Please help!! Mothers of a Custody Battle

Ashley - posted on 01/13/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Long story short.... My 3 year old son's father has been with holding him from me, its been 3 almost 4 months and I haven't seen him once! I've gotten my lawyer and getting things going but I hate court, I'm scared to death of going in there in front of a judge and not knowing if I will get full custody of my own child that I've raised since day one. I know probably the main questions of everyone's mind is do I abuse my children... NEVER!! I have a hard enough time putting them into time out. My biggest fear is not getting him back his dad has never wanted anything to do with him untill he started keeping him from me and my gut feeling is telling me that it's all about money (he has to pay child support) that he wants to keep. My stress levels are through the roof, I miss my little boy, and I want him home. I've had many sleepless nights since this has all started and I have stressed myself out to the point I make myself sick. I've also had to start taking half of a sleeping pill to get my mind to stop racing. Can someone please tell how I can manage my stress with this because I know its not good for me, also if you have been through this kind of thing what can I expect to happen when court does happen please and thank you!

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Ashley - posted on 01/27/2011

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Good news is he is home now just hoping the rest goes in my favor for the rest of the court things

Destinie - posted on 01/17/2011

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if he hasn't gone and put in papers for custody all you have to do is go down and do it. That is how it works here. They will give him to you as long as your fit. So if you have a stable enviroment a job and a car dont do drugs or anything else you should have your son back soon.

Karlie - posted on 01/16/2011

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call the cops and say he has kidnapped your son! they will go get him, bring him home, and then it will look really bad when you go to court to sort custody!

Ashley - posted on 01/14/2011

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I have tired calling the pd sherffi and state police and all have told me the same thing it is civil they wont get into it, and since we dont have any custody agreement set up, there really isnt anything I can do, I have my laywer now and on Wed. we are filling temp. custody then going to try to keep the rest out of court through medeation which ive been willing to do since day one but since he wont answer my calls or messages ive sent him i havent really had a choice but to get a lawyer and the only reason why it took me this long to get one was because i was saving up for one because i live from pay check to pay check so it pretty much save some from each check and save child support checks that i have been getting

Amanda - posted on 01/14/2011

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Does he have any full custody now? if not then i would go to his house and not leave until he gives you the baby...he has no legal right to not let you take the child, i would call the cops!

Holley - posted on 01/14/2011

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I know what you 2 are talking about but because i have to tell u all so much on what you can do i will have to message you. so if you would like that just let me know ok. But for now i am just going to tell u two to do what u think is best for you and child.

Peta - posted on 01/13/2011

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hey ashley, I would suggest to get a lawyer get a recovery order in place which mean police will go n get the said child and look after the child until you arrive thier to pick him up (should of done this awhile) its what i had to do, My ex bf came back into mine n my daughter life (after having an affair and leaving for 4 months we had no contact with him) n stole her from my custody (i woke up with the car, my baby and everything of hers gone). Now he didnt want her for 2 years (after i got the recovery order) only got child support thru the child support place (he reufsed to pay it) and now i have to go thru mediation because he wants back into my daughters life. As i had mia at the time (my daughter), we went thru the courts he didnt fight for custody (wen he had the chance too), so i got a custody order after that but now he i have to go thru mediation, because i dont want my 4 yr old to travel 3000km by her self to where he lives. He was the one to move away. he has 2 other kids now and still wants my daughter. i dont know if this helps any. Goodluck i know the feeling of feels so helpless and not sure what to do. I was only in the situation for 2 weeks where i couldnt sleep or eat or do anything i couldnt function. I dont know how your surviving after 3 months. stay safe

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