Is anyone else sick of older people turning their noses up at you? Like you're incapable of raising a child at a young age? They're very quick to judge

Samantha - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 207 moms have responded )

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I'm 21 years old with a 6 month old daughter. When my partner and I take her out swimming/for walks etc, we're constantly being eye balled by older people, who look at us in disgust. It really irritates me. I think it's very unfair for people to judge us so quickly, based only on our age. Does anyone else have this problem? We're respectable/responsible adults, who dote on our daughter. It makes me feel uncomfortable, like i've commited a crime by becoming a young mother.

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Jessica - posted on 06/09/2009

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I'm 17 years old and have a 5month old son right now andeveryone has looked down on me sense the minute that they found out I was pregnant but I've just ignored them. I feel like I'm a good mother and have done great with my son alon this whole time so who cares what others think of me when they dont know me. You cant change how people look at you, you can only change how you feel about it and them. Just dont let people make you feel like a bad person or a bad mom because you sound like a great parent.

Christine - posted on 04/21/2009

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Im a 17 year old mother to a beautiful 4 1/2 daughter...My husband is 20. We are very happy with our life and People do look down on us and ALWAYS try to tell us how to take care of her....But in the long run Im a WONDERFUL mother and in my eyes age doesnt show what kind of mother you are.... Im sure you are a wonderful mother....

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Jade - posted on 05/24/2013

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I was 18 when I had my daughter (I'm now 21 with a 3 year old) and she's happy and healthy who is constantly doted on and I still get c*** from family let alone strangers in public. One thing I learnt though is that no one can make you feel bad if you don't let them. Is yr daughter happy? Healthy? Loved? Clothed and fed? If so that's all that matters.

Casey - posted on 09/28/2009

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I agree with you completly. I was 17 when I had my son and to this day I still get stares and remarks about my age. As long as your child is well cared for and loved that is all that matters. Other people look down upon but people have been having kids at a young age since the beginning of time. Look at it this way you will be a young grandmother and be able to play with you grand kids or you will be a very active parent with your child. There are alot of positives for having children young. I wouldnt let this bother you...you sound like you have it all together.

Casey - posted on 09/28/2009

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I agree with you completly. I was 17 when I had my son and to this day I still get stares and remarks about my age. As long as your child is well cared for and loved that is all that matters. Other people look down upon but people have been having kids at a young age since the beginning of time. Look at it this way you will be a young grandmother and be able to play with you grand kids or you will be a very active parent with your child. There are alot of positives for having children young. I wouldnt let this bother you...you sound like you have it all together.

TYTYGFVFJ - posted on 09/27/2009

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ALL I CAN TELL YOU IS F**K WHAT PPL THINK OR HOW THEY LOOK @YOU ITS GONNA HAPPEN REGARDLESS I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING EVEN NOW IM 30YR OLD AN I HAVE A SOON TO BE 10YR OLD AN SHE IS MY HEIGHT AN PPL SAY THINGS ALL THE TIME DO I CARE NO ...WE TURN OR HEAD UP HIGH A KEEP ON GOIN .....THATS LIFE AN WE CALL THEM HATERS !!!YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE AN WHAT YOU DO IN SO F**K'EM

Jennifer - posted on 08/04/2009

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I agree with you so much I was 15 when I had my first daughter people loved me before I got pregnant. I was everyones little girl which seem to change when they found out. Really I was the same little girl but going to be a mommy. I really don't think people understand us as younger people having children what we have to go through in life. I had so many dreams and things that I had to let go to take care of my daughter. I was all alone without her dad people don't understand the struggle they should look up to us really for stepping up to the plate. I have a new daughter now and I'm only 21 so with two kids it's very hard but I have learned that this is my life I do what I can for my kids who cares what people say or think. We know that our kids will respect us even as young parents for doing what we had to do for them not for other people.

Hailey - posted on 08/04/2009

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I am 17 and this happens to me a lot where i live at but i keep my head up because i know i am a good mother and i am a proud one too! Just stand up for yourself!

Kelly Marie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I hate it i go out to town im 18 i was 17 when i fell pregnant n when i go into town all this old people look at you as if u cant cope spec when my lil girls cryin :( thye always lok at u as if u dont know what ur doin its really anoying :( i love my girl to bits and i dont think it matters how old u r!!! and i always get asked if she is mine im like yes n they o rewally quiet.

