Tina - posted on 04/17/2010 ( 159 moms have responded )
any advice on this?
Tina - posted on 04/17/2010 ( 159 moms have responded )
any advice on this?
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Cindy - posted on 01/21/2013
I was pregnant at that age, married at 16, pregnant again at 18 and 24. three wonderful sons now age 26,24 and 19! Married 27 years. Just be there when she needs you and be supportive.
Sammie - posted on 01/14/2013
I was a teen mom and honestly my mom became my bestfriend. The world criticized me but she never did. Just support her and be there for her..
Victoria - posted on 01/14/2013
Be supportive I had my daughter at 17 then I had my other daughter at 19 my family was very supportive and Yes it's hard my days of hanging at the movies and mall with friends changed to up all nights and appts after appt. It wasn't easy but I wouldn't change it I love my kids and my husband is wonderful I'm also expecting my 3 child so hang in there
Brooklyn - posted on 01/01/2013
This was posted over two years ago. I would be very interested to hear how this situation turned out.
Ally - posted on 12/29/2012
don't worry.my 15 year old daughter Jenna is also pregnant.DONT get too mad and be VERY supportive
Maria - posted on 10/12/2012
Well it depends.
If you knew she had a boyfriend and was sexually active and supported her in this ,you knew her getting pregnant was a possibility. In this case you should keep being supportive and help her every way you can.She will need you.
However if you did not know she was sexually active and she has betrayed your trust then you have every right to be angry and feel disappointed in her especially if you had brought her up to wait until she was married.
It is a difficult situation for any Mum and Dad to face.
Good luck with your decision whatever it may be.
Kathy - posted on 10/09/2012
my daughter is 16 and her and the baby's father are still together and the baby its due in January. They want to live together. But she is still a child how do I as a parent let her be a parent and try to have their family while still rasing my daughter. I am so lost, please help
Chelsea - posted on 10/15/2010
well try and be there as much as possible... i am a teenage mother myself and when my parents found out i was pregnant my mom didnt talk to me for a month and my dad didnt talk to me my whole pregnancy,,, i felt so alone and scared and ur daughter is probably feeling the same way.. just be there as much as possible and support her... being a teenage mom myself thats all i ever wanted from my parents and i didnt get that.... it was a pretty scary situation
Lisa - posted on 10/15/2010
I think it will make her more respondsable being a mom and keep her out of trouble. I got pregnant when I was 15 and it brought me and my mom closer because we now had in common being a mom.
Adrielle - posted on 06/01/2010
be supportive, but let her really look at every option, let her make an informed decision. take her to the catholic adoption services and let her talk to someone there, then take her to a counselor for young mothers and let her talk to them too. be supportive of whatever she decides, just as long as it's HER decision. don't let her look back in 4 years and ask you why you didn't help her learn about her options.
you're obviously a good mom for being as concerned as you are.
Alyssa - posted on 06/01/2010
its okat take a deep breathe i was 15 when i got pregnant and 16 when i had my son now im 18 and happily married support and never forget to tell and show her you lover her whats done is done cherish every moment!! and please help her cause god knows she is still young and it'll alllll work out!
Tiffany - posted on 06/01/2010
Just give her alot of support, no matter what happens. Tell her she can do it and every baby is a blessing.
Make sure she stays in school. Going back later will be harder.
Chelsea - posted on 06/01/2010
Just be there for her as much as you can, it's going to be hard as it's your little girl but this is her choice and even though she made this on her own she'll need as much support as she can get from you. I'm currently 15 and pregnant but turning 16 in June and im due in November. My mum flipped when i told her but after i went past 3 months she calmed down alot. I'm also moving from London to Scotland as it's a long distance relationship with me and my other half but im now engaged and we're both very excited and im due to move at the end of June which makes it harder for my mum as she won't be anywhere near to help. But now she's calmed down it's nice to have her support with what im deciding to do and have her come along to the appointments with me.
