i really need advice. im really scared b/c i messed up. plz anybody

Nareeda - posted on 06/06/2010

its rubbish that u cant fall pregnant while breastfeeding, i know from experience, my first son was 4 weeks old and breastfed when i found out i was pregnant with my second son, mind u i fell pregnant with my first whilst on the pill..

Brittany - posted on 06/06/2010

someone on here suggested a mirena for birth controll my son will b 2 in october i had the mirena put in 8 wks after i had my son i never have a period i gained almost 50 lbs jus now starting to lose weight i hate it it causes pain i wouldnt advise ne1 to get it research about it first wish i would have

Lindsay - posted on 06/04/2010

Wow, the nurse told you it was impossible.. that is weird. I found out myself that breastfeeding doesn't prevent it either, but it did take 11 months before I got pregnant.. lol. Good luck and I hope it all works out for the best.

Kimberley - posted on 06/04/2010

i had the same sort of thing after i lost my 1st baby in november they had to operate and nurse told me that i can have sex week 1/2 later nd i couldnt get pregnant again until 2months after. its june now and im over 7months gone. i was so scared that something would go wrong or that i couldnt handle it. But hold your head high there nothing more special then a child. It may b soon but it sounds like you have a nice fella and think about it if you r u get to put ur feet up with a cuppa and have him run around for you again. im sure whatever the situation you will b fantastic

Tori - posted on 06/03/2010

Ok no matter what anybody says you will still ovulate when you are breastfeeding. While some people may not right away others do. A friend of mine was told that if she was breastfeeding she would not ovulate, now her children are going to be 13 months apart. 6 weeks out your body usually is not on a regular schedule so I would say you could be safe, but use protection from here on out! I work in a childrens store and had a lady who told me she got pregnant a month after her son was born because she didn't think she could get pregnant because she was breastfeeding. just be careful

ELIZABETH - posted on 06/03/2010

Hi sometimes life doesnt always go as planned, but personally it is much harder to handle life without a GOD who loves and cares for you. I pray that you will get in touch with your father in heaven. God loves you more than you think or can even imagine. With his strength you will over come any obtacles. This might not seem to be the answer you looking for but it sure is the truth May all go well and whatever the outcome remember that life is preciouse. .

Chantelle - posted on 06/02/2010

dont let the worring control you i think every women goes throu it at some point but i know how you feel in a different situation thou not right after having my daughter i was too scared to have sex but not in your case lol you should look in to all birth controls and find one that suites you did you find out if you are pregnant yet?

Ava - posted on 05/27/2010

Your nurse is an idiot. You can get pregnant several hours, or sometimes days after giving birth. While for some girls that length of time CAN stretch longer, it's not likely to, and breastfeeding isn't a form of birth control either. If you've had sex that often, it's entirely possible (if not likely) you're pregnant again. Next time, don't listen to a retarded nurse---fact check for yourself, EVERY TIME. ALWAYS cross-reference/double-check what a doctor or nurse tells you if it's that important, either with another doctor or nurse from a DIFFERENT practice, or on the internet at a medical website like WebMD. The fact is it's possible to conceive again very soon after giving birth, so long as you've ovulated (produced an egg). Maybe next time you'll invest in something more sure-fire like Mirena or pills.

Laura - posted on 05/26/2010

Hope ur not hope fully u know now to allways use birthcontrol or risk another baby

Chere - posted on 05/22/2010

I see all of these girls on here say if your beastfeedeing you can not get pregnant thats not true there is allways a chance you will get pregnant. As long as you are having sex there is a chance you could be. If you are really that worried about it go and find out and untill then stop having sex!

Kerra - posted on 05/21/2010

the best thing you can do is talk to your doctor.

