How Young Is Too Young?

Sharleen - posted on 05/04/2009 ( 134 moms have responded )

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Hey Ladies! I was just wondering how old you were when you found out you were pregnant? And do you think you were too young to have a baby? Lastly would you want your child to have a baby at 11,12,13,14,15,16,or 17 and how would you react to that situation if it happened?

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Mel - posted on 05/12/2009

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as long as you can feed and clothe your child it doesnt matter how old you are as long as you are not lke 11-13 of course. much too young

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Ariana - posted on 01/25/2010

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I found out I was pregnancy 2 days before my 18th birthday. At the time I was working full time and supporting myself and looking for a place of my own but it still changed my life completely. Olivia is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn't give her up for the world. The pregnancy was challenging for me because her father completely abandoned me and the idea of us as a family (for the second time in his life, guess I should have known I wasn't special) but I found someone who cared for me and supported me throughout the pregnancy and who continues to support me today. We have a very happy family & I think Olivia is a very happy baby. She is always fed, changed, loved, and cared for to the absolute best of my abilities... I am frequently judged because I am young, have my lip and nose pierced, and dye my hair unnatural colors but in my opinion my physical appearance does not dictate who I am as a mother. I have the same capacity for love as any other person with a more conservative, classy style. It is easy when they are babies to be a good mom... They need 3 basic things: food, clean diapers, and love. I was concerned when I got pregnant that I was too selfish to be able to sacrifice my life to someone else entirely but that fear no longer haunts me. I coped surprisingly well with a lack of sleep and social life (which, quite frankly, I don't miss). I am however not looking forward to the challenges I will face when she reaches puberty... I know that is when it gets really hard. I hope that I have the strength and discipline to be a great mom because that's all I really want out of life.

I don't think a person's age matters, but their maturity and mental capacity. I know a lot of moms who leave their children with their parents on a regular basis, or who just don't spend time with their babies because they would rather be out drinking and having a good time. Not all people realize that having a child means sacrificing your previous lifestyle. I don't even keep the same company as I did prior to delivery. So again, it is not their age, but who they are as people.

Samantha - posted on 01/24/2010

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i just turned 19 .. i don think i was too young im 20 now and have a 3 month old :) and getting married in 2011 to the father... i think any age is too young if your alone.. but if you found the one then more power to you...i think 11-16 is a bit too young cuz after 16 you can live by yourself and dont depend on your parents but its everyones

own decision on what the want in life if you think you're ready at 16 then go for it .. i dont know i didnt have sex before 16 so i knew i wasnt getting pregnant and having babies then i was raised with strong morals

Elizabeth - posted on 01/24/2010

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I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant & 19 when I had my daughter. I don't think I was too young. I was married & had been living on my own for almost a year before I got pregnant. My husband is a much better husband and father than any of my friend's husbands. He helps with the baby, cleans, and works full time. I think that makes a huge difference, cause if it weren't for him, I would have a much harder time. Age doesn't matter. People mature at their own rate, so no one can really say this age is too young and this age isn't. It all depends on the person, and that's why I can't say how I would feel if my daughter got pregnant at 18.

Shana - posted on 01/24/2010

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WOW....THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION...I HAD MY FIRST CHILD ALMOST 11 YRS AGO AT 14 YEARS OLD...AND DO I FEEL I WAS TO YOUNG???YES YES YES...I WAS A 9TH GRADER,I WAS SUPPOSE TO HAVE READING UP ON COLLEGES BUT INSTEAD I WAS READING ABOUT CARING FOR PREMATURE BABIES...I REGRET NOTHING ABOUT MY HAVING MY CHILD BUT I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITED...STILL ABLE TO ACCOMPLISH SOME OF MY LIFE GOALS BUT JUST TOOK A LIL LONGER...NOW TO THE BIG QUESTION...I HAVE 3 GIRLS 11,9 & 4 I THINK I WOULD GO CRAZY BUT NOT SURE CAUSE I HAVENT HAD TO ADDRESS ANYTHING OF THE SORT..MY HUBBY IS SITTING HERE DEBATING WITH ME AS IM TYPING...WE ALSO HAVE A SON(10WKS OLD)AND HE SEEM TO THINK ITS OK FOR BOYS TO MAKE BABIES EARLY AND GIRLS SO WAIT...SMH(SO SEXEST)....BOYS AND GIRLS SHOULD HAVE THE SAME CONSEQUENCES

