I might be alone on this!

Leanne - posted on 02/23/2010

First of all I get what your trying to point out but perhaps you should try and understand whats others are pointing out. Some girls do get pregnant and just leave their childern obviously they havent thought it through or was mislead..or there's something that you or I dont understand or know happened. Childern come into this world everyday and each and everyone of them is an innocent child free of judgement and negativity. You have no idea to the circumstances they were born into. As a nurse whoe deals with pregnant woman everyday I see it all and I can tell you its simply a miracle everytime I help a child come into this world. How dare you call those babies "demon seeds". Maybe instead of judging from your pedestal you would volunteer or talk to these woman who need guidance rather than bashing them and calling them down. They get enough of that Im sure without your negative imputs..if your not willing to help change their perception than perhaps you could keep your negativity to yourself and not vent your closeminded opinions on a site made for mothers to come and recieve the support only other mothers can provide. If so many of you mothers agree with the fact that girls having babies are silly than so many of you could help out and change things around. Your comments do nothing for these young girls than egg them on because now they have somthing to prove..that they can do it. Motherhood is tough okay..its much tougher when you deal with judgement.you dont know their story and you shouldnt box them into a category. Its almost like what you dont know or understand you instantly despise or judge and we could learn alot from history which shows us that that kind of behavior doesnt get us anywhere. Try alittle understanding or patience ..if you cant make the time to do that than your wasting your time bashing them.

Jenni - posted on 02/23/2010

i agree for the most part. i am 19 had my first baby when i was 16. the only assistance i get is wic and health insurance. i am with the bd still we get married in august. we live with his parents but we do pay rent. i dropped out of high school but i got my ged. i couldn't concentrate in school when i was so tired from working at night then going home to take care of my son. ged was just easier so i didn't end up going crazy and killing someone. i recently was pregnant again lost the baby so right now i'm on tdi. until my emotional state is well enough to be able to be in the working place without crying everytime i see a baby or pregnant lady. but for those of "us" that go around getting pregnant and not taking care of their responsibilities it makes me really upset. they get to have kids and not take proper care but yet those of us that can and want to can't have that chance. sorry i was venting. but there is a point in there somewhere.

Ashley - posted on 02/23/2010

Honestly, IN PART, I don't feel that it's these 15 and younger children's 'faults.' Where are the parents, while these girls and their boyfriends are doing the deed? I had my daughter 1 week before I turned 18 and my fiance and I had our own apartment throughout my entire pregnancy, we did everything on our own, minus gifts/baby shower. I remember watching it on Maury, the 12 and 13 year olds cussing & treating their family members like shit. All they talked about what how they were TRYING to get pregnant, and were so ready to have a child.
I completely feel as though NO person is ever 100 percent ready to have a child. A new parent has so much to learn, no matter how often you were around newborns/infants growing up.
Why are the mothers, whom are responsible for these teens, not talking to their daughters & sons, contraceptives, etc.? It's madness! I know that birth control is not 100 percent affective, nothing is. If you are meant to get pregnant, it's going to happen! I learned that myself. I strongly wish that these young girls would open their eyes, and atleast get out of jr. high. They're going to have sex, it's going to happen, they're going to sneak around, but parents of these children need to take a stand & take responsibility as well.

Emma - posted on 02/22/2010

i had my daughter when i was 16 and i dont regret a day of it. i gave up my teenage years the day i found out i was pregnant i am now 21 and i have never been to a club i have had to raise my daughter all by myself my parents didnt help her father (well i didnt no him) is deffinately not in the picture so i was completly alone but yet i still have managed to have a roof over her head food on her plate i have a car to take her out she has clothes on her the only thing that i have been trying to do (and keep failing) is to get a job but i go to my job search appt and i take my daughter with me so not all young mums are bad ok...

Brianne - posted on 02/20/2010

Thank you so much! I could not agree more. All those girls are doing is making it even worse for the teenage mothers who do have themselves together and are mature. These girls that spell everything with numbers and crap are the first ones to get upset when someone says something on the negative end about teen mothers. And these 14, 15, 16 year olds that are trying to have children are demented. I love my daughter, and I would never ever give her up or change anything, but I am sad that I missed my prom and graduation! Girls need to learn to enjoy their childhood and their teenage years, and for the ones that can't spell their own names correctly apparently need to stay in and focus school!