Stacey - posted on 08/03/2009

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i wish there were some way to show these people that we are not bad people...if only these people would either mind their own business or take into account of how this makes us feel and are more supportive for the young moms who take responsibility instead of murdering an innocent child who didnt have a fault in you being pregnant and them being in your tummy. all i tell them is this tells me what kind of parent you would be...and you know what it really does...my bfs mom rants to me all the time..she used to be drunk and call me all the time and yell at me my whole pregnancy..the second time around i called the police and she ended up pushing me because we were visiting her and she was drunk and started flipping on me i forget y but all of a sudden she says im sorry your his mother...that killed me...it hurt alot to hear that considering he means the world to me they both do. and she has killed over 10 children and only having one which is my bf. i think its sick that she thought because she had abortions that she was better than me and telling me everyday to kill my kids when i was preggo with them. these are just one of the people that will lose out on something good in their life. she never sees them and when she does she doesnt pay any attention to my daughter like she doesnt exist only my son...she has never even held her yet the most she done was touched her hand im sorry for ranting but it just hurts so much to know that they are not loved by someone that they love:(

Jade - posted on 08/03/2009

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I thought i would add that one of the most driven, determined, devoted mums i know had her kids at 14, 16 and 17. could not fault her (didn't think it was the smartest decision at the time) but with a lil support, i got proven wrong and boy am i happy about it :D

Jade - posted on 08/03/2009

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I am nearly 25 and i still get it cause i have a 5yr old and a 3yr old so people work out how i must have been....ffs get over it ppl, they are happy and healthy and so am I!!! now go mind your own business :D

Veronika - posted on 08/03/2009

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I know exactly what you mean. I am nearly 19 with a wonderful 3 month old baby girl and my husband is nearly 22. I don't feel uncomfortable when he is with me but when I walk around on my own with her people just stare at me. I don't know why though, if women weren't supposed to have children young our reproductive system wouldn't mature until we were older. In the seventies, sixties and even in the eighties young mums were more common that older mums. You live to see more of your childrens life if you are younger. If you are old enough to vote, get married, drive a car and work for a living you are old enough to be blessed enough to be a mother or a father!

Ciara - posted on 08/02/2009

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Yes it can be extremly annoying to have people judge you and make you feel low.. I get it worse now that I have a school aged child my son is 8 yrs old and i'm 23, I was 14 when he was born. I delt with the strange looks and comments all the time.. now that I have a 2nd son I dont have as many people giving me dirty looks or anything course people say I dont look my age and then there are those people who say i look really young. But anyway, i havent had any problems with my second son but i went through that bad with the oldest son because I was really so young.. just ignore them and go about your business thats all you can really do ya know? Good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 08/02/2009

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hey back in the day girls were getting prego at 12 and 13 by men 4 times their age....so whats the problem?? :D

Stacey - posted on 08/02/2009

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i am 20 years old and i have 2 children a 3 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. believe me i get these looks all the time ,it is really not that fair for them to judge considering to find out later most of those people were younger than we were when they had kids. I had my son at 17 and this man said arent you a little young for a baby?...so i told him its really none of your business because i bet you were as young as i was or younger when you had your child,(considering the 50 60s and 70s were mostly about sex n drugs) back then and considering the baby boomer years back then. he shut right up...u just need to let people know you dont care and ur proud of ur baby and how well you are coping with being a teen mom. I have also had a few older ladies tell me i was responsible for not aborting and willing to give up my life as a young teen and to take responsibilty for my actions. alot of these people dont understand it doesnt matter if your 40 and have a baby or 14 you are still fully capable of being a parent. it depends on the persons personality and views on how a child should be brought up not on age.

Stacey - posted on 08/02/2009

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i am 20 years old and i have 2 children a 3 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. believe me i get these looks all the time ,it is really not that fair for them to judge considering to find out later most of those people were younger than we were when they had kids. I had my son at 17 and this man said arent you a little young for a baby?...so i told him its really none of your business because i bet you were as young as i was or younger when you had your child,(considering the 50 60s and 70s were mostly about sex n drugs) back then and considering the baby boomer years back then. he shut right up...u just need to let people know you dont care and ur proud of ur baby and how well you are coping with being a teen mom. I have also had a few older ladies tell me i was responsible for not aborting and willing to give up my life as a young teen and to take responsibilty for my actions. alot of these people dont understand it doesnt matter if your 40 and have a baby or 14 you are still fully capable of being a parent. it depends on the persons personality and views on how a child should be brought up not on age.

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Good for you Samantha! My son is 35 years old (today) and I was 16 when I had him. My husband and I had all kinds of people tell us we should not be doing this, how are you going to survive? Forget about them. . . we did and we're still together. I always knew we were doing the right thing and proving everyone wrong was one of the best ways.



