how old were you when you got pregnant...??

Precious - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 111 moms have responded )

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i just want to know am i the youngest mom on here im 15 and i got pregnant at 13 and had my son at 14. im also a good mother. and it bothers me when people call me a good mother but ask for my age and change their mind or look at me funny..
how sould i re-act..???what would you guys do..???

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Erin - posted on 06/17/2010

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I got pregnant when I was 19 and had my daughter at 20, but people still look at me like I'm insane. And somehow me being married as well makes it worse. So I agree with Michelle, just ignore it. Prove people wrong by being the best mother you can. Physical age doesn't determine how good of a mother you can be, it's how mature you are and your ability to care for your baby. So f--- people who judge you :)

Kasi - posted on 06/21/2010

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i was 19 when i got pregnant, & i will have my little girl in Oct. im 20 yrs. now. But dnt let what others say defend you, or make you look at yourself twice. I was 15 when i got pregnant the first time, but it didnt make it...i would've been 16 when in labor. But ppl way im to young to be having a baby, when truth be told they themselves my have had a baby when they were my age. i just look at it as, they are ignorant to the way the world is today. be strong for youa nd your son. YOUR A GOOD MOTHER, NOT BECAUSE THEY SAY YOU ARE, BUT BECAUSE YOUR RASING YOUR SON THE RIGHT WAY, YOU DIDNT GIVE UP, HAVE A ABORTION, OR THROW HIM OFF ON SOMEONE ELSE.
HOPE EVERYTHING GETS BETTER FOR YOU

Tasha - posted on 06/21/2010

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If you know you are a good mom than that is all that matters. I know thee are lots of teen moms that do a good job. keep doing what you are doing and don't let others judge you. I look you so when I go out a lot people ask me if I am babysitting (my daughter is a quarter Hispanic and I am white) so I try to either not care what people think or make my age know and be proud or dress older.

Also do you work and what not I was 20 when I got pregnant and I wanted to be young it was my choice and I stand by it. Also I am well proud that you decided to keep the baby. a lot of people I know ( including family) have gotten abortions which i hate. so kudos to you for sticking behind you choice.

Alyssa - posted on 06/19/2010

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I actually planned my pregnancy at 17 due to fertility issues and my parents backed me 100% they weren't sure if I was ever going to be able to have children and they said that the best of times was then so I tried for 3 years with my fiance and we finally got pregnant when I was 19 and had him at 19. I am about to be 20 and he is three months now. It took a lot to make the decision to have kids and I am very proud to say that I am a mom because I worked very hard and had to grow up fast but I wouldn't trade it for the world =) So screw the people who have negative things to say. Just know you do your best and that's all that matters =)

Melissa - posted on 06/19/2010

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I was 15 when I got pregnant and had my daughter a month and three days after my 16th birthday. My angel will be 2 1/2 on July 18th. :)

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Brittany - posted on 09/02/2013

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I was 14 when I had my first child. I am now 27 with four children and happily married for almost 10 years. I moved out of my parents house at 16 with my boyfriend, worked full time and went to school and have never moved back. My children and I are doing very well, im a stay at home mommy and I wouldn't change anything. It's not age that makes a good parent it's the person you are that does. :-)

Lucy - posted on 08/30/2013

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I was 17 when I found out and 18 when I had my son, wouldnt change it for the world though x

Vangie - posted on 08/28/2013

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I was about 4 weeks pregnant on my high school graduation night. I am 18, and currently 14 weeks pregnant. My mother as well as my fiancés mother had their first child at the age of 16, so our families are supportive. I don't think its age that determines a good mother, but rather how you care, provide, and love your child. Young mothers are downed a lot through this society, but truthfully, a young mother is sometimes better at loving and caring for their child, rather than an older mother.

Kelsey - posted on 04/23/2011

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a few days before mi sweet 16 i got pregnant and i found out 3 weeks after that.

