is it ok to go out?

Brittany - posted on 04/07/2011

Yes, alone time is a must. Im 21 with 2 kids and i know how sometimes it can feel like you shouldn't but you need to be close with your husband and have a break every now and then.

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011

Everyone needs to go out sometimes!
Please, go have fun! :)
I know how you feel though, my daughter is only 1 and i've been out once without her. You've obviously been doing it longer than me since you have 2 and i think you definitely deserve some time out!

April - posted on 04/02/2011

Of course it is! It doesn't make you a bad mum if you want time for yourself. Go out and have fun. Happy mummy = Happy kids. Theres never anything wrong with having time for yourself :)

Petrina - posted on 04/02/2011

YES!!! trust me, its ok to go out once in a while, just you and your guy. have dinner or go see a movie. my fiance and i go out at least once a month, because we need that time to ourselves. its better if you have a few hours to yourself once in a while so you dont get so stressed out or drive yourself crazy. leave the kids with either your parents or his, and just go out for like, 3 hours. its enough time just to be able to keep you guys sane. lol

Petrina - posted on 04/02/2011

YES!!! trust me, its ok to go out once in a while, just you and your guy. have dinner or go see a movie. my fiance and i go out at least once a month, because we need that time to ourselves. its better if you have a few hours to yourself once in a while so you dont get so stressed out or drive yourself crazy. leave the kids with either your parents or his, and just go out for like, 3 hours. its enough time just to be able to keep you guys sane. lol

Ashleigh - posted on 04/02/2011

thank you all, it really did make me feel less bad about it. i dont work so im with them 24/7 so i need to go out. because i sometimes feel like pulling all of my hair out lol. they are very good kids and i'm blessed for that i just need socialization with other adults.

Melissa - posted on 04/02/2011

It's very important for you and your husband to both have alone time together, and alone time apart. It's difficult, of course, but if you have supportive friends and family that are willing to baby sit for you, then it shouldn't be too difficult. My hubby and I get a night out together maybe once every 4-6 months, but he's REALLY great about staying home and allowing me the time to go out with my friends maybe twice a month. I always go out either very close to the baby's bed time or just after, and if he's not with his father then he's with my mother or his godmother, so I never really feel guilty. He always has a blast having either a sleep over or getting to play and be pampered at home.

Amanda - posted on 04/02/2011

I'm 20 with two kids and a single mom. If i didn't go out, I'd go nuts and be useless to my kids.

older parents go out and leave their kids with family, as long as your not going out every other night to party its fine. I go out once a week (sometimes i skip weeks). I'll feel bad sometimes but i know they're having fun with grandma and I need that time. My older brother is 26 and has two kids, he and his wife go out once a week.

honestly don't feel bad. Take sometime to have fun with your husband!

Amanda - posted on 04/02/2011

Its fine to do it occasionally just not all the time like some people do...I know how you feel though I always feel bad when I go out with just my husband and our daughter is not with

Bunny - posted on 04/02/2011

To look after your kids, you have to first look after yourself :) Do you have friends with kids the same ages? You could set up a weekly playdate with them where they have your kids for an hour or two one week, then you have their kids for an hour or two the next. The kids will bond (which is good for their social development) and you're doing each other a favour. I did this with a lady I met through a playgroup - we started the playdates when our boys were about 20 months, they're both 3 now - and the boys are really good friends. There were a some tears to begin with, but they soon adjusted as it was a regular thing and now they both look forward to Fridays (and so do we) and are really good friends. And we don't need to feel guilty because everyone wins! Hope this helps :)

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/02/2011

Its absolutely ok to have alone time with your husband, and or friends.
I also get the guilt, but you have to remember you need to look after yourself and your relationships with your husband and friends.
This will make you a more relaxed, happy mummy and give your children the gift of happy parents.

Heather - posted on 04/01/2011

you need mommy time! Having a break will make you more patient and relaxed. As long is its not all the time, its a good thing.

Karissa - posted on 04/01/2011

YES you and your husband NEED alone time or your relationship will suffer for it. Make sure your kids are being watched by someone you trust to take good care of them and then go out and have a good time! You and your husband need some time away to connect with eachother and time to talk without distraction. I think going out with friends is good for both of you but dont forget to go out just the two of you everyonce in awhile. Hope i helped feel free to send me a message if you have any questions.