I want to know what moms out there are beating the statistics.

Kayliecia - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 129 moms have responded )

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I was a teen mom, and im just wondering what ya'll are doing to beat the statistics as in they say that we're not going to college we don't ever get out of poverty. I think that there wrong atleast what ive seen our world has changed! and yes there is alot of teen moms out there but good moms! i think you can be a teen mom and you can be as good of a mom as a 30 year old woman!. I'm still in poverty but im going to college and getting my Nursing degree and making a good life! and i have 2 little boys. I'm just getting upset at the people like i was listening on the radio and they were saying how it's so horrible and stuff but honestly our world is just changing and we can take the harder route and be a teen mom.

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Tiffany - posted on 02/09/2010

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I got married at 17 and my son at 18 and at first we struggled, but we got through the "poverty" we make good money, we are not rich, but we are middle class. It took two years but we beat the odds! We live in a nice apartment have a nice car and dress good too. So i think we beat that statistic! =)

Marie - posted on 02/09/2010

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I was a teen mom and I finished my undergrad in 4 years then quickly went to finish up my MBA 2 years after I finished my undergrad. I currently work for an awesome organization in downtown Washington DC and I am on the path to start a doctorate degree next year!!

Robyn - posted on 02/08/2010

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I was 15 when i had my little boy. i carried on with school. got my GCSE's (after years of not attending school), got into college, carrying on with college & over the next few years hope to be a youth worker. People forget we are the next generation, they are so quick to slag us off ect, yet they forget that our grandparents generation had children at a younger age. Not all young parents are sponging off the government.

Allissa - posted on 02/08/2010

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I'm almost 20 years old n I can honestly say that teen parents DO make damn good moms if they put their heart into it. Like you, I am in poverty and attending college 4 a nursing degree. Every1 just needs 2 realize that teens are more mature now than they have been in the past. I come from a family of teen parents, n every 1 I know has succeeded. Just look on the bright side, @ least u are doing what u can for your children

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Ana - posted on 03/24/2014

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I am 21, had my son at 17. I am a single mom, with a good job & I'm going back to college this fall. I am blessed to have a lot of support from my family, but I also work hard for everything my son & I have. I am on a path to build a career in a multi-billion dollar company with job security & benefits. I'm only 21, by the time I'm 30, I'm looking to make 3x what half the people who judge me & put me down & told my mom I wasn't going to graduate & that I fucked up my life. My son only gave me a better reason to go harder.

Tamsin - posted on 03/07/2014

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it's the show teen mom that gives us a bad reputation. those arent average teen moms because theyre all more obsessed with being on television and becoming famous than looking after their children and being good parents! it's a fame game to a lot (not all) of them.

Mallory - posted on 02/25/2014

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Hi my name is Mallory I'm I'm 18 and a senior in high school... I'm SO tired of teen moms getting stereotyped... All those statistics AREN'T true... Like being a teen mom means premature birth.. or your baby will have an mental illness.. or that most of them don't finish high school.. or they get on welfare.. and there single moms and there partner leaves the mom .. Yeah that's bull crap.. because I'm engaged and my fiance and I are STILL together and there's a difference between planning a pregnancy and not planning one.. My fiance and I planned a pregnancy... i originally thought I wasn't going to be able to have kids and that him and I were going to have to adopt, but him and I found out on Christmas that we were having a baby and I'm now 3 months pregnant, and I also got engaged on Christmas.. and were STILL together and I'm finishing up my senior year.. I might have to finish it in G.E.D. but that's OKAY because I can STILL get into 4 year college... And my fiance was home school at Gateway and got a REGULAR high school diploma and now he has a successful job as a office worker.. and has a yearly salary, but for now he's starting off by getting a check every two weeks and is banking it... Soooo people who have those AWFUL statistics about teen moms NOT succeeding in life SCREW YA'LL... Lol I think ANYONE can be a teen mom and have a good heart.. So, yeah.. that's my story good luck other teen moms :) I know ya'll can do it!!

Nikki - posted on 05/07/2013

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Keep up your hard work! It will pay off! The fact that you can actually write a grammatically-correct sentence with all of the words spelled correctly is a positive sign.. It scares me to see so many "college" students who can't spell a word or write a proper sentence to save their lives!! Yipes!!