Leighton - posted on 04/23/2011

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I had my son when I was 15. Don't mind people who look at you funny! As long as your child is healthy and you take good care of him/her and yourself don't care what other people think! I get a lot of pressure from people my age calling me names and making fun of my child and "feeling sorry" for my child because I'm young. To be honest, all i tell them is "You know you're doing the same thing I did to get pregnant, you're just lucky it hasn't happened to you yet". It's ridiculous how disrespectful people are! You keep doing what you're doing to take care of your child! Good luck!

Bryce - posted on 04/22/2011

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I was 14 when i got pregnant & had my daughter at 15. Now i am 16 & my daughter is just 7 months. (: People always look at me funny & give me dirty looks i just shrug it off. It's not any of their business it's mine , i know i'm a good mother. && all of these women commenting uncluding YOU are as well !! We do well for ourselves. And the older women have no room to judge. This is society , life goes on. Just keep your chin up & keep loving that little boy like you already do ♥ Good luck girl :D

Heathur - posted on 04/21/2011

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I was 17 when I got pregnant (on the pill) & 18 when I had her. I am 23 now. I was still in high school so I heard all of the horrible things people generally say about teen moms. Being a teen mom is hard enough as it is, the negative comments just aren't worth thinking about. Put all of your energy into being the best mother you can & ignore the neigh-sayers. YOU know who you are as a person & a mother & providing the best care for your child & doing the best that you can for them is the most important thing you can do.

Anna - posted on 04/21/2011

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I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I had my son Joseph and got married. I am now 21 and my husband is 23 and our son Joseph is a very happy active 1 year old. People look down on us and we hear that we should have waited because we havent had a chance to live our lives. But I dont care because Joseph is the greatest little boy that I love to death!! We also have our own place and doing well! I have learned to ignore peoples comments and just live my life! :)

Cassie - posted on 06/24/2010

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i was 17 when i had my little girl and people look at me funny all the time but as long as you know you are a good mother dont worry about what other people say or think cause they dont know what it is like

Jessica - posted on 06/24/2010

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I was 16 when I had my first child. No one had faith in me either, and the people who interfered caused more damage to me and my daughter than they helped. They wouldn't allow me to be strong. I had a lot to learn so I needed help, but they just took over. Continue to be the best mom you can and always, always trust your judgment.

Candisse - posted on 06/24/2010

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hey i fell pregnant on my seventeenth birthday and had him a few months before my 18th im now twenty and have my two year old my 6 month old and pregnant with my "accident" baby but have found out its my first girl so stoked...the way i look at it is you cant win in this world with peoples misconceptions and judge

Brittany - posted on 06/24/2010

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hi my name is brittany and i had my first child when i was 15 she is now 7 and i also have a 4 year old and a 2 year old at the age of 22! if u r taking care of ur child then dont worry about what other people say about u! even now when i tell someone my age in public when i have all 3 of my kids they ask why do u have 3 kids or girl ur too young of the just stick there noses in the air but honestly it used to bother me but it doesnt anymore cuz God blessed me with 3 of the most precious gifts that anyone could recieve! so the next time someone says something negative just put it in the good Lords hands becuz he is strong enough to pull you thru! if u want to talk just add me!

Lachell - posted on 06/24/2010

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I got pregnant when i was 16 and had my daughter when i was 17. age doesnt matter, its only number. and for ppl on here to criticize younger mothers for having sex at a young age did u ever have this thought maybe a precaution was taken and it failed! that does happen! Im a damn good mother to my child and i dont regret having her one bit! I get looks too when im out with my bf and our baby and i just look away because I myself know how good I am. I dont need other peoples approval and neither do u or any young mother for a fact. Just stay strong only we ourselves know how great we are and other people should just mind their own damn business! =]

Lungile - posted on 06/24/2010

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As long as you are taking care of your child and being a good mom,dont stress about what people say. i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my first child an people thought she was my sister,still happens and i'm 28 now. im pregnant with my second and not married and people still judge. People will talk no matter what ur doing or ot doing. Live ur life! forget about them.

