I don't know what I'm doing pregnant again so soon?

Kaylihia - posted on 04/11/2012 ( 69 moms have responded )

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Well, I had an abortion in February. I was 17 weeks and 6 days... I'm 14 years old. I look younger than I am. My dr. said it was unsafe to get pregnant at my size and age. I was 69 lbs at the start of my first pregnancy now I'm 76 lbs. I'm like 4 weeks pregnant. I just started puberty a year ago. I got my period last september. I am I guess less developed than the average girl my age. I wanted my last pregnancy but things happened where I couldn;t have it. This time it's only been 2 months I am really depressed to have another abortion. I feel too broken though to have a child... I left home... I live with these guys now I guess. I have had a lot of bad things happen since even worst than at home. My dad lost his job and they live with my aunt whoI had an argument with who asked me to leave. So I have been a lot of places finally settled with this group of guys. They wouldn't let me stay pregnant I know that. I know that I shouldn't want a baby at this time. I have a cutting issue no money I do drugs and I have no safe place or family to go to. I don't know who the dad is But I love the baby. I'm so desperate I've considered adoption but I think I don't know my situation would leave me more vulnerable plus I don't know if I can ctt. I'm kind of scared being in this state. I don't know what to do really... I gained weight since last month maybe my body will prepare properly? I just really don't have anything to make it work I'm cry every time I think of the pregnancy and knowing I'm going to probably end this too.

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Merry - posted on 04/15/2012

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Go into any church you can find. It doesn't matter if you don't believe in God or anything but they will give you help! Numbers to call, a place to find help, free things, free food! You need to be in foster care if you can't live with your family. Foster care isnt all horrible they can actually help you!

As for your baby, talk to a dr, get their advise. If you can carry it to term, then give it for adoptin. If you can't carry it then you will be asvised to do what's necessary.



But really, ANY church! They will help you!

Kait - posted on 04/13/2012

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You need to consider abortion , and I HATE abortion but I'm sorry, 14? QUIT having sex! Inwas 17 and pregnant with twins. Wouldn't change it for the world now except how old I was... And considering you have all those issues at only going to hurt the baby health wise and mentally. Give it up and check yourself into therapy/rehab! ... Jeepers!

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As long as u do what's right for that baby... Personally If ur doing drugs u shouldn't bring a child into this world. At least someone else can raise and give the love that baby needs if u give it up for adoption. But also don't think u can be running around getting pregnant n just giving it up for adoption. Ur a young immature girl still that has no sense of the real life and real responsibility yet. Ur not going to get anywhere in life except the streets and prego every other month if u don't go back to school and get ur life on track.

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U need help! Ur 14 and this is ur second time pregnant! I was 17 when I had my son and I wouldn't trade it for the world but I'm with the father and he's supported me the whole time. U can't provide for this child. And u can't be bringing inncent kids into this world when u can't take on the responsibility, especially If ur doing drugs! Come on! . Seriously 14 is too young when u don't have ur parents and have nothing to fall back on and support u. Get ur life straightened out this isn't the way a fourteen should be living her life.

User - posted on 05/19/2012

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oh dear. Please stop killing your babies. YOU are the little girl who got pregnant and created these little ones. This has nothing to do with your baby. Do you realize that?
Adoption is the best option for you. !!
Let your mistakes turn into blessings.

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Misty - posted on 05/29/2012

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Okay girls listen up,for christ sake. Kaylihia is only 14 and we don't know the whole situation. Shes she maybe only 14 and pregnant for the second time but it does not mean she has been sleeping around!!! If she is thats her bussiness,not ours this kid needs help not other mothers having a go at her.
I was 18 when i first fell pregnant,I was very imature. Yeah I was living on my own at that time,I wasn't taking drugs but I was drinking and cutting alot. so I can sympathise wth her on that part. although I was in a relationship and I did want the baby. I kept drinking and was thinking about myself not my baby,Unfortunatlly I had a misscarrage and that was my wake up call. A very big and scary wake up call! with the help of CPS (cos I grew up in fostercare) and the help of my partner I stopped drinking and cutting,now we have 2 beautiful kids and a 3rd on the way.
Kaylihia if I as you I would get in touch with cps and get some help from them,its amazing what they can do. I personally think adopition would be best for you and your baby. but please stop cutting and eat! Ive had bulimia for years,but you gotta eat for your baby. I learnd that the hard way,don't make the same mistakes that I did!!!