Vicky - posted on 02/20/2010

can i just voice my opinion i have graduated high school i repeated year 12 just so i could i didn't have my first child until i was 17 but i cant afford the child care to get the availability to get a job i am currently doing a course through girl guides so that i can be a teachers aide i have completed a barista course i have also done 12 months of an accounting course which i intended to finish but when i had my 2nd child he almost died when he was 3 weeks old and then my dad did pass away a week after my son came out of hospital i just wanted people to understand that not everyone is like that because o have so many people tell me that i'm a bludger and that i just slack off but the truth is i hand resumes in whenever i can wherever i can but because i can't work when they need it i can't get the job.

Rachel - posted on 02/20/2010

I got pregnant at 15 was complete suprise. The father left and has been in and out past 3 years. I do live on the welfare, i have just started to go back to study after leaving school when my son was 8 months. But before you judge, i struggled with post natal depression extremely bad for 2 years the only way i over came it was too stay home with my son every minute of the day but with welfare help. Is that such a bad thing?

Toni - posted on 02/19/2010

Oh my goodness I couldnt agree more. I , having my son at age 19, feel like i had him too early in life and when i hear of 14 year olds talking about how they want to be a mom i feel sick. Yes its fun to have someone look up to you and love you but its more work than youd ever imagine. If you cannot support yourself and your child dont make the choice to become a mom. i know accidents do happen and then you have to make a decision. Either give up your childhood, grow up, support your child and be a mom, or give your child up. Just because you CAN have a child doesnt mean you SHOULD have a child. You need to be mature and think about the welfare of your child. dont be selfish and dont be naive. Give your child the kind of life they deserve and let yourself have an adolescence. Stay protected and live your life as a teen. You will have plenty of time when youre older to be a mommy.

Libby - posted on 02/19/2010

I have to agree with you here. I wasn't THAT young when i had my son, i was 17. But i know personally some who have YET to take on the roll of mom. It's a title you have to EARN! You can't just have a baby and expect to deserve that title. Shipping your children off to their Grandparents so you can go "boozin" or whatever you do is irresponsible. You kids will find out in a few years how bad you really messed up.. And putting children on TV for getting pregnant is the STUPIDEST idea i have ever heard. I give it two years, and the teen mom statistics will go up EVEN more than they have in the past 5 years.. It's stupid. But i totally get how you feel.

Lindsay - posted on 02/19/2010

HAHA!! my thoughts EXACTLY!!!

well done.

oh, and another thing you should add, if you cant spell PREGNANCY then its not for you!!

I'm sick of girls out there saying "i fist got preggas (or pregnent, preggos, pregnet)... "

makes me want to smash a few heads in

Holly - posted on 02/18/2010

I agree with your point because I am not trying to take it the way some people would. I am 19, planning on going back to school, have my own apartment with my baby's father. I just feel like girls sleep around and need people taxes to take care of them and then pop out more. I've been with one man ever and I don't take any support from the government. Having babies is NOT a way to get welfare and move out of your parents and school IS important. How are you going to provide for your child working at McDonalds ( if they will even take you without highschool....)

Courtney - posted on 02/18/2010

i think this post is a little innapropriate actually for a site where support and encouragement for mohters is needed... NO CHILD IS A DEMON SEED!! you are what your parents make you... until then all children are of innocence.and that is a very wrong thing to say... it is irrisponsible to be out TRYING for babies at 14 and 15, but if theyre accidents and protection was used or whatever and it still happened, i think it is very admirable for these young teens to stand up to their responsibilties, so they may need that help from the government, BUT theyre still doing the right thing bu taking care of these children... i think you are very close minded, and need to look at the big picture... its not just kids having kids in all circumstances...

Sunny - posted on 02/17/2010

In Australia anyone receiving benefits has to pay taxes... I was a young mum at 17, i had been on the pill for 3 years and never missed a day, nothing is a hundred percent. Planning to have a baby at a young age is irresponsible but these girls are in need of help because they are clearly not in a good state of mind they not need discrimination.

