People with outrageous opinions on teenage/young mothers?

Eve Marie - posted on 02/06/2013

Having a baby is one of the most beautiful things that could happen in a women's life. Yet, it is also challenging. Even more if you're a young mother. I have always wanted to be a good mother. There is nothing I want more for my daughter. I wanted her to grow up in a good home with a good family. At 24 years old, I often wonder where I would be in my life right now, it is not like I am mad at my daughter for changing my plans because she did not ask to be put into this world, I just rethink about the decisions I have made sometimes. But sometimes I felt that I have failed her already because I did not have everything all together at 19 I didn't want my daughter to grow up like that but it was not her fault. just wish that someone would have told me that raising a child is hard. The hardest thing about being a young mother was not the sleepless nights but the responsibility of raising a person to be who he is meant to be. I am here to tell you that it is not where you want to be in life at 24, 21 or 19. I am not judging young mothers, because I am one of them, but I would have waited before thinking about having a child. I had my daughter at 19. Her dad & I separated a year after her birth, and I wasn't ready to be a single mother. I had nothing... I just couldn't make it on my own. Luckily I had help from my family. I do not regret having my daughter, she taught me so much... She is an amazing little girl & has so much love to give but sometimes I just felt so terrible sometimes that I brought her into a world where she could not have everythings she wants. I wanted her to have the best. I wanted her to have everything I could never have... & to know that at 19 I could not provide that to her, I believe it was the hardest thing about being a young parent. Now I'm working full time and make a good salary, I finished university, have my own house, my daughter goes to a private school and takes ballet classes. I worked HARD to get when I am today. Hard work and determination is the key, giving up your social life, working all day then take care of your child, studying past midnight & on weekends. But have faith in yourself. If you believe in a better future, don't allow other people to discourage you from pursuing it. Difficult doesn't mean impossible, it simply means you have to sacrifice and work harder. I am not "proud" of having a 5 year old at 24, but Im proud of what Ive accomplished so far. Even through times, I continued to love her unconditionally. I was there for her as much as I could. If it weren't for her adorable smiles I don't know where I would be right now, she changed my life. Yes, rude stares hurt, but I know I'm a good mother, that's what matters the most.. I hope one day my daughter will realize how much i've sacrified for her to have a good life :)

Amber - posted on 02/25/2012

Some people are just naive.. I mean really, there's no reason for people to complain about teen mothers or mothers in general until they do something wrong. If they don't do anything wrong, then they shouldn't say a word.



I had my first daughter when i was 17. So i understand 100% what u re going through :]

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2010

Maria I'm so with you on this. I mean, like I said before, there's really no excuse for people to be out right rude to strangers, it's just not acceptable. But the families and friends of teen moms, especially the younger ones, really need to step in and do something about this. But even more importantly than that something needs to be done BEFORE it gets to the point of a pregnancy. Back in the age of our parents and their parents before that, an unplanned teen pregnancy out of wedlock was seen as a disgrace to the family! Children and teens in those days were TERRIFIED of getting pregnant! Pregnant teens were sent away and "brought shame" to the family! I'm not necessarily saying that's how it should be today, but people need to put more emphasis on getting an education and starting a life for yourself before starting a family. I was 23 when I had my son, I'd been living on my own for 7 years, I'd been working full time, sometimes even multiple jobs for 7 years. I'd graduated high school, I'd lived a little, I'd done my thing. I still hadn't completed everything I should have completed before having him, though. I hadn't gone to college yet because I always figured I had time, and now here I am, 24 years old with the most amazing little boy I could have ever dreamed of, but every day is a struggle. I can't work more than one job anymore, in fact I can really only work part time if I want to get through my schooling and leave any time for him, so we're always strapped for cash. It's hard to get any school work done because he loves to play and he loves when I play with him so I'm always torn between my child, the most important thing in my life, and my schooling, which is going to offer the most important thing in my life the best future I can give him. It's hard work! Yes, having a child is a beautiful, rewarding, life changing thing and I hope every woman gets to experience it one day, but waiting until the time is right is so incredibly important to both you and your child.