Tina - posted on 05/26/2012

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@Debbie that's excellent advice. It's nice to know there are compassionate, caring people

Debbie - posted on 05/25/2012

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Most 14 year olds already having sex have been diddled by Daddy, Uncle or Step Daddy. Give this girl a freaking break.

She is cutting and drugging to ESCAPE something terrible that happened to her.

Please Kaylihia Planned Parenthood will give you FREE Birth Control pills. Planned parenthood will also know how to get you some safe place to live, and a way to go back to school. You dropped out way way to early.

Where to find help depends on where you live. What state do you live in? I can look up 800 # for you to call.
One member said to go to ANY church, this advice is true.
One member suggested foster care, GREAT advice.

Adoption? Call the agency ASAP, they might have some requirements.

Good luck Honey. Everyone have challenges in life. I pray you get a dry safe place to reside where you know people love you and wish you well without taking advantage of you.

Keep us updated on how it is going.
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User - posted on 05/19/2012

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@shelby. In some ways you are completely right. No, a 14 year old does not need to have sex, or a baby. But, then that also means that a 16 year old does not need to have sex or have a baby. But guess what? THEY DO.
Sad to say, today's 14 yr olds are not 14 anymore. They do not still play with dolls, or think about barbies. Trust me. And anyways to me this sounds like she's had some sexual trauma. Be it now, or earlier in her life. Like when she was much younger. I went through this and I was sexually active very early.

Jess - posted on 05/19/2012

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tbh i dont think getting pregnant at 14 is right but i cant talk i fell pregnant at 15 only a year older, but i knew i was ready to start a family with the boy im with, all i advice you to do sweetheart is have a long think about what you want to do, try looking for some opptions on the net and defo move out of the place your in and go into some sort of caring home, im sure it would be alot easier there than the place your in now, and if you cant go to school for some reason do some studying at home and as for the drugs and alcohol im sure the doctors or some sort of family member could help you with that cause rehab is no place for a 14 year old girl and im sure your not that badly addicted to need to go there, just have a long think about yourr life choices and choose what you think is right, if you need someone chat too just send me a message and im sure i can try and give you the best advice i can :) Goooooodluck sweetheart

Michelle - posted on 05/18/2012

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How about you all stop arguing with this woman, and start going back to giving advice. Her opinion isnt going to change and the girl that is pregnant will need to learn to deal with that sort of response, its part of being a young mum because not everyone is going to try to help some are just going to slam her, theres no point arguing with her, if you have advice for it than post it otherwise leave it alone. Just stop arguing with the woman, its obvious she will not change her opinion and she has strong beliefs in it. Being a 14 year old mum will be harder than being a 17 or 18 (thats how old I was) year old mum because you have A LOT more criticism, So let the girl hear it and deal with it herself, best bet is to ignore it as its more than likely coming from people that are set in their ways.

Eroleen - posted on 05/17/2012

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You can think you were an a adult because u did ur own taxes or whatever but you were still a teenager. once i had my son i had my own too, i couldnt drive as yet but i worked full time and went to school full time doing it by myself. And maybe ur not smart even but promiscuous mean having sexual relations with a Number of partners on a casual basis, My babtfather is my time and i got pregnant my first time so maybe your the one that needs to go back to school and stop picking on helpness 14 year old. Get yourself together hun :)

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Never said I was better then anyone. And ya i was 17 when i had my son but i was already legally a adult smart one! I filed my own taxes terefore im adult. Just said I wasn't like u being promiscous and knew how to keep my legs closed at 14.

Eroleen - posted on 05/17/2012

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At the end of the day u were a teenage mom....no matter how different u were, people still look at u like a baby having a baby. and altho u had someone there not everyone is that lucky. Maybe u were lucky enough to have parents or whoever to teach u but u cant go around sitting on ur high horse thinking ur better cuz honey your not. No body as the right to think that they are better than anyone because u have a future and u dont know whats gonna happen so good luck to u and ur negative attitude.

