in need of some friends

Samantha - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 46 moms have responded )

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hello :) i am 20 years old with a 10 month old little boy. most of my friends dont have kids and dont understand what its like to have them..i'd really love to meet other young moms. the only time im not with my son is when im working so it'd be great at least have people to talk to

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Andrea - posted on 07/05/2011

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Its hard not to mention someone (your baby or child) who is a huge part of your life if not the biggest part and day to day they are always there. My friends are always asking whats new? well not a whole lot im with my son all day! and lets face it.. they arnt asking for a play by play on his day!! Its a lot of work keeping childless friends calling and comming arround, for the most part you have to just listen to how wonderful and exciting thier life is... once again moms, you have to be selfless and pretend that it doesnt kinda bum you out that all the fun memories your friends are making, you are no longer a part of and that you are sooo happy for them that they had a good time! keep in mind most someday will be in our shoes and then will want you arround... most of us will give in because we know what its like. If you have great friends that stay with you or do kid friendly activities so you can be included... count yourself lucky! as for the rest of us, try to find as much joy as you can in being a mother and spending all this time with you little one, they will be arround alot longer than any friend ever would! and they love you with all their heart! find friends who have kiddies and chat on here.. it will never be the same but will ease the loneliness! hope all the mommies have a wonderful day with their little ones! i know im gonna try!

Andrea - posted on 06/29/2011

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Hello again ladies! ahhh a long day with the little one but the house is quiet now!! as much as he drives me crazy, he made me laugh so many times today... i wont mention how many times i had to yell!! lol Thank you Lauren for your kind words, it makes me feel good to know that i am on the same page as someone and could even help! I so far havent mentioned my sons father yet but you have urged me to finally break down! at the begining of this month my best friend, boyfriend and sons father was arrested... i wont say why but this has been one of the hardest times of my life. I feel very alone and although I have a wonderful family( who hate him) I feel sad and lonely. We are still " together" but its been so hard to be a single parent to a three year old. It breaks my heart when my son asks for daddy then says daddy gone.. all i can say is daddy be back although i have no clue when. my sons birthday and fathers day came and went its been very emotional for me and I try my hardest to be strong. I think we all have a sad story, us as mothers have it the hardest. But we have to take it all a day at a time and even if its over the computer and we have never met, we can all encourage eachother to be strong. hearing others stories can help us realize we are not alone and maybe things arnt always as bad as they seem. We can all overcome our obsticles and come out stronger than we could ever imagine... we have to, our babies need us to be the best we can be!!

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Sarah - posted on 08/27/2011

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Hey Samantha, I know exactly what you're going through, my hubby is in the AF and since we moved to WI two years ago I haven't made any friends. I have aquaintances but no friends. If you would like to talk you can contact me on here or I can give you my facebook info, just let me know. I'm 27, married, and I have 4 kids; 2 boys, a girl, and a step-daughter. Let me know. :)

Connie - posted on 08/24/2011

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hi samantha my name is connie i am 24 yrs old and i have a 2 yr old daughter i live in vista ca, i would like to be your friend. where are you from?

Victoria - posted on 08/22/2011

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Well I think you should find other moms to hang out with. Research mommy and me classes, even though u are shy just push yourself out there. Talking with people that are going through the same things you are is sure to open you up because you can relate to them. The only friend I keep in touch with from high school is my friend who had a baby a month before me. We understand what eachother is going through so we have that connection. I think finding other mommies is your safest bet in making and keeping friends at this point in your life! -Vickie, 23

Ashley - posted on 08/19/2011

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I think that is was helpful sometimes that is all one my need is to hear they are not alone, remember we are all strong women and we do it for our children

Missy - posted on 08/19/2011

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You got Circle of Moms... and i'd love to chat with you as well. I'm a 24 year old stay at home mom... i hardly hear from anyone and would love to be a friend

Katey - posted on 08/19/2011

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Hi Samantha. My daughter is 15 months old. I was 20 and 7 months pregnant when I got married. My husband works an awful lot, so I am alone all day and most of the night, And my daughter is starting to hit the stages of always fussing, and throwing things, and temper issues, At the end of the day, I just want to pull my hair out of my head. She don't go to sleep on her own anymore, I have to rock her.

I kind of know what you are going through. I have no friends. The one friend I do have lives about 2 hours away and is busy with her own family so I don't get to see her that often. Everyone needs someone to talk to that will understand their feelings.

