MIL problems anyone else???

Erin - posted on 04/30/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

21

0

So my MIL wanted a grandson and is now very "depressed" she isn't going to get one first. She doesn't speak to me AT ALL and she won't even give me or my family the time of day. She has never cared for me and her son being together. I gave his family the choice either change the way thet act towards me and my family or not to come around my child. He won't speak up to her or against anything she says. i'm ready to call the quits. It's been over 2 1/2 months since she has even asked how the baby was doing. Am i a bad person for this? i want my daughter to know both of her grandparents, but i don't want the hositilty around her. Is this "bad parenting" as they tell me or am i thinking completely clear? Should i feel bad for making this choice or do i stick it out and deal with all the pain? I I have spoken with my fiance on numerous occasions about how his mom treats me because of my pregnancy. We've been together of and on since 6th grade, we're both graduated and living together for the past 1 1/2 now going on 2 years. She has only gotten worse through the time, he won't stand against her and i don't know how to tell him either he does or i leave. I would never keep him from his child, but as far as i'm concerned she has no rights to my child. How can i make him GROW UP and be the man he needs to be?

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms

1 Comment

View replies by

Desiree - posted on 05/02/2012

168

17

that's a good question. personally i don't see it as bad parenting cuz im in a sort of similar boat. my MIL doesn't hate me but there's a lot we don't see eye to eye on & i can't stand to go to her house or anything b/c her & her alcoholic bf are heavy smokers & he smokes pot on top of it. i don't want to be around it & certainly don't want my daughter around it. so i say if she wants to see her granddaughter (now 3), then she can get off her lazy ass and come to US. im not wasting my time to go out there & get headaches from all the drama & her stupid bf that i can't stand.

so personally i don't think you're doing anything wrong.