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Teresa - posted on 06/03/2009

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My wee boy has his last name hyphenated. My last name first then his Dads last name. :)

Keshia - posted on 06/02/2009

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My son has his dad's last name (though we are still together). I do not have my father's last name. I was born before my parents were married. My parents were married when my younger brother was born. When I was growing up, it bothered me that i did not have my father's last name. So it was important to me that my son had my last name. BUT it was also important that my child carries on my name, therefore he has 2 middle names one being my last name. Now it is a honor for the child to have his fathers last name. If the guy is willing to sign the birth certificate and take "ownership" so to speak. Why not let him? There are several guys not in their children's life. Why not let him have their dad's name. If you no longer have contact with the dad, then I can see why not giving him the dad's last name.

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Amanda - posted on 06/26/2011

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yours until your married. if you get married you can always change it then. I regret giving my son his fathers last name. I thought we were getting married, but it didn't turn out that way, now i have two kids with the same man, who doesn't know them, that have different last names!

its a nightmare. im constantly called by his last name at doctors (he has medical issues so lots of specilists.) i always get looks about the different names, people assume their fathers are different and some that he's not mine!

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Coming from where you are at I would defantly say to do what you think is best. I wish that I would of given my daughter my last name but I was young and was preasured to give her his last name. Now she is three and a half and has not seen her father since she was about 11 months old. He never even came to her bday party cause he decided he didnt want to be daddy any more. Now I have a wonderful man and am engaged to him and when we get married we have to pay an attorny to have his wrights taken away and her name changed just cause I gave in to pressure form every one else I never wanted her to have his last name. My best advice is do what your heart tells you not what every one else tells you.

Merissia - posted on 06/26/2011

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if you are together and hes in the babys life then definately his if not then yours

Roxana - posted on 07/05/2009

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if you think that if you're ever gonna break up with your husband/boyfriend and you wouldn't like him to see your child give him your last name so your husband/boyfriend doesn't have any rights but if you think that if you're ever break up with him that you'll want him there then give your child his/her dads last name so hes forced to do something!!

Ashley - posted on 06/27/2009

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i gave my daughter my last name because i will be always be there wit her and her father aint then if me and my new boyfriend ever have kids we agreed either they have my last name or he will adopt my daughter if we get married

Chelsey - posted on 06/27/2009

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its your choice, but if i could change naming him after his dad i would , you honestly dont no if they are going to stick around or not no matter what they tell you , and in the end of it youll never have the same last name of the child you raise and take care of ,and when there in school and you sign all the papers they bring home and your names are different , maybe you dont think about it now but youll have people asume you have the same last name and then people start calling you mrs....... and then you oh no we have different last names he has his dads last name , it will bother you one day, if ur planning on getting married then change your name and the babies when you do but untill then itll always be with you no matter what so it should have your name :o)

Natasha - posted on 06/27/2009

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my son has his dads last name. Hopefully we stay together. lol. But all my children will have who ever their fathers last name, no matter if they are different.

It is a personal choice.

Samantha - posted on 06/26/2009

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My daughter has her dad's last name. He is very involved in her life, and it was really important to him. we are currently not together, but I don't regret her having his name. I truly think its the right thing to do. I also personally rejected hyphenating b/c it would get obnoxious for your little one to write all the time in school and beyond. Just my opinion tho!

Shayna - posted on 06/25/2009

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It's totally up to you, but if you're the only one in your family with your dad's last name, Grampa might feel really happy if you choose to include his name as well as your child's dad. For example, my father is an only child and the only Archer in his family, and my sister and I are, well, both girls. So there will be no more Archer's after the two of us get married, unless that's what we name our children. Therefore, I was thinking Archer-Barron as my child's last name, for my dad and my boyfriend, as I think it would mean alot to both of them. Personally, it doesn't make a difference to me since my boyfriend and I are engaged and I plan to become a Barron eventually.

Ashley - posted on 06/25/2009

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You should pick whatever last name you want. I am not married to my son's father, but he does have his last name.

Aimee - posted on 06/24/2009

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my son has his father's last name. but we are together and plan to get married in time... so i have a good reason. if you're no longer with the guy and he's out of the picture then I would say let the little one take your last name.

Kaitlyn - posted on 06/24/2009

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oh man.



I HATE the last name issue. I just went through hell for months over that. It depends on many variables: what last name do you want him to have? Are you still with the father? Does the dad have a strong preference? your family? his family?

of course, YOU are entitled to the final choice.

My daughter has my last name, basically because my parents (who im living with) felt very strongly about it. My bf was a little upset, but I just had to assure him that just cause she didn't have his last name, it doesn't mean that I'm planning on leaving him and taking her away. If my parents weren't more concerned about the name thing than i was, I would have had it hyphenated.