Bonnie - posted on 01/23/2010

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I was 17 years old when I had my first child, i am now 30, but i definately dont WANT my child to have a child as early as i did, things happen and we do what we have to, I do think I was too young to have a baby at that age i would have rathered that i was married, living on my own and holding down a really good paying job so that i could take care of my child the way it is supposed to be. I think I did okay with what i had, any one who is ready to be a mom is capable of it when they are ready no matter if they are 17 or 30, if my child did come home and tell me they were going to have a baby at 17 i would let them know all of thier options and let them make thier own decisions based on all the information and i would be there for them no matter what

Jessi - posted on 01/23/2010

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I found out i was pregnant when i was 18. And yes I do think that I was too young. But I don't take it back for anything. I love my little girl.

Casey - posted on 01/23/2010

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I was 18 and delivered at 19. I believe in a way that I was too young but I am a very mature and responsible person. I wouldn't want her to have a child so young because you have to grow up too fast. I would try to talk to her before she really make that decision.I'll make her baby sit a relative baby to see that it isn't easy waking up in the middle of night ,changing pampers,feeding,burping etc... If she did happen to get pregnant then I would support her because I didn't give her up so I wouldn't want her to do the same.

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I think you should try to wait as long as you can to have a child (at least till you are 18), but I think that if a younger person does get pregnant and she keeps the baby, or even gives it up for adoption is a wonderful thing. It's what a wonderful mother she is.

Madie - posted on 01/22/2010

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I was 14 when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter 15 when I had her. I sometimes wish I hadn't gotten pregnant so young but I love my daughter SOOOOO much and wouldn't change her for the world! I Married her father on my 16th birthday:) I'm now 19 and have 3 beautiful children:o) 4,2 and 4 months. I was definatly very young, but I was emotionally ready for a baby. I was raped when I was 10 and that made me mature a ton! When I was 14 alot of people thought I was 18. lol. :) I also had a lot of experience with babies and Children. My Mother had 11 children when I had my first daughter. I was her 3rd child so I had a lot of Brother's and Sisters I helped take care of:) I wouldn't change when I had my babies for anything. The only thing I wish I could change is that I wish I was married before I had my first! :o)

Krystal - posted on 01/22/2010

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hi i got pregnant at 18 and gave birth 2 weeks before my 19th birthday and my son is now 8 months old, to be honest i kno im young but i have never wanted to go out and party or stay out late with friend so when i got pregnant i was really excited, iv wanted a baby since i was 11 but waited till i found some one that i had fell in love with, i live with my fiance ( babys daddy) and i have been with him for 4 years and 8 months and we are still deeply in love and hope to get married in the next year or 2. i lost my vaginity at 15 with my fiance and have never regreted it, we used protection and i was on the pill. and i am currently on the pill again and have been since my son was 2 weeks old. yea it is hard sometimes but i wouldnt change it for the world. i just wanna say that there are some women and girls out there that shouldnt have children but not all of us are irresponsible. i was half way through college when i was pregnant but i worked really hard to finish my course as quick as i could and i did 2 months before giving birth and i also passed and i was also workin and i left work 1 month before giving birth. and as soon as my son is old enough to go to nursery i will go back to work. i do think 11, 12, 13, 14 is a bit to young because they are still children themselfs. but if it did happen and they had a good supportive family then they would probs be able to cope. if my son dicided or had accidently got him self in that situation then i would be a little upset but i wouldnt be angry or dissapointed cos hes my son and i love him and if thats the way he wanted his life to be then thats fine because even tho they are our children and we love them and want wats best for them we cant force them to live a life they dont want live, i would just make sure i was there for him and be supportive just like my mums was to me. :)

