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Jessica - posted on 05/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am 16 my daughter is 9 months old and i am pregnant again, i have no boyfriend and the dad is a jerk who never cared about me, my mom doesent know and i dont know what to do, i never believed in aborton but i am so confused diffrent situations but i feel the same way i want this baby but i dont wanna dissapoint my mom, i have lied to her and had a baby the first time then she trusted me again and here i go getting pregnant, i dont know what to do.

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Tina - posted on 05/08/2012

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The beauty of having them young and close together is it's all over and done with as in they do everything close together. Try to get involved in study. Where I live I can go to a place where I can get my school certificates and there's a play group and it's free. You may be able to study from home. So that once the kids are at kindy or at school you have some education to fall back on and help you get into a decent job. The important thing to remember you may be a mum but you can still have ambitions.

Just be honest straight up with your mum. It's more disappointing to be lied to. If you want to keep the baby keep it. Just be honest. No matter how she reacts she still loves you. If my daughter came to me and said she was pregnant sure I'd be a little disappointed at first but I still care about her and would never turn my back on her. No matter what happens I want her to be able to come to me and trust me.

I'd certainly encourage you to be more careful in the future find good birth control but never rely on it fully because it wont protect you from std's which I'd be just as concerned about if the male refuses to wear a condom then clearly he doesn't respect you and isn't worth worrying about.

I'd also say to forget about boys and focus on you and your children. Men will always say and do anything to get into your pants and run away from their responsibities and the fact is you need to protect your kids so I personally wouldn't be getting involved with another man.

Louise - posted on 05/07/2012

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You have to make a decision on whether you are going to keep this baby as well. Having two babies is hard this close together. Two children to change nappies for and to get up and settle during the night. If you are adament that you want this child as well then you need your mum on your side. Of course she is going to be upset she has watched you go through this before. But, she needs to know.

For goodness sake when you have had this baby, please think about long term birth control like the coil or implant or you are just going to keep having babies. This child you are having does not have much of a chance to have a relationship with its father by the sounds of it. Protect you and your next unborn child.

My advice to you is try and think about the future. How are you going to cope with two children emotionally, financially and physically. If you are less than 8 weeks pregnant two tablets is all that you need to get rid of the baby. But, you do have to live with your decision either way.

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