If you have the level of maturity and responsibility to raise a child, then you should have the level of maturity and responsibility to see how important it is to get your life together before bringing children into the equation. Plain and simple.

Alison - posted on 12/18/2010

The stupidest thing that happened to me was after having my son at 15 (I turned 16 2mths later). The hospital would not discharge me for 4 days to 'keep an eye on me'.


The thing that was stupid about this is a woman who was 30 in the same room was freaking out about her child and going home to be alone with her husband and a new baby after 2 days. I however was goign home to live with my baby in my parents house with a mother who was there 24/7 to help me with all the little things new mother freak about.

So why because of age was she going to be a better mother??? So stupid

Maria - posted on 12/18/2010

MELISSA: thats exactly what i was trying to say and better thank u!!

Maria - posted on 12/18/2010

Im not trying to be a B**** or anything but are you guys really proud to be a teen mom?? Or are u proud to have a beautiful child? can u somewhat understand why people react "ridiculous"? they should not attack u thats rude but when it comes to family and friends cant u understand their dissapointment and frustration? i kno i can. I got pregnant at 19 had my baby at 20 but best believe i wasnt walkin around with my head in the clouds proud to be pregnant at that age. I knew life would be different things would be hard and nothing would be the same ever again. i was no where close to being ready or prepared. i was scared mad ashamed everything! i wouldnt wish that on anybody! And altho things worked out in my favor we have our own place now we are engaged and of course absolutely love our little bundle of joy we had to work our ass off!! and altho it was totally worth it things dont always work out that way.

I completely understand why people are so harsh towards teen parents i would never want my daughter to be one i think its a shame that in this day n age its almost the norm i think people who make comments in a way are doing our generation a favor by letting us kno its not acceptable bcuz before u kno it it will be and thats not a generation i want my kid(s) to live in. It was ok in the old days because parents needed kids to help them work and such its not like that now. being a teen mom is never in the best interest of the child to be or the one expecting. Are their exceptions of course!! But if a mom is in high school depending on their parents with no job no car no money and of course unfinished education do u think thats an ideal situation to be in to have a child?? depending on the mom to be's mommy and daddy?? it shouldnt be that way they should be settled and plan for one. I wish i wouldve but things change and this is the life i live now and my whole world is my daughter. I just think that teens shouldnt get mad at the judgement they should expect it. I kno that sounds harsh and im sorry! Thats just my opinion and i just really want to kno what teen moms think.

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2010

wow Jade, that's terrible! doctors shouldn't be putting their opinions in the way of their duties. what if something more serious were wrong?? he could have seriously put your daughter at risk!!

Jade - posted on 12/18/2010

When my daughter was a week old she was vomiting like crazy so i took her to a doctor and he asked me my age and didnt even look at my daughter and told me i wasnt feeding her properly and sent me off to the nurse for a lecture on how to look after my child, i took her to another doctor and she had a stomach bug, doctors should treat all kids the same even if their mum is younger!

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2010

The issue at hand with teen pregnancies is the MAJORITY of teenagers are not emotionally or financially prepared to care for a child. That's not to say every teenager, of course, there are exceptions, but for the most part it does stand true. But that doesn't mean it's okay for people to treat you that way, either. If you are doing everything you can for your child and providing a stable and firm home for that child, then you stand your ground, but do so in a way that is going to show these people that your age is not effecting your level of maturity.

Unfortunately I know a great deal of teenage mothers who are extremely unfit parents. They do drugs, go out all of the time, their poor children are never dressed properly (short sleeves in cold weather, going out in onesies and no pants when it's windy and chilly, etc), their relationships are extreme roller coasters, their children don't get any structure or routine to their day, they don't discipline their children so when they're older they end up rambunctious and out of control, the list goes on. Of course, there are adults who don't raise their children properly, as well, but the ratio of teenagers to adults differs greatly.