Jennylyn - posted on 05/18/2010

gurl give yourself a break..learn to prioritized your health, and sex can be done at any moment of time but be sure first if your physically fit to do that now..health is wealth

Amanda - posted on 05/18/2010

6 weeks after you have a baby is when you have the highest chance of pregnancy (if youre not breastfeeding)

Sofie - posted on 05/18/2010

Aw i feel for you i really do!! Is everything ok now? I couldnt have sex for a while cos i had so many stitches, it still hurts now and Toby is 15 weeks old! I'm on the injection which is brill and less scary than the implant. I would not pressure or judge you on your decision on what to do if you are pregnant it was just that stupid bloody nurse. You should report her! Anyway i hope you're okay??

Adrienne - posted on 05/18/2010

as far as i know there are 2 ways that you can know for sure whether you are pregnant or not. 1 is ultrasound and 2 is pelvic exam. One is less invasive than the other so i would try for it but if your insurance doesn't cover it than i would go for the cheaper one which is pelvic exam. My body is very wierd and they can't detect that i'm pregnant until about my 5th month without doing a sonogram or a pelvic exam. But I really wouldn't worry to much you will manage either way. I promise from a mother of 3 you will be ok whatever the outcome is. Just think happy thoughts and breathe. You will get through it.

Amy - posted on 05/18/2010

Don't worry so much if you really aren't ready for number 2 use the necessary preventives condoms, birth control always tell your doctor that you are or plan to be sexually active. No one worth your time will look down on you for your choice in this matter honey.

Heidi - posted on 05/18/2010

Haha it's so funny that a lot of us did that. My man and I were freaking out too....crazy

NaKia - posted on 05/17/2010

was there a paticular reason that the nurse told you that you could not get pregnant? if you do not use protection of any kind then there is always a chance of getting pregnant unless you had your tubes tied or had a historectomy. You are especially more fertile right after you have a baby so there could be a chance. Just calm down sweetie.

Hayley - posted on 05/17/2010

i did the same thing n everyone in my fam hates me cause im 18 n pregant with my third child. i really dont kno what to tell u cuz im in the same boat, i need help. no one wants my children to exsist but me n my man n i wish my fam would support me more. but ur not alone. im scared to death too

Jenn - posted on 05/17/2010

use protection! if your breastfeeding you have a higher chance of getting pregnant. but either way you can get pregnant easily! most likely your not. just remember your hormones are out of control for the first 3 months so you may just be experiencing that. talk to your doctor about birth control AND some may say its easier to raise two so close in age! i hope everything works out for you!!

Sarah - posted on 05/17/2010

i done the same thing and i fell pregnant but lost it soon after which was so sad

Kayla - posted on 05/16/2010

Just chill go see the dr thats all you can do and for the reckord dont listen to the dr's that say you cant get pregnant i was told by 5 drs i couldnt get pregnant and my first son is going to be 1 on may 27th

Ashley - posted on 05/16/2010

I just had my son on Feb 3rd and am now about 6 weeks pregnant. It is going to be stressful but my partner and I will be just fine because we work together. Im sure you guys will be ok no matter what happens :)

Theresa - posted on 05/15/2010

more than likely you are okay although you are very fertile after being preggy . but its all different in different woman . and news for everyone just because you breatfeed doesn't mean you can't get pregnant ! AGAIN !

Amarilis - posted on 05/14/2010

go get checked and stop having unprotected sex

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2010

You absolutely can get pregnant, while you're breastfeeding as well... Everyone starts ovulating at different times after giving birth. Be careful and use contraception, because nothing is for sure going to prevent pregnancy except contraception.

Rebecca - posted on 05/13/2010

yehh be careful i had sex two weeks after having my daughter then when she was like 5 weeks old found out i was pregnant again.

Heidi - posted on 05/13/2010

Haha I did the same thing. I freaked out and I wasn't. And to the person up there breastfeeding doesn't prevent pregnancies what so ever. Don't trust that as a birth control.

Andrea - posted on 05/13/2010

well i cant belive the nurse lied about the possibility of getting pregnant. just go to doctor everything will be ok!!