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I wasn't having sex at 14 smart one. I was also mature enuf to have sex. Also when I it pregnant I had already moved out of home and was with the father now my fiancé when I got pregnant. So ya I was allowed to be having sex. I wasnt rounding around with absolutely no sense in my head. When's there 14 or younger girls getting pregnant ya they should have their tubes tied cuz they obvisiously have some major probs to deal with if their having sex. Really a 14 can't find anything better to do then have sex! Get real!

Eroleen - posted on 05/17/2012

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She young and all of the negative ppl commenting should remember that they have kids too and u dont know how ur kids is gonna turn out because anything could happen. She shouldnt be having sex but should u have been having sex either...first of all this is a teen mom site there forth WE ARE ALL OR HAVE BEEN TEENAGE MOMS so u werent right either. Dont come down on her because she was a little younger than u because ur not better than anyone. Think like a parent and stop judging a Child.

Tina - posted on 05/17/2012

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No ones bloody praising her seriously or saying it wasn't wrong just trying to give advice on how to better herself. I never said it wasn't wrong. I do think it's wrong no 14 year old should be having sex or getting pregnant but there's no harm in giving advice if she really wants to have the baby on how to cope and where to get help for her problems. I don't doubt that she probably does know who the father is and just doesn't want him to get into trouble. The father should be bloody locked up and she should be in foster care if she hasn't got anywhere to go not living with a group of guys.



It's not my bloody fault she's knocked up. I wasn't bloody running around having sex getting pregnant at this age. All of my sisters in fact look up to me one 16 still in school getting good grades also has a trainee ship has no intention of having kids anytime soon. But I'm not nieve and think they're not going to have sex. Clearly saying don't have sex isn't getting through is it.



I've never praised her and said it's ok only encouraged her to seek help and get off the drugs. Calling her a slut and saying girls this age need to have there tubes removed and what not isn't helping. She's still going to go out and do it and worse probably catch something doing it. but atleast If she gets involved with the right people she might wisen up if she's got the right people and support around her. Nothings guranteed but it's got to be better than doing nothing and just critisizing her. Instead of critisizing everything she's done. It's better to encourage her to make things right. To get off the drugs and seek help for her problems which is exactly what I've been trying to do. She may or may not change but atleast I've tried.

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This is her second time pregnant there NO bloody way this was rape I don't give a damn what anyone says. Ppl like u that praise her and tell her she didn't do nothing wrong is the exact reason why there's twisted lil 14 y/o getting knocked up. Girls like this such be Locked in a mental institution! My god anyone who thinks popping out a kid when u can't actually provide for it at 14 seriously needs help. And ya sure there's many of resources to help ppl but doesn't mean that 14 y/o need to be spreading their legs just cuz there's resources to help them raise this spon child.

Tina - posted on 05/16/2012

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When you've got nowhere to go and don't know where to turn to things like this happen. She's 14 she probably doesn't even know why she does the things she does. You can't exactly make a good choices when you're on drugs and dealing with being kicked out of home. But she's finally come to her senses and seeking help and giving this baby up for adoption. This girl wasn't aware of what was involved with abortion and now she does she intends to give this baby a chance at life and she's making positive changes in her life. I don't agree with what's happened in her life but now she's trying to take responsibility get off the drugs.



Regardless whether or not she gave consent to these guys she's 14 it's still illegal. Having sex with someone under the influence of drugs who can't even make a logical choice is regarded as rape and especially at 14 she can't legally consent to having sex so even if it were a case as you put it "been all over those guys" it's still classed as rape. Everyone has failed this girl here including her doctor this stuff should have been reported the first time she got pregnant. She should have atleast been reffered to someone to seek better living conditions and support, even foster care.



The fact is no one knows the full situation either it's easy to say you should have done this and that. But it doesn't change anything what's done is done. You can only give advice on what she can do. Where to get support and how to turn her life around.