Alex - posted on 06/24/2010

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i think it is bad ppl having sex at 14 let alone having kids wen ur onli a kid urself i think its awful tht ppl have sex without condoms at tht age knowing full well tht ur actions will eventually lead to a baby .

Abryanna - posted on 06/24/2010

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i was 17 when i got pregnant wit my son and 18 when i had him i just turned 19 this pasted monday and it bothered me cuz on my b-day me and my son and my bf was haveing fun at the park and this woman came up and told me i hang a big sin and i was like wat and she pointed at my son i just simple said wat every u know nuthing bout me and i asked her how old she thought i was and she said 15. so i pulled out my id and showed her but she still shook her head and told me she was gne pray for my son cuz she knew he was gne have a hard life i dnt i started cry but my bf reminded me how good of a mother i was so i know how u feel but i'm learning ta push those kiof negative thoughts a side

Lyria - posted on 06/24/2010

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i was 17 when i got pregnant with my son and had him at 18. i will be 19 next month.i also like very young for my age so ppl look at me like "what is she doing with a kid?" do like me and pay them no mind...as long as you love your child and he's healthy that's all that matters.

Leigh Ann - posted on 06/24/2010

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i was 17 when i had my son.i get the same looks from ppl too. Im also married which gives even weirder looks. all i ever here is "you guys are just so young" i love when ppl state the obvious things that we cant change. dont worry bout other ppl im proud of you for keeping your baby and being a good mom. thats all that counts keeep your head up

Olivia - posted on 06/24/2010

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i got pregnant at 18, but didnt have him till i was 19. i think when ur young and you actually get pregnant you tend not to look at people in a funny way if they are young and pregnant too. people just dont understand. before i probably would have thought differently. it all changes once you go through it too.

Justine - posted on 06/24/2010

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I had my first child Tyler when I was 15.I am now 25 yrs old and Tyler is 10.I also have a 2 yr old daughter and for me having a baby so young was good and bad.But I dnt regret it.I loved being a young mummy!!

Sarah - posted on 06/23/2010

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I just recently had my first baby about a month ago. I was 16 and just turned 17, so I know what it feels like. Honestly, I just ignored them because I knew I was going to be an awesome mother. It also helped a lot because I had so much support. :)

Niki - posted on 06/23/2010

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I know just how you feel! I got pregnant at 13 and had my son at 14. He is now 13....I used to get the same look or when I was taking the bus to school people would look at me in disgust. All that matters is that you know your a good mom and you take care of yours! Sure those people hurt but guess what all they are doing is making you a stronger person! My son is going in to 8th grade he's on the honor roll and the football team...I know I raised him right and having a baby young doesn't mean your going to be no good...I graduate myself in Aug for nursing. Just believe in your self sweetie. And you shouldn't have to act any way...you just keep on going and they'll see for themselves how good of a mama youare. Good luck!

Kayla - posted on 06/23/2010

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i got pregnant at 16 had my first at 17 have great 3 kids at 23 and dont care at all what people think about my age. i am single and my children come first thats what matters. if u want a good comeback that really flips a lid... "yea ill be done raising my kids early and get to really enjoy my life and ill actually have money and no one telling me what to do" ppl stop and think wow shes right. just be a good mom let the little things go and keep ur head held high for that baby. thats what is important

Christine - posted on 06/23/2010

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I got pregnant at 14 and had my son when I was 15. I went thru my whole first year of HS pregnant. I then returned to school, finished all 4 years of HS and graduated. He is now 8 and I have 2 other sons which I had when I was 19 and 20 with my husband. (not baby #1's father) Even tho I'm not a "teenage mom" anymore (I'm 23), I'm still a young mother with 3 kids and I would never change that! It gets easier as the years pass, people WILL accept you, and life goes on. So live it for your kids!