Hayley - posted on 01/22/2010

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17 i think i wouldnt like her having a baby any earlyer than 16 but i would rather her be 18 or older

Baylea - posted on 01/22/2010

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i was 17 when i found out and id prolly help my daughter if she got pregnant butt when the day comes im gonna talk to her abou that stfff

Jade - posted on 01/22/2010

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but i look around and see all these younger teens getting pregnant either by accident, or on purpose and it makes me sick, because most wont finish their education, some may lose their children, or end up depripriving and neglecting the child and themselves. as i see it, if you have your diploma and it happens, you kow it isnt as bad, cause your at leasat able to do something with your life before its too late, but at the age of 11, 12, 13, and even 16, its not a good thing or something to be proud of personally.





i was 15 when i found out i was pregnant and 15 at delivery he wasnt planned at all and now 17 with a 17month old son and i am dam proud i had him when i did because he makes me the person i am today i only completed grade 9 and i have a a awesome job at home so i can be with my son that pays brilliantly. we have the house phone,internet our own modern home with all brand new furniture and cupboards are chock filled with food all the time, we buy our son everything and anything he asks for or wants and needs.i dont miss my "teen years" at all the were crap and overated i have more fun and enjoyment now being a parent then i ever got being a teenager.he is and always will be the best thing that ever happened to me and am so grateful i got my litlle angel.im very proud to be such a young mum doing so great and so are many others

Heidi - posted on 01/16/2010

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i was 17 when i found out i was pregnant 4 months later i became a single mum i struggled in and out of employment to provide for my daughter (shes now approaching 10!!!) should she come up to me in the near future and put me through what i put my mother through (this is the 1 time i will admit it) I would do exactly the SAME as my mother did (only time!) and support her through every step and decision that she makes :)

Kirsty - posted on 01/16/2010

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hi...i was 17 when i fell pregnant n was 18 when i had my beautiful boy..

to start with i was in shock as it wansnt planned... but i new i was ready... my partner n i have been together for nearly 4 yrs... we are paying off a mortgage on a beautiful home n r both in stable jobs with great family... we r planning to get married when we have the time and little extra money...however i have got bad looks and remarks from being a young mum n i think it is disgraceful how people who judge u before they no u.. i believe i am a great mum... my little bundle of joy is perfect... i do not regret him for a sec...

age 16 and under isnt even legal to have intercourse... so they shouldnt be having babies however this is up to the individual... i have missed out on a lot being a young mum n its hard paying off a house n having a baby when all ur friends are at uni n parting and i do get down/depressed but all i have to do is take one look at my baby n no there is nowhere id rather b...

Bianca - posted on 01/16/2010

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I was sixteen when I found out I was pregnant... to me thats pretty young but there have been much younger teen mothers than I. I would want my daughters to have a baby whenever they are done with school and prepared. I don't think age neccessarily matters rather than preperation and the ability to provide for your children. I was lucky to have a supportive spouse and we both had jobs. If by some chance something happens and my daughter were to get pregnant as a teen ill help her just like my mother helped me.

Rachel - posted on 01/15/2010

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i was spent most of the 17th year of my life pregnant with my son. it has matured me a great deal.. i was one of those girls who thought oh a baby no big deal. oh boy was i wrong..but i wouldnt change a thing that has happened. me and his dad are still together and happy. danny is a happy healthy BIG 4 month old. and yes i was young but it was the best thing to happen to me, Danny saved me life.

Kimberley - posted on 01/15/2010

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i was raped n held in a house till i was 7 months pg by then i could not get rid of it...... my 2nd 2 were pland i got together with my partner soon after he was born we have been together sence we wanted kids so we my next 2 now we r as happy as ever n getting married in a fue short months.......

i know i was to young but with the help of my partner i knew i could pull tho n i have

Lindsay - posted on 01/15/2010

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why? (not in a judging way. I seriously want to know why... and how you did it?)

