i want to be pregnant again, but my baby is only 5 months and im only 17

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Cynthia - posted on 04/04/2010

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not trying to be bossy but i would definately wait and cherrish all the moments with your little one, it goes by too fast as it is in my opinion and i loves watching my lil girl grow. i dont think you would be able to observe him as good with another one so soon. but i know how you feel i want another one really bad aswell =)

Alexis - posted on 03/25/2010

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in my own experience i would say for you to wait. im 19 and have 2 beautiful babies but its a lot of work. i got pregnant with my second when my first was only 6 months. At first i thought it was no big deal i already have one and have no problem taking care of her so it didnt seem like a bad idea and i wanted them close in age. but in reality i was still a teenager still trying to grow up myself and adding 2 babies in the mix plus a marriage it gets really hectic at times. i would say if you really want another to wait until your baby is at least a couple years old and can do things on its own. plus your oldest will be able to help you a little with the baby.

Holly - posted on 03/23/2010

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hey, i too am young im 18 and have a 8 month old son, you have to think about why you want to be pregnant again and come up with some good reasons, you have all the time in the world for more kids, i want another one but we are both young. do you just daydream about being pregnant and aware of your current situation. you would have to talk to your partner if you have one about what he thinks too. are you financialy able to care for two little ones. what about college? your never to old to go back, study then after your course think about getting pregnant. thats what im doing.

when reality sinks in and your pregnant with morning sickness and have a demanding baby you will probably think it wasnt the best idea and wish you waited. you have a baby who is still very young, how would he cope with it all?

hope this helped!

Ashley - posted on 03/23/2010

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It's really up to you, i just turned 18, and have 2 beautiful children only 16months apart and love haveing them so close! My daughter just turned 2 and my son is 8 months and they act like bestfriends already. Because of them being so close i get to spend all my time with both of them, people may say wait so you can have more one on one time but i think i spend just as much time with my first as i do with my second still. As long as you can balance both, and be able to look after two i find no problem in it! But that only my opinion, its completly up to, but think it over good before you make any big choices! I hope this helps. Feel free to add my to your circle if you would like :)

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Sjahrne - posted on 06/22/2011

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dont do it its so much cheaper and easier with 1. Wait awhile Ive got 2 older boys who are 18 months apart I was 17 when I first fell pregnant as much as theyre good cumpany for eachother Its twice as much work. Im currently pregnant with my 4th child baby no 3 is only 13 mnths old soo wasnt planned that way but whats done is done Im not looking forward to twice as much formula diapers sleeplessnights. But personally I dont like pregnancy.

Monique - posted on 06/20/2011

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I suggest waiting, not because your age or what your financial situation may be. I have 5 children, 3 are biologically mine they are 7,3,&1. And 2 that are not they are 7&6. When I got them they were 3&2 and within that month I got pregnant with my second. Can you imagine being pregnant trying to carry around a baby? Or having 2 kids in diapers or the jealousy the older one is going to have cause she doesn't understand how to control that yet or 2 crying babies in the middle of the night. 2 kids throwing tantrums. And as they get a bit older they will probably fight a lot. My opinion wait till she is about 2 or 3 and potty trained.

Monique - posted on 06/20/2011

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I suggest waiting, not because your age or what your financial situation may be. I have 5 children, 3 are biologically mine they are 7,3,&1. And 2 that are not they are 7&6. When I got them they were 3&2 and within that month I got pregnant with my second. Can you imagine being pregnant trying to carry around a baby? Or having 2 kids in diapers or the jealousy the older one is going to have cause she doesn't understand how to control that yet or 2 crying babies in the middle of the night. 2 kids throwing tantrums. And as they get a bit older they will probably fight a lot. My opinion wait till she is about 2 or 3 and potty trained.

Monique - posted on 06/20/2011

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I suggest waiting, not because your age or what your financial situation may be. I have 5 children, 3 are biologically mine they are 7,3,&1. And 2 that are not they are 7&6. When I got them they were 3&2 and within that month I got pregnant with my second. Can you imagine being pregnant trying to carry around a baby? Or having 2 kids in diapers or the jealousy the older one is going to have cause she doesn't understand how to control that yet or 2 crying babies in the middle of the night. 2 kids throwing tantrums. And as they get a bit older they will probably fight a lot. My opinion wait till she is about 2 or 3 and potty trained.

