Pro-choice or Pro-life?

Raven - posted on 02/05/2013

I think pro-choice unless you are using abortion as a form of bc, i could never have an abortion myself but i think everyone has a choice with what they do with their body.

Violet - posted on 02/05/2013

I used to be prochoice, until I had an abortion my self and went through all of the emotional trauma that no one seems to want to talk about. Crying for hours, days, months, years, everyday for the baby that I just flushed away like it was nothing. Sure at the time it seemed like the right thing to do. I'm poor and overwhelmed as it is, and another child to take care of will just make it worse. It's so easy to drive to the clinic, lay down and even they give you a muscle relaxer to make it easier, it was easy, so easy. Then the realization sits in the next night, the baby is gone. What did I do? How can I ever forgive myself? The first time in my life I ever wanted to end my own life. The tears never stop coming, never. I was not emotionally unstable until I had my abortion. What a huge mistake. So what is really easier dealing with a lifetime of regret or raising a baby that will ultimately bring you joy (hopefully). I don't judge others for having an abortion. How can I when I did it myself? I know what it's like to have the guilt and shame of knowing that I killed my own child. It's almost unbearable. I don't even like the topic of abortion, all the blaming and arguing and judging. I think it's preventing us women from really standing together and supporting one another. Abortion will probably be around for a while as I don't see it going anywhere. I would like to see it disappear from our consciousness once and for all so there are no debates like this and every child that is conceived is wanted and treasured. I hate abortion, it feels ugly to me. I just don't understand it anymore and I wish it would stop happening, as much as I wish that unplanned and unwanted pregnancies would stop happening. But for now they are happening and we could all use a little forgiveness and compassion around it because the statistics say that 1 in 3 women have an abortion. that's a lot, and it seems that most of the women on here are prolife, including women that have probably had an abortion themselves. so who are we to judge?

Monica - posted on 02/04/2013

I am very pro choice everyone should be given the chance to live their life the way they want baby or no baby.

Kathy - posted on 02/02/2013

Hi Kari! I am pro life and l don't think it is ok for other people to have abortions but that doesn't mean I am judging them. I just think they are in a different mind set due to their situation so I don't see them as evil. Why would you never have an abortion?

Helen - posted on 05/07/2012

i recently read this
A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said:

'Doctor, I have a serious p...roblem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together.'

So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?'

She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.'

The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!'

'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.'

The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same!

i happen to totally agree with this,
abortion is leagalised child murder
no matter the sercomstance if you truely dont want the child there is always adoption there is plenty of childless people out there that would gladly give your baby the life it deserves wont you rather that then kill the child before its had a chance???

Michelle - posted on 05/06/2012

I was 15 years old and didnt know anything about birthcontrol, sex or anything my mom never talked to me about what boys want that the night i got pregnant she left the guy in the house and he was 18 years old and next thing you know i got pregnat and decided to keep the baby she did suggest to get an abortion but all know was that they kill the baby i was five months at the time all i said was to her that im not a mureder like her. I always said i will take responsibility if i ever got pregnant and not take the easy way out at the age of 18 i got pregnat again and my mom said get an abortion i said no well maybe it was because i love children and i was never sure what is the technique they do for abortions or never knew from before how hard it is to raise a child but the second time i did get in birth control and 10 years later i had another baby and again the father was so scared that he suggested an abortion but i said no i didnt care if he stayed o left and it was a horrible relationship when he was unhappy the fact i got pregnat but now he is happy and glad of his little girl and when i said to him u never wanted her to be born he denies it and dont wanna hear it.Is easy to say get and abortion because u are scared of knowing what u have to go through but things change when u see that little face coming out of u but there are some that dont like children and abused them sexually, mentally,and physically why bring them into this world for this to happen, is a choice u have to take.

Estela - posted on 05/05/2012

Pro-Life!!! =)

Emma - posted on 05/02/2012

I am pro-choice, but it isn't my choice.

Naidy - posted on 05/01/2012

The question here is, is the woman’s right to her body more important than the child’s right to life?. Not pro-choice or pro-life, because i noticed that pro-lifers have this misconception that individuals who believe in choice think that everyone should have abortions. But thats not it at all, Being pro-choice means that my uterus and its contents are mine and my families business, and should not warrant unnecessary intrusion from middle aged white elected officials,or pro-life enthusiasts who choose to rub it down poor women's throats every chance that they get. Being Pro-Choice means that i still have the right to reproductive freedom, without the government telling me that my body is not my own. No one and i mean No one has the right to tell me what i should do, even if some of you deem it as wrong or immoral. Immoral would be subjecting a woman to carrying to term a pregnancy she did not want.