Amber - posted on 02/17/2010

I agree and disagree. My cousin is 14 and has a 5 month old. She is going to school. Has a job. Pays for a sitter, food, diapers, everything for her baby. So I think that if your mature enough then go ahead but if your not then that is your problem

Nikki - posted on 02/17/2010

"That lets me know exactly where my taxs are going, it's not my job to finacially raise your 16 demon seeds!"
"Bad grammer and l33t speak aside"

Correction: "taxes" "financially" "grammar"
You had a child at 14, people had to pay for that.
You're rude and completely irrational.
16 "demon seeds"?
That's offensive.
So you think a teenager having a child is a "demon seed"?
As far as I'm concerned, you should be understanding and try to steer those children TRYING to have a baby to maybe think about it. Tell them to wait, but be understanding.

Sara-lou - posted on 01/31/2010

I fell pregnant with my first baby at 16 then again at 17 wih my second....! DON'T discriminate i'm a single mum n work hard 2 support me and my kids aswell as the usual coking, cleaning and being a mommy! i've had more than one coment thrown at me where people who don't even no me say i'm a discrase 4 havin children when i'm a child myself! and that they shouldn't have to support my child!!! WELL some of us don't claim benefits n work hard to support there family's, and it's not just young mum's some 20/30 YR OLD MUM'S THAT ARE CLAMING BENEFITS!!

Lisa - posted on 01/31/2010

i totally agree im 20 wiv a 1yr old and i hate kids havin kids when all they say is they want a flat its stupid they need to grow up before makin adult decisions

JASMINE - posted on 01/30/2010

FIRST OFF IT DNT MATTER BOUT THEE AGE IT MATTERS HOW GOOD OF A MOM U ARE..**U CNT JUDGE ANY GURL WHEN U WHERE 14 IN THEY SHOES HONESTLY U SOUND LIKE A LIL KID RIGHT NOW WITH THIS BLOG YA PUT IT GET REAL WITH YA SELF ND LOOK IN THE MIRROR

Angel - posted on 01/30/2010

I agree to an extent, and I think all are in agreement that "Demon Spawn" went a little to far, but everyone has to admit that there's something that is everyone's pet peeve. This is highly annoying to me. I work for what I have!! I may be 18 and pregnant, but I'm fighting to stay away from going off county benefits. It's extremely irritating when someone of 14 or 15 says that they want to have another child just to claim benefits. I hate to say it this way, but some people need to get off there butts, and work for what they have!!! Being a teenage mum is not an excuse if not more than a better reason to gain an education, and take care of there own child!!!!!

Heidy - posted on 01/29/2010

i agree.. its really immature to try to have a child that your parents will end up caring for. Or people that try to have more kids when they already got 6 kids living off welfare and public assistance. I dont get why dont they decide to get an education first and then have a baby. And to the people that dont work and just keep having kids to live off welfare, seriously get off your butt and get a real job!! People dont want to pay for your bills!! And please get on birth control!!

Brittany - posted on 01/29/2010

When I read this it made me smile. :-)

Natasha - posted on 01/29/2010

I agree one hndred percent. My mom was 14 when she had me and I respevt her for wwhat she did to keep me and raise me, and she did a wonderful job with what she had, but just because you have one and can feed them and take care of them doesn't mean you need to have another. Especially if the state is paying for you to do so. We struggle enough to raise our own families, why should we have to help raise yours too when you aren't responsible enough to take the needed precaustions to get pregnant again?

Terryion - posted on 01/29/2010

I totally agree, im 18 and yes i have a child but never will you hear anything like that come out of my mouth.. i didnt try to get pregnant but it happened. i have graduated from high school and now im attending college.. im so tired of these girls making teen moms look very inmature and stupid

Alazia - posted on 01/29/2010

BOTTOM LINE: It's immature and irresponsible to TRY to have a child that you know you can't take care of.

Cheyenne - posted on 01/29/2010

AGREED...I am a young mom as well and accidents happen but you shouldn't be trying. At 14 you cannot afford the expenses of a child and I don't think that hits for some until they are in the situation. Trying to get pregnant at any young age is stupid. Like I said accidents happen and those girls whom have it together do deserve good advice and the ability to talk to others it that situation. The ones that abuse the site won't benefit from it so it is their loss.