Monique - posted on 06/20/2011

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I suggest waiting, not because your age or what your financial situation may be. I have 5 children, 3 are biologically mine they are 7,3,&1. And 2 that are not they are 7&6. When I got them they were 3&2 and within that month I got pregnant with my second. Can you imagine being pregnant trying to carry around a baby? Or having 2 kids in diapers or the jealousy the older one is going to have cause she doesn't understand how to control that yet or 2 crying babies in the middle of the night. 2 kids throwing tantrums. And as they get a bit older they will probably fight a lot. My opinion wait till she is about 2 or 3 and potty trained.

Lisa - posted on 06/19/2011

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It might just be pregnancy hormones but if its not and you really want another baby and you are ready and your partner is ready, and you are financially able to support another child then all the best to you and your family!

Lorna - posted on 06/19/2011

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I am 17 with a 6 month old, and I have thought of that sometimes too. But we haven't even gotten to the hard part yet, they are really young still and aren't walking and talking back to us yet! Yes babies are adorable but they don't stay babies forever!

How are you able to financially support 2 babies at 17? I know I sure as hell can't with one. Still living with my boyfriends dad and my daughter is on TennCare. My boyfriend and I are working our asses off to go threw college and be able to afford all the things our daughter is going to need. The older they get, the more expensive they get.

I don't know if your in the same boat, but I suggest waiting until you can support yourself completely on your own.

Amber - posted on 06/18/2011

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I'm 18 and my daughter is 7 months old her father doesn't help me out at all but I have a boyfriend that wants one which is weird I'm still living with my parents and yes I do have an urge to get pregnant again sometimes but I think it's because I liked being pregnant but also because I know my boyfriend would help me if I had one but given the situations that I'm in I will wait to have another child at least a few years when my baby is less dependent on me and when I get out of school and get financially stable my point is, your young like me and you have plenty of time for more children you should think about your baby just spend as much time with your baby cause they are only a baby once and they grow up so fast and when they aren't little anymore you can have another so you can replay all the firsts all over again :) but I understand you but my best advice would be to wait....good things alway come to those who wait

Jamie - posted on 04/15/2010

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i think you should wait. Wait til your settled down with someone, married, have a house, good job with good pay. You should know how hard and expensive it is as it is imagine doing that times 2 if you have another one. I mean its all up to you, my opinion i would wait. Im 19, got pregnant at 17 had him when i was 18. Its hard for me no help nothing. I cant go out, if you go out now you prolly wont if u have 2 kids.

Echo - posted on 04/15/2010

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I felt that way after having my first but I'll tell you that it's a little easier having two when they aren't so close together. We waited until our oldest was almost 4 before even talking about having another one. Then again a month after we started thinking about trying for one (we weren't exactly preventing it though) I found out I was pg again. My youngest is 6.5 months right now and I couldn't even imagine having to deal with all his needs and everything plus having to deal with morning sickness and all the ache and pains that accompany pregnancy. It's your decision though, only you can decide if your going to have another one so soon or not.

Tiffini - posted on 04/15/2010

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it is up to you... like are you stable enough to provide for two children, an give them everything they may want or need... i have a 3 year old an now i am expecting, i was scared i wouldnt be able to provide for another so i waited an im confident... ;)

Tahreem - posted on 04/15/2010

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there should be 2 years gaps between babies that what i think otherwise its your choice

Shelby - posted on 04/15/2010

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i would wait for another one its hard to take care of 1 let alone 2 i know. I had my first baby when i was 15 she is now 3 and i now have a 3 month old son and its hard. so wait for a couple of years before you have another one.

Yasmine - posted on 04/15/2010

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you only gave birth 5 months ago. I felt the same at that stage, i desperately wanted another baby... it's your hormones still settling which makes you broody again.