The point behind me personally being against teen pregnancy is mainly that you ARE young. You haven't been able to really experience life to the fullest, and while you can still do so with a child, you're either going to have to abandon that child from time to time in order to do so, or you're going to be slightly held back in doing so.

I'm 24 years old and my son has just turned a year. I'm struggling trying to work and go to school full time in order to provide him with a financially, emotionally and physically stable home to grow up in. I couldn't imagine how I would do this if I were 15, 16, 17. I'd have to be living at home with my mother, I wouldn't have had any of the amazing memories I built for myself as a teenager, I wouldn't have gotten my own first apartment or any of that stuff.

And yes, years ago it was completely acceptable for people to be married with children at the ages of 15, 16 and 17, but the world was a much different place back then. Back then people's life spans only reached about 40 or 50 (on average). People didn't have the means to raise children for 20+ years, so they depended on their children getting married and starting careers and families of their own within 15 years or so. The world is not like that anymore. People are expected these days to finish high school, go to college, make a real life for themselves and THEN start a family.

No one likes to hear statistics, but people need to realize that they are important because they do stand for every single one of us.

Let's face it, teen mothers are not raking in the big bucks, so chances are they're on food stamps, cash assistance, WIC, maybe even state health care if your parents don't have their own. What you may not realize is tax dollars are what pays for all of that, and tax dollars are paid out of the income of every working adult. I, myself, am on state health care because my job doesn't offer it and having a child I need it. The systems are put into place so those who need it can utilize it, but that's not to say it's free money, because it's certainly not. Over 80% of teen mothers live off of welfare. Every year 7 billion dollars of tax payers money goes to teen mothers and their children. 80% of teen pregnancies are unplanned. Less than 30% of teen mothers recieve a high school diploma. This statistic is actually higher than it used to be, which means we're going in the right direction, however it's still very rare for teen mothers to attend collage. The children of teenage mothers have lower birth weights, are more likely to perform poorly in school, and are at greater risk of abuse and neglect. The sons of teen mothers are 13% more likely to end up in prison while teen daughters are 22% more likely to become teen mothers themselves.

These are upsetting statistics, but they stand true, none-the-less. The issue isn't that a teenager could never be a good parent. There are plenty of you out there proving just the opposite and I applaude you. The cold, hard truth is, however, that the MAJORITY of teenagers simply don't have the means to raise children to the best of their ability. It takes a lot of work, it takes a lot of sacrifice, it takes a lot of lifestyle changes that many are simply unable to commit to.

If you are a teenage mother and you're doing the best job you possibly can and you're watching your child excell, good for you. I'm happy for you. Thankfully you came from a family that knew enough to instill these things into you so you could utilize them. But please, don't make teen pregnancies out to be something for others to strive for. Let others know how difficult it is to raise a child, let others know it's not all fame and glamour like these MTV shows are making it out to be, let them know the cold hard facts about pregnancy, birth, and child rearing. The fate of our children's lives are at risk. If you want your child to grow up and enter the best world possible tomorrow, we need to support and promote the best parents possible today, and that's the truth.

Franshell - posted on 12/14/2010

some people are just to closed minded and animalistic to see things clearly! if im not mistaken when the ones that have these dumb opinions were younger, girls were being offered for marriage at the age of 12 and they were having kids since a super young age! so how is it wrong to become a mother at 16? 17? 18? some even thing its wrong to bare a kid at 20 and even 23!!!