Lindsay - posted on 01/15/2010

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Im 19 and due in 4weeks. I already have a stepson who is two and my partner and I have been together since before he was born.

I think abortions should be for people under 17 because most dont have the maturity and see babies of somewhat of a toy.

Some girls are emotionaly ready and stable enough to have a child before then, but should really get their lives up and running before hand. I have been working in childcare for almost 3years now and Im still scared.

I had a friend who had her first baby just after her 15th birthday, a few months later she was taken off her because she couldnt handle it and just wanted her social life.

I personally think everyone under the age of 22 should go through some sort of counceling the moment they find out about their pregnancy to see if they really are emotionaly, physically and mentaly ready to be a mother.

Kimberley - posted on 01/15/2010

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i was 13 when i first found out i was pg had my first at 14.... 2nd at 16.... 3rd at 18

Keisha - posted on 01/14/2010

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I was just turning 17 when I found out I was pregnant. The pregnancy was completly unplanned, I had been taking the pill for months!! Luckily I have an amazing boyfriend whos supported me the whole way. I think that for alot of people at the age I was would have been still too young to be able to handle the responsibilities of raising a baby, I struggle sometimes too. Being a Mom is HARD but I wouldnt trade it for anything.

Danielle - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 19 when i first fell pregnant and miscarried and i knew in my heart i was not ready and it was not right timing then a year later i fell pregnant with a ectopic and had to have surgery and obviously couldnt have the baby i was so heart broken and felt so lost felt like i lost something that i really wanted then 2 months later i fell pregnant with my daughter jasman and couldnt picture my life without her but at the same time sometimes i feel like im not a good enough mum for small mistakes i make i know im not ready to have a second child for a while but i always make sure that my daughter is well fed has nice clothes her teeth brushed and hair and that i take her out of the house for the day atleast twice a week for her to have fun and play with other kids i read to her every day and teach her rhymes and everything i can teach her to all the young mums out there good on u it is hard work and very demanding at times but i know before 21 i dont think i would have coped having a baby so well done!

Brittney - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 19 when i got pregnant and i didnt think i was too young (probably bcuz im more mature than most ppl i know) but i knew many ppl were gonna think i was WAY too young to be having a kid. honestly i think jr high is too young, and if my child ever did get anyone pregnant that young i wouldn't want it to happen but i would love him and support him through it. really thats all u can do whats happens, happens.

Hannah - posted on 01/14/2010

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I was 17...yes I was too young and no I would not want my child to have a child that young only bc...it was hard im 22 now and a nurse making good money but there were days I couldnt eat so that I could feed her...days I barley made rent and power but I wouldnt trade it for the world because I have a beautiful 5 year old that makes my day everyday!

Racheal - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant i was 19 when i had my daughter. honestly i think i was to young. i know should have waited but i love evry minute of it. i think if your under the age of 17 you shouldnt have a baby. even at that your still to young but it could be worse. i would never want my daughter to have baby any earlier then 17 but still at that age i would talk to her and try to make understand how much work a baby is. theres still alot of like to live. i grew up early in life ill be 20 next month and i feel like im 30 already. i have a crap load of grey hairs my body hurts all the time. immature people bother me. i stay away from people who dont have there priorities straight. some people need to grow up mentally before they should have a baby. i know someone who had a baby at the age of 21 and doesnt take care of it her mother takes care it and her mother doesnt even have her shit straight. the girl doesnt see her kid because to busy sleeping with every guy she sees for money so she can go buy crack. i dont believe in abortion but that girl really should have had one.bit bothers me when things like that happen. but anyway i think young people need to get there facts straight there act togehter and think about about what they are doing and the conciequences and if they are really ready. more people need to stop having accidents and start planning things out more