Age doesn't necessarily mean stupidity. . . sounds like you're heading in the right direction. Good life and enjoy your daughter, because they sure do grow up fast.

Brittany - posted on 08/02/2009

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Very much so!! I was 19 and my husband was 20 when I delivered my son who is now 3 months 2 weeks old. Everywhere we go ppl give us strange looks because both of us look a lot younger than we are. Its soooo irritating! and when i'm with my mom and she's holding him they act like she is his mother and ignore me! I always stick my nose in and say yeah he's 3 months.. he was born April 14th.. anything just so they realize its MY son. He is very well taken care of even with younger parents. My husband works 88 hrs in two weeks plus works on an online site to bring in extra income so that I can stay at home with him. We have an amazing bond that is completely unbreakable. Age is just a number and it has nothing to do with how good of a parent you are!

Lucy - posted on 08/02/2009

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i have the same problem im 17, im 31 weeks pregnant nd people always stare at me nd my partner wen we wlk dwn the street. x

Shawni - posted on 08/02/2009

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also i'd like to say that nature gives us periods at 11 or 12 and if society wasnt so up its own arse people wouldnt be frowned upon so much! if we shouldnt have kids why do we have periods? its natural! and its not easy being a single mum but i do it very well and i cope just fine, i love my son and its wrong that when we take responsibility and look after our children we get nasty looks whereas when slags just get knocked up and use abortion as a form of contraception they dont even get looked at! its better to be a good young mummy than a murderer isnt it? besides ive seen plenty of older mums hitting their kids and yelling in the streets, maybe society should take a closer look at them!

Shawni - posted on 08/02/2009

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exactly! im 18 and my ex bfs grandparents just assume my mum looks after my son!? they make snarky comments like "do u know how to fit the carseat yet?" "your mum can hav a break from the baby this weekend!" and "youre moving out? is that a good idea??" they havent even seen me very much they have no idea what a fantastic mum i am! people cant just assume my mum does all the work! i've been out twice since my son was born (6 months) and thats it! but the annoying thing is some young mums dumping their baby with their mums and gettin pissed all the time and generally not looking after their baby coz people look to them and think we're all like it! some people are made to be mums and some arent, but the good mums shouldnt be judged coz of afew slags! its not fair at all

Rachele - posted on 08/01/2009

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I'm 22 and my husband is 24 soon to be 25. We have a 2 yr old and a 9 month old. I get looks a lot of the time, I have learned to just let it go. No reason in letting it get to you, they won't change their minds and they are stick in the old ways. Just love her and raise her the best way you can and forget what others say and how they look at you.

Cierra - posted on 07/31/2009

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ughh I really cant stand when I get looks from older people. Im expecting my first and I am 19 years old. My boyfriend is 23 years old and we have been together for 3 years! He has stepped up so much and takes care of my every need just like a husband would. We plan on getting married as well. I always feel like I have to hide my belly and pregnancy! As if my baby is going to be a burden to people I dont know and will never see again in my life!!! Sometimes I feel like I shouldnt be having her, like its against the law or something because of the way people look at me or what they say about me! But I just have to remember that I have my family and his family behind me 100% and thats all I really care about. If you dont like me or what I am doing with my life then dont look at me/talk to me! Who are you to me???



Ughh and I cant stand it when my 20 year old cousin, whom is VERY skanky decides that whenever someone says something to her about her skankiness shes going to say "Well at least I'm not the one pregnant"! Honey Ive been with the same guy for almost 4 years now, you on the other hand havent had a steady boyfriend in how long????!! PLEASE!



Sorry for venting, I needed it!

Sammie - posted on 07/31/2009

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i totally agree with everyone i got pregnent at 17 and had my baby boy 2 weeks after my 18th birthday i had to have an emergency c-section because the doc was speeding up my labour and still left me 16 hours without examining me she obviously didnt think i was worth looking after and the midwives also looked down there noses at me they didnt even tell me when they thaught my son was ill i was already living with my partner engaged to be married i had a job and i paid my way in the world i had also already done 3 years of college but i was still being jugded i felt i had my life on track and all that was left to do was have a baby to this day nobody but me has cared for my son even when he was poorly in hospital i stayed by his side but people still say im a bad mum because of my age.

anyone who is pregnant and young GOOD LUCK and dont let anyone stand in your way of being a GREAT parent its what your made for xxxxxx

