Losing the value of Sex

Lena - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I've been doing some thinking. And I realized this.....

Nowadays, many kids have sex in high school and even middle school. This is nothing new. After many years of seeing this and being around such influence, many girls grow to see that there is nothing wrong with it. When I was in middle school, I loved school. I did my school work and tried to stay on top. And never had a single though of having sex with a boy I liked ever crossed my mind. When I was in high school, I dated a boy. We were 16. He cheated and dumped me because I never talked about having sex and always changed the subject if he ever asked. Having sex to me, meant doing it with someone I was to spend the rest of my life with. It meant commitment and love. Connection with that special someone.

What does it mean to you?

Why is it that I see young girls and boys have sex for no reason? Because everyone else is doing it? It it because if you don't, he will leave you? How ridiculous is that! I hope this is a wake up call to realize how much society lost the value of sex. That before they turn 18 they had more partners than they have fingers to count. And when it is time to get married and they find that special someone, they have nothing give.

When girls get pregnant and don't wanna get married because they are "too young" for commitment just amuses me. If you are old enough to have sex, you should be old enough to be committed to that person. Otherwise, why were you having sex with that person in the first place? For fun?

What are you teaching your kids about sex? Does it mean anything anymore?

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Daphne - posted on 01/23/2010

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i agree that there r some ppl doing it wayyy to young and that it is sad that some teenagers have to use their fingers and toes to count their partners, but i also disagree with u. Not that there is not point it waiting until marriage but everyone is not the same. I have met the person i am going to spend the rest of my life withh and i have had 2 other partners besides him and i dont regret it. i dont feel bad that i didnt save myself for him and i know he doesnt love me any less bcz he was not my first. I didnt have sex bcz everyone else did it, i did it bcz i wanted to and i continued to do it bcz i enjoyed it. I will tell my daughter to do it when she is ready with whom she is ready to do it with. if she is ready b4 marriage then that her feelings and her choice. i will press the issue of protection and be open to whatever she wants to talk about whenever she wants to talk about it. i will not cut off the convo when she asked something about it, i will not act as if shes goin str8 to hell if she does it b4 marriage and tell her its a no no bcz that wont do anything but have her doing it without the knowledge she needs and hiding it from me.

Amber - posted on 01/23/2010

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I agree that sex should be shared with someone special. I had a bf before my husband and we were together for 3 years before having sex and i made sure i was protected. yes i loved him but I knew in the bottom of my heart i didnt want his children or to be his wife. Now that I am married and have a little girl, i know what sex is supposed to be like. Sex with some one you truly are committed to and in love with is phenomenal compared to just having sex to have sex.

I will teach my daughter to respect her body and how important it is to wait until it means something.
My mom used this analogy with me and I love it.
If you were given one piece of chewing gum (which represents your virginity), and you were told to give it to your sexually partner to chew and when you brake up you get it back and you do that until you get married. Do you wanna give your husband an old used piece of gum full of germs, and other mens saliva or would you wanna give him a brand new piece?
When i was 16 this sounded stupid but I still listened to my mom, and valued myself enough to stay away from every guy that wanted to have sex to just to have sex with me.
Now that I am an adult it makes complete sense and I respect her for telling me that, and teaching my to respect myself.

Monica - posted on 01/23/2010

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I agree with the part about sily to have sex just to be cool or keep a partner but I don't think it's oh so special. I love sex and I'm sure lots of ppl do regardless of their age. you don't have to save yourself for one person and just have sex with them forever and get married. That was maybe the way when my nan was a teen. I'm in love with my bf of 3 and half yrs. We started going out when I turned 15 and have slept together ever since and now we are expecting our 1st child. We are not getting married. We are 100% comitted to each other and marriage is just an un-necessary bill at the moment. being married doesn't give you any advantages or disadvantages. It just cost heaps.



I say if you wana have sex go hard! just know the reputation u myt get from judgemental ppl and use protection