post baby body :(

Hollie - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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okok, don't get me wrong, i wouldn't change my little girl for the world, but i can't help but feel utterly depressed that i'm not a size 8 anymore. i'm a size 12 now, and i really can't adjust...i've tried loads of exercise and dieting, but the weight just doesn't want to shift! as much as i love my daughter, it kinda felt like someone took a big chunk of my confidence away as they handed me my baby...

anyone feel anything similar? xxx

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Rita_2_davey - posted on 09/05/2010

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I think we all want to get back to our normal size but sometimes it just doesn't happen. You didn't mention how old your daughter is. After a pregnancy it could take 6mos or more to get back into shape. Sometimes you only lose so much and sometimes it all. Just remember that little girl that is the love of your life. If your feeling down about your weight then change your outfits to make you look thinner. The worst thing to do is to try on something that you wore prior to your pregnancy and only upset yourself when it doesn't fit. Give yourself time and dont' condemn yourself. Beauty isn't just in the body its in your heart and your personality. Hope this helps. Take care.

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Melanie - posted on 10/04/2010

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I felt the same way after i had my son over 5 years ago. I have since had a daughter and i am pregnant with twins. I would love to be that size 8 again but reality is i have had 2 kids plus i am pregnant again. Baby weight is really hard to get off again and after both my kids i only ever got back to a size 10. After this pregnancy it will take longer to lose but this time around i am not going to worry about the baby weight as much. If i can get back to a 10 or 12 i would be stoked but i know it is really hard to lose. Whenever i feel low i just look at my kids and i do not care about the weight anymore. Although it is hard i would not trade my kids to get back to a size 8.

Tiffany - posted on 10/04/2010

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I feel the same way. Everybody is different and if you have never had a problem with your weight and never had to diet you dont know how hard it is until that time comes. I only gained 20 lbs with my little boy and 2 weeks later if was all gone. I was sooo excited. Here I am almost 17 months later and I've gained the 20 lbs plus some. Seems like after you have a baby, your metabolism slows down. Its very depressing but when Im in that kind of state, I take a very long look at the beautiful child me and my husband created and reminds me that it was all worth it regaurdless of what you look like, Know that your child loves you just the way you are and wouldnt change you for anything. Dont be so hard on yourself.

Ashley - posted on 10/02/2010

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I definitely feel the same way. I love my daughter but I miss my prepregnancy body. The stretchmarks and the saggyness are not at all a confidence booster. The most depressing thing to me is my boobs Maybe because eventually the weight will shed and the marks will fade alittle but there's no repairing the boobs naturally. lol.

Cierra - posted on 09/15/2010

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I am having the sam problem! I have like no self confidece anymore and never want to leave the house! I went from a size 3 to size 12 since i got pregnant! I need help too

Toni - posted on 09/15/2010

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my thoughts? Who gives a damn what your body looks like.
You have a beautiful baby, and as long as you are healthy, there is nothing wrong with being a bigger size.
The reason why us women feel pressured into looking like we did before we had our kids is because of the celebs with their unnatural bodies.
They get back to their pre baby body really quick because they have the money to spend on nannys, and personal trainers, and gods know what else.
We are normal women with normal bodies, and we are all beautiful.
My fiance is always telling me im too skinny anyway.
Hope i have been a bit of a help.

Traci - posted on 09/15/2010

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I was a size 12 before my son and I was quite happy with my body. Now I'm a size 18, I have stretch marks from my ribs down to my pubic hair and all the way around to near my spine and my boobs are huge but they flop! I love my son, but I hate my body. I got lazy after my son was born and piled on weight. I'm 13weeks gone with my second and I don't know when I'll eventually "show" cuz of my fat belly :( I aim to lose it all after this baby. I don't want to be a fat mummy anymore. I read in a pregnancy magazine that it should take 9months to healthily lose all baby weight! xx

Ro-selina - posted on 09/14/2010

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omg! i feel the same the stretch marks and saggyness suck! im 17 and i cant wear a bikini anymore without disgusting myself lol i gained 15kg with my daughter and have lost most of it already shes 7 months fully understand how hard it is :) i love her but not the way my body reacted to having her :/

Kelsey - posted on 09/14/2010

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I wouldnt say I am any heavier than I was pre-pregnancy, because breastfeeding made me loose it all within a month. But its the stretch marks on my breasts, legs, and butt that make me really insecure. Its like I lost the flawlessness of my young skin and the tightness of eveything :( I guess some toning will tighten everything up overtime, but I cant help but missing my body. Its expecially depressing only being 18 and feeling saggy like im in my 40s or somthing.

Jennifer - posted on 09/14/2010

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i hate my body after i had my son!! but like you said i wouldnt change him for the world!!!

Esmeralda - posted on 09/14/2010

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I agree we all feel the same no matter what size we started off as. I have never been "skinny" but now i feel so self conscious. i went from a size 9 to a size 15. I just take a little time out of the day to do my hair and make up and take a few good pictures with my daughter and i feel better. or i get all dressed up to go out on a date with my bf. it really help. it gives me a little confidence back. try it it my help you too.

Brooke - posted on 09/13/2010

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There is nothing wrong with a size 12. I can't imagine how you feel as I'm up the other end of the scale.
I was small when I got pregnant, 50kg. I went up to 60kg at the end of my pregnancy and 4 days after giving birth I was down to 52kg. My daughter is now 20 months and until recently I was only 46kg. I am now back up to 50kg. BUT through all that I have always felt like I missed out. I never had the huge belly! I don't have stretch marks etc. There are no signs on my body that say I carried and gave birth to a child.
So go out there by yourself a new wardrobe full of clothes. Buy to make you look great. Women are supposed to have curves! Embrace your post baby bod, at the end of the day it won't matter whether you are too big or too skinny cause no one is ever 100% happy! The bonus is your child will look at you and think you are beautiful, you are a mother.

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