I need some honest opinions and advice!

Vandy - posted on 11/12/2009

Quoting Samantha:

OMG story of my life i always get DENIED!!! it sucks so bad and he has the same excuses i fel like our rolls are switched im supposed to be the one that says no!!
i know how you feel

I agree with you 100% it annoying and frustrating

Jessica - posted on 11/10/2009

maybe hes just really nervous about being a parent my husband was a bit the same until after i had the baby maybe hes just worried about how good of a father hell be how yous are going to cope phyically and mentally and even financially.those are the things that went on in my husbands head and he acted the same were fine now and he appreciates everything so i wish you both all the best and hope you sort it all out.

Sarah - posted on 11/10/2009

There is definately something a little more than tired from work.... no matter what you should never feel unwanted or like a door mat.... try doing a few small things to get a rise out of him like make him breakfast before he wakes up and make sure he wakes up in time to eat and enjoy with you... this will also make u feel mommy like and accomplished to boost ur self esteem... the sex however is a different story... work related stress and the fact that your showing more most likely could have something to do with it.... if you initiate the act and he really pushes you away dont get mad bc that will make him shut down even more... leave him to himself and talk to him about it in the morning before he goes to work and is tired.... maybe you can switch to morning sex or even break time.... let him know you love him and even though your carrying the baby and you need a lot of support so does he .... you could also talk to his friend have them do guy things to get back to his old self.... the "honeymoon" stage of relationships die down and it feels so much different and it may never be exactly how it was but you will find a comfortable medium and both be happy.... dont let urself get too down over it...

Cynthia - posted on 11/10/2009

well im sorry to hear you feel this way. When i got pregnant i started feeling the same way... and i still do and my baby is a year old now. i know youre not me but id try to fix it any way you can before too long. good luck

Samantha - posted on 11/10/2009

OMG story of my life i always get DENIED!!! it sucks so bad and he has the same excuses i fel like our rolls are switched im supposed to be the one that says no!!

i know how you feel

Vandy - posted on 11/10/2009

well you first problem is that you need to stop doing everything for him! If he treats you like a door mat then you need to show him how nothing will get doe if it wasn't for you. Second he sees that you are going and its nothing about your apperiance its probably because he feels unconfortable having sex with you because he knows that there is a child inside of you. Most guys have a hard time dealing with it. I don't understnad it but alot of man are like that. You need to tell him that your needs arent being met and he needs to take care of them. If you let it go on for to long then it will just get bad. you need to stand up for yourself befor its to late. I hope everything goes the way you want it God Bless

Ashley - posted on 11/10/2009

i was basically in the same situation 3 1/2 years ago that you are in now. it has alot to do with getting pregnant unexpectantlly, and my husband would say that he is tired from work and the same old excuses too. finally it was either we get divorced or go to counseling, so we went to counseling, and he said he feels extremely stressed that now he has to support not only himself but me and a baby too. dont get me wrong he was very excited to have a baby (after the shock was over with lol) but its natural for your husband to act this way, maybe he would consider counseling? it helped us out ALOT

Jessica - posted on 11/10/2009

honestly i think hes just shocked that he will be a dad.my fiancee is in the military and he missed 3 months of my pregnancy.he got back the 3 days before i had our son.i had times when i thought he didnt love me any more and he was only with me for the baby.but i knew it wasnt true.i do think ur a bit hormonal tho.i know u hate 2 admit it but u are.no matter what u do u cant help it.just talk 2 him about it and make him understand how u feel.and as far as the sex goes.the reason hes not acting like hes interested is probably because hes starting to see u as a mother and not as his "hot girl friend".but dont worry being pregnant has its advantages 2.for example:u dont have 2 worry about having ur period every month.and ur boobs will get bigger!!! he'll love that.i know there will be times when u think ur ugly and fat but its ur hormones again.when u have ur baby u will forget about all of that and focuse on nothing except ut family.it will take him around 2 months or so after its born for him to really accept hes a daddy.my son is a month and a half my fiancee is just starting 2 accept it.ive even had 2 threaten to kick him out twice to make him see what hes missing.he'llo come around.

