How should I deal with being a teenaged mom?

Reneé - posted on 05/21/2012

It is ridiculous how many women on here are saying "DONT HYAVE SEX!" Clearly she already did, so that "advice" is moot. Lets be supportive here. Any teenage mother has already hear from EVERYONE, "You shouldnt have had sex." Well they, did, and its done, nothing anyone can do about it now except move forward. Let us not judge. How do we know that the girls asking this question werent the victim of a rape? we do not know anyones story, so brushing them off and telling they the answer was simple, just dont do it, well thats not an option anymore. I conceived while on birth control it happens. This is a parenting sight, not a "should I or should I not have sex?" site. lets be supportive and openminded here, and not selfrighteous. I am new on this sight and honestly I Iam a little shocked at the judgements Ive seen on here.

Jessica - posted on 11/12/2011

Being a teen mom is difficult, I recently had my daughter at the age of 18, the best advice I can give is accept the help thats offered &Never feel like you are incapable of doing it. No matter what age someone is it doesnt determine wheather they are a good parent. At the end of the day your baby doesnt look at you any different.

Eschelle - posted on 11/11/2011

with pride.

Casey - posted on 11/11/2011

The best advice i can give any teen parent is to finish school. Accept help when its needed. Get your goals high. Keep in mind its not about you any more. YOu need to focus on whats best for you baby. Dont think about your age just that you are going to be a mommy. Its the best job in the world. Do what you think is best for the baby and ask for help if you need it. Keep your head up and your goals in view.

Nicole - posted on 11/09/2011

I had my lil man when i was 18 and was soo scared! But as long as you have support around you ...you should be fine x i must admit i found it hard but all new mums do...you just have to get on with it bcoz that baby depends on you all the time xx

Sarah - posted on 11/09/2011

As long as your a good mother and take care of your baby who care how old you are. I was 16 when I got pregnant and 17 when i had her. I love being a mom! My daughter is my world and I love her more than anything.

Cierra - posted on 05/06/2010

Dont think of yourself as a "teen" mom. Just MOM. Just think positive and be confident. People who see that will not bring you down and they will have more respect for you if you dont let them think that you are like those whinny girls like you see on that show "16 and Pregnant." It will also make you deal with yourself and the baby and things will be much smoother. Think that it was meant to be! :) Hey-- it worked for me!

Cheyenne - posted on 05/06/2010

Treat your pregnancy as if you were a 25 year old woman. If someone says something about you being a teenager and being pregnant just tell them that a mother is a mother and unless you have lived my shoes then you hav no right to judge me! I got pregant when I was 17...I kept this concept in mind and it worked very well. I even had people talk bad about me being a teenage mom at my church.

Sharlene - posted on 05/05/2010

being a mum is hard but also a great thing. and on the positive side cause you are a young mum you can watch your children grow up for longer and you will also be able to run around with them cause you are young. i am a young mum im 19 i had my daughter at 18 but when i got with my partner he had a 18 month old on who we got full custdy of so i was a mum at 17 and the only realy hard part is people judging you

Gina - posted on 05/05/2010

I had my son Jake (almost 3 yrs) at 17 got pregnant at 16. I finished HS when I was 17 lots and lots of extra home work!! I knew if I didn't get it done right away I wouldn't have time to do it. I lived off my dad for a year then I met Stuart. We got married last year and I had George. I am now 19 married with 2 healthy happy gorgeous kids. Its just something you do and you have to do the best you can for your child.

Kelsey - posted on 05/05/2010

Im only 18 & its pretty hard especially when u have a bf thats older and he can go out to bars and u cant. believe me u give up everything but wouldnt trade ur child for anything

Addreonna - posted on 05/05/2010

You're asking the wrong question...you don't deal with being a "teenage" mom, you deal with being a mom period. :) There are no age limitations on being a good mother, you just have to do the best you can, as much as you can. There is no manual to parenting.

Jessica - posted on 05/05/2010

i got pregnant with my daughter @ 14 and gave birth when i was 15 i had allsorts of comments i even got told i was too young too be babysitting once i just ignored them and did my best i had my son when i was 19 and still had loads of comments but then they seen how well behaved and polite my daughter was and they stopped. just do the best you can and ignore peoples rude comments. Dont let your teenage friends ruin it for you either most of my friends ditched me and said i was out of order for not going out etc..... Just enjoy it xxxxxxx

Corissa - posted on 05/05/2010

r u wanting to keep the baby?
what are ur plans with the baby? do u want to get on with ur life and act like u never had the baby for if that is the case then u should give the baby a good home. i for one am a mother who can not have any more kids and i feel bad for those teen moms that really do not get it. please look me up and talk to me and i can help u out alot. thanks i am here for u regardless that we do not know each other. even if u gave me ur baby u can come see it any time u wanted to .