Laura - posted on 05/13/2010

after having a baby you are the most fertile!! lot of women dont know that but its true!! if you are pregnant then you are, dont be discourage about it. even though its not the best time for you to be pregnant i think everything happens for a reason!! :)

Lowana - posted on 05/13/2010

it most deff is not impossible to get pregnant. the first 6-8 weeks is the time thats most easy to get pregnant. just try not to worry about it too much cuz you can trick yourself into thinking your pregnant. ive done it. i went throught the experience for about 3 weeks. getting morning sickness and everything i even missed my period 2 times cuz i was scared i was pregnant and i tricked my body.

Briana - posted on 05/13/2010

I agree about the nurse..what a quack..they say to wait 6 weeks after you have a child to wait on having sex first to let you heal properly and second because your at your most fertile time. Talk to your doctor and let him know the situation and how you feel..they are their to help you and possibly ask for a pregnancy test to be sure! Start using condoms and find a birth control method..for me pills are inconvenient so I switched to the nuvaring and have been completely satisfied. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 05/13/2010

Breastfeeding is NOT birth control. Take another pregnancy test in a month. Use condoms until you know for sure that you're not pregnant. If you are, don't worry. I have three kids that I had one after the other (Jan 6th '07, Mar 30th '08, Mar 25 '09). You would be surprised just how fast kids can develop. Its like they can sense another one is on the way. My second started walking right about the time I had my third.

Vette - posted on 05/12/2010

My kids are a year and a day apart. I understand your fears. But we got through it. You will be fine. good luck!

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2010

I'm in the same boat sweetie. Doc cleared us to have sex again at 6 weeks and same scenario...although I am breastfeeding & i thought that was a form of birth control & also something that would keep me from having my period a lil longer so now I'm thinking I may be preggers again...not to mention I smelled blueberry pancakes and there were none around and I was the only one who smelled it...and the smell brought me a craving and a half hour later i was diggin' into some blueberry pancakes. All I can say is cross ur fingers and hope 4 the best. Luckily our men love us the way they do and won't leave. :)

Miranda - posted on 05/12/2010

Actually, the best time to get pregnant is after you just have a baby. After having my son, my doctor told me that I needed to get on a form of birth control ASAP because he had many mothers that just had a baby come back pregnant again because many people dont know this.

Karen - posted on 05/12/2010

Ashley Nelson my due date was the exact same as urs and i was also born on the same day as u :L :L :L xxx

Ashleigh - posted on 05/12/2010

If I were you, me and that nurse would be having some words! I sort of went through the same thing. We had sex 3 weeks after our daughter was born, and I kind of freaked out too afterwards when i realized what we had just done. It sort of just becomes a habit after being pregnant for nine month. Neither of us really thought about it and it just kinda happened. However, when I went in for my 6 week check up, I told my doctor before she tried putting me on birthcontrol. The test was negative, and I still had doubts for a few days. But after a while it sort of just makes you worry less. I wasn't pregnant. Maybe you wont be. Everyone is different. But if you are, then it was meant to happen! I know you'll love the next just as much as the first.

Chelsea - posted on 05/11/2010

I've never heard breastfeeding as a form of birthcontrol. I've had mirena in, & my spouse was really understanding about not having sex period for the first 6-8 weeks, depending on what my body needed.. Now lemme tell you, that time period is when I learned how much he loved me. hahaha, he was awesome about understanding that I couldn't & was too scared to. His mom got pregnant w/his brother not even 3 months after he was born.. & seeing as how I don't feel like making my life miserable to come up with finances for 2 newborns, I made sure I went on birth control.. I gave my body 2 weeks of breathing time after my pregnancy so it could dispose out all of anything it may have needed to.. but 14 days after I had my little one, I was on the pill until I healed completely to get my Mirena placed.. I waited 10 weeks of taking the pill to get mirena placed. There is a chance you're pregnant again, & like the others said, I would cool out on the amount of sex you guys are having.. if you really feel the need to touch eachother that much, (i know the feeling, me&my other half used to be completely obsessed with eachother.. hints how we got our first one..) stick to oral and basically anything outside of intercourse. you don't get pregnant those ways.. :-) good luck!

Christy - posted on 05/11/2010

ooh my. BIG mistake!!! you are more fertile then you have ever been in your life rite now... i wouldnt be suprised if your prego again, iread that some one said you wont ovulate for a while. no. you can get pregnant an hour after you have a baby.