Allie - posted on 12/14/2010

I got pregnant last November when I was 17...and I was working at a Subway in a gas station. (This gas station was the "hang out" of the small town...everybody went there!) and one night, while I was 7 month pregnant, an old woman came in...I made her sandwich, and when we got to the register, she noticed my belly. She looked at me and said "oh, you're just another teen mom statistic, you'll never amount to anything, have fun workind here the rest of your life." I COULDN'T BELIEVE SHE SAID THAT TO MY FACE! how people can be SO rude is beyond me! another customer came in and took one look at my belly and said "man, something must be in the water!" I swear, people just don't know when to speak and when to shut up!

Alicia - posted on 12/12/2010

mostly Ive just gotten looks when I was out with my 2yr and was preg... But something my cousin said to me (she's in her 70s) really irritated me... She decided to tell me that I should go on and have more and just b a stay at home mom or they wont b taken care of properly. Then she went on to say how she was glad her granddaughter (she's like a yr older than me) knew not to have kids and that shes in medical school and that shes goin to do something important with her life... I just gave my mother back the phone didnt respond or even say goodbye. Then she had the nerve to say that same crap to my mother and she went off on her. We havent spoken to her since that little incident

Tammy - posted on 12/04/2010

I just get the looks from people, which can sometimes be worse because you know what they are thinking, why don't they just say it. I found when I was pregnant or when my son was young and I was pushing him in the pram, a lot of older people (60-70's) would instantly look at my ring finger to see if there was a ring on it.

I was 17 when I got pregnant nearly 18, and I was in my last term of High School, well, it's a fun place to be pregnant... apparently the whole school was talking about me, I never heard any of it though, friends would just tell me. But there was a bunch of girls in my year (oh did I mention it was an All Girls school) and every chance they got they had a dig at me, "do you know who the father is" "how are you gonna afford to have a baby" "are you gonna go on benefit". They even told me one day when my friend and I got pizza for lunch that I couldn't eat pizza cause I was pregnant... UH OK?? But what I think was funniest from them was the fact that before they knew I was pregnant, they never really paid much attention to me, and then every day (in my first trimester) they would decide that I was "starting to show"... No, that's just my normal body shape (I'm not extremely skinny but I have nice curves) they were such idiots.

I try to avoid going to the mall when my son is tired now, being 2 and a half he likes to have tantrums for no reason so I prefer that he has them at home, where people can't judge the way I handle them (which is ignoring them anyway). There's just something about walking through the shops with a screaming child that I don't like, I just don't do it, I only continue if I really need something otherwise I turn around and go home (good thing the mall is 5 mins walking away!)

Apart from all those idiots at school everyone I came across when pregnant and now were really nice, except the hospital midwifes, mine was really good I had directed all my pregnant friends to her, but the ones at the hospital weren't helpful at all, only one gave me some really good advice.

My family were really awesome about it too, my brother was the only person who said something, but mum told him off very quickly, and now he loves his nephew so much.

I find I just ignore the comments people make, there's no point in worrying about it, you can't change what has happened =)

Nikkole - posted on 12/03/2010

I was 19 and had been married for a year when i found out i was pregnant! My husbands grandmother was SO upset she was like he ruined his life he should have went to college first and she probably made him in pregnate her (YEA I MADE HIM ;)) It was horrible! And this isnt to do with how young i was but we knew there was a change of me having to have a c section earlier on with my son because of my medical problems but when i was 7months pregnant my mother in law was saying it wasnt gods way for me to have a c section and that i was horrible for doing it and i was planning on breast feeding or at least trying but i didnt tell her that she assumed i would go straight to formula but she said if i didnt breast feed my son he was going to be retarted and have growing problems and be deformed and stuff like that and i was under enough stress i cried for 1month straight it got tot he point i almost hit her! And me my sister in law and her friend were ALL pregnant at the same time well my sis in laws friend had her baby first (she had a c section to) But my mother in law went to the hospital when she had her daughter and was there ALL day! I had my son 2nd she didnt come to see him till the LAST day we were there and she only stayed for litterally 5min and then my sis in law had her baby and she was there in the room and everything it upset me that she wouldnt want to be there for the birth of her sons baby and with my second baby she did the same thing and she lives 7miles away and has only seen my kids maybe 10times how pathetic is that!

