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Is anybody else going through this?

Leyla - posted on 03/04/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 5 month old daughter and my partners mother had a baby 2 months after me.

Cutting a long story short, everytime my little girl does something new or is ill or anything to do with my little girl, she claims her son does, for example my little girl can hold her head up very good, which she would usually reply "oh yes my little 1 can do that aswell" or My little girl was very ill the other day which she then has to copy and make out to every body her little boy is ill too (10 times worse).

Im getting abit sick of this now and its with every mortal thing i do shes had it worse or better.

I cant say anything without looking like a spoilt child! But i just want my little girl to have the praise she deserves or the attention without her always stealing the spotlight onto her boy!

This woman lies about illnesses she never has for example last year she said she suffered pre-eclampsia but when we went to the hospital the midwife asked if theirs any pregnancy complications which she replied "no" to surely you would mention you had pre-eclampsia shes a born liar its only me and my partner that sees this! (this is tyhe reason why i know she is lying about her son doing all these things)

somebody please help me it will be worse for my daughter when she is able to understand that no matter what she does "james" will be able to do it better surely this will put pressure onto her.

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Desiree - posted on 03/12/2012

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There's always somebody that's going to tell you that either someone else's child is "SO much" better or worse than yours. Whether its a friend or family member. We just gotta learn to ignore it. My mom is always bragging about how much more advanced my daughter is (almost 3y.o.) compared to her cousins son (almost 4y.o.). Then there's always other people with kids who have to 1-up me no matter what i say if it involves my daughter.

Toni - posted on 03/05/2012

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I have the opposite. My son is 3, but my brothers daughter is just over 1. My mum is constantly saying that my son is so much better than my neice.

My neice isnt crawling, or even rolling over yet. My son was walking at 11 months.

I dunno why some parents do this, I think they just need something to entertain themselves.

Brittney - posted on 03/04/2012

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My mom tends to compare my daughter (16 months) to a friend of hers son (15 months). Saying things like 'Oh, well Lindsey's boy walked at 8 months', when mine walked at 10 months, 'Lindsey's boy was potty trained at 6months' when mine was potty trained at 15 months. 'Lindsey's boy said his first sentence today' When Ruby has been talking for months....She always has to point out what I haven't done..it drives me nuts! The difference between our two kids is 1. she breastfed forever, I breastfed for a week 2. she has a daughter who is able to help Reed's social skills, Ruby is an only child. and 3. She takes him out all the time to others people's homes for play dates, and I don't know anyone with kids around the same age.

Kay - posted on 03/04/2012

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I have to dealt with it with a mother in law, per se. But my cousin has a child that is slightly older than my younger son, and we are constantly subjected to comparisons by some family members.



I honestly wouldn't worry terribly about it. The most important thing is to make sure that your child feels loved, and understands that they are "good enough" to you, so to speak. I doubt my son will notice it, but it is annoying as heck. I just smile and nod anymore.



Good luck!

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