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Emma Don't twist my words! Nvr once did I say cuz she did drugs she deserved to be "raped"...... She doesn't even know who the father is, this is her second time pregnant so therefore if she was being "raped" why didn't she get help The FIRST time? For all anyone knows she could have been all over those guys and when they made a move he cried rape. 14 yr old girls are never suppose to hang out with older guys know matter how much they take "care" of u.

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It is never the victim's fault. You have never been in such a situation, but most likely those guys were the ONLY people willing to take her in or help at all. Does living with someone make you an available sex partner? Hell no! Damn, by that logic it was totally dandy when I got molested as a kid. Maybe I shouldn't have fought- after all, I lived with him. Why would doing drugs make someone deserve rape? Have you experienced it? Would you REALLY say someone deserves that?

She's seeking help. She's trying to better herself. It's a hard thing to do when people kick you down every time you stand up; I would know.

Eroleen - posted on 05/15/2012

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It easier said than done. Maybe not everyone is like u but people make more than one mistakes at a time and without guidance and love its easier to follow up on mistakes. She does have to go back to school and she does have to get on her feet....... there is help out there for her and she shouldnt feel alone because im pretty sure that there is someone out there in a worst situation than she is in and she's not alone. she just as to want better for herself and no that having sex isnt the right thing to do at that young age but she as to want better. she doesnt need anyone down grading her and making her feel worst about it cuz im pretty sure she knows thats why she's seeking help.

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It was a mistake the first time she got pregnant. This Second time was just complete ignorance and rebellion! Ya everyone makes mistakes, but u learn from them not turn around and get knocked up again!

Eroleen - posted on 05/15/2012

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It was my first time having sex @ 14 and mistakes happen yes but u cant judge someone by the things that they go thru...who's to know... she could stop doing drug and get help and be one of the most respected women around. Everybody as a past and everybody has a future but you cant down people for crying out for help....She's crying out for help. Nobody is perfect and some people have it worst than other but we are all human and we are all mother and im pretty sure u wouldnt want ur daughter or son to go thru anything like she's going thru without. If you dont have anything postive to say why say it at all, i believe in tough love but sometime people need a lil support and encouragement. She made a mistake and im sure she's not the only one because its life EVERYBODY MAKES MISTAKE but she can move on from this if she gets the right support.

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Getting pregnant at 14 is promiscuous! This would be a hole different story if this was her first time being pregnant! But its not! After her first pregnancy she goes and gets knocked up again within a couple months! That is not right!!! I don't care if u took care of ur kid when u got knocked up at 14...... 14 yr olds are NOT suppose to be popping out kids! Just remember a 14 yr old can't go to school, and have a job and live in Their own and pay bills buy food or even drive a flipping car! Therefore a 14 yr old should NOT be havin kids! Enough said!

Eroleen - posted on 05/15/2012

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At shelby, I got pregnant at 14 and i take damn good care of my son by myself, altho ive never done drug or was promiscuous, half the time i was by myself. I found resources and finish high school because i wanted better for my child but anybody can change their life around and i dont agree with parents giving up on their children when they rebell because thats a cry for help and no matter what age u are sometimes u need help. I wish kaylihia the best and hope she finds the help that she needs

Tina - posted on 05/14/2012

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What part of she's seeked help don't you get. She's in rehabilation gone to a support group for mothers. How the hell can she go home when there's no home to go to. Her dad's a drop beat with no job. No one's sugar cotting it and saying it's ok for a 14 year old to get pregnant. When someone clearly has some serious issues comments like yours are only going to do more harm then good. You're basically telling her everything is her fault and she'll never amount to anything. Anybody can turn their life around if they really want to.

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A 14 yrold girl hanging out with way older guys and doing drugs, damn rights I can blame her! For all u know she could have been all over those guys and when they made a move she cried raped. Ppl who don't think a drug addict drop out 14 yr old girl getting pregnant is not a bad thing need give ur heads a shake! This girl can't even provide for herself she would NEVER survive alone is this world so what right does she have getting pregnant every other month?! This isn't the first time she's been prego! Obvisiously she asking for this herself! The first time she got knocked up and Had a abortion she shouldve dummied up went home got back into school and go to rehab! Instead she goes and gets pregnant again! Really!