Kirsty - posted on 12/03/2010

i have a 5 month old baby girl and im really baby faed myself so i do look way to young at times ive always got looks ect. but i think spend 5 mins chatting instead of watching and they would relise were good mums if not better then some older and more experienced mums!!!!

Jodie - posted on 12/03/2010

you are right,people just think us young mums look after our kids,well thats bullshit.i was 19 when i had my first,and shes turned out to be a great kid,shes 16 now,then at 22 i had my son,hes 13,and they are both highly bright,its all in how you raise your child.as long you know your a good mum,and your friends,then dont take on board stuck up peoples opinions.im sure you are a great mum,there is nothing wrong been a teenage mum,people just need to worry bout their lives,instead of butting into young mums lives.it just shows how boring their lives,if they have to make digs at other peoples parenting skills,tell them all to get stuff.but yes some people are very pathetic.all the best,jodie white from hamilton,new zealand.

Jess - posted on 12/02/2010

Generally the people that surround me having been supportive, the only negative comment directed at me was when my sister posted photos of my baby girl a girl in her year group commented " this is the result of 30 seconds of pleasure"... She quickly apologised after my partner told her he was glad carmen(our daughter) had plenty of people that loved her and that was all that mattered. Instead of immature comments! Turns out her 18 old brother was having a baby with his gf! Clearly somebody wasnt coping with that idea to well!

Amy - posted on 12/02/2010

I HATE IT! we shouldnt be looked down upon. we should be offered support if they are so concerned!!!

Jessica - posted on 12/02/2010

I'm 8 months pregnant right now and haven't had anyone comment yet . But before I was pregnant last year I was 17 and with my 5 year old and 7 year old sisters and some random old lady walked up to me and grabbed my arm and said " those aren't your kids are they!?" like what would she have done if they were. She was ready to freak out over it .

Emily - posted on 12/01/2010

i have a few stories.
i got pregnant when i was 18 and at my first doctors appointment, my doctor told me i had the choice of adoption. okay thats fine, but i couldnt do it. and he kept pushing it. i told him im not strong enough to give my child to someone else. kept nagging me over and over about it. needless to say i switched doctors.

i was volunteering at a thrift store when i was pregnant and the people i was working with and i started talking about young kids with cell phones. like 8-12 year olds. i told them i only got a phone when i was 16 beacuse i was driving and my parents wanted me to be able to call for help if i needed to. an older, like 70ish, lady said, very rudely, "none of my girls had a cell phone and not a DAMN one of them got pregnant!" yeah, because the cell phone totally got me pregnant..

my brothers girlfriend and i were due 2 days apart, crazy i know. and my aunt is all religious, and anti anything before marriage. we were on our way to my cousins wedding shower and she asked how tracy, my brothers girlfriend, was and where she works and such. they're both 25 btw. shes a cpa and my brother is in the air force. my aunt stupidly said, "i wonder what they think of her being pregnant and working in a business setting as an accountant and not being married." uuuuuh, they think its fine. shes freaking 25 for god's sake! people think they can throw their two cents in just because someones pregnant, like touching their belly or baby without asking. drives me nuts!

Ali - posted on 11/26/2010

oh and my personal friends would never have hit anyone in the presence of my daughter. Im not having a dig but you wonder why people say the things they say about us?

Ali - posted on 11/26/2010

regardless wether it was male or female punching someone is no way of settleing anything. Just walk away.

Chloie - posted on 11/23/2010

a nurse on health direct actually made a negative comment to e the other day, i called for health advice not ur opinion, im married and a nurse i think i can decide if i want kids or not

Liz - posted on 11/23/2010

I got pregnant at 20 with my b/g twins, and now and 23. I have my almost two and a half b/g twins and an almost four and a half month old son. I am a stay at home mom and most of the time when I get the looks and comments is when I venture out with the kids by myself when my husband is at work. I admit we are getting some help from the state, but that is only because at the moment we can't afford me to go to work and put the kids in day care and we have no one near by to watch the kids for me to work.