I am 22 years old and I don't go out anymore. Ny daughter is my world, and I wouldn't trade her for anything. And I try not to lose my cool with her, because she is just a baby and don't know any better yet, but it's really hard. Especially when you don't have anyone to talk to.

Baby & me groups are really great. Its fun, it gives you some mommy time, and gives your baby some play time with other babies close to his age.
I know this wasnt helpful. Sorry. But if you need to talk feel free to email be at anytime.

Ashley - posted on 08/17/2011

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You are so right, I hope some of them do decide to talk to me more soon though I know that it doesn't help that I moved to NS and most of the are in MB so right there a huge gab. But maybe then again its time to as get new firend that can relate to me to more as well. Though I will never give up one my long term friends from before

Leah - posted on 08/17/2011

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Hey there Samantha, Yeh I know what you mean I'm now 27, I have a 2 yr old girl, go to uni full-ime and work when I can. I think you really hit the nail on the head ... They just don't understand.. A lot of the time it's just that and not that the friends mean to be detatched but they just don't know where to start.. becuase well, let's face it.. they haven't learnt to be selfless yet... Parenting really helps... I mean forces that to happen...lol. But you'll be surprised where maybe some of your greatest life long friends can come from... a regular park visit or a play centre coffee shop... so many cheap easy things to do that both you and bub can have a bit of away time together where you both can make friends... And it beats sitting at home... Again! :) Sorry fo the rant... Plus, your original friends may judt need some adjsuting time as well... they may surprise you in time but more so if you're honest with them about how you feel. That is an extremel powerful tool and they should respect for it. :)

Rachel - posted on 08/15/2011

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hi im 21 and have a 3year old boy- im always up for a chat and meeting other mums :)

Amanda - posted on 08/15/2011

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hey im 24 add me to face book if u wana be friends i got a 1 and half yr old girl clld olivia :) take care

Ashley - posted on 08/15/2011

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Hi.I have two kids and im 20.I completely understand.It gets very lonely.Everything i do revolves around my kids.I dont get out much nor have much time to myself.Kids change everything.Thats for sure!

Ashley - posted on 08/13/2011

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Hello, I'm 20 as well my son is ten months. And as well would love some other mum around my age to talk to as well it can get really lonely.

Holly - posted on 08/11/2011

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I can relate. It seems that all my friends are so busy going OUT all the time...downtown, clubbing, bars, do people never just stay IN anymore? I love my son and wouldn't trade him for the world...but I'm the first to admit that I really miss the "carefree, no responsibilities" era every now and then. I've been trying to find some other moms my age (I just turned 25) that are able to understand what it's like to not be able to just drop everything and go out. It's hard. If anyone would like to, feel free to add me to Facebook! I'm always open for new friends :)

Chazmine - posted on 08/05/2011

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hello samatha im chazmine and id be happy to be your friend i ave a 5 year old son and ill be 20 in a few days so we have a little in common

Samantha - posted on 08/04/2011

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well anyone that needs someone to talk to u can contact me anytime :) my email for facebook is samantha.sawyers@yahoo.com nd my numbers 513-236-5410

Mignon - posted on 08/04/2011

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hey i'm 20 and i have a almost 2 year old boy. i know exactly how you feel i have friends but its hard to hang out with them when they all don't have kids. i have for a while now just really wanted to meet some other moms my age or around my age just so we can chat so i get where your coming from :).

Donna - posted on 08/03/2011

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hi u can message me on yahoo at donnajembrey@yahoo.com or u can email anytime i got a 18 month old boy

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Hello, Samantha! :-) I completely understand how you're feeling..It's nice to have a group of other moms to relate to,let alone to feel like you have someone else to talk to!
I don't know If some in this group would consider me "young", but I'll be twenty five in November? lol...Anyways, friends with no kids, kids it doesn't really make a difference either way-I have been on both sides of the coin...Check for local support groups in your area when you do have the time! Some meet at a local park,coffee shop or it could be as simple as your sons daycare center If he does :-) Feel free to contact If you need anything!

Heather - posted on 07/29/2011

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hello i am heather i will be 19 aug 13th... and i am 8 mnths prego with a baby gurl my only friend has two kids. but i would love to be friends with and tlk to u any time!