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Shelby... Do not EVER blame a victim of rape. It does not matter how old they are, what they were wearing, if they do drugs or were drinking, etc. It is NEVER the victim's fault, and it's sickening you'd say such a thing.

Tina - posted on 05/13/2012

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And maybe if she wasn't kicked out of home she would never have been in the position she is in. You don't just kick your kids out because they get difficult. No she shouldn't be having sex at 14 she should be at home in a safe environment. You don't get to pick and choose when you're a parent. Clearly this girl has no one and no support she's depressed and confided in the wrong people. Clearly she's desperate when she's turned to other mums on here looking for advice and somewhere to turn to get her life together. Critisizing isn't helping it's only going to make matters worse. You don't even know this girl or what's happened in her life and you say so called rape and critisize without any advice on how to get her life together. It's because of people like you that victims don't speak up.

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This is all her self doing and no one else! She put herself in this position. Maybe if she hung out with kids her own age she wouldn't have been so called "raped" and why in the hell is she having sex at 14 let alone gettin pregnant when the dr told her its not safe! Obvisiously she doesn't care when she's not in school and doing drugs. And I feel for her parents! What parent wants there fourteen yr old drop out drug addict kid gettin pregnant every other month!

Tina - posted on 05/13/2012

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@Shelby what you're not aware of is that the reason this girl has gone of the rails so much is because she was first of all raped and had an abortion. The last baby she wanted but was advised by the doctor at 17 weeks to have an abortion. She has no idea what was actually involed and feels terrible about it. As I've also stated several times this girl has seeked help with both her drug problem and for her pregnancy and is looking into adoption. She didn't know what support was out there and how to get her life on track. Clearly her parents have not been interested in helping her and if she had any decent parents they would never have kicked her out but would have done everything to guide her. And it's important that people give her advice on where to get support and how to get her life together critisizing her isn't helping.

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@ all of you that are criticising this poor girl i think you need to back off!! I was 14 when i got pregnant with my 1st i had her just after my 15th birthday she is a happy, healthy 6 year old now that has never been without a roof over her head clothes on her back or food in her stomach!! I'm not saying it was easy n i didn't want to break down and cry sometimes but knowing that my little girl had nobody but me to rely on it just made me stronger!! I wasn't that dissimilar to Kaylihia i took drugs wasn't living at home was hanging around with older people but the day i found out i was pregnant i stopped taking drugs and quit smoking stopped drinking changed my "friends" and my daughter has ALWAYS been in my care i have NEVER had social services involved in her life!! i have the most amazing life ever now. I live in a nice house with me, my OH and my 2 children and my step-son i have the life i always wanted for myself and the kids we are a happy family!! If Kaylihia wants the same she can do it she just has to set her mind to it and make it work no matter what the struggle if she wants it she will do it!! Good luck Kaylihia i have every faith in u!! You can do this :D xx

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@ Amy.... First of all This girl does need to be criticized! She flipping 14 and this is her second time pregnant!!! She doesn't need sympathy she needs her parents to give her a good tuning! What 14 drops out of school, gets "kicked" out of home and is bragging about more or less being a s*** and hanging out with older guys and doing drugs! This is ridiculous that they are KIDS out there acting like this! I was 17 when I had my son but I damn well lived up to my responsibility. I went back after my son and got my diploma! And I sure in the hell knew Not to be doing drugs! This girls needs to be locked in a room and get serious mental help! This girl put herself in this position! I'm sure she would be at home if she would dummy up and not be getting pregnant every other month. That's just sickening!