Ann - posted on 01/14/2010

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Hi Ladies, I was a very young mother, got pregnant at 14 and had my beautiful daughter Lisa at 15, and it was a struggle in the begining, but with help from the right people, I managed to raise her to be who she is today, she is now 25yrs old and got 2babies of her own, whom are the apple of grandmas eye. So being a young mom at any age can go either way, for the good or for the worse, ya just got to want to take care of this little bundle of joy that God has put before ya, and its true its not all about you anymore, cause now you have some one to depend upon you, to take care of, I tell ya it was not easy back in the 80's, now days they have all kinds of programs out there for young teen moms, I didn't really have any of this stuff, until I was well into my twenty's and put myself back into school, while raising my children. yup I had 3 beautiful children, had them all by the time I had turned 21, And today I wouldnt change it for anything. Right now just putting my 17yr old, last one through highschool, times are tough but we manage to get through it, God Puts stuff in front of us for a reason, we just have to let go let god, and continue to grow inwar and upward. Make the best of what is in front of us, in the here and now, not what happened yesterday, because its gone, tomor ain't here yet, so we only got today, so live in the here and now, this very moment. God Bless, I got so much to share, if ya wanna hear more, leave me a message ok, have an awesome day Ladies.

Alana - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 17, ad yes i think i was too young but i was quite mature anyway and grew up fast



i would not like my child to come home pregnant or having got someone pregnant untill atleast 21

Jessica - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 18 years old when i found out i was pregnant. i was told by doctors that i would never be able to conceive but here i am my daughter is now almost 2 months old and a very happy and content baby. i don't think i was to young to have a baby because ever since i was 6, i had to raise my little sister and my older brother (he's deaf and adhd) my father and grandparents worked full time so when i was out of school for the day i would do motherly duties and help out in the house hold. i personally do not want my daughter to have a child before she finishes college because I see now how hard it is to do. i would be upset but i would help her with her child just like my future in-laws are doing now.

Miranda - posted on 01/14/2010

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i was 16 when i found out i was pregnant. and no to be honest it isnt too young to havea baby. and i think that being 11 through 14 would be too young because 99% of them havent even found out who they are. and if my daughter were in this situation when she is older i would support her i cant say anything because i was a teen mother aswell

Jessica - posted on 01/14/2010

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i hate reading and hearing about ppl saying who is and who isnt "to young" to have a baby.i got pregnant when i was 14! yes ppl i said FOURTEEN!!! i didnt expect motherhood to come this easy cause i knew it would be hard.i wasnt looking for special treatment.i knew i had seriously f***ed up and soon after we found out i didnt care BECAUSE...i never know how much your children mean to you until you lose them,and i really mean this,im not making it up it seriously happened.i dont know how but it was a miracle....when i was 3 and 1/2 months pregnant my fiancee and i(is now and was at that time my fiancee)went to spend the weekend at my dads house 45 miles away.we were all alone and then suddenly i had to go to the bathroom and i started bleeding.i dropped to the floor instantly.i called my fiancee in from the next room and he saw then i went into hostile mode.literally.despite my worry and panic i kicked him out of the bathroom and locked my self in.i stayed in there weighing my options.i know it sounds crazy but i was actually debating wether or not to go to the hospital.on one hand i wanted my baby to live but on the other i knew if i went they would tell me he didnt make it and i would be crushed forever.i wasnt really a "religious" person but i thought one day my baby might be.i didnt know if it would really help but i prayed anyway.i thought dont do it for me do it for my child.finally after about 5 mins.the longest 5 minutes in my life i called my mom and told her to meet us at the hospital.it took all my will power to admit that i thought i had a miscarrige.to this day i hate that word.ill save u alot of time and tell that by SOME miracle my son lived.i dont know how.but if i was luck enough to have that happen then i was meant to raise my son and be a mom.since that day i have never cherished motherhood more.i dont care if u criticize me,i still think i did an amazing thing by giving birth to my son.

Abba - posted on 01/14/2010

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I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant. Gave birth a week after my 19th birthday. And got married at 7 month pregnant. I don't think I was too young.

If my child wanted to have a baby at the age of 18, then fair enough. But any younger than that I think is a bad idea. I think some young mothers can be slightly immature if they are to young. Because the way I look at it.. how can a child look after a child?