I wish you and your daughter all the best. :)
Sonya - posted on 05/31/2010
I'm so sorry! There's so much I have to say about this , but Ill try to keep it short. I had just turned 15 when I got pregnant. There's nothing anybody (mom or dad, although seperated) could have done to prevent this. It was MY fault so I had to deal with it. Teenagers are so ignorant to the consequences of having sex at a young age. All you can do is support her, let her know she can count on you, but also don't take her duties away. She needs to learn how to be a mom and she won't unless her responsibilities keep being hers and not yours. My mom kicked me out (we no longer speak) and my boyfriend's family became my family, only because I got lucky. Don't push her away. This is going to be very hard for you, but stay strong and be nothing more then her mother and your granchild's grandma... Your very presence and support will give her strength... hope this helps. Let me know if you have any questions.
Chantelle - posted on 05/31/2010
support her in what ever desicion she makes and the one mistake mum's/ gandma's tend to think they get to have more say in their grandchildrens lives when the grandchilds mother is so young just because she's young doesn't mean she doesn't know what she's doing when it comes to being a mum just trust your daughter has the maturity and sensabilatiy to make the right deisicion for her and her baby and try to remember let her be a mum and trust that you did a good job as a mum then you know she will be too
Lizz - posted on 05/31/2010
Im a young mother. And my only advice to you is being supportive and helpful just make sure you get her to pull her own weight as a mother. Make sure she realizes the responsibility that she will have to deal with. But dont abandon her in her time of need and dont be a hard ass. cause that only makes things worse. I have a very supportive mother and sshe helps me out when she can and babysits when i wanna go out and do teen things. But i dont go out that often.
Sophie - posted on 05/31/2010
when i was 15 i got pregnant but had a termination & looking back on it now it was the BEST decision my parents made for me, but now a bit older i lived a couple of years partying & experiancing life but i made the decision to give it all up & have a beautiful daughter who i wouldn't change for anything, but it was important to live them few more & learn that being a parent is what i wanted & wasn't just something i couldn't get out of, maybe it would be good to sit down & not only tell her the great things about being a parent but the things shes giving up forever & remind her that there's years to plan to have kids.
Jessica - posted on 05/31/2010
Just love her. Right now shes going through a very hard time. remember shes been in the midst of puberty the last couple years and now shes pregnant. That's a lot of hormonal changes for a teen. Try to pick your battles, if she wants to go out and see baby's father... let her, shes not going to get pregnant-er by seeing him, they need time to talk about this and decide what they're going to do. Maybe try and sit down (have a girls night, go to dinner or for ice cream) and ask her questions about how SHE's feeling about the pregnancy, and tell her that if she has questions maybe now that you two are sitting down calmly and rationally would be the time to ask them. And since I don't know your daughter I'm just throwing this in for good measure... make sure you explain to her that this child is Her child, not yours, You've had your babies and that you will not be raising this one too. You will help her but not raise her child. Just remember no matter what rollercoaster ride this pregnancy brings to your family, keep in mind a single positive goal in mind: a healthy little grand-baby whom you can spoil rotten and love like crazy when it gets here.
good luck and godbless
Sytrana - posted on 05/30/2010
i was 15 and pregnant, just be there for her. And if she still wants the father in her life please let that happen, because that is the worst im 16 now and i cannot see my baby;s father still. It just makes everything harder. But just don't be too hard on her be comforting
Sydney - posted on 05/30/2010
hi, i think the best thing to do is just be there for her. my mom and my boyfriends mom where both there for me for my pregnancy and it made all the difference in the world, im 18 now and my son is a little over 8 months. just remember things happen, and you'll have a cute little grandson/daughter to love a spoil rotten!
Michelle - posted on 05/29/2010
i kno ur probably upset but just let her kno that u support her in any decison she makes and just remind her that u love her no matter what happens good luck
Emily - posted on 05/29/2010
Just deal with it! I was 15 and pregnant and my son is the best thing that ever happened to me! He has settled me down and I love him!
Bershelle - posted on 05/29/2010
I was 16 when i told my mom i was pregnant and she freaked out on me and was a little to much controlling (i am a mom now so i know who it goes lol) But just be support and honestly embrace your new grandson or daughter... It be hard and you both are going to fight but just always let her know i am here and I love you.
At 15 her horomones hare high and now shes pregnant so that not going to help, I remember breaking down of something my mom cooked from dinner one time. It will be a bumpy road. But my mom and i made it through and we were not at all close before but now I talk with her everyday.