Kortney - posted on 07/29/2009

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i'm 18 and have a 6 month old, i get this look every day, every single time i go out. but the thing i've noticed is that there is an increasing number of young mothers, atleast in the area where i live. but we all do get judged and its awful

Erin - posted on 07/29/2009

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I would think that since our kids are alive and healthy we can't be doing too bad of a job. I was 17 when I had my first son, and he's now 6 years old. He's better at math than I am, reading like a champ, just learned how to tie his own shoes (something he's REALLY proud about), and can't wait to start 1st grade. Doesn't sound like I was too inept at raising a child. Age doesn't make us terrible parents. Not having the ability to grow up and take the time to raise our children does. And I have met a whole heck of a lot more "adult" mothers who would rather go out and party then spend money on kids clothes than I have teenage moms. Don't let them get you down. If you are doing all you can to raise your child then you are being a good mom.

Ariel - posted on 07/29/2009

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Im A Single 17 Year Old Mom I Had My Son When I Was 16..My Son Is Almost 6mnths..My Sons Fathers Been In Jail Since My Son Was A Month Old And Also Has Another Kid On The Way By His Current Girl..People Try To Tell How Its Not Going To Be Easy Granted it Has Not been I Love my Son And No Stares Nor Comments Will Offend Me..I Make The Best Of This Situation tho..Working On Being A Working Mother A Taking Care Of Things The Best i Know How! To Me it Doesnt Matter That People Stare Any More Because I Know Thru All The Struggles Ive Been Thru With My Son..I Taking Care Of Him GREAT! on my Own...So Dont Ever Be Ashamed of The Beatuiful Blessing No matter what Age! Beacause There older People With Kids That Dont Know How To Take Care Of There Kids...Age Doesnt Make A Perfect Parent

Sheridan - posted on 07/29/2009

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Yes. I am 21, engaged to my baby's father, and we have a 10 month old daughter together. Alot of people look at me like I'm an irresponsible skank when I'm in public with her. In fact, a few weeks ago a random stranger came up to me in the street and started ranting at me, accusing me of only having a baby for the government baby bonus money! Which I think is ridiculous, because we didn't even think about anything like that. I am 21, my partner is 20, and not many people know that our daughter was actually a planned pregnancy. She was no accident, we both wanted her and she has been loved so much from the day we found out that I was pregnant. We both are doting parents, we have our own house, pay our own bills, my partner works, make sure there is always fresh and healthy food in the fridge (especially for our daughter)... I hate how people judge straight away, based on your age, like your age is a conclusive indicator of just how good you are as a parent.

Funny really, a few generations back, having babies by about 20 years of age was the norm. Now you're just an immature and irresponsible skank who is probably sleeping around (that's the false conclusion anyway).

Kc - posted on 07/29/2009

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its horrible to read some of the experiences you girls have been through i had a wonderful experience with my midwifes at the hospital one i had most of the time was so lovely that one of the first nights i had hadnt slept in a 2 days and my lil one now 5 weeks was screamin and screamin she came and seen how frustrated and tired i was and looked after him for a few hours so i cold get some sleep!

i did have to put up wit th e constant stares though from older people even some with kids of there own!i couldnt believe it im 19 im legally a adult im able to make my own choices! i love my lil bub and couldnt imagine life without out him! be proud of who you are and they beautiful kids you have!!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 07/28/2009

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mmm, idk about this. i havent gotten many dirty looks, probably more curious looks. i 21 w/ an almost 5 yr. old and a 2 yr. old and sometimes when i am at the store and i see a young girl w/a kid i look at them bcas i wonder if they are the same as me! i dont think the young moms and old moms should compete though. i just stick w/young moms simply bcas we have more in common but both can obviously be bad or good.

Holly - posted on 07/28/2009

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i kno exactly what you mean i brought my daughter to valleyfair. i was constantly being looked and and i could hear the wispers. At valleyfair they have a waterpark and i decide to let my baby dip her toes in the wate. as i sat there wit her there was a woman next to me she asked me how old she was i replied almost 2 months and she replied i think she is too young to be by the water...... i replied as i was leaving yea maybe but shes not yours and walk away proud. i am 19 years old a single mom who is still going to college i kno women way older than me who are not as mature as me and never even finished school. so when older women and men give me dirty looks i think to myself talk all the shit you want u have no clue how much of a wonderful mom i am.