Kimberley - posted on 01/29/2010

i do agree bt i am 18 n have 3 kids n im a very gd mother my daughter wasnt planned neither was my twins

Nene J. - posted on 01/28/2010

I don't understand why anyone would want a child while they're still a child. I got pregnant really early and I love my oldest daughter but she sure was a surprise. I wouldn't change anything because I love her but man! Staying a kid a little longer couldn't have killed me!

Bianca - posted on 01/28/2010

I agree with you 100 percent!

Bronwyn - posted on 01/28/2010

I totally understand, I was on disability payments due to my illness but now we are on our feet we dont accept them I dont like those who think they are there just to be taken though, its all well and good if there is no other option but those who use children as an excuse to get them and not work is wrong.

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2010

i agree 14 yrs old is wayyyy too young to have a baby. but i know many people that are like 16 and 17 that have kids and that are doing great and not on any type of welfare but they have the support of there family and friends. i was 18 when i fell pregnant and had my daughter when i was 19. my mom also did everything in her power to keep me from getting pregnant. when i was 13 she told me i was not allowed to leave the house unless i was on birth control which i was on it. then when i was doing good finacially i got off my birth control shot which is great i love the depo shot . it works great i was on it for about 5 years then i got off it when i thought i was ready to have a child because i had graduated highschool when i was 17 almost 18 i owned my own home and own my own car. i am a stay at home mom now 19 going to be 20. while my fiance of 4 years works to provide for us. we dont get no type of assistance because he makes to much. i know i probably misspelled most of these words but that dont make me a bad person..i am a high school graduate. just blame it on my school haha :) but i def. agree that 14 is too young if my daughter got "knocked up" at 14 i would be so mad and feel almost like i did not raise her right. :( but most teenage moms are not bad. SOME work their butts off to support there kids and go to highschool or college and work.

Jenna - posted on 01/28/2010

im also aware of my poor typing skills, but im a high school graduate and have an associates degree, lol.

Jenna - posted on 01/28/2010

it's half (not ALL) but their parents fault. dont get me wrong, i was 18 when i got pregnant (on birth control) and my mother did everything in her power to raise me very well, i was just a "bad" kid. but more often then not i see parents trying to be their young teen daughters "best friend" instead of being their mother (it also makes me sick to hear kids talk about parents who smoke with them). the ignorance of society isnt getting any better and i feel for the kids these "kids" are having, they have no chance, no future =[ (again not ALL very young teen moms are bad mothers! but i must agree 14 is far too young!)

Kayla Alice - posted on 01/28/2010

I completely agree with you. Seeing babies having babies is one thing, but them continuing to act like children after having one of their own is just disgusting and sad.

Jade - posted on 01/28/2010

ive just turned 17 had my baby when i was 16 she was planned i have a fiance and our own house im going 2 collage 2 resitt my gcses and i want 2 be a midwife , im mature and there are loads of brilliant young mums .i ♥ ALISHA

India - posted on 01/27/2010

i don't judge anyone who has had a baby young, because it's hard, but i agree that it's a little messed up for them to do it on purpose.

Faith - posted on 01/27/2010

im 20, soon to be 21. im in school. my hubby is on disability and cant work. i have health issues that prevent me from working a full time job. i DONT like living off welfare, and someday, id really like to not be on it period. its sad how some ppl that dont need it think there is no need for it ever. i am very greatful for what we get from welfare as otherwise we'd be on the streets w/a child.

Bronwyn - posted on 01/27/2010

I agree 100%. I was doing school online when I fell pregnant and finished that year, no school would accept me when I was pregnant because of "ricks" so I am now again finishing year 12 online then again online I will continue to do courses until I NEED to go back to work or have some kind of semi qualification.

And yes in Australia mothers who get benefits pay taxes... but do you stop to think what money they are using to pay taxes???

Also I know for a fact not every cent goes to singles mothers... I personally am on a medication for an incurable condition that would cost me almost $2000au a month, instead I only pay $5... thanks to tax payers.

