plz help!!!

Misha - posted on 06/24/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have two little boys there my life i have been with there father for 4yrs now we live together and he cheats on me he stays out for weeks he dont do anything for our kids he even missed our son birthday two yrs in a row i still love him but i dont think he still feels the same way plz someone what can i do to get to that breaking point

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Ana - posted on 07/24/2012

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It sounds like you are unhappy.. and since you are not married and he doesn't do anything for the kids anyway, why are you really there? He can do nothing in his own place and you can be happier in your own with your kids can't you?

You can also still love him from afar.. maybe when you see that he doesn't love you, you will be able to move on..love doesn't hurt or disrespect, or disregard, or abandon....

Sometimes a person is just used to the situation that they are in, and when they get to a new one they llook back and wonder.. I would have stayed in that mess for years upon years unhappy and claiming to be in love...gald I left..

Tina - posted on 07/10/2012

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You might love him but he doesn't respect you. And he never will aslong as you stay with him and allow him to treat you like that. If he's never around and doesn't do anything for you're kids you're basically a single mum anyway. Although I know how hard it can be. Just know you're not failing anyone if you call it quits. This is no way for a man to treat a woman and his kids. And your kids don't need to learn it's ok. You need to get out now before you waste any more time and energy on him or have anymore kids with him.

Becca - posted on 07/05/2012

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If I was you I would leave. It's not healthy for you or your boys to have him in and out when he pleases. They need a positive male role model in their life and by sounds of it the father is not the one. If you want message me or email me at costello_rebecca@yahoo.com I'd love to talk.

Gabrielle - posted on 06/25/2012

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my sisters boyfriend cheats on her. they have been together for a few years and they hve a son together. before every1 found out he was cheating on her they thought he was so perfect(my husband, cousin, dad and I all didn't like him from the start.) My sister found out cuz my cousin saw him on a dating site and showed my sister he deleted himself off everything xcept facebook and said he would never do it again but i feel like when her and their son goes to stay with my mom he messes around behind her back. she says she didnt wanna break it off without trying to fix it but i feel like once a cheater always a cheater. now every1 hates him but since my sister has chosen to stay with him they think every1 should be ok with him being part of the family bcuz she stayed with him.

Sarah-Louise - posted on 06/25/2012

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You should look at your life and ask yourself if you're happy. From the little information you've given I would assume not. Being unhappy can really affect your kids a lot, they pick up on everything so when mom is unhappy they start to feel insecure and unsure. Being that on top of that you have sons you also have to remember that son's will eventually start looking to dad for guidance. If they see that their dad treats you badly they are going to think that is an acceptable way to treat women. Ask yourself what kind of men do you want your sons to be? A man who cheats and lies and leaves is not a man worth repeating in your sons. The hardest thing in life is knowing when to throw in the towel. When you have children broken hearts heal faster because they will always fill the void for you. If I were in your position I'd first try to find out the legal aspects of leaving the father of your children because he will have rights to them. You go to the court house and simply ask for custody paperwork. They hand it all over to you without question and you go home and fill it out. Once you're done you return it to the courthouse and they will let the boys father know that you have applied for custody. Then it's either up to the courts or if there is any way you two will write up and agreement with lawyers. He will have to pay child support for your sons and be allowed to have them once in a while (if that's what the court allows). Then it's up to you to be strong, move on and continue to grow. A good mother wants the best for her children a Great mother will do whatever it takes to give it to them.

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