Is it okay to go out and have some teenage fun with friends?

Tiffany - posted on 07/13/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is 10 and a half months, I have never really been into partying but than again I have been in a relationship threw most of my teen years, and now I want to go out with my friends and be a teen for a night every once in a while but I am afraid it will inter fear with my parenting, and like I will feel and look like a bad mother because I am out and about doing the teen thing and not home with my son.... ): What do you think? Do you go out every once in a while? Is it okay?

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Kayla - posted on 07/14/2011

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Tiffany, I will be 20 next month. My son is 29 months old and the love of my life. I'm in trade school full time, and all of my friends are regular, childless teenagers. Before I had my son, I went out all the time. My parents understand, and so does my fiancee (baby's dad). He goes out all the time, since we don't live together and I live with my son and my parents. I go out occasionally while either my fiancee, or one of my son's grandparents watch him, and go have some normal fun. I love being a mom, but I do like to go out and do stuff that isn't two year old entertainment. And I have fun, but at the end of the night, I just want to go home and cuddle my baby. So going out isn't going to make you a bad mother, but give you that moment of sanity where you remember that people speak in full sentances, use real words and don't call you mommy. So go out every one in awhile and enjoy yourself, just remember you ARE a mother so you can't get arrested or anything stupid like that. You are young too, so you need to enjoy yourself while you can. Because you know you love your child and that's all that matters.

Stifler's - posted on 07/14/2011

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It's okay to go out and get away from the kids. It just makes you human to need your own time, not a bad parent.

Jodi - posted on 07/13/2011

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Tiffany, even we older mothers go out sometimes and have fun!! We may be parents, but we are still human. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go out and have a little fun occasionally, and in fact, it can be good for you to get a break here and there.



You just need to make sure that (1) you have arranged for your child to be with someone responsible while you are out, whether that be a family member, friend, or a paid babysitter, and that (2) you still remain responsible while you are out, because you still have to come home to your baby and be capable of looking after him (in other words, no going out and getting stupid drunk :P).

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Casey - posted on 07/17/2011

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its totally ok to go out even though you are a mother. As long as you are responsible about it. I wouldnt make it an all the time thing but even older moms go out from time to time. everyone needs a break. I would love to go out on occasion but financially I cant. Maybe someday soon. Best of luck parenting you little one and still gettin to be a teen sometimes.

Jennice - posted on 07/16/2011

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Absolutely you should go out and have a little un every once in awhile. Remember, your not just a mom but a woman. I you expect to be a good mother, its healthy or you to go out with your peers every now and again.

Christina - posted on 07/16/2011

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Every parent goes out. Even married couples. Nothing wrong with getting a sitter for your kid for a few hours out, even if it is once a week. They tell married couples to make a date night, once a week if possible, to help strengthen their bond. So what is wrong with a single parent going out for a few hours to regain sanity? Nothing!!!
Just remember that no matter what you go do, whether it is to a club or out to a movie, make sure you keep it in check. If you are of legal age to drink, it's okay to have a few drinks, but not okay to be intoxicated enough that you can't drive your child to the ER in the middle of the night in an emergency.

Ashley - posted on 07/16/2011

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As long as your child is taken care of while you go out it doesn't reflect on your parenting skills. you should go out and have guilt free fun. i go out with my bf when he get a baby sitter. it isn't very often but we still get our "date night" once in a while. it would be routine if we didn't, there's no fun in that.

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