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You know what you can do STOP HAVING SEX!!! Your only 14 why are you having sex!! There are other ways of dealing with things other than cutting yourself. I had a cousin that has had a number of abortions and she had a LOT of trouble falling pregnant when she finally decided to have a child. have you considered adoption?? your body may have prepared but it seems that emotionally and other ways you may not be ready this doesnt mean you wont be able to, if you truly want to raise your baby you can do it but you will need help and to start confronting the issues in your life to give your child (if you decide to keep her/him) the best that you can, i wasnt talking to my parents when i fell pregnant at 18 but I was living with my partner and I knew who my babies daddy was. the best option you have that I can see is adoption, you are not stable enough yet to take care of something this fragile maybe when you are not so depressed and are financially able to support yourself and have a permanent place to live with people that are kind and willing to be understanding, the last thing you want is to have a baby and be on the streets, I am almost 100% sure that if you go for adoption the adoptive parents will not let any harm come to you as they will want to look after their child that you would be graciously giving them, you seem like a wonderful person that has made difficult choices that has not ended up as well as you would hope but you are only young. If you decide to stay with it, please take the suggestions of the other supportive ladies on here and prepare as if you keep your baby you have a long and hard road ahead of you but it will be very rewarding. I am sorry if I have seemed harsh but you really need to start thinking, It is sad and hard but you need to address the issue and the sooner the better but please dont go for adoption again, you may want to have kids in the future and you dont want it to be extremely hard (my cousin ended up doing ivf)

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I was 14 year old when i got pregnant with my son and altho i didnt have as much as u have going on....i got thur it. you have to stop the drugs because its not helping u in anyway. Seek help from anywhere. there is so much help out there and if u get urself together u could do it for u and ur child. Go back to school, u can get alot of help from there. research as well because i truely believe u want a better life and i believe u can do it. good luck

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I am VERY disappointed at some of you young moms that have criticized her. y'all were at one point in her shoes, and were terrified at what live was going to bring. she need help not criticized.

First of all you need to go to a fire station or hospital let them know what is going on. they will help you. CPS need to step in and take control for this. you are to young to to make these chose on your own. wish you all the luck in the world.
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Tina - posted on 05/04/2012

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We've all had our opinion. This girl is seeking help and is looking into adoption. The first abortion was recommended by her doctor. She had no idea what it involved and feels terrible about it. She's had other posts on here.

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Find a school for pregnant and parenting teens. STOP doing drugs if you WANT a baby. This could save your life from going down a horrible distructive road. But if YOU don't make changes, you will end up worse off. You need to get your head strait. Maybe look into adoption, find a church to go to. Build some sort of solid ground!! Get to a foster home, do something. Your innocent child does not deserve to be murdered and YOU don't deserve having to go through the pain of an abortion. Get your shit together. Make physical and mental changes to your life and little lady you CAN be a wonderful mother, if you CHOSE to be. Its all about choice. You must have a local drop in centre or YWCA. Find a street survival guide, you can get through. Don't be so defiant about change

Paige - posted on 05/03/2012

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Find a school for pregnant and parenting teens. STOP doing drugs if you WANT a baby. This could save your life from going down a horrible distructive road. But if YOU don't make changes, you will end up worse off. You need to get your head strait. Maybe look into adoption, find a church to go to. Build some sort of solid ground!! Get to a foster home, do something. Your innocent child does not deserve to be murdered and YOU don't deserve having to go through the pain of an abortion. Get your shit together. Make physical and mental changes to your life and little lady you CAN be a wonderful mother, if you CHOSE to be. Its all about choice. You must have a local drop in centre or YWCA. Find a street survival guide, you can get through. Don't be so defiant about change

Paige - posted on 05/03/2012

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Find a school for pregnant and parenting teens. STOP doing drugs if you WANT a baby. This could save your life from going down a horrible distructive road. But if YOU don't make changes, you will end up worse off. You need to get your head strait. Maybe look into adoption, find a church to go to. Build some sort of solid ground!! Get to a foster home, do something. Your innocent child does not deserve to be murdered and YOU don't deserve having to go through the pain of an abortion. Get your shit together. Make physical and mental changes to your life and little lady you CAN be a wonderful mother, if you CHOSE to be. Its all about choice. You must have a local drop in centre or YWCA. Find a street survival guide, you can get through. Don't be so defiant about change

Hayley & Lailah - posted on 05/03/2012

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hun, maybe you should get yourself back in school or get a job, ive been through the same thing (only i was 17 when i had my daughter) 14 is way to young for the responsibility of having sex, let alone a child... ive been in and out of home since i was 13 and it hasnt been the best time of my life either, you'll get there, think about yourself before you think about boys, they just mess you up

good luck xx

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Hey, I know it's hard. I almost gave my son up for adoption at 16. I got kicked out of my home. I know it's hard. If you can do adoption, go for it. If your body can't handle pregnancy... then that's all there is to it really. You need to stop the drugs. Go to a free clinic and ask for help with that. What country are you from? This will be easier if your country has decent welfare and medical care. You are still young. At 16, I was old enough to establish a household in my country, but you are not. You need to get yourself into care. Those guys do not sound like they have your best interests at heart. If you want to talk, I am ALWAYS here, alright?