The situation is only horrible if you view it that way, yes your daughters life will be harder and she will have to make tough choices sooner than you had hoped but that will come with HER being a mom. Your baby is going up but there wil also be a new baby that needs you and her. I learned it does take a village to raise a child but thats ok because the more love the people that show love the happier everyone will be!
I wish you and her the best of luck and wishes. I hope she has a healthy pregnancy, a quick delivery, and a happy healthy baby!
JODIE - posted on 05/29/2010
im 17 I have a little girl i had just turned 16 when i found out i was so scared i didnt no what to do i dont think anyone relises how scared i was and i just needed someone to hold me and tell me everything was gonna be ok... its not the end of the world i think now it is hard buthey thats what nannas are there for :) i have finished yr 11 and in the middle of completeing yr 12 and i think it was the best thing for me i grew up so much :)
Kerra - posted on 05/28/2010
I was there! Just be supportive && assure her she can talk to you about anything && not think she's "paranoid" about everything she's feeling && to let you know. Tell her to write in a journal, it helps a lot.
Rachel - posted on 05/28/2010
hey,my names rachel,and i got pregnant when i was 15 too.my mom reacted my kicking me out of the house,and my best advice is dont do that.your daughter is going to need your love and support,even if you dont agree with what is happening.you need to let her know that its going to be really hard,and really stressful,but make sure she knows your there to help her get through everything.my daughter is 18 months now,and its been the hardest 18 months of my life.talk to her,comfort her,and most of all,let her know that you love her.tell her everyday so she knows that shes not alone :)
Latasha - posted on 05/28/2010
i was in grade 12 i graduated and few months after i had my first.. my sister was in grade 12.. and graduated with a 1 yr old.. what my mom did.. that worked for me.. is talked to me.. she NEVER GOT MAD OR SCREAMED OR CALLED ME ANY NAMES OUTTA OF ANGER... she talked to me like a grown up.. she let me know thing happen, she helped me do some research on other teen moms.. but she always told me to keep the baby, or she wanted it.. which was awesome.. it allowed me to see that even tho i was young she still wanted to be part of this babies life... i had to grow up fast and make choices i wasnt expecting to make, but my best advice is talking with her, letting her know u still love her and want to be there for her.. that is the best u can do.. because it is a scarey thing!! and let her know to if she decides to keep it.. u arent babysitter.. ur a grandma.. my mom made that clear.. yes she did help me out lots! but she made me know this was my responsiblity.. and i had to make arrangments when i needed her to watch my child.. everything my mom did made me a better mom! i hope this helps
Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2010
From personal experience when i found out i was pregnant at 18 I was scared to tell my mom i was living on my own with my sons father.I didn't have much contact with my mother till after Christmas time i was 3 almost 4 months pregnant.i saw her & she goes"your pregnant" I went to the doctor to confirm what i already knew though&had known for months.Getting pregnant changed my life I got my mom back in my life again& she was very supportive.She lets me make my own choices when it comes to my son.I now live with her so i can finish school. tried going back when i was pregnant but the school was only gonna let me come for 2 hrs a day and i wouldn't graduate for another year.So now I'm getting my G.e.d and my mom watches my son at night while i go to class..It's nice to have support.So my advice be there for her talk to her show her you still love her..it will be hard because she is so young but being a young mom isn't bad.encourage her to continue school& going to college to make a better life for her& her baby.
I had my mom& my boyfriend in the room when i had my son.he helped hold my leg while my mom was up top helping me push telling me encouraging words.don't push her into doing something she will regret.sadly it's time for her to grow up& be a adult and care for this child.theres so many programs out there that help young parents get their education..google is a great tool to find these.Good luck & i hope your daughter a very healthy pregnancy&child.
Ashley - posted on 05/27/2010
i was 14 when i got pregnet had my son at 15 my parents were not happy at first but, they got over it they helped me the whole way. It took them thime to get used to it but, they love my son. THey had to teach me things about being a mother but, not one day since hayden has been born they have not watched him or nothing i got my ged and work and go to college its a struggle for a young teen but, they need someone to help motivate them and not put them down
Kayla - posted on 05/27/2010
Hi. I had my 1st when I was 15 and it was the biggest life altering moment of my life and my mum was with me every step of the way. Even though secretly she wld of been dissapointed. I guess the only thing I could suggest is asking your daughter what she wants 2 do( at the end of the day it is her decision). And love and support her in whatever she decides. She is ging 2 need it. Hope I was of some help and hope everything goes well 4 u and your daughter.