Edna - posted on 07/28/2009

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it definetly does suck to be judged by anyone for anything but you young moms need to understand something about older people and why they frown on teenage pregnacy so much if you look at the statistics on welfare 80% of the people on welfare are teens and the ones that are adults most have been on welfare since they were teens well for the older people that work for a living and pay taxes have a big problem with that since they are the one paying for all these young moms to have babies some of the girls that think they can be good parents aren't even old enough to work or drive so how can any of you say that you can take care of your baby it takes more to be a parent than just holding your baby who is feeding them and dressing them and diapering them either your parents or welfare so you can't say that you are taking care of your own especially if you are still going to high school and your parents are watching your baby for free cause older people with jobs pay for child care young girls that have babies pay for pretty much nothing cause welfare or their parents pay for everything if you are a young mom and your married and your doing it on your own great or not married and doing it completely on your own good for you keep it up but the ones that are not really shouldn't be questioning why older people are judging them its pretty self explanatory

Laura - posted on 07/28/2009

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im 18 and my son is 8months. we sometimes get looked at but we just ignore them as we no we're good parents. i dont work so i have time to spend with my son. i also go surestart and some of the older parents ask advice and i suggust something, they just look at me to say how would you no. but we're all mothers and both have to learn.

just be proud of being a mum and dont worry about what others think.

Johnann - posted on 07/27/2009

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i am 18 and about to have my 2nd baby..... walking around the store with a 1yr old and a fat belly! ppl always look at me..... one women even asked me if they have the same dad, like as if being young makes me a slut. I was like YEA & im married to him too!!!! i kinda have a fck u thought about it & im actually a very sweet person haha my babies are my world and im going to give them the best i can....plus having children early has made me grow up....who cares what they think cuz i know im a good mommy!!!!



one woman even said to me that she wished she met me b4 i had my son bc her work is connected to a great adoption agency.....i thought that was completly rude bc she didnt even know my life. I might have been young but my boyfriend & i were very close. when we found out i was pregnant we were worried but never thought about giving it up bc we knew we wanted to be together and wanted kids. & no one can say i was young and couldnt know what i was feeling bc look at us now. married, about to have our 2nd baby, bout to start school to better our lives and our childrens lives!

and sure we lived with my parents durring my pregnancy and the 1st few months after my baby was born, but i did everything with him and my husband worked his butt off for us and now we have our own home!!!

Allaina - posted on 07/27/2009

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i ignor them im 19 but was 18 when i had my daughter. most of those ppl probs had a child young them selves. i dnt mind bein a young mum we are as good or better then bein a mum at 30 !!

Kaitlyn - posted on 07/25/2009

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i agree, i'm 16 and i know it's young but i couldn't give my son up for adoption, i was to attached when i saw the ultrasound, he's almost two months old, and i hate seeing how people react because i'm young they think i can't raise him, i've been doing find so far and the father and i are having a rough time so i'm pretty much doing it on my own.

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I'm 18 with a 3 month old and people always give me weird looks. I don't get it. I take great care of my son! He has everything (and more!) that he needs, so I totally get what you are saying. Just because you are older doesn't make you a better parent. I have many friends who are young mothers and most of us are doing a fantastic job! Our kids are happy and healthy.

Jackie - posted on 07/22/2009

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I completely agree with you. I it makes you feel any better, I come from a family of 5 where there is 14 years in between me, the oldest, and the youngest. Looking back on my childhood and seeing my brother's, there is a huge difference. I feel like you are able to physially be a better mother when you are young. But yes, I am 20 and my husband is 22 and we get the stink eye from older people too.

Jade - posted on 07/22/2009

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i am, especially because including myself there are alot of hard working teen moms in my school/area. We work, stay out of trouble love our kids, and get good grades. I hate that me and another friend have been called a whore. My friend has only had sex with the person she has a child with and they still have a good relationship. I was with 3, including my love/father of my son. and people call us whores.

Chelsie - posted on 07/19/2009

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I'm 17 and the mother of a beautiful 2 month old son, His father is 30 and my family acted like he only wanted me for sex untill I got pregnant and he didn't leave but had me move in with him and started doing everything he could to prove he really loved us. Now we've been together a year and 7 months and are engaged

Chelsie - posted on 07/19/2009

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I'm 17 and the mother of a beautiful 2 month old son, His father is 30 and my family acted like he only wanted me for sex untill I got pregnant and he didn't leave but had me move in with him and started doing everything he could to prove he really loved us. Now we've been together a year and 7 months and are engaged

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I'm 30 years old and have a 15 year old daughter. I still go through the judgemental looks and comments. Ive done a great job and have an education. My daughter is wonderful. Don't pay any attention to them, people just have nothing better to do. Enjoy your daughter and the beautiful person she will turn out to be :)

Quianna - posted on 07/19/2009

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I understand how you feel. I felt very judged by people because I am unmarried, 21 and raising a one year old daughter with my boyfriend. I think that sometimes people try to look at your age and think you are incompetent because they see what other people your age who DONT have kids are doing. My daughter changed my outlook on life and I dont drink and go to the club every weekend and I always put her first. So I say to them, take that!