Kymberly - posted on 06/23/2010

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I was almost 19 when I got pregnant and had my daughter 4 months shy of turning 20. Even the nurses at the hospital looked at me funny because of my age, but you know what? I'm glad I'm a young mom because I'm going to be able to enjoy my children and see them graduate highschool and hopefully college. When you get pregnant at 50 you're basically dead by the time they graduate. It's all a personal choice but I'm happy with the one I made, and we are trying for number 2 now :D

Tiffanie - posted on 06/23/2010

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i was 18..and it doesn't matter if you are 13 or 18 they say the samething..it is irratating but i know people that are in their 20's or 30's that aren't good mothers when younger women are..i just ignore them..i have to live with my decision not them..

Kristina - posted on 06/23/2010

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Hi!! I was 15 when i got pregnant with my 1st, and 16 when i had her! I now have a 3yr old & a 3wk old son! My daughter will be 5 next month! I always got looks and stares, but i always ignored them, i know i'm a good mom and i love my kids to death! But now it isn't such a big deal, since most military wives have kids, so it's not a bother, but i'm 21 now.

Louise - posted on 06/23/2010

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Well put it this way i'm 18 and have two kids i had my first at 16 and it dosen't matter wat anyone think's only wat u think ..

Rebecca - posted on 06/23/2010

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i was 17 when i fell on and 17 nearly 18 whn i gave birth but i look about 13 and when people see me with my son they look at me as if im dog poo on there shoe and its like im old enough and im past the legal ae so get fuked personally but yesterday i walked past a old lady and she said i looked like i ha a few men and popped a few out i went mad i was swearing at her telling her to keep er mouth shut and she didnt know what to do, but if people dont know you and know your situation then they should not judge !! it really pisses me of i ate it ! urghhh

Jessie - posted on 06/23/2010

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i was 14 when i got pregnant i had a lot of people talk about me i just lefted it go i didnt care i still have people talk about me my daughter is now 10 and in 5 grade and all of her friends moms are in there 30s and i am only 25 they are always looking at me mean but thats ok i have a good life i take good care of all 3 of my kids and the best thing is that i am still with my daughters dad weare married and have 3 kids we been together for 12 years now so just keep being a good mom to your soon and tell everyone to shut up

Krystal - posted on 06/23/2010

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I got pregnant at 20 and had my daughter at 21. We are currently expecting a little boy. So basically 2 babies within a year. I'm going to be 22 in July and regardless of how old i am i still get looks because i look younger. All you can do is just ignore them. People like that are just looking to be nosy and have something to talk about. There not worth the time and effort. As long as your son is receiving everything he needs, food, clothes and shelter. Then don't worry about what everyone says. Its none of there business.

Ashley - posted on 06/22/2010

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Don't pay attention to people like that. Brush it off if u doing what u need to do for ur child then that is all that matters. My mother was a young mom at 16 and i think she is an amazing mom. i just turned 22 and i have 9 month old twins and i feel that if ur children are the # 1 in ur life then everything else will follow.

Amber - posted on 06/22/2010

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13 is a very young age but does not make you a bad mother. as long as you have been taking care of yourself and your son then don't bother listening to anyone else

Jamia - posted on 06/22/2010

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well i didnt get pregnant until 18 & i had graduated from high school & was on my way to college had my daughter at 19 and people are always doing the same to me but guess what??? i love my daughter and as long as you love and take care of your child & YOU know that you dont need their praise or criticism :)

Tegan - posted on 06/22/2010

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I got judged for being 19 when I had my son.... Me and my fiance were trying for 6 months.... we planned on having kids early, so we could grow up with them and experience them while we were still young...
I say congratz to dealing with all the pressure of being a young mother! Age doesn't determine your ability to be a great mum!

Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2010

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NOW THAT YOU ARE AMOTHER YOU HAVE TO FOCUS YOURSELF ONLY FOR YOUR CHILD...OTHER PEOPLES POINTS ARE INVALID & IF ABLE POLITELY LET THEM KNOW....IF U CANT THEN IGNORE THEM...I WAS 19 when i got preg & 20 when i gave birth(sm look at me odd but thats no concern)...ALTHOUGH MANY PPL WILL WONDER THE CAPABILITY OF SOMEONE SO young being responsible you prove it by what you do....NO MATTER CONTINUE TO BETTER YOURSELF EDUCATIONAL OR OTHER ANY CHANCE YOU HAVE ITS A LNG LIFE FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD ALSO SHOW RESPONSIBILTY BY TAKING ACTION & PREVENT MR KIDS NEAR FUTURE!!! (IN MY EYES YOUR FISRT ACTION OF RESPONSIBILITY CAME WHEN YOU CHOSE TO CONTINUE PREG...NO 1 KNOWS YOU OR YOUR SIT...PPL ARE JUDGEMENTAL SO DNT BOTHER) ~ sm bettr mother come younger some do no not age doest determine responsibity or lack of...just take good care of yourself and little one =)

Tiffany - posted on 06/22/2010

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Hi Precious, I know how you feel. I got pregnant when I was 15, and had my son when I was 16. I'm 28 now. I raised my son by myself without assistance. I finish school and have a very well paying job. And I still get the comments. I look very young. So when I say I have a 12 yr old, the next question I get is how old are you. Your best bet is to ignore it. Take the pride in the great mother you are. If they ask your age, say old enough. :)

Alison - posted on 06/22/2010

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dnt worry about aother ppl as long as u kno ur doing the best u can thats all that matters and tell them that ppl used 2 get married and have babies all the time when they were ur age so dnt judge u. i found out when i was 18 and had my son and ppl still look at me like that and thats wat i tell them and they shut up real quick when u syand up 4 ur self

Alicia - posted on 06/22/2010

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well they shouldn't change their mind bc of your age. You are a it young to have kids but the point is that you have a child and you are raising it and being a good mom. age has nothing to do with that

Kylie - posted on 06/22/2010

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i fell pregnate when i was 18 and had my baby girl 2 months after i was 19 im now 20 i would not change it for the world i love my daughter very much noone can say you are to young its up to how much percentage you put in to being a mother and if you put the 100% then ur a gr8 mum

Careen - posted on 06/22/2010

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i'm 17 i will be 18 october 28th i got pregnant 2months after my 16th birthday and had my son a month before my 17th birthday...how old you are dosen't define who you are as a mom keep your head up and stay postive all the choices you make will determine your childs future

Tamara - posted on 06/22/2010

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i was 14 when i got pregnant and onli just turned 15 when i gave birth ... and i get the same look when i tell people how old i am just ignore them if you think you are a good parent and your child is happy enough then ignore what other people think

Ashley - posted on 06/21/2010

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I was almost 18 when i got pregnant so i will be 18 when i have my daughter in August. If it makez u feel any better teen pregnancy pretty much runz in my family. The girlz in my generation of my family like me and my sister and my cousinz, all the girlz except 1 got pregnant when they were still teenagerz. One of my cousinz got pregnant at 13 or 14, she started the trend. lol. Every time one of us getz prego my grandpa alwayz has something to say. So dont worry about what other ppl think. If they think ur a good mother before they kno ur age then ur a good mother, not that their opinion matterz but i bet ur a great mother. Teenage motherz just have a lot more hardshipz to deal with than older women, it doesnt mean that we r any different at raising our kidz.

Nicole - posted on 06/21/2010

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I got pregnant when I was 17, and i will be 18 when our baby girl arrives. i'm pretty good at blocking peoples snide comments out anyway, since i was always the girl who dressed funny and was loud and just had fun..but no matter what they say, if you know your a good mommy, then just brush it off. keep your chin up girl

Jessica - posted on 06/21/2010

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i was 16 when i got pregnant, and i thought i couldnt do it because i was so young.. but everything changes once your baby is in this world. good 4 u for going through with it so young! dont listen to the people who only have bad things to say..

Nekia - posted on 06/21/2010

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i would be a little upset by that as well. people dont understand that age has nothing to do with it. u can be 15 and still have more of a maternal instinct than i d do at 21. it is all about the mothers level of maturity. not her age. but i was got pregnant at 17 and had my son one week before my 19th birthday

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