Lauren - posted on 06/24/2009

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My son has my fiance's last name. Ok it's up to you, but I really think a baby should have their fathers last name.

Crystal - posted on 06/20/2009

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I would vote for the child having the mother's last name at birth if she is unwed. If a man is willing to commit to rearing a child, but not willing to committ to the mother, the child's name should be the same as the mother's. IF you two get married later, you can change the name of both you and the baby at the same time. No offense to the other ladies who have posted, but men will never committ to marriage if women continue to allow them to have the honor of having children out of wedlock and keeping their names. What are we communicating to them by allowing this?

Sarah - posted on 06/06/2009

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completely up to you ..

my son has his dads last name (oliver manning sounds nicer oliver carter)

but the reason is because i have my mums ex husbands surname .. and my son is technically not a carter .. he's a mackley/manning.



i wanted him to have my mums name .. mackley .. but i thought it'd be a bit odd if we all had different surnames ... as it'd be hard trying to change my surname back .. as i only had my mums surname till i was 5.





though when i got himk registered they said how about having a joint surname .. (didn't want that) so you could try having your name and your partners

Candice - posted on 06/06/2009

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We gave my daughter his last name because he is so involved in her life. We have never broken up in the last four years since we first started dating and we are engaged to get married one day :)

It really depends on the situation. If you believe the father will NOT be in the baby's life very much except to buy diapers here and there then in my opinion I'd say to take yours. If the exact opposite of this, then his. Once again, it really depends and it's your personal choice.

Shelby - posted on 06/04/2009

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You Should probably have the baby Keep your name. Unless you are going to Be with the father. It is your Choice. Do what you think is best for the baby.

Sara - posted on 06/03/2009

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You should do what YOU feel is right. Not what the father thinks or what anyone else does. I am not married to my daughter's father but I gave her his last name. it's what I felt was the right thing to do. I do know someone who gave her daughter her last name.

Sara - posted on 06/03/2009

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You should do what YOU feel is right. Not what the father thinks or what anyone else does. I am not married to my daughter's father but I gave her his last name. it's what I felt was the right thing to do. I do know someone who gave her daughter her last name.

Lisa - posted on 06/03/2009

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I believe the baby should keep your last name... later on if u and the father are still together and decide to get married then u can get it changed. If you think the father is going to be a good father to the child and stick around i would maybe consider a hyphenated last name. (yours-fathers) up to you ultimately though....

Mel - posted on 06/01/2009

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i had a minor debate with my partner about this, even though i wanted my daughter to have his last name i still was hesitant because i thought it was something i could use to make him get his ass into gear and marry me already. he agreed to get engaged and i gave our daughter his last name and simply told him if we are not married by the time baby number 2 comes along its getting my last name. Like alot of older wiser people said to me if he cant get married what right does he have to expect his other kids to have his surname.

Kandace - posted on 06/01/2009

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I gave my son his father's last name even though we were not married at the time. But whatever you think is best.

Brooke - posted on 06/01/2009

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My daughter has her fathers last name. I'm not sure why but I just never thought about it. When it came time to name her I said Star. We plan on getting married one day and even if we dont no matter what she is my daughter whether she has my last name or not.

Jesica - posted on 05/31/2009

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i feel that if the childs father is going to be in its life then they should carry the fathers last name. but the hyphen is good too.

Desiree - posted on 05/31/2009

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you can give them whatever last name you want... it doesnt have to be either

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well my boyfriend and i have to decided to give our little boy my last name because we arn't married. you can always change it if/when you two get married (that's what zach and i plan to do)

Sherrie - posted on 05/31/2009

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its really up to u. my son has my last name even tho i was with him at the time for some reason i knew to name him after me. ur choice no 1 eles

Nichola - posted on 05/31/2009

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my son has his dads last name but i hope that we will get married eventually....its really just how you feel about it

Melanie - posted on 05/31/2009

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well, i had been together with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years when i had our daughter and i gave her his last name even though i didnt know if we'd stay together or not, because i knew he would still be a good father to her either way we went. if you believe the father will be around and will be a GOOD father then i say give the baby his last name. it will make him feel more connected and ,honestly, he has just as much a right to want the baby to take his last name as you do. that was my situation. my babys father and i are still together and hes a wonderful parent, and i knew he would be, so we went with his. i hope this helps you out! :] congrats on the little one!!

Emma - posted on 05/31/2009

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my daughter has her dads last name.. that was our choice as we plan to get married next year!

Angela - posted on 05/30/2009

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Both of my kids have there names hyphenated my name first and their dads name last. I just really wanted my name in there some where.

Gemma - posted on 05/30/2009

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Well my oldest 2 boys have their dads last name and my youngest boy has his dads last name but that was my choice. I think you should do what u think would be best for your child

Tiffany - posted on 05/30/2009

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Your child should have YOUR last name, unless you are married to the father.

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