I have a 16month old daughter and I am 10 weeks pregnant with the second. I waited as long as I could but it's still not long enough, I feel sick and my 16month old is into everything at the moment and its SO hard,even with my husband helping loads. I am 20.

Seriously, you know in your head that you should wait til you're older and you will be able to enjoy them both then that much more.

Hope you take my advice!!!!!

best wishes x

Fran - posted on 04/10/2010

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im 19 have a 9 week old i would like to have another one soon too my little boy is the easiest boy in the world never crys unless hes really hungry he sleeps really well happy when hes awake and will go to anyone but then not all babies are like that so knowing my luck the next one will be the complete opposite so wait until you are completely ready because that might happen and then all your time is spent trying to please the difficult baby

Nichola - posted on 04/10/2010

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i was 18 when i had my son and it was the same for me pretty soon after....im now 20 my son is almost 2 i dont have another one yet but im still constantly jealous of pregnant women...but i would wait, you want to be able to enjoy your first baby growing up and it goes so fast. Im planning on trying to convince my bf to have another one after i turn 21 then they would be three years apart which i think is a pretty good space. Good luck in whatever you choose to do!!

Meagan - posted on 04/10/2010

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i had the same delema, i knew i wanted to have more kids, my life was already on hold after having my first so i thought... why dont i just have another one now?? so i did. i have 2 boys 11 months apart. Some things about it are great and others not so glamerous. but its a personal decition. its great cause the kids become so close and entertain eachother but its sometimes overwelming at the start when the 2nd baby is first born cause your up all night with the new baby and up all day with the older one and it always seems when one is napping the other is up but once you get past this part its great! everything doubled tho, double the diaper changes double the feedings but if you have lots of support and lots of patiance and love i would say do it up! haha

Keri - posted on 04/08/2010

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wait, thats the best advice. Enjoy the time you have right now with your first born. He needs your undevided attention and your so young.

Tanya - posted on 04/08/2010

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im going to that if u think its the right thing to do and u think u csn handle it, then go for it darl! i will warn you though, it will probly be a bit hard at first, but u'll get there. i had my 1st at 17 and my 2nd at 22. i admit its bloody hard somedays, but then the other days its a breeze. ur still very young, so just really think on this one. u will make the right choice.

Anastasia - posted on 04/08/2010

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i remember my son at 5mths, i was lucky as he was (usually) an all night sleeper but the teething was horrific...screaming, pain, various interupted sleeps. usually this would go on for 3-4 weeks for every tooth with only (if I was lucky) 1 week rest in between for both me and Toby, this teething crap went on from 4mths - about 9mths almost solid. and then he was able to deal with the rest of the forthcoming teeth with obvious pain and anger during the day but better at night with minimal waking.
Bub is now 17mths and baby no2 is due 2 wks after he turns yrs2. Atm hes a calm, patient, little fellow who sleeps like a pro and is very good to his mummy.

anyway, my point is that even though i was foolish enough to try and push my partner for another baby at 4 months, i an SOOOOOO glad he did not agree. it would have been so hard to look after a little child in pain and deal with morning sickness and a growing belly.

i say wait until you kido is old enough for things to be a bit easier for everyone involved...

Sharleanne - posted on 04/08/2010

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All i can say is if i were you, i would wait. I,m 18 and i have a 4 month old baby.. and i think from time to time that i want another one. But then i think. Ok so my baby rightnow will be about a year by the time this next one comes. Hayden won't be potty trained, maybe just starting, he's going to to be into everything ect.. it would be hard.. LOL! I pretty well had to raise my brothers and they are 4 years apart and that is hard anough.. So if i werre you i would wait.. You have lots of time to have another baby. Share each moment with your children!

Katherine - posted on 04/08/2010

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I don't blame you for wanting to be pregnant again (I'm 19 and I looooved being pregnant) but you really should wait. Let your body heal and let your baby grow up a little. Especially if you're still in school. Taking care of a baby is hard enough without being pregnant. You can't take naps when you need them, etc., and it's a terrible strain on your body and sanity. For your own health, wait. Doctors say to wait at least 18 months before getting pregnant again if you can possibly help it.