Also I would just like to clear up that woman are here for more than "to have babies" we are as much a part of this world than any man and saying that all we are born for is to have babies is disgusting, its that kind of talk that allows men to treat us like garbage.

If I have a daughter who get pregnant at 13 or 14 god help her and the boy that knocked her up, you may be able to make babies at that age, but it doesnt mean you should! It isnt healthy for you or the baby you are bringing into the world.

like I said before, I was 16 when I got pregnant, 17 when my son was born, I dont regret it and wouldnt trade my boy for the world but it doesnt make me ready for a child, yes my husband (then fiance) owned our house and 2 cars, yes we are very well off financially and yes we had all the support we needed but I was still only 16!!

My son was born 1.5 months prem because of our selfish acts, I had to watch him suffer and dwindle away to nothing while the doctors and nurses did everything to help him. Thankfully he is no a health happy (crawling terror) 8.5 month old. But not every baby is that lucky.

I know that I and many other teen mums are better mums then woman in their 20s and 30s, but they arent as exposed as us.

This thread was aimed at the teen mothers who are terrible, who dont finish school, who rely on everyone else to support and care for their children. Not EVERY teen mother is like that, and no one (not even cassandra) said they were. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and nothing was directed at anyone. So yes all those winging that they are a better mum because they stay home with their kids, get over it, if you want to bring you kids up on welfare and teach them nothing in life go for it.

BUT FYI... my mum was 17 when she had my brother and worked her butt off to give my siblings and me everything we had. My dad working nights and she worked days, but we had a lovely home and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS had someone home with us. They never took help from anyone and that taught me and my siblings to work for the things we want. Its rewarding when you finally get it.

Dont say love is all your children need either because it isnt, they need a good home, food, clean clothes, clean bodies and nappies... none of this is free... and the decent stuff is not cheap.

Leah - posted on 01/27/2010

Amen Monique!

Monique - posted on 01/27/2010

In respose To Susan some of us are not that privlidged that we can afford to stay home with our children.. my fiance works really hard and we still struggle im going back to work part time to give my child a better life! i deserve to be a mother! how dare you say if you put your child when there of preschool age (witch she will be 3 ) part-time for a few days a week you sholdnt have more children!! i love my little girl and i will have more children because i love being a mum and im frigging awsome at it! i will spend time with my little girl and work and she (and all my future children) are going to grow up loved and happy beacuse they wont have to have nothing growing up the way i did! They will always have food on the table its judgemental people like you that are wrong with this world! As a mother you should know you do what you have to do for your children and your family!!

Leah - posted on 01/27/2010

i understand completely, i was 17 when i got pregnant and i had my son at 18. I went to school until 3 days before i had my son and worked up until 4 day before. I have yet to receive and state or federal help with anything. My boyfriend and i both work full time jobs and have bought almost everything for our son ourselves(THANK YOU HAND ME DOWNS!). I hate hearing about couples that don't want to work and mooch off of everyone else. My boyfriend didn't want me to go back to work after our son was born but i did because we needed the money, and we weren't gonna run to our parents or the state to help us out.

I know of a couple children who are having kid after kid and don't support them. I say children not because of their age but how they act. People that go out every night of the week and bull around town cuz they can, cuz they pass their kids off to everyother person that will take them, and complain about how hard being a mother is when they have to spend 4 hours out of the week with them. i work 8 hours a day come home take care of my son, make supper for my hunny, cause he just worked a 16 hour day, clean up then finally go to bed at 10, wake up with my son at 12 then wake up at 4:30 and do it all again. I look forward to my days off because then i know that i will be there all day with my son. Just me and him. My "Me" time or my time away is the 10 min drive to work.
All i gotta say is if your gonna have a kid either suck up your pride and thought of self and put that child first. work for them, take care of them, and love them with your whole heart everyday. If you can't do that i know there are a million families out there that want that special love in their life but are medically unable to have one.

On a lighter note, Don't Be Silly Cover His Willy!

Candyce - posted on 01/27/2010

I fully agree with you ma! I understand one oops baby, but if your BC fails, then act like you have some damn sense and keep your legs closed! There's always the option of wearing a condom in tandem with the BC. It's the height of irresponsibility to just keep having babies with no way to support them, no education to fall back on, and living on the state. It's what prevents those who actually deserve the help from getting it. Perfect example: Octomom. Sure she's not technically a teen, but she sure acts like a child. People act like they don't have a choice in making a child. Easiest way to prevent it is abstinence. People have done it for eons.