The best day of my life was the day I earned my degree in biochemistry, after 7 long, hard years of working towards it. The best part? My 6 year-old son saying 'I'm so proud of you mommy! I know how hard you worked for this and you finally did it!!" Nothing could ever top that!

Toni - posted on 04/26/2013

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Living in poverty is no excuse to be a bad mother.
I barely survive each and every week, but I always make sure my son has the food and everything he needs.
I am also buying a house on vendor finance terms, and I have just started schooling from home so I can open my own business.
Yes It is a struggle right now, but within 2 years I will have my own business, and the house I am buying is cheap, but it gives me somewhere permanent to live, and something I can leave behind for my son when I pass.

Rosa - posted on 04/23/2013

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does anyone have a child that has down syndrome that is around 6 years that is humping on pillows or soft toys?frustrated and dont know what to do although they say its normal how do i stop him

Rosa - posted on 04/23/2013

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wow !That all i got to say its women like youare what give me the strenghth to get up in the morning so you get some rest and find some love women your children will grow up and leave and find there love you need to at least not loose touch that you are a women and you have needs.

Rosa - posted on 04/23/2013

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yeah there are good teen moms!do you think it would have been easier without kids ?like going to school? now you have to struggle just to find a babysitter, not that your kids arent worth it all. kids are worth it i just think its smarter to wait but that doesnt make it wrong . stay strong ,stay in school and you will beat those statistics Goodluck!!!!!

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I think I'm beating the statistics. I married my daughters father. We've been happily married for 3 years. We both work and support our family.. never had to ask anyone in our families for money. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, but its not like we need a big house right now. We drive a 2013 Kia soul, and just sold our 2004 Jeep. I haven't went to college, but its an option right now. I think we have a pretty great life considering. we're happy and thats all that matters right?

Nikki - posted on 03/29/2013

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I was a teen mom that now has three teenage children. It took me over ten years to complete college, but I made it through and earned two BS degrees as a result of all of my hard work. One is in Chemistry and the other is in Economics. Student loans weren't enough, so I worked two part-time jobs while going to school full-time. Several of my single classmates who did not have kids and had parents paying for their education didn't make it as far as I did, but then again, when you have to work that hard for something you believe in, you aren't going to let it slip through your fingers for any reason. I held on to my dreams with a grip that was comparable to a cliffhanger holding on for dear life, and my perseverance, commitment and drive allowed me to reach one of many milestones I would like to achieve in my life.

As far as rising above poverty, well, with all of my student loan payments sucking about half of my monthly income away before I ever get it, it isn't happening as quickly as I hoped having a college degree would allow me to. I still am technically 117% below the federal poverty limit for a family of four, but yet make too much to qualify for any type of government assistance. Add to that the whopping $200 total (NOT per child) I get in child support each month to offset the cost of three children, and it because readily apparent that those who work their behinds off are the ones getting screwed the hardest. Such is life, right?

I was single when I had my first two children, but after my boyfriend and I had my daughter, we got married. I was pregnant with our third child when we did. That lasted all of five years, and then I wasted another five dealing with the pain of our fallout by drinking excessively. After nearly destroying my life and hurting everyone around me, I decided to stop being an idiot and take responsibility for me. For my pain, for my mistakes, for my failures.. Until I did that, I could have never made it to where I am now, which is still an eternity away from where I would like to be.

Those on the radio say it is horrible because they know how absolutely difficult raising a child is, and how much harder it is when you have little to no support or life experience to fall back on. I'm only in my mid-30's, but I have been through hell and back, and I can tell you that I honestly wish I had been both older and in a healthy, stable situation before having children. I know I would have appreciated them more, and would have been in a much better position to be the best mother to them that I could be. I wouldn't have to work multiple jobs to afford rent, food, insurance, etc., and could actually spend time enjoying my kids and not just struggling to survive and keep food in their mouths. I leave my house at 4:30 AM, and don't usually get home for the day until almost 9 PM. Sometimes later. Am I proud of that? YOU BET! I'm setting a positive example for them, even if they don't really know who I am since they rarely get to see me. They love me nonetheless, but the older they get, the more my absence is felt. They need me now more than ever, but I am so exhausted by the time I get home, I really don't have much left to give them except grief for not keeping up with their rooms, grades, etc. Then there is the loneliness that comes with being a young, single mother. It is SO hard to find a decent man that isn't scared off by the thought of having to accept three almost grown people in order to accept me. There has only been one that I trusted enough to have around my children since getting divorced, and doing so made me feel terrible in the end because when it didn't work out between us, the kids were as hurt by the failed relationship as I was. I refuse to ever do that to them again, so dating has been on the back burner for years now. Notice the plural. Years. I hate to say it, but no matter how awesome they are, kids simply don't fill the void that comes from wandering through life without a partner. But kids make it hard to find a partner, not just because of my concern with their feelings and what bringing another person into our home and family would do to the dynamics that already exist, but because I simply do not have the time. When could I possibly squeeze dating in ? I barely have enough time to get enough sleep each night!! Ugh..