Roxanne - posted on 11/23/2010

Ali Blackmore- It was a male friend that punched the person, and it was a guy that said it. And it turns out they went to the same school and the guy that got hit apparently had it coming, had been harrassing a lot of young mothers. I told my friend he could have handled it better though.

Jolene - posted on 11/23/2010

my neighbour is an older lady - when she found i was pregnant she flew off her nut beacuse i wasnt even 18 and wasnt married and just went off and hasnt spoken to us in nearly a year. she gives my partner and i very dirty looks and talks rubbish about us to our other neighbours. shes the only person iv had trouble with

Jessica - posted on 11/22/2010

when i was 8 months pregnant with my first child i had an elderly lady come up to me and say that i was to young to be having a child, the comment made me so mad because she didnt even know how old i was or anything about me. I told her that i thought she was too old for opinions and walked off. i think that people should mind their own bisness to be honest, its not affecting them so y put their 2 cents in. Just because im a young mum doesnt mean i dont love my child and that shes any different from any other child. its disgusting when people assume that young mums cant support or give their kids the best in life, yes i havnt gone to uni YET, but NO my child doesnt miss out on anything, shes fed, bathed, clothed and loved by her dad and i and thats all that matters. And we wouldnt change a thing.

Tianna - posted on 11/21/2010

I really don;t get why people feel the need to put us down for having our kids young. I was 16 when i got pregnant with my first. I was out with him when he was a few months old and he was crying loudly while i was waiting for his bottle to heat up. And you wouldn't believe the amount of people glaring at me and giving me nasty looks. Almost like i could feel all their eyes staring at me. I thought in my head like.. Okay, so because my newborn is crying and i am a young mother that makes me a terrible one right!? Even though i am rocking him while his bottle warms up? My baby is hungry! Of course he is going to cry!! Just like any other baby... I was so mad. They didn't even have to use words i knew people were judging me. And when my baby was a year and a half had him at my grade 12 graduation. Something people ASSUME you can;t do when your a young mom. I did it a year late, but still did it :) I didn't care what people thought about me. I was proud to have the most important person to me there :) i am now 20 and have a 3 year old and a 9 month old. I look a lot younger than i am, So you can imagine the dirty looks i still get when i am at the mall with my kids.

As far as people's assumptions go, how do they know whether we are good parents or not!? For all we know they might no be the greatest parents either! lol. Ones ability to love and nurture had nothing to do with age. I have had so many people comment on how happy i look with my kids and how happy they are as well. I think people need to give us a little more credit for actually going through with birthing and raising our children. And as for those who disagree with it, thats fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion. But it is flat out RUDE to come out of nowhere and make inappropriate comments about a complete stranger based on assumptions of any kind! And they call us irresponsible and immature!?

Ralyn - posted on 11/20/2010

people need to keep their opinions to themselves. I was a teen mom at 16. I'm now 31 and my kids are teens. it is possible to be a good mom and still have a career. my high school counselor said I wouldn't amount to anything, I laughed and said "watch me!"

Ali - posted on 11/20/2010

well yeah ofc we all get it! but punching someone in the face dosen't exactly give us a good name. if anything your friend just prooved that womans point. you take it on the chin like rest of us and keep walking.

Rhyllie - posted on 11/20/2010

i got that all the time the looks i got.. i was 16 when i had my daughter and everywhere i went people stared and had there opions.. its not up to them what we do so they should keep things to themself and should just get over it.. i think i am doing a great job.