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You need help. For one...you are 14...doing drugs and living in a completely unstable lifestyle. You've already have had an abortion which shouldn't have even happened at all because you shouldn't have gotten pregnant. Obviously it is too late to fix that but I would suggest giving the baby up for adoption. Abortion is just wrong to begin with...I don't believe in it...but there are plenty of loving families that cannot conceive and would love to adopt. I would suggest adoption. Give that child a fighting chance rather than just taking it away when that baby did nothing wrong. Secondly...I was a teen mom but I got pregnant when I was 18 almost 19. I never considered abortion or adoption. I knew I needed to take care of the baby. The father and I split because he was too damn immature (he was 22 at the time) and wanted nothing to do with the baby. I gave birth and my son is now 3 going on 4. I've been with my current boyfriend for the last 4 years and we are currently trying for a child together. I would suggest getting some help and staying off the drugs because the drugs can and will affect that baby you have growing inside you. It can cause you to either have a miscarriage or still born...OR...the child could be born with an addition to drugs. Get your life straightened out. You're 14 for Christ sake!

Lauren - posted on 04/27/2012

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Wow, it sounds like you're really stuck. Before you can think about what to do about this pregnancy, you need to take steps to improve your life. Find some sort of youth shelter where they have programs to help with things like drugs and cutting. I know there's a big taboo with using welfare, but it sounds like you genuinely need it, and if you don't already have it, you should look into it. That said, don't use it without taking steps to better your life. You can do this, just keep your head up, and remember that you deserve a better life than the one you're living.

Paige - posted on 04/27/2012

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Honestly you discust me. Sorry to say that. I know a 13 year old who has raised her kids beautifuly! You could do it but your mind set NEEDs to change and you should be in foster care, not living with boys. The fact that you had an abortion at 17 weeks is realy disturbing. That's a full baby, arms legs a face.

Tina - posted on 04/18/2012

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she's not at school and she planning on putting it up for adoption at this stage. It never too late for education. My cousin has 3 kids. But she's still managed after having them to finish her schooling. It can be hard. But with the right support and determination nothing is impossible

Krysta - posted on 04/17/2012

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Hi there I'm krysta and 20 years old.
I had my child at 18. It was scary and had a lot of problems with the pregnancy like: preclamsia,hypoglycmia, hypertension and kidney failure after the c-section. I was induced 3 weekends in a row.
Being 14, well you haven't lived life yet. Don't miss school unless its for the abortion. I wished I finished school and college then I wouldn't have to work at mid-wage all of my life. Please do something about it. Even you did want to keep it, you would have to plan how to make it work.

Sarah - posted on 04/17/2012

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Honey first off i have a lot of sympathy for you. I understand how hard that can be. I have miscarried multiple times and only have one child that lived. From my experience its better to try to carry and know you tried than to just abort the baby. get ahold of the nearest pregnancy center immediately. there are homes for girls in ur situation get help. dont kill the baby. message me if u need to talk

Faith - posted on 04/14/2012

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I think you should be proud of yourself Kaylihia for making steps towards a brighter future. I think giving your child to a loving couple is the bravest thing a girl in your situation can do. Don't stop there. Make sure you are also getting the help you need, like counseling. You cannot get your life on a different track by yourself and since your family is out of the picture, continue to seek help outside of the streets.

You are strong and brave, don't forget that.

Tina - posted on 04/13/2012

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goodluck with it all people can give you advice. But this is your decision. And a big one. I hope this baby gives you the strenth to look after yourself and helps you feel more postive about life

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