Mommy of a beautiful 14 month old girl needs advice

Devin - posted on 08/18/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Aubree has hit the tantrum and biting stage. Any, advice as far as to stop biting? thanks any advice is helpful

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Tina - posted on 09/08/2010

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BE CONSISTENT!!! if you tell her "aubree if you bite again your going on a time out" then make sure to follow through. kids even that young catch on if you are not consistent. if you decide that the punishment for biting is a 1 minute time out then make sure everyone of the caregivers for her follows the same thing. i have an almost 14 month old baby girl and her punishment for hitting or biting is a one minute time out in a chair. as they say 1 min per age of kid. i dont start the 1 min til her hissy fit is over. it took about a week of this and she really started to understand that there is no hitting and biting anyone. Gracies caregivers are me her dad, my mom, his mom, and the daycare. everyone is expected to follow our discipline. but be consistent with aubree and good luck momma!

Amanda - posted on 08/20/2010

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The tantrums just come with the age. My 2 year old stil struggles with it occasionally. To help with the fits I would talk calmly to him (even though it was driving me nuts) and explain to him why he couldn't have what he wanted or why we had to leave or w/e the case may be. Also, to prevent meltdowns before bedtime or before leaving the park I tell him he has ten minutes til we leave, then at 5 minutes I give another warning and again at 2 minutes and 1 minute. They dont fully understand the concept of time but they will understand that you are counting down and they know to expect to have to leave soon. We rarely have to deal with the tantrums anymore.

September - posted on 08/18/2010

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Whatever you do do not bite her back! That is only sending the wrong messages. You’re trying to teach her to not bite so biting her is not teaching her a thing. Instead try educating yourself on the developmental stages that she is currently in. You'll find that most 14 month olds use biting and throwing tantrums as a means of community their emotions which they are unable to do until they are able to understand their emotions. She is still a bit on the young side to understand her big emotions just yet. I would suggest reading the book called "Parenting with Love and Logic" I have a 22 month old son that response to the suggested techniques very well. Good luck and hang in there! :)

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A - posted on 07/30/2012

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I also have this problem with biting with my one year old when he doesn't get his way. I recently put him into his bed (once) for a few minutes after a stern "NO BITING". It stopped him for a few days, but I was afaid he would associate his bed with negative thoughts. So my friend suggested I put him into his high chair turn backward (tried it for the first time tonight). Hope this helps.

Devin - posted on 09/07/2010

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Yeah, I don't agree with the biting back method.. Its kind of like spanking your kid when you are teaching them to not hit it doesn't work, and lemon juice didnt work either because she looooves lemons so i called the pediatrician they said try white vinegar and it worked .. biting is gone :] thanks guys

Sarh - posted on 08/20/2010

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Bite her back! Obviously not too hard, and don't laugh or giggle, but bite her back. That is what I had to do w/my daughter. And w/the tantrums... is she hitting herself or someone else? Try giving her a soft stuffed animal.. this way she wont hurt herself. You can also try making her sit in a "time out" spot for 1 or 2 minutes. You don't want to make it be too long at this young of an age. If you do time outs... NEVER use their bedrooms or their own chair!!! Because then when it's bedtime she will think that it is a punishment.

Krystal - posted on 08/19/2010

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Many people say to bite back but I think that is just to harsh! My parents would put hot sauce or something distasteful like that on their hand and then tell me to bite them! It works lol

Amy - posted on 08/19/2010

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it sounds nasty but put the stuff that helps you stop bitting your nails on where your child bites, i did that with my 3 year old and she aint bit me since, with the tantrums its just part of growing up (sorry hun)

Dominique - posted on 08/18/2010

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A slight tap on the mouth not hard please don't make my post turn into a abuse comment just thats what we had to do with my two year old brother, a tap on the mouth and telling him not to bite. Its worked so far. (by the way love your daughters name, lol its also my daughters name and spelt the same way too).

Ali - posted on 08/18/2010

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bite her back but not to hard that she is hurt but just enough to shock her. This way she will know she is hurting you and that if she does it again she will get it again. i remeber my mum did it to me once i never did it again. Good luck!

Marissa - posted on 08/18/2010

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biting back did not work for me...actually my mom told me to try lemon juice, when my son bit me i squirted just a little lemon juice in his mouth and he never bit again

Cynthia - posted on 08/18/2010

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bite back. not hard but just enough to get the point across. it worked for me and a bunch of other people i know. good luck, i know how hard it can be

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