Minique - posted on 07/19/2011

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Im 19 my daughter is 3yrs old so I def understand what you are going through. Just letting you know as a young mother if you need anything I am here

Acacia - posted on 07/16/2011

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hiya hun, im 21 and i have 2 kids. add me we can be mates and have a chat xx if ya like

Justine - posted on 07/11/2011

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I'm not sure how to chat or do any of that stuff on here... So add my fb or text me please. :)

Janeta - posted on 07/10/2011

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When you have a baby it all changes! In my opinion they werent true friends to begin with! I am eighteen with a almost one year old and have lost most of my so called friends! I am ALWAYS with my daughter because my husband works so I can be a stay at home mom! I look for young moms to talk and chat with all the time! (:

Taylor - posted on 07/10/2011

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contact me i am in your shoes as well i am 22 but my daughter is 2 so i know , lost all my friends as well

Flower - posted on 07/08/2011

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Hi !! I am 20yrs Old with a boy who is 2yrs 8months!! Email me/join my circle if you want to start chatting!!

Koona - posted on 07/08/2011

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Im a 21yr old single parent with a 1 year old son. I know how you feel hun lol I have some girlfriends with small children but don't really hang out or talk as much as I'd like. But if any of you ladies need someone to talk to, Im always up for a Chat! :-)

Christina - posted on 07/07/2011

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hey im 22 and have a 3y.o. little girl, feel free 2 friend me on f.b. and we can keep in touch and chat about stuff..i dont have any friends and it gets sooo lonely..it would be nice to have a friend who is a mom :) (christina Haasz)

Chantell - posted on 07/07/2011

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I can relate to how you guys are feeling. i had my babe at 15 years old and the only other friends i had with kids were at least seniors or older. i know how it feels to be lonely and feel like you have no friends. but don't let that bring you down. some great things were to go to lunch with friends, invite them over to hang out with your baby, or have someone watch your babe for the night and go to dinner or bowling with friends. try to work around having a child but including him/her in almost everything you do. social networks help keeping in touch with your friends. but also just enjoy having your baby. they grow up so fast and every second counts.

Judie - posted on 07/06/2011

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hey :) im judie just turned 21, i have a 2 year old little girl :) my friends are exactly the same half of them have disappeared and the others dont understand lol, if you fancy and chat message me back x

Justine - posted on 07/05/2011

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I'd love making friends! Anyone that would like to talk can text me at (408)660-9547 or find me on Facebook. I dunno what my profile thing is but my email is trackqueen_12@yahoo.com. :)

Kathryn - posted on 07/05/2011

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Hey there,
Ive just turned 21 and i have a 21month old son. I can relate as I found a lot of my friends vanished when my son was born. I would be happy to chat with you and help you with things if you wish :)

Justine - posted on 07/04/2011

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I'm 20 with a year and a half old son... It's hard a lot of the time cuz most my friends drifted away and I dont have much family around. It really sucks. Sometimes I wanna talk to people who can relate too... Or even just other people who understand that my son is who I'm always around so he gets brought up a lot.

Shae - posted on 07/03/2011

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me to how lame is that hahaha i hate all my friends" i want to meet friends preferably partnered because my partner and i both need new friends :P facebook

Clair - posted on 06/30/2011

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Hi hon! Im 21 with two boys harrison 20 months and oliver 6 months! Always up for a chat with people that understand what im going thru! ♥

Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2011

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I'm 20 with a 16 month old girl and baby #2 due in December. I know what you're going through. I 'lost' a lot of friends to have babies, but I tell myself that in the long run the ones who still come around are the ones who truly love me anyway. [Basically two friends.] You can always add me on FB and shoot me a message now and then, if you'd like. I know it gets boring and lonely. Having someone to talk to helps a lot.

Andrea - posted on 06/29/2011

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wow we really do have alot in common!! not all good but its nice to know im not alone!! everyday feels like a struggle, time gose by so slowly... i need to use this time to better myself, but its hard to get motivated sometimes eventhough I have my biggest motivation is right in front of me everyday... just gotta get out of this rutt im stuck in.I just miss my family as a whole. again I know you can relate!