Amber - posted on 04/08/2010

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nooo sorry try giving your child some time to grow up please i have two im 20 this year my first i had when i was just 15 and i love my boys but still could have given my eldest more time to grow up

Candance - posted on 04/07/2010

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I think I understand how you feel. Im 20 going on 21 and have been going through the phase of wanting another baby too. But after you think about the struggles you went through with dealing with family disagree with the time the baby comes, money problems, or just knowing how you are going to be able to care for the baby and go to work and/or school it comes down to the wrong time at our age. I keep telling myself that I need to finish college and get a well paid job to provide a home for my children and to have fun with just one child because when you have a second it will be almost impossible to do all that you want w/ your second as you did w/ your first.

Tanisha - posted on 04/07/2010

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hey, well i kno how u feel... i want another baby right now also! my sons about to b 2 in june, and well ill b 20 in november but after i had my son i was ready for another one!! its just how it is... we cant change that but my advice is to wait until they r at least out of diapers!

Laura - posted on 04/07/2010

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hi my daughter is 3 months old on sunday and im only 17 (be 18 in ,may) but i think you might be rushing in to it a bit, obviously i don't know you but you can't be finding it easy looking after your baby at this, age i know it's hard at times, Ok maybe having there ages close together would be nice for them but i feel, that having atleast 2 years between them gives you a chance to get over the first birth and also bond with your baby and get him/her potty trained so you don't have both in nappies which will cost more money as well hope this helps and makes sense lol x

Marielos - posted on 04/06/2010

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You should wait. Think of school, and you could make a list, of pros and cons, i was thinking the same only my child is going to be two in July. Believe me it gets hard and having a little one who needs constant attention wont make things better for you when the new addition comes along.

Kelsea - posted on 04/06/2010

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It's Completely up to you. Consider what the future looks like for you and your baby you already have. Weather you have or want to complete high school or college, how you will be capable of supporting two children, what kind of support group (friends & family) you have, how much child care would be for 2... everything. I'm 19. My pregnancy was unplanned and I know what it's like to be financially unable to completely support the child I will soon have all on my own. Thankfully, the father is almost more excited than myself. And his family is amazing. I've completed high school, but I haven't started college yet. I plan to soon, but there's no promises on how it will go once I'm juggling it, hopefully a job, and taking time with my Child, my boyfriend, and our families.

Everyone is different. And it's totally up to you. Just make sure you consider every possible situation that could come of caring for two, in addition to yourself, before you make a disicion. Remember, You're young. Unless a doctor has told you otherwise, You have quite a few years untill you won't be able to carry a baby again.

Either way, I wish you the best of what life has to bring for you!


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Kayla - posted on 04/06/2010

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I am 18 with a nine month old baby. Not too long ago, I found out that I was 2 months pregnant. Even though some people may not approve, I am really excited, but I know how hard it will be for my husband to support all of us. Because the economy sucks! But we know as a family that we can get through it. And we also have a lot of support from both sets of grandparents. So I say, if both sets of parents are ready and you know you can do it together, then go for it.

Rochele - posted on 04/06/2010

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I am 19, and turning 20 in july...i have a 22 month daughter, she will be 2 at the end of may...i am due 3 days after i turn 20...right now, i am freaking out ex: how am i going to do this, shes a handful as it is, how is she going to be with the baby?....i was like you, a few months after she was born, i wanted to be pregnant again, i think when you are pregnant, you get more attention and being so young, i would advise you to spend a lot of time with your baby... i have been a sahm with my daughter since the day she was born and i love it...there are times that it is overwhelming, but you get through it...take your time with your baby you have now...get to know him/her and then decide...just remember: they always say the first baby is the best...my daughter rarely cried, now since i cant pick her up all the time, she is throwing temper tantrums, you have to think of how your baby will be affected too, the first year of life is the most important, do you really want to be dealing with a pregnancy for the rest of it?