It is much easier to raise children when both of the people who made the child are working together as a team to bring that child up, regardless of whether the parents stay together or split up. Now, fast-forward to real life, and that picture of the ideal situation more or less dissolves into a reality that is built on irresponsibility, broken promises and a legacy of depression and dysfunction that we will ultimately pass on to our children. Yes, plenty of single moms make it out of the dire circumstances they end up in, but why make life harder than it already is? If you are trying to convince yourself that teen pregnancy is not only ok, but a good thing, then you are lying to yourself. After all, it's not just you that is affected by your choice to bring a child into a world that you aren't even prepared for.. But for those of you out there who are finding yourselves with the responsibility of the world on your shoulders when they are barely strong enough to support the bra straps that just started hanging on them, keep your head up. It will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, and the battle will likely drain most of your positive energy and hope out of you, but in the end, you will have children that blame you for everything that is wrong with them to thank you for all of your hard work. =)

So yeah, be proud that you are a teen mom, but be aware that all of the choices you make as you live, learn and figure life out will affect not just you, but your child(ren) as well. Make sure those choices are ones that result in positive outcomes, even when the situations you are applying those choices to are anything but positive. With the right attitude, support and choices, you can do whatever it is that you set your mind to, and can raise a child as well as your older, supposedly more prepared counterparts can. Age is not the defining factor; love is. Love yourself and your children, and never forget that your dreams will become your reality if you are willing to work hard enough to see them materialize!! And NEVER, EVER GIVE UP HOPE!!

MataKay - posted on 03/01/2013

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I'm 19 with a 20 mo. old son.
4 Credits left to earn my Associate's degree, transferring to a University next year.

Married my baby's father right after the birth of my baby just because I didn't wanna be a statistic, but quickly learned that was a terrible mistake. In the of filing for divorce now.

Yes, i am on government help, and my family helps out a lot with watching my baby but I just got a 2nd job and i am making all the sacrifices now because I don't want to stay a statistic forever. I have God's help and I am happier than I used to be, back when i was pretending to be a happy family.

Hang in there young mamas! You can make it big!

*Party* - posted on 02/22/2013

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Um , hey :) I'm sixteen and a single mom . Six months Pregnant !!!
But my daughter is so far healthy :)
And I plan on beating the statistics by simply continuing on with my plans;)
I will be a great mom ,
and since I have her RIGHT at the end of school ( May 23rd )
it gives me three months to get to know her and get comfortable .
When I have to go back to school in August ,
she will go across the street to daycare .
I will pick her up after school , and just continue that:)
But I plan on doing online courses because I'm a Freshman.
So If I take online schooling in the summer AND do the public school during year ..
Then I should be a junior next year and graduate year after that:)
So it moves along faster !!!
After that , I plan waiting a year to spend with my daughter ,
and then heading off to do a college .
While I'm at college my daughter can stay with friends or relatives or daycares .
( Preferably relatives ! )
So I have it allll planned out :) It will work .

And btw ,
before I got pregnant I smoked ,drank, partied, etc.
I had failing grades ( which is why I'm sixteen and still freshman , failed last year ).
And my life was headed to hell .

But since I got pregnant I have a reason to live ,
a reason to be smart and pass school and do good in life :)
She gave me HOPE ! and a PURPOSE !
So now I am clean FOR GOOD !!!
No more parties OR smoking /drinking .
And I am now a straight A student ( except stupid Algebra, I got a C ) .
So she's really changed my life :)
FOR THE BETTER !