Lauren - posted on 06/29/2011

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ANdrea..very very true FUNNY how we are too both in the same boat I understand COMPLETELY!!! i found out i was pregnant in nov07 and i was 7 weeks preg and then 2 weeks after WE found out we WE were having a baby.. OUr first.. he went too jail for two1/2 years mando time...from that time ahead it WAS I NOT US OR OURS
It was his fault for the arrest i s till tel him but I had to work and go to the doctors by myself I had to begggggg the representative for the jailnird to get him out on at least the house arrest to see his first daughter born WHICH HAPPENED THANK GOD.. being pregnant is the most emotional and suposedly the happiest time ever but it was nothin but stressfulll...he went back to jail about a month after she was born so i then raised her for another year by my self..visiting him of course so she knew who daddy was but i feeel you it was extremely hard....

Lauren - posted on 06/29/2011

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ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS IM PREGNANT SO I MIGHT BE A LITTLE EMOTIONAL BUT WHAT ALL OF YOUHAVE SAID IS SOOOO SWEEET AND SOOOO TRUE...I am 5 months preg and i am having a veryyyy difficult time dealing with the friends thing... even my unborn daughters father would rather go get "DRUNK" rather then do something fun yea hges only 24 but for real its time to grow the hell up....i hate sleeping with the enemy literally but i love him and i dont kno what to dso about that i do not have a supportive family or circle of friends...I was suppose to be supported by him but i guess not.. So needless to say im extremly lonely also I just wish i had given birth already so Id have her to keep my mind off of him and the partying shittt....So I understand COMPLETELY.. .....ANDREA YOU ARE VERY CONSIDERATE AND HELPFUL...

Andrea - posted on 06/29/2011

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It does suck! all the care free guilt free days are over... as much as we wish and want to go out to get away, even when we do its hard to stop thinking about them and feeling bad for getting away... I always worry because my son really can be a handful and feel bad for putting that on someone. I think it will get easier with age, although my son is very attached and I think has seperation anxiety. your baby is still young enough that if distracted he may not notice but at three my son catches EVERYTHING!! thats why ive just kinda given up on trying...lol i find things and places i can bring him. as my mother would say " no one said it was gonna be easy" although she did warn me that is was gonna be hard!!

Samantha - posted on 06/28/2011

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yes it is!! i have a few friends that have kids but they live about an hour away and the one that is near me thinks its funny when her son beats the crap out of u when u walk thru the door, and then gets mad at u when u say something about, so i dont go over there anymore lol...my son is the first baby in the family in about 8 years so everyone volunteers to watch him so they can get their baby fix lol but the very few times i've left him to go out and do something i couldnt stay off my phone (callin and txtin to see how he was doing) enough to actually enjoy myself..i guess thats a new mom thing? and i also feel guilty about leaving him just so i can go out...i would much rather stay home and do things with my lil one, it just gets a lil lonely, since all my friends are always busy goin to clubs and parties and such...it just kinda sucks!

Andrea - posted on 06/28/2011

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Hey there, I can relate... I had my beautiful son when i was 23 he just turned three this month and im turning 26 next month. As fulfilling as having a child is, it is also a time when you realize the truth about parenting and how hard and lonely it can be sometimes. I have friends that dont have children and a few that do, but I live 45 minutes away from everyone I know and am usually out of the loop since becoming a mom. Its hard to let go and embrace this new life of responsibility. you no longer get to fully be who you used to be... parts stay the same but for the most part your mommy now. My friends for a long time always asked me to come out and party and i just couldnt, i didnt have the money, babysitter and how do you care for a baby drunk or hungover?? they still dont get it for the most part. Some people are blessed with great families that will babysit or take your baby for the weekend but thats not an option for everyone. some of us just have to stay home. Thats not to say I dont have a great family cause I do but my parents had 4 children and didnt start till they were 30 so they are tired!! and my little angel with horn's is a handfull!! So I dont blame them but I havent had much of a break in three years... but when my little guy gives me kisses or when he is fast asleep in his bed I know its all worth it, everything ive gone through... and will go through. he drives me crazy and is what keeps me sane. friends come and go but your baby will always love you no matter what. Although its nice to talk to adults sometimes!!

Amie - posted on 06/27/2011

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I am 27 stay at home mom with 4 older children and the last one on the way......it is very hard and it takes a lot to have your baby and have friends especially if they dont understand. I have 1 friend that I still from high school and she has 2 kids now other than that I have a few friends from my old job but they arent there for you like you would hope.

User - posted on 06/27/2011

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hey im 19 with a 3 week old and ive never felt so bored and lonely, my friends dont have kids as well

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