Ashleigh - posted on 05/04/2010

just dont let peoples snarky comments or looks get to you! prove them wrong..get an education, be a good mum. i had my son wen i was 17 and im a better person now than i ever was. it dusnt ruin our lives more often than not it makes our lifes and makes us better people. kinda make us more determined to get an education and do something with our lives aswell..to be the best we can be for our children.
be proud of who you are and what your doing. its not easy at times but hey, keep the supportive people around you and itl do wonders. good luck =]

Clarissa - posted on 05/04/2010

im a teen mom i got pregnant at 17 years old but jus do your best and when people try to throw it up in your face like well aw she jus another young dummy what she gone do with a baby let they ass know im a young mother who is smart who buys my baby everything it needs and im a mother that loves my child and will never abandon my child like some adults do and im a young mother that had an unplanned pregnancy but my baby aint no mistake im here to take care of mine and ask them while you worried bout my well taken care child where are your children and what they doin...i had to let a couple of people know what it really was. And if you do what you suppose to your child will say well my mama had me at a young age but she raised me great and i was well taken care of and anything i needed she was there. Your child will still respect you faget whats others say

Gemma - posted on 05/04/2010

im not going to lie to you. first thing is i was 15 when i fell pregnant 16 when i had my little boy, i was so terrified at telling my mother but once she had time to think about it she came round in the end. through the pregancy i had awlful heartburn and morning sickness, when he was born it was the best experience of my life, it was instant love, i held him in my arms and simply fell in love. being a teenage mum dont change anything but your social life, becuse you will have a little one there will be hardly any time for you unless you have a fantastic family like mine and let you do things a normal teenager does. i must say i did everything myself and asked questions all the time but made sure it was me that bathed him and fed him and change his bumb, it does come to you like second nature, i wouldnt be worried about a thing you will be great and you will surprise yourself becuse i did.hope i help you a little bit good luck you'll be a great mother, age doesnt mean a thing lol x

Samantha - posted on 05/04/2010

like any new mother would. just remember to make sure the things you do are good for your baby as well, not just you. if you are in school, remember not to give up just bc it gets hard. life is gonna be rough from now on babe, its time to suck it up and deal. when people judge, ignore them, no one knows whats best for baby but mommy. just remember to keep an open mind and take advice from those who have been through it. don't completely give up your social life either, if you feel trapped you will not give your baby the positive attention it needs to thrive, but don't be a social butterfly either. it will be hard to give up a lot of things, but honestly when you look back you will be grateful.

Lainey - posted on 05/04/2010

love it! i am a teen mom and i wouldn't change it for anything. (:
it is a blast && is keeping me on the right track. most girls my age are digusting and trashy, but not me. (:
elijah has saved me!!

Kamie-lee - posted on 05/03/2010

bein a teenage mother is no diffrent two our mums ppl jst think cause were young we carnt do it but we cen i have 2 i had my 1st at 15 and i do pretty good i would never change a thing at all

Megan - posted on 05/03/2010

I am a teen mom and I wouldnt trade it for the world =) take it one day at a time and love your child unconditionally. you'll be fine =)

Anitta - posted on 05/03/2010

i had my oldest when i was 16. because i was a young mum i got alot of nasty comments. i made sure that i provided for my child, he was always dressed nicely, fed healthily, learned his manners and went with the flow. i have never regretted having a child so young. treasure your little one, because it is a privilledge not a right. do the best you can and dont be afraid to ask for help because we all need it at some time. there will be times when you cry cause it is very overwhelming and times you laugh so hard you will cry. enjoy growing up with your baby

Shiloh - posted on 05/03/2010

in my opinion you dont "deal" with it, you just live your life with an extra person. try n finish school, and love your baby like only you know how to! thats the best i can think of

Ashley - posted on 05/03/2010

I had my oldest at 19 i was 18 when i got pregnant i never really thought of myself as a teen mom because i was just about out of the teen years i am almost 22 with 2 amazing kids my oldest will be 2.5 yrs old on the 6th of may and my youngest will be 1 yr old on may 6th :( they grow up to fast so dont think about what age you are but what age they are because they dont stay babies forever

Frances - posted on 05/02/2010

i had my baby wen i was 17 and it was a shock cuz that ment i had to grow up so fast, but wen my son was born i was scared and excited at the same time, and i had to learn so much things but thank god my family and my boyfriends family was there to support me and help me out, and having my son taught me alot that i didnt know about myself and watching him grow and learn new things everyday makes me soo proud to be a mom, and it was worth all the hard work, and i dont regret him at all, all im saying is try your, best moms always know the best for there kids (my son is 1 year old)

Kayla - posted on 05/02/2010

Be the BEST you can be. That's all you can do.

Candace - posted on 05/02/2010

You dont deal with being a teen mom. you do it. and enjoy it; or not lol

but ↓ shes right you dont have to think of yourself that way; not teenage mom.. but a mom to a very special baby :)



im also a teen mom.. well going to be on tuesday :) and i cant wait.



but enjoy your little one :)

Veronica - posted on 05/02/2010

i believe being a mother comes naturally, and being a teen does not mean that it wont come naturally to you us. we are the same as any women that is out there, we are capable of parenting.
so i rekon be the best mum u can be within urself. if us teens can do it then it shows that the world is much bigger then it already seems.

good luck and have fun

Meagan - posted on 05/02/2010

I had my son at 18 (got pregnant at 18 also) and I say the best way to deal is to think positively. Don't let urself get sucked up into the "teen parent epidemic" cause that will only make you feel worse. It's gonna be hard no matter what age you are, but look on the bright side you have another person to love and that person to love you back so enjoy it :)

Christine - posted on 05/02/2010

i had a child at 16 and all you can do is go with the flow and accept it! i based my world around my little girl as she depended on me to treat her right and look after her.i wouldnt change what happened for anything. if you have people around you that can help then let them cause you could feel overwelmed with it all at times. good luck!

Tanisha - posted on 05/01/2010

well i think just because u r a teen mom doesnt mean u have to think of urself that way!! im also a "teen" mom but i do better at it them some adults i kno!! just enjoy ur time with ur baby and yea it will b hard at times but its all worth it!! how old is ur baby?