*Screw statistics . they are all wrong;) We'll show them *

Eve Marie - posted on 02/22/2013

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I,m 24 had my daughter at 19, graduated from university in management, my daughter goes to private school, i work full time, and live on my own, stupid statistics, they don't know what their talking about :)

Melanie - posted on 02/19/2013

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Stats say that if you were a teen mom that you will end up on welfare and your child will do the same. However, I have never been on welfare but have worked up to four jobs at a time when it was necessary and my daughter that I had at age 17, graduated high school in the top 3% of her class went on to a private university and earned two bachelor degrees and now works as an accountant in a big four accounting firm. She is now in her mid 20's and still has not had any children but plans to once she marrys.

Marissa - posted on 11/16/2012

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I got preg with my first at 19 had her at 20. i now have 3 kids age 4, 2 and 9 months. different dads, o and im a single mother. hows that for social stigma? lol. I am almost through with my Associates degree and yes also still in the poverty percentage, but as far as im concerned im doing my best and quite frankly its alot better than alot of moms out there who dont care about their kids or dont take care of their kids or themselves. Im just trying to get through life the best way i can and give my kids what i can so that they can do the same. If people have a problem with that, well they have the problem not me. I dont care about statistics or social media or idiotic stigmas placed on people because of such trivial crap like age or race or income or education. My mother never went to college and she raised 4 kids by herself all of us have gone to college. and she has been working with real estate and property managment now for a good 12 years. Statistics are nothing but a bunch of random numbers put together to make people believe their points of veiw. if you look hard enough you can find a statistic to support any idea. I say F*** the statistics. just do your best. Period.

Melissa - posted on 11/13/2012

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I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with my first and it's a girl!! I am 18 and me and my fiance planned to have a baby after an incident where we thought we accidently got pregnant because my period was late and it turned out I wasn't and we were so depressed because the idea of having a baby together was something amazing. Finacially we were stable enough to have a baby and considering how much we loved each other we were dead set on having a baby so we tried and luckily we didn't have any problems concieving. I hadn't finished high school so once i found out I was prego I signed up for GED testing and completed it in less than a month on the highest level possible (level A) :). And now I am getting signed up for a 6 week CNA training class to obtain my CNA Certification in December (next month) before our little bundle of joy arrives in Janurary. After the classes are over and she arrives I will be employed as a CNA and will be enrolled in college to further my education so I can become a Pediatric Nurse Practioner. I can honestly say having a baby young does not mess with your life. Not that I promote teen pregnancy but I believe life is what you make of it. Babies are blessings and If you have a baby young so be it just make sure you have your priorities straight and get your life together so you can supply a wonderful life for your little miracle. :)

Carmen - posted on 10/22/2012

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Now, I would never want to encourage people to become teen moms, however, I agree that it isn't impossible to be a great mom at a young age! I was 18 when I had my first. I am 28 now. I am a college graduate with my BA, I have been married for 8 years, and I do not rely on anyone, especially the government to pay my way. I am successful because I'm living an independent, happy, and wonderful life. I am also a great mom. My kids are happy, healthy, and are consistently A/B students. They know right from wrong, and are always praised at school for being friendly and helpful. So, yes, young moms are just as capable of living a great life and being a fantastic mom as a thirty year old. The only unique challenges are dealing with the criticism of society and figuring out who we are as individuals. However, that shouldn't (and doesn't) stop us from being the best people we can be. Now, if you are thinking of having a baby young and aren't pregnant yet, DON'T DO IT!!! Just because I say that it isn't impossible, doesn't mean it is glorious! It makes life very challenging!! Very, VERY challenging! Wait until you are married to that fabulous man and you can enjoy it properly. :o)

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Elizabeth - posted on 02/23/2010

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I had my daughter when I was 17. I was in my senior year of high school. I continued high school even after she was born. I graduated with a GPA over 3.5. This year I started college in the fall. I even made the Dean's list this fall. I am currently taking 15 hours. I plan on being out of this college with my associates of art degree by next summer. Just because you have a child does not make schooling impossible. Yeah we may need a little help to begin with, but we get adjusted and learn to make it. :)

Brandi - posted on 02/23/2010

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I agree I had my son in 11th grade when I was 16 and I finished high school and graduated and Now yes I am a stay at home mom but I am married and my husband (also the BABYS daddy) works and brings home decent money and we also have a house that we are renting and its been that way for almost a year well ever since I graduated. But I do hate when I hear stuff about how horrible we are but you know what most teen parents do it way better the 30 and 40 yr old parents I know many of older people who go out and buy drugs and alcohol with there very last penny instead of buying their kids something they need I would NEVER do that and Im sure many of teen parents wouldnt. So now lets get some talk about them going on and then they wouldnt act as if were the horrible people, LETS SHOW THE WORLD THAT BEING A TEEN PARENT ISNT SO BAD!!! THAT THEY NEED TO LOOK AT ALL AGES NOT JUST US B/C WERE YOUNG!!!!

