parents and sisters who will watch her if I want to go out. but i probably only go out twice a month.

Meagan - posted on 04/09/2010

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haha finally someone who relates! i was starting to think i was a terrible mom with my weekly night out when everyone else was like oh i never go out, maybe once a month or two. i get way to stressed out to stay home all the time haha my night out keeps me sane and gives me something to look forward to when things get tough at home

Amy - posted on 04/09/2010

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I usually go out once a week, leaving after I have put my baby to sleep at the babysitters ( my parents :D ) and picking her up in the morning once she is up and awake.
On the rare occasion I will go out twice a week but mostly its just once and I usually have a break every couple of weeks and just stay at home.
I think its important for teen mums to still get out. yeah we're mums but we're also teenagers and need to have a break sometimes!! :)

Kayle - posted on 04/09/2010

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Jessica---OMG I love that name...Kyler its so cute...never heard it before!!

Jessica - posted on 04/09/2010

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my husband and i barely get to go out once a month. i have a few friends who will come over cuz they enjoy playing with my son. usually if we go out for a nice lunch or dinner we just bring our son kyler with us. so dont feel bad.

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2010

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Honestly if u have the opportunity to go out you should take it. As mothers we need that in our lives. I have 2 children and i have a weekly girls nihgt with my friends some have children and some dont, but it helps me not to be as stressed out with being a stay at home mom and doing the same thing everyday. I usually only go out after my children are in bed and i dont let it take away from the time i could be spending with my children.

Cassie - posted on 04/09/2010

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I go out maybe twice a month. Luckily both lots of the grandparents live quite close and are always wanting to babysit, however I don't want to be always dropping her off or starting to take advantage. I had a friend that did that and I swore I never would. I always drop her off later in the afternoon and am there early the next morning. I miss her when she is gone and so far everytime she has stayed away I have texted at least a couple of times during the night to check that she is ok and has settled well. Also helps that she sleeps through the night so I don't feel guilty about them having a sleepless night while my partner and I are out.

Britny - posted on 04/09/2010

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I'm 19 and a single mom of a beautiful almost 14 month old, I don't go out at all. I'm sure my parents would watch Gregory if I asked them to but I have no desire to go out at all, I want to be home with my son and doing our nightly routine, I enjoy the time that I spend with him and since he doesn't see his daddy much, I feel as though I should be with him as much as possible. I work part time at Curves so 4 days a week for 6 hrs a day, I am surrounded by fabulous women so that is kinda like my 'me time,' its something I enjoy, it works for me and I get paid so why not! :)

Brittnii - posted on 04/08/2010

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i agree with u keri but also there are the grandparents who like taking their grandchildren and offering to take them. when my husbands parents take our kids we check in on how they are doing its not like we dont care that they are gone. there have been times when they wanted our kids for 2 nights and we have let them. not for us but for them and as long as my kids were doing fine i dont see harm in it at all.

Keri - posted on 04/08/2010

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Im a teen mom, I had my baby right when I turned 18. I do not go out but if I do I take my baby because she is mine and my responsibility. I do not go to parties or anything and I always make sure Im homw by her bedtime. If you want to get out more the best thing to do it find other moms and have play dates or go to lunch. Other teen moms who go out and can leave their baby every weekend all of the time is not a responsible parent and are thinking of themselves rather than thinking of the needs of their child. Children need stability and when a parent leaves all of the time it isnt good for them. One thing I do is every tuesday I have other moms and their babies come over for a tv show that were all interested in and it works out great that way.

Meagan - posted on 04/08/2010

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I have a responcible, trustworthy babysitter who loooves babysitting my 2 boys (1yr and 2yrs old) and I go out 1 day a week, i think its really important for me cause if i dont take time to myself i get flustered and grumpy and i dont want to be a grouchy mom to my kids. A happy mom, is a good mom. and one day a week for me is just right, i CANT imagian dumping my kids for a full weekend!! neverrr.

Brittnii - posted on 04/08/2010

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well im married...so me and my husband have a night to ourselves every other weekend because his parents WANT to take our kids for a night or 2 :) every parent should at least get a break every once in awhile its a way to collect their sanity :D lol

Megan - posted on 04/08/2010

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I am 21 and a full time student. I go to class couple times a week. My fiance and I did not go out until our son was 11 months old and that was for my first Mother's Day. We went to lunch as a family but then my fiance and I went to a movie. We were only gone for a few hours. He is almost 2 now and I've gone out with my best friend only 3-4 times. I always take him with me where ever I go. I hate leaving him and hate seeing moms who go out to drink when their child is at home, depending on them. I have not left him overnight with anyone yet and am worried about our wedding night. I dont know how people leave their kids to party all night and crap.

Kayle - posted on 04/08/2010

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Amy...that is rediculous what your friend did to you I definetly wouldn't have been as nice as you when she didnt come back I would have been calling DCFS! I would have been irate. And then to get mad at you for asking for some money after you provided free child care for her all weekend, feeding her child your childs milk...thats bs..

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