Jessie - posted on 11/18/2010

I was 15 when I gave birth to my son ang I couldn't be more proud, I am the oppisite of what people think a teen mum should be like. Fair enough I do have depression and I'm on benifits but I live in a private rented, 3 bedroom houde with my boyfriend ( Ashton lee's dad ). We hardly go out and we look after Ashton lee perfectly. We have our problems like everyone but we work through them. Im glad I had Ashton Lee young because when he gets older we can go to the park and me and sean will still be full of energy and we can run around all day. I wouldn't want a baby when im in my 30's because I no we won't have so mutch energy. IM PROUD TO BE A YOUNG MAM.

Catherine - posted on 11/17/2010

When my oldest son started pre-school most the parents looked at me like i was a disgrace another statistic. I'm sorry that they were all in there late 30's erly 40's and I just turned 21. I got lots of "looks" early in my sons years now I don't get the looks since I'm 26 now, but my son is nine and only about 4 in. shorter than me but I'm short im five foot I think it's funny now because now he looks like my younger brother. I figured out a long time ago that there are parents alot older than me who have kids and neglect thier kids and even though I was young I do everything I can for my 3 children and love them more than life its self and thats all that matters!

Ambyr - posted on 11/17/2010

Yes, its definatly annoying....just because you are a young mom doesnt mean you dont have feelings for your child/children. I have two of them and I love them very much. I like with their father and everything is going fine. I hate when ppl start with that bs!!!...Its all about who you are and how you were raised now for your age.I've met some older woman who have had kids in their 30's to 40's and sometimes they can be the worst!

Jade - posted on 11/17/2010

Yeah I have this and i hate it!! I go to college and am trying to better my life for myself and my son.. Yet people seem to think your young you shouldnt have a child!!! I got told it doesnt matter your age it matters the type of mum your gonne be :) xx

Amy - posted on 11/17/2010

The only experiences of this happening to me, was online, but I don't take anything on the internet to heart. All you can do is just ignore them and move on with your life. Everyone had to deal with judgement. The less you react, the less they'll bother you.

Jessica - posted on 11/17/2010

i have had the same thing. when i first told my family i was pregnant with my first, kyler, they said nothing. all they did was say that i wasn't gonna be able to take care of him, and just bashed me and my husband all together. it was ridiculous, but people are always gonna have a problem with teenage pregnancy, even though ironically years ago it was teens who were always pregnant and it was weird if they were older when they first got pregnant.

Tiffany - posted on 11/17/2010

i had a woman at a bus stop lecture me and yell at me for about 20 minutes straight about how 15/16 year old girls should be in school not having babys and blah blah blah. all i could say was "im 21, and its not wrong even if i was underage" she must have been the most ignorant woman ive ever met. if your 20 and have 5 kids, all on welfare then maybe you should have aborted at least one or two of them but its your life not anyone elses so FTW do your thing everyone else should stay out of it

Rachel - posted on 11/17/2010

I remember once i was out for chinese food with som friends and my son was only about 9-12 months old . This lady had been starring us down the entire time we were there. On the way out my friend was pushing my stroller and the lady stopped her and asked her IS that your baby. She said no its hers. She stopped looked me up and down looked at the baby and said Good Luck, in a real snot nose way. I was like Luck has nothing to do with it. But me and my friends were like OMG what a Biotch. As if she had the nerve. My son is now 4 yrs old and all i hear from everyone is how good of a job i did with him. He is polite, independent and absolutely adorable. Sure sometimes i know i could have done things better, but every new mom makes mistakes regardless of age. People should just back of. There are alot of other people that aren't the greatest parents and most of them aren't even young moms. I don't give them the time of day. The way i look at is, i had my kids young atleast i will be able to enjoy my life and theirs when i am 40 and actually know my grandkids. So whats so wrong with that?