just a few things to think about

Amy - posted on 04/05/2010

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I think you should wait I am 19 and have two children I had my daughter when I was 15 and she is now about to turn 4 and my son was born 6 months ago...It is nice having them a ways apart because my daughter is able to understand better that mommy may not be able to spend every minute with her like i used to, but she also has no resentment or sibliing rivilary with him either she looks out for him and talks about how much she loves him all the time and she plays with him and even WANTS to help change his diapers! it is great...That is not the only reason I think you should wait going for one child to 2 CHILDREN is a big step! I did not think it would be that different but it is! it is like becoming a mother all over again. Plus if you are in school like i am or even just working you have to think about the price of 2 children and double up the babysitters pay as well...but it is always your choice but jsut think about it i mean if you get pregnant again now there is no turning back but you can always try again in a few years

Cathy - posted on 04/05/2010

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i would not recommend having another when your still young. i'd give yourself time to adjust properly & get settled before bringing another baby into the world.

Roseanna - posted on 04/05/2010

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Its your choice and decision, but i went through this stage but my partner said no and im kinda glad he did,my daughters nearly 2 and now im thinkin aboutit agaiin as i think shes old enough

Renae - posted on 04/04/2010

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yup um i am 17 and have an 8 mnth old i sometimes wish to be preganant again i do miss it bt i wuld wait a bit yea and you can spend all ur time with ur 5mnth old if your with ur partner and u bth feel ready then it up to you bt i wuld wait spend a gud quality time with ur son.

Shaudenik - posted on 04/03/2010

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Honestly its your choice, but my advice would be to wait my daughter is about to turn 2 and shes into everything!!! im 4 months prego now n trust me hunny its hard!!

Stacey - posted on 04/03/2010

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I am 38 now and was 17 when I had my son. When girls would see my belly in high school, they would say they wanted a baby too.This isn't a game, or a toy you can just put away when you get tired of it, but you should know all that by now. I hope you have graduated from high school, and I also hope you are considering some sort of continued education. I graduated pregnant with my son and waited till he started school to continue my education. In this day and age, with everything being so expensive, you really need to further your education, so that you have a chance for a good job. At your age, you cannot count on your partner to support you and your children forever. I loved being pregnant too, but that feeling doesn't pay the bills. And more kids costs more money. Children are a lifetime commitment, I really want to encourage everyone to consider this before trying to have them. Please just take time to love your child, and to grow up yourself before you bring another child into this world. It's hard to raise just one, but much harder to raise two, and especially if you are on your own.

Jacey - posted on 04/03/2010

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i also have to say that, and maybe this isnt your case, but most teenage pregnancies are because young girls just want little babies because theyre cute and little and dont understand what that entails. you know what it entails so you should be able to fight off that feeling.

Chantelle - posted on 04/03/2010

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Well. I think you should wait. Perhaps you are going through a faze.! I know I went through that faze 1 year ago..My son is 20 months old tomorrow, and trust me they are a handful at that age. I do not want any more children. Not now anyways. Just enjoy the one you have now. A baby 5 months old needs alot of attention, and you having another when he/she is at such a young age is going to be really hard on the both of you I think anyways. But in the end it is all up to you.! gdluck on whatever decission you make

Chantella - posted on 04/02/2010

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Gurl Wait, children are a blessing but its very fraustrating with two little kids..I am 18 and i have a 2 yr old and my son will be a month on the 6th. I love my kids and being a mommy but i have so much left to do and im going to have a rough road.Im telling u from experence WAIT! Until u have a good job and the patience!! :)----chantella

Christina - posted on 04/02/2010

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i think you should wait and i say this because your body hasn't fully recovered from being pregnant with the first one yet. you should always wait atleast 15 months between having kids. it takes that long to recover.