Amy - posted on 02/23/2010

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I was 16 when I had my first. I am a teen mom of 3.

I am currently going to school to get my adult diploma. Then Im going to cosmetology and hopefully opening up a full body salon for teens and pre-teens to boost their self esteem.

My boyfriend and I just bought a mobile home and we remodeled it. We hope to completley fix the trailer up completley and flip it.

Emma - posted on 02/23/2010

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hi ya. im 21 and i fell pregnant at 18 and had my baby boy when i was 19 (my partner was also 19). we are still together and both agree becoming parents is the best thing that ever happened to us and we dont regret having him young at all. we enjoy being active with him and beating those types of statistics. i am into my 2nd year of my bachelor of nursing and my partner is working full time. :) life is good

Misty - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was 17 when I had my daughter (an April baby). I started college (full load) in the fall and worked weekends for the first semester and part time throughout the week for the next couple of years. Then I moved to a university to finish - graduated in 5 years. Got a full time job in my degree field and doing fine :) - I graduated 7 years ago. You can beat the odds, but what helped me was an awesome family support system. My daughter grandparents and greatgrandparents babysat and my parents helped me with some finances (but not a lot - I got scholarships and grants/loans to pay for most of my stuff)

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I don't think anyone has the right to judge anyone else. There are a lot of young moms out there, but that doesn't make us bad moms. Many of us are great parents, and because we had our children at young ages we can experience life with our little ones and still be able to play with them when they are teenagers and not be old to do the things they want to do. I love being a young mom. I'm currently in college, I plan to get a masters degree in accounting and open a tax office. I have a 17 month old son and a 6 month old daughter, and we don't live in poverty. We don't have all the nicest things in life, but we have what we need and more. We're all taken care of, healthy, and happy! I don't like statistics, it's just another way of stereotyping the world.

Desiree - posted on 02/21/2010

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im 15 and a mum of a 5 month old son im doing a diploma in graphic design and finnishing highschool i live in house and not in poverty my mum is happy and healthy and has everything he needs sure sometimes it gets a little tight moneywise but we always come out with about 50bucks still in the bank, my son comes first in my life and everything i put myself through now is just to insure he has a great future

Kara - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hey i had my son when i was 17 i was in the middle of doing my a-levels, i took 4 months off school when i first had him then i got him in to private day nursery and continued my studies i passed and i got into univeristy, i am not studying a web design degree and he still attends nursery which he loves, i also live in my own house and i work part time at nights and i think im doing a pretty good job considering his dad is in the armed forces and is living away from home a lot, im going to make something of my life and no matter what having a baby isnt gonna stop me......

Courtney - posted on 02/20/2010

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I am a teen mom and have never been in poverty. When I was 3 months pregnant, I moved in with my boyfriend. We then moved to a new city and have a wonderful 4 bedroom house and everything we need, living comfortably. He is going to medical school and I am a full time student

Ariel - posted on 02/20/2010

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I had my daugther when i was 16 and she was born last july 4th. I am still in high school getting straight A's and raisny my daughter as an only parent. I will be going to college within the next year to be a world history teacher

Lucinda - posted on 02/20/2010

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I had my son when I was 17 and adopted my niece as my daughter when I was 18; all of this before 2000. I have been in the gutter financially in the past, but I have NEVER been poor since being a mother. I have also graduated high school and completed a degree and have since become a nurse. I hate the stereotypes, too, but I find it best to hope that those people find out differently. Teen parents are not always bad parents. Hell, there are people that have children at the 'correct' age and aren't very good to their kids at all. My mother was 39 when I was born, and she went so far as to stop talking to me when I got pregnant with my son. That is not my definition of a good mother. At all.