But at the same time if it happens it happens. I don't agree with abortions. But at the same time, I'm goign to make sure my child when she's older knows she can talk to me about sex. And I will give her all the support she needs, especially contraception. Because if you say, No I don't want you having sex, they will go and do it anyway and could end themselves in trouble. So if everything is approached the right way, and you're supportive towards your child about sex, even as young as 12, there should be no need for them to come home and say, I'm pregnant. xx

Geneva - posted on 01/14/2010

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I found out when i was 19, and i will also be giving birth when i'm 19- but turning 20 in that same month. I think i could have waited, but the best decsions are made without thinking & she is by far the greatest thing to happen to me- she has motivated me so much & she has yet to arrive. I wouldn't want my child to have a baby at age 11-16, 17 isn't SO bad i suppose :/ but i would help out with the baby as much as i can- i wouldn't want her to get an abortion. but it would def be that time for my child to turn his/her life around.

Katie - posted on 01/13/2010

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I was 18 when I got pregnant and I will be 19 when the baby comes, I don't think I'm to young to have a baby but I don't think age is the only factor in how good of a parent you can be. I would hope that my child will have a job and means to support a child and give their child a good life before they got pregnant.

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2010

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i was 18 when me and my fiance found out, we'd been engaged for about 5 months before we found out, and i delivered 3 months before my 19th. am i the best mom, prolly notis my daughter happy, she sure seems like it. i dont think i was too young cause by the time she came i'd been working part time for 5 years, been with my fiance for over a year when we found out. but i look around and see all these younger teens getting pregnant either by accident, or on purpose and it makes me sick, because most wont finish their education, some may lose their children, or end up depripriving and neglecting the child and themselves. as i see it, if you have your diploma and it happens, you kow it isnt as bad, cause your at leasat able to do something with your life before its too late, but at the age of 11, 12, 13, and even 16, its not a good thing or something to be proud of personally.

Golda - posted on 01/13/2010

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hey, i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant 19 when he was delivered, and im now 20 and pregnant again and i dont think i was to young i mean aving my baby made me really grow up and realise that a few things had to change but i think that happens no matter what age you are.. how ever i think that under 16 is wrong because its a baby having a baby.... but then again i have met some under 16's that are more mature than some over 18's i've met i think it depends on your own personal maturity.... but once again i dont think any one is ever ready to have a baby

Allison - posted on 01/13/2010

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i found out i was pregnant when i was 17 and although i was a senior in high school it has changed alot of things for me but i still feel i'm a very good mother...i wouldn't want my daughter emma to get pregnant at my age because i know how hard it was and 11-15 she better not even think about having sex

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I think anytime after 16-17 is ok... any younger and and i would have shit myself really. I admire people who can do it tho and i would have also.. but i was still a little girl who couldnt understand what a life changing experience it is and i think some girls would be too, at a younger age.

but for me personally, i feel better being 20 and having my first baby..

some girls are so ready! but for me im happy with my situation. people shouldnt judge! im proud of being a young mum and no matter what your age, you should be too!!

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Tina - posted on 01/12/2010

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I was 13 when I had my first daughter, 16 when I had my second, and I am 20 now that I had my son. I wouldn't change what I did. From the day I had my first daughter I have always been the only one to take care of them, I didn't depend on anyone to help me. I am now in my 3rd semester of college, and doing great things with my life! I will do whatever it takes to prove to the WORLD that just cause you have a baby young, you will be nothing! I will prove to them that I will be succesful! &I hope every teen mother does that same thing!

Although I got pregnant young I hope my kids never do it! I talk to my 7 year old all the time about not liking boys and how important school is, and how great it is to be as smart as she is! I wouldn't be able to get mad at her if she did cause I did it, but all I could do is try and lead her to the right direction.

Sha - posted on 01/11/2010

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I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant and I will be 18 when I deliver. I believe that I've matured since finding out. I used to do a lot of stupid things and hang out with stupid people, but that's completely changed. I still think that I am too young and I know people look down on me for being so young, but I really don't care. I am going to give my child the best life possible and just prove everyone wrong. It may take awhile to get where I want to be, but I'm willing to work hard to get there.