Heather - posted on 07/19/2009

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i no how u feel i got pregnant at 15 with my first kid nd now i am 20 nd hav 3, nd ppl do judge but i think dat is mostely because of all t programms on tv about young mothers who cant manage, but dnt let it get u down there r millions of older mothers out there who do a bad job so jst take pride in t fact that ur doing a good job nd 1 day ppl will realise dat age is nothin2 do with it. x

Candyce - posted on 07/18/2009

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I was 18 when I had my son, single, and just about everyone I came across wanted to tell me what I should do and how to raise my son. I think I've done a damn fine job so far, but people still like to comment, especially when they see me with my husband. I'm 22, he's 48, and the kids we have (mine, his, and our nephew and niece) are 10, 3, 2, and 1, so we REALLY confuse people!

Candyce - posted on 07/18/2009

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I was 18 when I had my son, single, and just about everyone I came across wanted to tell me what I should do and how to raise my son. I think I've done a damn fine job so far, but people still like to comment, especially when they see me with my husband. I'm 22, he's 48, and the kids we have (mine, his, and our nephew and niece) are 10, 3, 2, and 1, so we REALLY confuse people!

Tarryn Jade - posted on 07/18/2009

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Hey Darl.. your not alone!! I'm 19 weeks pregnant and already have the constant scratchings at my back of my incapability of raising my child.. It really sucks!! especially when it's ppl you think you should be able to trust.. Good Luck! Hope it gets better.. xox Tarryn

Amber - posted on 07/17/2009

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im 1, i have an 11 month old son, and i constantly get the stares on the buses, as i dont have my lisence yet.. its horrible and it makes me feel like im a horrible mother..

i know in my heart that im not. im pretty sure im going to lose my job soon, because m boss is a 24 yr old woman, who doesnt have kids and has just finished uni.. now there are days that i cant work bcos i have noone to look after my son, and well she doesnt care, she expects me to drop everything and just work bcos she needs me at work..

its totally stupid.. not only that my son's father is 20 and he refuses to get a job, but his mother makes me feel bad, bcos she thinks he's having to sacrifice everything so i can do things but its totally not true.. im the one that is sacrificing everything.. and it sucks bcos she is like embarrased to tell her friends that she has a grandson, and is always hot and cold about him.. its really sucks, but you're not the only one thats getting the stares..

Amber - posted on 07/16/2009

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I know how you feel. I was 14 when i had my daughter and i got the looks. People shouldn't judge. I married my husband when i was 15 and people couldn't believe we were married. we had our own family members making bets that we wouldn't last. Well were still married. It will be 16 years in November. I have been with him a total of 18 years. I just turned 31. Don't let people get to you. I am sure you are a wonderful mother.

Amber - posted on 07/16/2009

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I know how you feel. I was 14 when i had my daughter and i got the looks. People shouldn't judge. I married my husband when i was 15 and people couldn't believe we were married. we had our own family members making bets that we wouldn't last. Well were still married. It will be 16 years in November. I have been with him a total of 18 years. I just turned 31. Don't let people get to you. I am sure you are a wonderful mother.

Caryn Ann - posted on 07/16/2009

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Are you sure you understand their emotions? A lot of the time, we project our own insecurities on others. I was 17 when I got pregnant and thought everyone was judging me, too. Now that I'm older, I know that when I see a young mother, I'm just feeling concern and sympathy for her, remembering how much of a challenge it is to be in that situation. Give us old people a break. Many of us have been there, done that. My husband and I got married at 17 and 19. I had two kids before I was 20. Everyone said our marriage couldn't last because we got married so young, but its 27 years later and we're still very much in love. I think we've proven them wrong. It was a good thing we did things so young. My husband just passed away three months ago of cancer. He was only 45. We're lucky to have spent so much time together and to have raised our kids so that they're independent, intelligent and successful.

My kids would tell you that they had the best family around. We're all so close. They never wanted for anything and have wonderful memories of their childhoods. Your age really doesn't matter. You have to give up some things, a few years of your own childhood, but when you become a young mother, that experience is better than any other thing you could be doing with your life. Keep up the good work!

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