i just want the right answer....

Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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i have been feeling out of love with my boyfriend since my daughter was about 6 months old. u kno wen u want to break up with someone when ur partner finally tries to and u feel nothing u actually start to feel happy... that how i feel, but then i sit back and think about all the good things and stuff and how i could never hurt him! i do love him im just not IN love with him..... wat can i do should i try and save the relationship or move on?

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Heather - posted on 12/15/2010

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try and make it work it could be that since the baby you have not really ahd together time try to do something that you 2 useto enjoy together it may bring the love back again

Melanie - posted on 12/10/2010

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I have been with my husband for 7 years but only married 11 months. We have kids together including 2 week old twin boys. We seperated about 3 months ago but now the twins are here he wants to get back together and be a family again. I on the other hand do not. I like you still love him but i am not sure i am in love with him anymore. Mainly because he cheated on me for more then 3 months and then left me and the kids for his ex gf. I feel like i can not go back there again. I have already been hurt once and i do not want to get hurt again.



As for you situation i do agree that staying together for the kids is the wrong thing to do. Kids can pick up on the stress in the household and it is not always best to pretend things are okay when obviously they aren't. I would take some time apart and then see how you feel. If you change your mind and want to get back with him then go ahead. But if you feel better and happier not being with him then it is mot likely better if your not together.

Emily - posted on 12/10/2010

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if there is one thing i can say, it is do not stay together for your kids...it doesnt do anything except make things worse for you and its kind of lying to your children making them think your happy when your really not. i think that after having a kid, a lot of relationships go thru this phase. take some time away from the relationship, and if u miss him and being with him then thats when u know u should keep trying, but if u feel better without him then u know ur better off ending it now instead of waiting it out

Christyna - posted on 12/09/2010

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one thing thing i found out the hard way is that once youre a family you dont get the butterflies in your stomach and you dont have the sparks. i thot i didnt love my husband because i didnt feel like i was in love. and time alone turned it around. although you have a kid and are a family or whatever, you cant just live day to day life like a family. all of your feelings will be gone in no time. take a night every couple weeks for just you and him to be together. go to dinner, stay at home and watch a movie anything as long as its just you and him. my mom always told me, although youre in a relationship, you cant stop going on dates, it takes all the thrill out of being together.

Amanda - posted on 12/08/2010

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If you DON'T really want to try to work on it, than you're better off leaving. If you DO want to work on it, than you guys should do some counseling together. You could either go alone or together. Then you guys would be able to work out the kinks and resolve what's pushing you away. Sometimes after a baby is born things get different and a lot of women feel like they would be better off alone. But you also have to think about your daughter as well. If he's a great father, and you could see you two working this out than you should proabably go for it. :) Good luck!

Caity - posted on 12/08/2010

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my boyfreind and i went through that we broke up for a week and only talk when it was about r son and then r relationship was good we just needed time apart

Stephanie - posted on 12/08/2010

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Maybe try having a break but not breaking up as such so not seeing other people or anything but just taking a break from one another to find yourself again and have some me time and then see how your feelings are for one another and both decide where you want the relationship to go from there

Kelsie - posted on 12/07/2010

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There is alot more to this then what you have said i am guessing... i would see if there is anything that you 2 can change to work things out not only for the kid but for you too. I have been there and took a break from the relationship but it wasnt the same with out my love. ya know... its weird but you will figure it out, good luck!

NICOLE - posted on 12/07/2010

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for the kids try and make it work.. u can try on ur own or go to counseling.. but cuz u have kids, leave the relationship on a good foot!! its important for the kids, and u need to say that u can still be nice to each other for the kids.. but try and work it out, falling out of love happens but is not the end.. u can alway try new things.. i suggest counseling first, and if not then break it off now..

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