Amelia - posted on 05/27/2010
I was 15 and pregnant also! Everything is great with me and my now 2 childred!! I am now married and with the exeption of a rocky road. My family and I are GREAT!!!! Just support her because being pregnant and still in school is a great chanlenge!! The only problem I had at that age and being pregnant did not come from the people my age, but from the teachers! I wish you and your daughter the best of luck you will be in my thoughts!!!
Kc - posted on 05/27/2010
just be there for her see needs a strong support system some to feel safe with just help wherever see needs it but try not to offer too much advice
she'll need you a lot over the next months and years :)
just dont let her take advantage of you help her become a wonderful strong individual and great parent :)
Laura - posted on 05/26/2010
I was fifteen when I had my first child my parents encouraged me to finish school and be a mom or whatever I had wanted to do. But they also made sur I knew she was my daughter and thier grand daughter. I lived with them till I married my husband at 21 by that time I had been married to my daughters father and went throught a divorce because teens sorry to say should never marry because of babies they are allready dealing with having to learn to take care of a new life they don't need to worry about a relationship either her and the daddy will work or they won't but don't make her choose help guide her in the decissoin she has to make. Learn to be there when she is at the end of her rope but still make her have the every day responisbilty of the baby when she is there she need to be the one careing for it. My parents did that with me I have worked since my daughter was born up to 4 yaers ago when I married my current husband and be came a stay at home mom. I also have a very closer relationship with my parents. the biggest mistake u could make right now is to turn away from her she need you now more than ever the worst has happened no move on and try to be her friend as well as her mom. And celebrate the baby if choses to keep it have a babyshower let her enjoy the pregnancy as much as she can the outside world will show her more than anything else can about how wrong she is to have messed up at so young an age.
Kayleigh - posted on 05/08/2010
im 15 and pregnant. my parent completly bailed when they found out and it makes things so much harder. me being in your daughters situation, the biggest thing she needs right now is your love and support wether she keeps the baby or not. your her mom and you know whats best for her, but consider her feelings too. i know you probbly dont want to listen to a little kid, but im in her situation times 10. and the worst thing to do is give up or not support her. i can also message to her if you two would like. i wish i had the advice of anouther teen mom and ill have my baby in a few months so will probably hav a lot of insite seeing as how im doing it on my own. well good luck.
Samantha - posted on 05/08/2010
i got pregnant at 15 its not so bad but u have to grow up quick but it made me a strong women i 19 with my own family best feeling in the world is ur daughter serious bout it and does she know what shes actually lettin herself in for its hard work !
Jennifer - posted on 05/08/2010
hi my name is jennifer i was 16 and i had my first baby, im 27 now with a 11yr 3yr and a 9 month old and i married my babys daddy! i have everything i ever wanted in life i just started at a young age. i never got a chance to be a teenager my baby made me grow up and realize the world aint just gonna be handed to me i have to work at it to get there..so maybe just maybe this will help her grow up and realize the world is not easy and nothing is gonna be handed to her and nothing is free in this world! so for now just support her and let her kno this is her baby not yours
Kirstin - posted on 05/08/2010
I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son. I'm sure you are just as upset with her as my mom was with me but you are putting strain on her and that baby. You can't risk her health or the babies. Yes it was early for her to get pregnant but hey it happened and now you deal with it. That's your grand baby. You get to give her advice even though she may get angry with you when you give it to her(i did) but shes only 15 and she's going to need all the support she can get. I learned responsibility really quick. THere is no partying anymore or going out. This baby is hers and she has to take the responsibilty of her actions.