Blessed Be

Tuia - posted on 01/27/2010

Oh, and I don't know about where you live. But here in Australia, us unemployed mums, who haven't finished high school, have to pay tax too.

Tuia - posted on 01/27/2010

Maybe, because they are young & haven't been able to finish school they have bad grammar. Or maybe they are more comfortable writing the way they write. Yes, sometimes it annoys me but it shouldn't matter about how people write. They are not hurting anyone by typing like that. They would just like to say their piece in the matter just like you & i have done. & I would like to understand how, just because someone has bad grammar or types funny, means they have their head up their butt. & yes, maybe the 14 & 15 year olds that you have heard say that they are trying to get pregnant again, should reconsider. but then again, maybe they feel that since they have already started their families, why not finish?

I'm sure not every single cent of your tax money is going towards teenage mothers. & you say you had your bub at 14, then what about those people whose tax where paying for you & your child?
Maybe, to them, finishing high school isn't the main priority for them. you don't necessarily have to graduate to be able to find a decent, stable job to support your family.
Ever think they aren't purposely mis-spelling their words. Just like you most likely didn't intend to spell grammar wrong. Or perhaps they don't know how to spell the word, and they decided to just give it their best shot.

Calling innocent children, who don't pick their parents, or what age their parents have them, just like you and i. Demon seeds is disgusting, rude and uncalled for.

Kanthi - posted on 01/27/2010

I agree with Emmily Spear
Sometimes birth control does not always work and i mean young girls need advice too. I dont really think all of them would be using this site just as a joke. They are not all the same some of us young mums do have our heads together for instants im in year 12 and now need to complete that by studying part time over two years which i am doing and after i complete that im going to tafe to study to be a child care teacher. Not all young girls plan to get pregnant it just happens to some. I mean was a teen mum and i didn't plan it . i went to tafe of my cert3 in age care . and now half way through my small bussness management cert3. but i was stay at home mum for 8yrs until my yougest son went to daycare. so my hubby and child father could do his studies first.
don't be so harsh to judge.

Jaimelee - posted on 01/27/2010

I was on the pill for 13months before I fell pregnant at 16, I already left school and was studying at tafe. I think your being the inmature one not to realise that everyone mum deserves a chance. Weres mum no matter what age. Im sure theres better 16year old mums then 35years old mums. So I think yous all need to need over the age factor in everything as this site is here for support. And to do with the money, are you trying to say that we're not aloud to have children because you dont want to waste your money?
And how can you say that anyone who gets angry and upset about this is inmature when clearly your judging people on there age?

Bronwyn - posted on 01/27/2010

why because they want to make a decent life for their kids? not saying that living off benefits wont give your kid a life but some people are prepared to work for their money instead of accepting it from tax payers. Working for a living DOES NOT make a bad parent it sets an example for their children. You are very naive.

Susan - posted on 01/27/2010

oh and if use go back to work as soon as ur children are in pre school use are the ones that shouldnt be having any more babies cause thats just not right at all.

Susan - posted on 01/27/2010

ZOE IM WITH YOU. its bloody stupid what there trying to say. And i will not be going back to work for a very long time cause i want to see my child grow everday and be with her every day. We were brought into this world to be mothers and that is all....

Bronwyn - posted on 01/26/2010

Cassandra, I totally agree, I got pregnant when I was 16, but its true birth control does not always work I was on the pill (had been for 2 years) and we used a condom. I had my son when I was 17 and am now 18 and loving being a mum. I got married to the father of my child last month, he works full time and we dont claim any benefits. We own our house and 2 cars, but we didnt get that way from borrowing money. My husband has worked hard for everything we have!!

Danielle - posted on 01/26/2010

i totally agree with you im 19 and have my shit together, im going to college, im a stay at home mom and i onlt have one hand to type right now my LO is sleeping on me haha, but just a small fact i learned in high school english while studying shakespeare, most of the words wrote in old english and when the world was starting people spekked words how they were sounded