Sicily - posted on 03/31/2010

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i got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17.... and i have already decided that i am never having another child... im sure if i had a normal pregnancy and delivery then my mind prolly wouldnt be set to that... but it is... bein a teen mom... its hard enough for me to take care of my one child... not so much the love and care... but financially... i dont think it would be a good idea for me to have another one any time soon... but if u have the father of the baby with you... and standing by you and helping you out... then u just have to decide whether or not u can raise another baby... and still take care of your 5 month old

Kristy - posted on 03/31/2010

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my daughter is 8 1/2 months. im seven and a half months pregnant. im tired all the time right now and i will have to keep up with her as the time comes for this next baby. maybe things will be ok when she comes but right now its hard. its alot of strain on the bady to pick up a young child while pregnant. and you would have to do it everyday. my daughter just recently got sick and im the one caring for her mostly so i got sick too. come to find out if i were less further along the sickness my daughter has could have made me lose my baby. life is unpredictable but you should do your best to plan well. thinking of yourself and your child and who will care for them both when you want to sleep but the newborn is crying and the older one is hiding somewhere you cant find em? it happens. regardless every child is a blessing. take care.

Kiri - posted on 03/31/2010

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i was 17 when i first got pregnant with my eldest, had him september 2008, 4 months later i got pregnant. honestly i wasnt overly happy when i found out for the second time, now i have a 18 month old boy and a 6 month old girl, love them both to pieces but i think if i could go back i would have had a bigger gap, my body hadnt fully recovered from the first pregnancy and it was really difficult, i would suggest you wait and enjoy your baby. its not easy having two babies, loads of nappy changing and really busy, not looking forward to when she starts crawling.. i also have the full support of the father and sometimes it can still get tough, i would suggest you think carefully about all the things you will have to do, what effect it will have on your child and wether its truly the best thing to do, rather than just what you feel like doing at the moment, there is no harm in waiting at least a few more months, gd luck and hope it all goes well

Melissa - posted on 03/29/2010

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im not tryin to sound mean but.... R U ON CRACK?....i have 1 two month old n im 17n sometimes i want to poke myself in the eye . i think u should go though college get a degree or get ur self some where in life first.u have to think of the wht ifs n wht could bes like wht if something happens to the man ur with at the time n u hav no degree n no good job how da hell r u goin to support ur self? i think u should think about standing on ur own two feet befor u want another baby. besides u hav ur whole life ahead of u y settle down now? but in the end its not really wht others think its wht u want.

Kristina - posted on 03/29/2010

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Definitely wait. I had my daughter when I was 17. I can't tell you many times since I've had her that I wanted it all over again. The fact of the matter is you probably miss being pregnant. The feeling of it, baby kicking inside you, being able to rub your belly, all those great things. But probably not too keen on the idea of having another baby on your hands correct? That's normal. I went through it. When my daughter turned about a month old I really started to miss being pregnant. I missed everything about it (except the weight gain haha). But I knew that I couldn't handle another kid especially with the situations I was in (and am still currently in). So wait. Please wait. Trust me, it will be much easier on you and this feeling of wanting to be pregnant again will come and go throughout baby's life..

Jamie - posted on 03/28/2010

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Im 19 and married my babys daddy. I had a hard time for a while cause i knew i wanted more kids but my husband was totally against it. I realised tho that right now our lives were really hectic and i could kinda see why he was so hestitant. So for my sack i decided to wait till after my 21st before i made any rash decisions. Bringing a life into this world is not some little thing. You have to think about not only yourself and your future but the child you already have and the child your thinking about making. Because your only 17 im sure you havent finished college or landed a career yet that would enable you to care for 2 kids. So just think things over.

Renee - posted on 03/28/2010

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dont listen to people when they are saying "just wait" its entirely up to you i feel exactly the same my daughter is 11 months now and ive been desperate for another one since i had her it depends on what sort of a person you are i am very family minded i love being with my family and i love being a mum and having to get up in the night and give feeds bath her take care of her when shes sick i love everything bout being mum and i am planning my next child i cant wait im supprised ive waited this long as it is you do what you want if you feel that you could cope with two babies and you would be happy id say do it i would but you said your son is brilliant and never cries he may stay like that but my daughter was exactly the same she was an angel was no trouble ever but as soon as she was crawling and up and about i thought it got harder she wasnt the angel she was before lol but she so much fun i hope you do what you want not what other people want or say good luck hun.

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