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I'm a teen mom and have DEFINITELY beat statistics. I got pregnant at fifteen had her at seventeen, then got pregnant with my son at sixteen and had him at seventeen. I graduated high school a year early, with an advanced diploma. I'm now eighteen and only a year away from becoming a registered nurse. I have high hopes to become a neuroscience nurse practitioner, which I WILL accomplish. I'm a great mother and love my children very much, they're always smiling and laughing. They have everything that they need and most of the things that they want. As for the daddies always leave, NOT TRUE. Their dad and I just had our three year anniversary, and he supports us completely. He's twenty now. When I become a nurse, he will go back to school and become a gym teacher! We've got a perfect little happy family, just a couple years earlier than most.

Glory - posted on 02/19/2010

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I sure am beating the statistics! I'm finishing my Senior yr of high school right now and graduating ON-TIME with A's and B's, i did have straight A's while i was pregnant until i had to be on bed rest i got A's and B's, and before i was pregnant i had D's, C's and F's so my daughter defintely helped me get my s**t together! I'm still finishing my senior project and doing it on teen mothers beating statistics and how we all need a new label and and very proud of my topic! I got student of the month many times while i was pregnant (nerd lol) i am already enrolled into college for my nursing degree and SPU has been trying to get me to go to their school and throwing all sorts of opportunities at me. I've been with my babe for 3 yrs now and we're getting engaged and waiting until i turn 18 (THIS JULY =] ) to get married...he truly is my high school sweetheart and we love each other very much! i'll see you ladies on the highway to success! good luck ladies!

Timi - posted on 02/19/2010

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I am going back to college in the Fall. My son will be almost a year old. We can do anything anybody else can we might just have a few more challenges than everybody else!! Good luck with your degree!!

Kristen - posted on 02/19/2010

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i was 18 when i had my daughter. im 19 now but i missed my first semester of college and went back this semester cause i want to work. i still live with my parents but that doesnt alway bother me considering i dont have to pay for anything and they are very supportive, it also helps a lot that the babys father moved in with me

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I was 18 years old when I got pregnant with my son I had already been outta high school for almost 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. I also had him at 18 years old. I'm 19 years old now and I'm taking college course online at American InterContinental University. I'm trying to earn my Bachelor's degree in Criminal Justice. My baby's father and I are still together (4 years strong) and are engaged and plan to marry in the next few years. He works at a place called Centocor Inc. which is part of the Johnson & Johnson Corporation. We've been living together for almost two years and couldn't be happier :)

Kiara - posted on 02/18/2010

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I agree with you. There are many 30 and 40 year old parents who still get assistance from the state and are able bodied persons. Its very hard being a teen parent but I believe the media puts that out there like that in attempt to cut down on teen pregnancies.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010

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I was 17 when i had my dauther, hailey. I got my GED, and then went to college and graduated last june. I think i'm beating statistics. I'm 20 now almost 21 and i'm expecting another child. I say screw statistics, it's just a bunch of bs.

Kayla - posted on 02/18/2010

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I found out I was pregnant with my daughter in March of my senior year, I went to school everyday, even with the morning sickness just so that I could finish on time. I worked through all of my pregnancy, I started college at a technical school in September. My daughter was born in October of 2009, I work, I go to school and I do everything I can to make her life a better place.

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agreed. I think about that everytime I achieve one of my goals. In your FACE. lol I was 17 when I had my little boy. I worked my ASS off to finish highschool on time. I continued on to college as normal and Im about to recieve my associates degree in applied sciences at the end of this term. Next year I'll be enrolled into the nursing program. WE can do anything that anyone else can do. We just have to work harder to get there. My little boy just got accepted into a private preschool because i refused to send him to the one for low income families. I do everything and anything i can to make a better life for us and to SHOVE the fact that I'm a teen mom and accomplishing just as much as other people my age in the face of all of these statistics. I am NOT a statistic and i REFUSE to let my son be one either! :)

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I was 18 and 19 when I had my first two kids. Me and my spouse both went on tho graduate from college with a Accounting diploma. I'm still with the same man I've been with since the age of 15 and plan on being with him for the rest of my life. Now that my kids are in school I really hate how some of the other parents give me weird looks or stares. Honestly I think some are jealous cause some of their kids are BRATS and my kids are so well behaved and good in school! LOL Don't ever let anyone tell you what you can or can't do. Being a mother is not horrible and who gives a crap about the stats, your life is what you make it!