Anyways people use to get married at like 14 and have babies then, and they use to have 5-12 kids. Why is it we are so incapable to raise just one baby at that age? People don't make sense. Its your life your choice so butt out

Kathleen - posted on 11/17/2010

i was at the shopping center about a month ago with my 2 almost 3 year old son and my 8 month old son.. my 2 year old was throwing a tantrum because i was making him sit in the pram because he wouldnt walk properly.. an oldish man maybe in his 50's walked up to my son and started yelling right in his face he said shut the fuck up be quiet. i said dont talk to my son like that and he was like im trying to talk on the phone and i cant hear anything.. i said i suggest you go outside to talk rather than in the middle of a busy shopping center ( we were right next to the food court at lunch time it was heaps busy) then he started screaming at me.. all you teenage mothers are the same your children are ferral and your disrespectful you shouldnt have kids you cant even look after them properly. at that i just walked away because i didnt want to yell at him but EVERYBODY was looking at me and no one said anything. im 20 years old people do tell me i look young but still WTF!!

Stifler's - posted on 11/17/2010

And LOL at Amanda's story. HAHAHA what a white trash bitch to say that to someone, especially on facebook... what's the difference between having one or more at any age? You still have to look after them.

Stifler's - posted on 11/17/2010

I had my first baby at 21 and I can't say anyone has said anything. If they did I'd probably just nod my head in agreement that yes I shouldn't be a mum even though I've worked since I left school, have a husband, we have our own place and own both our vehicles and I have enough nutritional and medical knowledge to look after and be responsible for the lives of 10 fully grown adults by myself at work so no I shouldn't be allowed a baby.

Karlie - posted on 11/16/2010

my mum told me i couldnt even cope with my first child why was i considering having my second. i had my first at 19 and my 2nd at 21 its not like i was even really young or anything and i was coping fine. its so much worse from family

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2010

I had this chick go OFF at me who was a teen mom! her son was only 2 months and she was 17 and was attacking this other girl on her FB page about having more then one at a young age and i just said ya know "you don't know the full story.. you shouldn't be so judgmental until you walk in her shoes" I got back a ton of arguments on how girls who have more then one are stupid sluts blah blah blah.

some takes from it were: "You spelled it horMOANS, cause that's all you'll ever be good for" and " Im sorry your man doesn't want you or your kids, buy you don't have to take thus shit out on me " (like to point out both quote from the same message where she misspelled this. and i spell it hormoans as a joke because they make girls miserable.)

yup.. you sure showed some maturity there!!!



then a girl i use to know went off when she found out i was having my second.

" statistically it is proven that young mothers often end up not being able to support their children emotionally and finachially as well as mothers who are prepared to have children." and " I just think you should realize its wrong is all. People look down upon young mothers for a reason and there are some "accidents" that cannot be forgiven."

" I know its none of my business but on this one.. I dont think i can keep it to myself because im tired of hearing about people and their terrible childhoods.. your just setting your kids up for disaster. "



smh.... seriously messed.

Alondra - posted on 11/16/2010

my aunt has said some stuff not literally say anything towards me but shes said stuff like 'my daughter hasnt had children yet cuase she wants to live her life and do everything she wants with out something holding her back' and im like wow your supposed to be family. and ive seen older people that have kids that smoke around them and dont care about them but its ok for them to do it im 18 years old and i consider myself a pretty good mom

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2010

Yes, it's annoying, and these people are frickin idiots! They have no clue what dang century or decade were in now! Seeing a teen mom is somewhat normal these days!! Hello!! Lol...and I can remember my grandmother telling me she had her first child at 14, and she loved all 10 of her kids just like any other older mom would of done! Some people just need to shut up and get over it! Abortion is NOT the answer for a teen! Screw these people! :)

Jessica - posted on 11/16/2010

On my first day at my job, I was sitting with these two girls talking about my daughter. One of them said to me you're so stupid. The other girl looked at her like omg what's wrong with you? And she said I don't have to sugar-coat it she knows what she did. After telling my HR and my store manager, she's still working there. I'm 20 years old, not really that young to be having a kid. How does she know it wasn't planned or I was married?? Can't stand that girl.