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Kristian - posted on 11/25/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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my boyfriend and i are both 19, this will be our first child for each of us. we are really excited but really nervous as well any tips would be helpful!

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Alice - posted on 11/29/2010

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if any one offers help take it!!! im also 19 with a 9 month old my partner is 24 the first 2 months will be the trickiest (in my opinion) breastfeeding is ur easiest option you are going to be a new mom changing nappies, cleaning etc...sterilizing bottles is the last thing u want to be doing its great being a mum watching every little thing u and ur partner created together enjoy!!

Brittany - posted on 11/29/2010

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Don't start any habits with your child that you won't be willing to break later i.e. sleeping in bed with you, sleeping in a car seat, sleeping in a swing, being held excessively, pacifiers, etc. That is definitely the most common mistake I've seen. Women do things with their babies and the baby gets used to it and as they get older and it's time to stop they want to whine because they don't like how their child is acting.

Liz - posted on 11/29/2010

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Sleep when your baby sleeps, and expect the unexpected. Keep in mind that things don't always go to plan. I am 23 and have a set of two year old b/g twins and a four and a half month old son. There are so many things I wish people would have told me when I first got pregnant, but i guess one of the biggest things. Being a parent is trial and error. No one is the worlds best parent everyone makes mistakes, it's a learning experience. This time around we are doing things slightly different than we did with our twins when they were younger.

Merry - posted on 11/29/2010

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Christina, I agree! Sad to say, sleep is NeVER the same again, even when you are asleep you are still thinking about baby and ready to wake up any second. It's hard cuz your brain never goes to sleep, we can sleep in our nursing homes ladies!

Stephanie - posted on 11/28/2010

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make sure you always listen to your mummy instinct coz mother always knows best!

Merry - posted on 11/27/2010

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I'd advise you to buy some of dr sears books, they are all about being the most natural and gentle parent possible! Stay far away from baby wise, it's full of myths and is frowned upon by the medical community cuz the scheduling system killed a baby!
Don't let your baby cry it out, this can damage their brains and also causes them to loose trust in mommy.
Don't give up on breastfeeding, formula has a lot of health risks that no one likes to talk about, including higher risks of allergies, asthma, diabetes, leukemia, cavities, SIDS, infections, and many other risks because it is not a human milk, and it's not alive with all the living immunities as breastmilk is.
Most young moms give up breastfeeding cuz it's something you have to learn how to do, like learning to walk or spell, it takes a teacher, and practice and determination! But for your baby's sake it's worth your time and effort.
Don't ever think you can spoil your baby, they have intense emotional needs, and while many people think that the only needs are the physical ones, emotional needs are VeRY important, if baby wants to be held all day, then it's instincts are telling it that it NEEDs to be held. Babies do not manipulate, they only have no way to talk yet so they cry to tell mom what they need.
Sleep when your baby is sleeping, don't spend that time cleaning, or having fun! You will be feeding baby a lot at night and so you need sleep in the day. When baby is older you will get more sleep and then maybe you can clean more!
Oh and babies are not designed to sleep through the night. They just aren't. Most babies will need to breastfeed in the night until they are toddlers! This is because yet again they have intense emotional needs and every time you are there to give them the cuddles they learn to trust you more and more.
You can try to train your baby to sleep more at night but this increases risk of SIDS and also is not healthy for their emotional health.
Think about this, right now your baby is getting fed 24-7 and is being held by you 24-7 and is completely happy in there! It's only logical that when they are born they need to eat a lot, and be held a lot. Baby loves mom and is dependent on her to survive so their instincts tell them to keep mom close by and not let her go!
So naturally babies will want to breastfeed like every hour for a few weeks! And then some will be like every two or three hours but then when a growth spurt happens it's back up to more often so they can grow!
Trust your baby's direction, cuz they run on instinct for a long time and they just know what they need.
Some amazing sites to learn about things I'd recommend
Kellymom.com
Kathydettwyler.org
Llli.org
Drmomma.com or maybe .org idk!
And always be familiar with the medical health organizations like
Aap, is American academy of pediatrics
AARP is American academy of family physicians
CDC, center for disease control
Who, world health organization
UNICEF, idk what it stands for ;)
Lll, la leche league
Oh and if it's a boy, it's helpful to know that 68% of boys born in 2009 in America were NOT circumcised. More boys are now being left intact as no health reason is able to say circumcision is good.

Ali - posted on 11/27/2010

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It's normal to feel that way we all where right girls? but the nerves will soon die out. just sleep and rest. and when the baby finally gets here sleep when the baby sleeps i wish i had to start off with. it might feel like you have no time to yourself at first but you will feel so much better for it :) and educate yourself read and read and read all the mother books :)

Julie - posted on 11/26/2010

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i was 19 when i got pregnant i was nervous to but my advice is that you make sure youve got everything for the baby other than that just relax

Alexa - posted on 11/26/2010

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Im 19 too, and I just had my first baby. My advice is get looots of rest while pregnant, and really strengthen your relationship. Discuss how you will share the responsibilities, and be really open to each others feelings. You guys will do great if you try your best! Good luck!

Kim - posted on 11/26/2010

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Patience!! dont take out the stress of being new parents on each other.... its so easy to blame eachother but dont it will be so much easier if you guys go at it together....i had just turned 18 wen i had my daughter and am having a rough relationship bc of the stress.....also keep thinking this is an amazing thing think of all positive things it really helps...good luck

Siji - posted on 11/25/2010

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Well congratz.... take care of your health.
Be patient coz u need it since babies hv erractic temperment.. They wud cry all night and sleep during the day. You will also find no time for urself....so my suggestion is no matter what......please find some ME-TIME for urself and catch up doing wat u love the most....like gardening ,baking or reading anything tat relaxes you while the baby is napping....Gud luck dear

Jessica - posted on 11/25/2010

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How far along are you? Get as much sleep as you possibly can! Listen to each other because once the baby is born it could get a little stressful between the two of you, especially if you live on your own. Get as much help as you can from friends/relatives after the baby is born too.

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