Stevie - posted on 11/10/2009

Honestly this sounds alot like me and my husband when i was pregnant. It takes a while for him to get comfortable with your body while having sex. Also try going out together, go to a movie or out to dinner and TALK. I dont just mean "how was your day at work" I mean actually talk about life and how you guys can do stuff to make eachother feel apreciated. When the baby comes take some time at least once a week to spend a night together. Get a babysitter and you can even stay in and cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie together. Any time you guys have together will bring you closer!

Kacelyn - posted on 11/10/2009

Hey. This sounds like my boyfriend and I when I was pregnant. It may just be stress. He is also feeling a lot of stress about the arrival of your new little one, and pregnant girls do have a lot of emotions flying around. Maybe if you guys do aomething to relax it will help a little bit. Stress can drain the body emotionally and physically and can damper your sex life, so can anxiety.

Wendolynn - posted on 11/09/2009

For some guys is not easy to have sex when your pregnant! He might be scared of hurting the baby!

Samantha - posted on 11/09/2009

speak your mind your preg so youv got plenty reason to feel emotional. you need to do it at a time wen all are relaxed ie not wen he walks in the door from work. tell him you are feeling insecure and need to feel more loved. You need to start the convo with 'im feeling... and express concern. and ask HIM how hes feeling about things. Some men just get a lil scared of sex wen you get further along fear for hurting you and bub and others just feel its perverted. Unfortunately for me my partner was rather to attracted to me preg and 5months on now that im not hes less but i tell him if i feel not very sexy and that i would appreciate it if we could have sex more and feel more loved and his response along with im sure many others 'im sorry honey sex slips my mind sometimes coz im working so much but i love you and think your really sexy' next thing you know for a month we go great again but then i gotta remind him again wen it lacks by way my partner works 4am til 8pm most nites!!!! so i dont blame him! relationships are like rollercoasters constantly up and down but the main thing is to work through it and it can be a big amount of stress the man feels knowing hes responsible for you and your baby keeping food on your plate and roof over your head can seem a huge deal and rather daunting good luck and feel free to message me any time!!!

Meg - posted on 11/08/2009

Quoting Annie:

I need some honest opinions and advice!

Can I talk about sex? Embarrassing question*

When I met my husband to be we fell in love instantly, we moved in together and found out a month later that we were pregnant.
We are both very happy about our impending parenthood.

We have always had sex at least once a day, I am now 27 weeks pregnant and I'm starting to feel like he isn't interested anymore. We now only have sex about once a week and I'm starting to worry, mainly because I feel unwanted and it is starting to wear on my emotions. He also seems distracted all the time and doesn't spend much time with me, we barely even talk anymore and our communication is becoming very poor. I cook and clean for him and take care of his EVERY need and he doesn't seem to appreciate me at all anymore.
Honestly, I am starting to feel like a doormat.
I have tried to talk to him about this and he just says that he is always tired from working and that he has alot on his mind but that's just not cutting it for me.
Am I just hormonal and paranoid or does it sound like it could be something deeper?

Thanks so much in advance :)

well as a mom to be myself, i think it has a lot to do with our hormones. my boyfriend never has time for me and says the same thing your finace is saying. im tired, too busy, etc whatever. it hurts because you need them around and they  just don't see how much. to be honest. boys are dumb at this stage in out lifes. they dont understand what its like to have a "bundle of joy!"  steal our bodies slowly.  Tell him about your feelings i did with my boyfriend and found he was being compeletly honest. just  be paitent for now

Lyndsay - posted on 11/08/2009

A little bit of both. I think you should broach the subject with him and see what he has to say. You need to explain to him exactly how you feel, as you have explained it here, and gauge his response. If he refuses to talk about it or just brushes it off like its nothing then it could be something deeper.