Aliesha - posted on 02/17/2010

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you are not as worried about going back to work as some mums are cause your not missing anything and can just enjoy your childs stages as a young mum. i found out i was pregnant when i was 16 and am now 18 with an 8month old.i am going back to school soon so that i can work towards getting a degree in early childhood. good on all you young mums out there showing the world that their theories are wrong!

Yareli - posted on 02/16/2010

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i was 17 years old when i found out i was pregnet. i finishe hight school and i havent gone to college yet, the only thing that is holding me back is money since my husband had a bad accident otherwise we would b doing better. But were planning for me to go to college this year and not having babys until we both have a carrer.

Kayla - posted on 02/16/2010

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I was 18 almost 19 when i had my son...and he is now 4 months.I am in college to be a medical assistant and i am getting my ged.I am working to get my own place.I think they are wrong and even if you are a teen mom you can still make something out of yourself.

Lisa - posted on 02/16/2010

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I think that you will do well in your chosen career because you have been there you will be more compassionate then social workers who have not had to live that life and have unreasonable expectations of their clients...good luck.

Lisa - posted on 02/16/2010

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My sister was a teen mom at the age of 16 and she is now an executive making way more than i could ever hope to and that baby is now an RN and she took her BN while she herself was a single parent and graduated at the top of her class. You can be anything that you want to be in life. It is harder for young parents to get there but if you have the proper supports you can get there. My daughter is 17 and expecting in September and I will what I can to support her through this so that she can graduate in June 2011 and go on to college. Best of luck to you all

Jamie - posted on 02/16/2010

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i am now 28 years old and i had a baby at 17. it was hard but it was one of the best things i have ever done in my life. i ma married to her daddy and have been for 7 years-so believe me-it's not easy but the price paid is well worth it!

Rl - posted on 02/16/2010

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The best thing that you can do is succeed! Continue in school and that will turn it around. Yes, it may take you a little longer but it is worth it!i

Casey - posted on 02/15/2010

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I was 15 when i got pregnant with my son and dropped out of highschool my junior year. i went back for my senior year when i left his father,my son was 3 months old. i took 6 classes at school, and 6 in independent study, while working part time. i finished my junior and senior year in 6 months and graduated 1 quarter before the rest of my class. I had the second highest gpa in my entire school while raising my son by myself, no child support, nothing. My son is now three and i'm in my second year of college to become a teacher. I think it's all about how you were raised, however i'd be nowhere without my family. My parents provide me and my son with a house, and the government pays for my school along with 2500$ of academic scholarships i recieved. I try so hard, and i try to get straight A's just for my own pride. I am always proud of myself and want my son to see how hard it is, but how nothing is impossible.

Stephanie - posted on 02/15/2010

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My main goal since my son has been born, was to beat the statistics. It didn't happen as quickly as I'd hoped since no one wanted to hire a teen mommy right out of high school, but I'm halfway there. I had this phobia of driving, which i surpassed this past April, I bought my own car, moved in with the BF ( Baby's father),started college and majoring in what i love ( Fashion design) . Now the BF and I are looking to buy a home and I am anxiously awaiting a proposal. Words of inspiration to my Teen mommies: Be patient, as long as you are doing all the right things "IT" will all come together exactly when it needs to for you.

Tanicia - posted on 02/15/2010

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I'm 17 and a senior in high school. My son was born 4 weeks ago and all I heard my aunt talk about was how it was going to be so hard for me to graduate and go to college and everything else negative. I have all my credits to graduate, i'm in the top ten of my class, and in the national honor society. I have been accecpted to over 7 colleges and awarded scholarships. I plan on going to college and getting my degree in nursing. I love my son and he is my motivation when it comes to getting my degree b/c I want him to have a good life. I will bet the statistics about teenage mothers!!!!

Chloie - posted on 02/15/2010

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i was 19 when i fell preg. i finished my nursing diploma, i now have a mortgage am married, have a car and a 5 month old baby aswell as a 2yo, we live week to week on our payslip but i am a stay at home mum. we live of my husbands income. he is a degree in IT :) im 22 now

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I was 17 when I got pregnant and 18 when I had my son. I had him 9 days after I graduated high school and found out he has Down syndrome. There are moms older than I was that could not handle the news there child was "different" as well as I did. So yah were young mothers but it doesnt matter as long as you take care of your children and there your main priority. And yes its going to take me longer to finish school but Im still going. Keep being good moms in most cases young moms learn fast and grow up when that baby comes

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