Megan - posted on 05/11/2010

I don't understand why your doctor would tell you that it's impossible to get pregnant? First of all, it is very possible, as you are more fertile after having a baby, you have nine cycles-worth of held back mature eggs waiting to be fertilized, and breast feeding is NOT a birth control, it's still very possible and likely that you could get pregnant. With each of my two kids, my doctor [two different doctors from different practices, to boot] has recommended double protection, and i was breastfeeding.

Claire - posted on 05/11/2010

Don't freak out. If you're breastfeeding, there's a really, really good chance you're not pregnant because the hormones in your body that get released when you nurse her (prolactin) is abundant and it suppresses the hormones that develop and nourish your eggs. That's why frequently breastfeeding and keeping your prolactin levels high helps you not ovulate or menstruate. I have an 11 week old (born Feb. 23) and we are also having sex again, but this time with condoms. From now on just be an enforcer and USE THOSE CONDOMS! :) best of luck. and don't forget that even though you haven't started your period again, you can still be fertile because you can ovulate without knowing it. This topic and reading everyone else's responses scares me and makes me wnat to use condoms even more.

Cassie - posted on 05/11/2010

I am on birth control pills. I asked the doctor if they can up my dose on them. So far I am not pregnant. I had my daughter on June 10,2009. Make sure you are stocked up on preganancy test and use one every months before your period starts. Don't start having sex every day or every hour. If you don't watch yourself you will end up having another child. Until you are ready to have another child, just hold off on the sex.

Marisa - posted on 05/11/2010

I got the Mirena the DAY my 6 weeks was up. Try looking into an implant/IUD. Wait another week or two and keep a pair of store bought pregnancy tests. I mean I am pro-choice, and although my sons father is against abortion, he agreed that if my Mirena were to fail anytime in the next year and a half or two that I would go to terminate the pregnancy. Keep in mind your child should get time to get all the attention he/she needs first before another comes along, then you will never have the finances to give them both what they need. ; ] That's my opinion.

Melissa - posted on 05/10/2010

ok first off...u should have waited much longer till u decided to have sex again and u were on birth control because the exact same thing happened to me... i had my son then a month and half later i found out i was pregnant again...so go to ur doctors app. and see if u r preganant and if ur not get on birth control rite away....and slow down a lil bit on havin sex

Kia - posted on 05/10/2010

i was always told your most fertile those next 6 weeks, i hope everything works out for you, goodluck!

Amy - posted on 05/10/2010

I was pregnant again after my first daughter, Its COMPLETELY possible to get pregnant again, actually your more fertile than before, your body is used to being pregnant so it adapts easier. Hope everything goes well at the doctors

Carissa - posted on 05/10/2010

Well i would say to make sure you use comdoms untill you know if you are pregnant or not...if you are not..get on some birth controll like an IUD or IMPLANON. these last for a couple of years so you dont have to worry. And if you are pregnant..well then i say good luck on everything.

Kayla - posted on 05/09/2010

Hi. I have the same problem every single month and I am on the pill. If my period is a couple of days late I start freaking out. I was 15 when I had my first and within 3mths I was preg with my second. But did not find out till I was 17 and a half weeks. So was left with little choices. I guess the only thing I can suggest is to go to your doctors and take a test and wait 4 results and speak to your doctor and talk about some contraception. Good Luck and I would love to know how you go.

Ashley - posted on 05/09/2010

All I can say is if you are, you'll be fine. It'll be really hard, but you'll get through it, especially if he's sticking by your side. Consider yourself blessed. My mom had my sister in 87, my brother in 88 and me, i was suppose to be born 12-25-89, but i came 1-3-90. She was able to do it, plus she took care of my aunts 5 kids, so a total of 8 kids. If you're not, you'll be laughing about it and just be sure to take more precautions. I'm not sure where you heard you couldn't get pregnant.. because its always possible if you're having sex. Just take a deep breath, everything happens for a reason