My husband thinks he knows everything...

Carol - posted on 09/10/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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When I was pregnant with my son I found out I had a heart murmur. I was in the army and decided to seperate because of my pregnancy, anyways before we got married I was having chest problems. When ever I would run my arms would go numb and when I was finished I had trouble catching my breath, my chest hurt, I was dizzy, my legs felt weak and it was hard to stay standing. No matter what lelevation, I could be near the beach or in the moutians and I would have this problem at both locations. I informed the doctor that was doing my physical and she had an echo done on my heart. They found I had a heart murmur, I told my husband and he swears up and down that they got my sons heart beat, and nothing is wrong. However, I have always and still do have trouble going up a small flight of stairs because I get winded, but him being a 'know-it-all' swears to god that they got my sons heart beat. How they got it in my cheast I dont know. He also claims that hot foods cause heart murmurs. Is there any way I can get him to listen to me? He acts like I fake everything even if its medically documented.

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Karlie - posted on 09/11/2010

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i would search the rumour of hot foods causing heart murmers and find something that says they dont and get him to read it. also the difference between your heart beat and the babies would be around 100BPM difference so im pretty sure they would know whose heart they were listening too. i would also mention to your hubby that if it was your sons heart beat thats a lot more serious than yours and make him feel bad for being a dick about it haha hope you start feeling better and hubby starts to understand

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Joanne - posted on 09/14/2010

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have you been back to the doctors again since you had your son? he cant say its his heartbeat when he is not in there

Desiree - posted on 09/13/2010

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it sounds like u have more wrong than a heart murmur. i've never known murmur's to be that drastic. my mom has had one since she was born... but she has many other birth defects that have caused her problems, not the murmur. lots of ppl r born with them but a lot of the time they're not found until later in life. you're right to be pissed at your husband. if he's that ignorant & can't get a clue then i honestly don't know what else you could do to make him understand.

Carol - posted on 09/13/2010

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I had my son March 12 2009, before I had him my doctor that was assigned to me asked before birth if i had any medical problems, i told him about the heart murmur and when he came to do a check up on me and used the stetoscope and checked my heart and he was like ' i dont know how you got into the army, i can hear it clearly. You have a heart murmur.' Ive already done the research on hot foods and everything and i have told him and shown him my medical records, but he swears its nothing and it was my sons heart beat.I even had some body tell me heart murmurs will go away if you change what you eat. I've looked at everything I can, i've asked doctors, nurses, pediatricions if me having a heart murmur will affect my kids. Ive asked if its genetic or does it just form during the formation of the child or can it form later on during life and what causes it and Doctors have told me my kids will be fine its not genetic and it could have formed while i was in utero or after a born or when i was a little kid (most likely then i had a doctor state i had a hole in my heart which may have been the heart murmur) and my husband says he wont beleive it till a doctor tells him and they have. It just pissed me off that i will be talking to someone about being a high risk pregnancy because I had a heart murmur and he will go and tell them oh it was our sons heart beat not hers and the sad thing is an echo is an ultrasound on your heart so I know it wasn't my sons.

Desiree - posted on 09/11/2010

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karlie's right- your son's heartbeat and your own heartbeat are drastically different. has he gone to the doctor's with you to witness the exam? maybe if he's there to actually see and bring anything up to the dr that he thinks he knows about, maybe then he'd realize there's something wrong? also, sounds a bit like he wants attention- is he feeling left out a little since you got pregnant? a lot of times moms get more of the spotlight than the dad's, maybe he's jealous....my first one's father was that way...i wasn't even allowed to sleep/nap/rest while i was pregnant- he said i was being lazy.... not like it's a symptom of pregnancy to be fatigued.... but he knew everything too lol swore up and down that coca cola was going to burn our child alive in the womb until he went to the dr with me and she reassured him that my stomach acid was more acidic than anything in coca cola. i'd take him with you to the next dr's appointment :)

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