And if my daughter were to get pregnant at a young age, I would be upset because I would want her to have a better life than me, but I couldn't really be mad at her because I got pregnant at a young age, also.

Tessa - posted on 01/11/2010

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the first time i found out that i was pregnant i was 14. i ended up haveing to have a emergancy d&c. the dr told me it was an inviable pregnancy. then a couple months later i found out that i was pregnant again. and i had my son at 15. then i found out that i was pregnant again when i was 16 and had her at 17. and got married at 16. so sometimes i think that you can do but some cant.

Chelsea - posted on 01/11/2010

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I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant and had my son Damion when I was 16. I dont think that being a young mom is always a bad thing . I mean sure some teens cant handle it . But that doesnt mean it should set a stereotype for all teen moms . My son is going to be 7 months next week , He is healthy and strong and more advanced than he should be at his age . I am going to be 17 next month . And my boyfriend and I are now talking about another child . Age is just a number . What really matters is how responsible that teen actually is .

Rebecca - posted on 01/10/2010

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I was 17 when I had found out I was pregnant. I honestly don't think I was too too young. I was young but after I went to a school full of girls who had kids, i met girls who were in 6th grade and pregnant! I was still only kissing on the cheek on that time, a peck on the lips of you were lucky!
If my son were to become a parent younger then I did, I don't know what I would do. Any younger than 16 and I may take charge of raising that child. I don't think I could ever give up my own blood. I couldn't even think about that with my son.

Shaina - posted on 01/10/2010

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i was 16 the first time i found out i was pregnant, i got kicked out of my house, and ended up having a miscarriage. the second time i got pregnant i was 17 and it was even scarier because i was living with my bf and we weren't doing to well financially. things have gotten somewhat better but its still hard.

Megan - posted on 01/10/2010

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I dont think your truly ready to have a child when your 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17 because your still living at home with your parents. Your Parents are the one basically supporting you. Its not fair on them to have to do that. If you have your own place, your paying your own bills, food in the fridge and your emotionally ready. Having a child should never be taken lightly.
I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant and 18 when I had my son. I did stay with my parents for a bit while my fiance and I saved some money and looked for a house. We do now have our own place. But I didnt think it was right for my parents to basically support us because we chose to have a baby (my son wasnt planned) we did pay part of the bills and did our own food shopping but it still didnt feel right for me.

Noreen - posted on 01/10/2010

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opps...never put what I thought was too young. Um, I don't want to sound mean, but I think people having sex before 18 are too young. Yes, I was also too young by having sex at 16, with my now husband. I just think children shouldn't have sex. JMHO. :o)

Noreen - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had just turned 18 when I found out I was pregnant. Yes I do think I was a young mother but I can't say if I was too young. I took care of my responsiblites very well and now have a thriving smart beautiful 5yr old son along with a 3.5yr old son and a 4 month daughter.

I would not want my babies having babies young. I want them to wait to have sex and to be parents until they are much older and have found the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives! If they where to have a baby that young, I would be supportive and here for them and help them in anyway I can!

Wahss - posted on 01/10/2010

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16 & pregnant, delivered at 17 with my son...
18 when I got pregnant & delivered my daughter...

I don't think it's a matter of age being too young to have a child. It's more a matter of maturity. Anyone can do it if they put their minds to it and have supporters. No matter what age my children have their own kids I wouldn't be upset. I'd probably be shocked if they were young, but any new baby is a surprise right!? I'd be happy and supportive because babies are simply an innocent blessing.

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010

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I was 15 when i got pregnant and 15 when i had my son.. I could not imagine my life without him.. he is amazing.. but no one should be having kids at 15 or 16..

Jodie - posted on 01/10/2010

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i was 16 when i found out i was pregnant 17 when i had my baby, i dont think i was too young and i think if i was still at school when i had my baby then yes i wouldnt be happy bowt it x

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