Cassy - posted on 05/08/2010
just give her lots of support and love, but at the same time dont help too much or take over, she wwill have to realise she a mum now, n teach her the responsibilities that come with it, its what my mum did n im so grateful as i have friends who's mums basically took over,while they were out partying n stuff and when it came down to it, it was the grandmothers raising there children not there mum
Emma - posted on 05/07/2010
hi i'm 16 and have a 7month old i found out i was pregnant at 15. all your daughter needs is to know that your there for her no matter what and that she can come to you for support. shes going to have to grow up quick and shes going to need her mom x
Jessica - posted on 05/07/2010
just be there i got preg at 15 and idk what i would have done w/ my mom... now i have a beautiful healthy 4 yr old and i'm married and i just had my 2nd n i love being a mom...
Amy - posted on 05/07/2010
Hiya, im 16years old, and 31 weeks pregnant, age has nothing to do with becoming a parent, As long as your daughter is mature about the situation and understands what a baby needs and wants, i think the only thing you can do is suport her, My mum has been nothing but suportive and its great to have someone to moan and groan about pains and sickness too, there is alot worse things you could have found out about your daugher, like drug abuse.. thats the way my mum see's it, there's nothing wrong with bringing a little life into the world. Pregnancy is scary as it is, amagine how horrible it would be if it was alone? Good luck to your daughter, and good luck becoming a gran!
Shkenna - posted on 05/04/2010
i was 16 when i had my first he is tuening 18 now and these are the things i wish my mom had done more. be there for her and never judge her. try talking to her about when you were pregnant with her and all the fears you had and make sure she knows that no matter what happens you will be there to listen but dont raise the child for hershe has to learn but make sure she goes to prom. just because she has a baby dosent mean she shouldn't be aloud at least one day a month to remember shes still a kid and making mistakes is part of life. dont sweat the little things and always rejoyce in the greatist gift Life no matter how big or small. and always tell you think shes doing a great job even when you really dont believe it.
India - posted on 05/04/2010
give her as much love and support as you can. don't push her to do anything, but tell her how you feel about it if she comes to you for advice
Kamie-lee - posted on 05/03/2010
hey darl i was 15 wen i had my 1st baby.That dnt sound good but it really changed me i was runnin a muck b4 i had kids gettin drunk every night party doin everthing u could imagen but after i had my baby i really settled dwn i havent had a drink in yrs dnt go out jst stay at hme and watched my 2 boys im very thankfull that i did have my kids then other wise i wouldent no were i would b now so jst think posititve bout all this sumthing good will cum out of this allxoxoxo
Deureka - posted on 05/03/2010
the last thing she needs is to feel alone i had my baby at 16 and thats how i felt... be there for her supportive as possible but let her know her little girl days are over that her baby is hers... make sure she finishes school and if where you live has a place for her to go to school and take her baby... then send her there thankfully my school had a day care on sight... so i graduated... but dont put her down... help her up as much as possible... make her feel loved so she can know how to love her baby
Kyrsten Analiese - posted on 05/02/2010
Hi Tina! I am 19 an actally due with my first in about 4 days. I know even being 19 this has been one of the hardest things I've gone through, and if it wasn't for my mom I would've never made it this far. I know it has to be hard for you because you only want the best for her and you know her options are more limited now because of the baby, but without you her options are even more slim, and whether or not she realizes it now, she does need you way more than she thinks. Just hold your head strong, and hope everything works out for the best. I know that without my moms support I woudn't know left from right at this point : )
Kristen - posted on 05/02/2010
I got pregnant and gave birth to my baby when I was 15. All she'll need is support, from you and the father of the baby. I have support from both of mine, and I'm doing just fine.
Marcia - posted on 05/02/2010
hey, i was preg at 15 and had my son at 16. it was really hard for my parents at first but once they got over they shock they were amazing and still are. i really needed that because i was so young. i was so scared and knew my parents were pretty upset with me. now my son is going to be 4 this yr and even tho i had him so young i wouldnt change it for the world, and having him actually made me closer with my parents! i know it can be hard but your daughter needs ur support and to know u still love her and that'll never change
Tricia - posted on 05/01/2010
just be there for her i found out i was pregnant at 18 my senior year of high school..i was so scared my mom would be mad but she was the one i wanted to tell the most and i told her first..she was upset.. which was to expect.. but she helped me through so much.. we need of mothers and i don't know what i would have done without her..
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