Immoral would be abolishing abortions, then having to deal with the influx of children pouring into a already tarnished and flawed system,because lets face it, the majority of these children will be neglected and abused. Immoral would be supporting the abolition of abortions, but when the children are here you are now opposed to supporting the children and their family. Because now you have to use your tax paying money to aid in funding WIC, Welfare, Food Stamps and services that will be necessary in granting the child and its family a borderline poverty stricken life. So don't cast judgement on others. Your current situation is not the same for countless of mothers in this country.

*Equivalent to killing and endangered animal eh? we have 7billion people on this planet and dwindling resources. While an endangered animal is on the brink of extinction. Yeah.....*

Madie - posted on 08/06/2011

All sins aren't the same! Ya, when we sin it's against God's commandments but all sins are not equal. Why do you think a murderer would spend life in prison while someone that gave false information (lied) would spend maybe a few years in prison, if even that long??

Tina - posted on 08/06/2011

I think if a person wants an abortion yes it's their decision but when is it too late. I understand people aren't always in the best position to raise a child. But take into consideration no anaesthetic is given to the baby. I'm not debating whether abortion is right or wrong. It doesn't matter what I say it's not going to change anyones opinion. But how late is too late. http://abortsa.com/ this site gives details on some techniques used for abortions.

Maddy - posted on 08/05/2011

I also want to add even thouh I am pro-choice. I do think I have a right when asked to tell someone I don't apreciate that they had an abortion. That's my right and I don't believe I get should not use it if someone doesn't want to hear it. Also I wouldn't comfort them. I have a right to do what I want as much as they do. I don't have to be nice to them just because I don't think what they're doing should be illegal. I still have my voice I shouldn't stifle it then.

I'm btw a single 15 year old mom without any support. When I got pregnant I was homeless jobless and addicted to heroin. I was a wreck and some would say a perfect candidate for an abortion. So I've been in a bad situation maybe even worst than many who have actually had an abortion but I still don't regret and never will regret not having an abortion. If I hadn't had my son, Barry, I'd be worst off. I have principles and opinions. I personally think abortion ia wrong and would never support one getting one if they asked my opinion or for help in any way. But whether it should be legal I think it should be legal most other things that are deemed 'crimes'. How can one really consider themselves a free country if they have peopke in prison? We're not free with restrictions.

Billie-jo - posted on 08/05/2011

First i could not have a abortion but but but i have seen children dragged around and mistreated because the mother was to young and imature to handle the job as mother also no one bothered to help. I will not condem this girl being pregnant at 13 as we all do stuff that we regret later but why should this child endure this life when they did not have the choice to live. A child made this choice and maturity of each 13 year is different. some think they are mature enough to lay there but there are baby themselves. Sorry this is only my view not anyone elses.

Maddy - posted on 08/05/2011

well it is killing. What an abortion is is ending a life. And it's not the woman's body it's not her cells or dna. I think abortion is wrong but I wouldn't fight over it with others unlesss they asked. And I don't think it's really anyone's choice but the parents I am a libertarian so I don't believe in the law as I don't think man has a right to tell another person what they can and can not do. That takes away freedom. Whether it's oldtabs to murder. I don't think it's man's job to judge.

Noreen - posted on 08/05/2011

A sin is a sin is a sin. To God, lieing, or passing judgement on someone is the same as murder.

Madie - posted on 08/02/2011

I just said that is what I believe. Why should he forgive someone that ends the life of an innocent person?

Casi - posted on 08/01/2011

Neither, I'm PRO-minding-my-own-business. If it doesn't affect the quality of my daily life, then it has nothing to do with me, regardless of my personal beliefs.

Casi - posted on 08/01/2011

Neither, I'm PRO-minding-my-own-business. If it doesn't affect the quality of my daily life, then it has nothing to do with me, regardless of my personal beliefs.

Kelly - posted on 07/26/2011

PRO-LIFE no dna is the same, God has a plan for EVERY child. Who are you to say who lives and who dies? this is your own child and you just pick and choose which ones to keep? There are so many options out there for women these days, every child has the right to fight for life, so sad that they are fighting a losing battle to their own mothers.

Kelly - posted on 07/25/2011

i personally wouldn't do it. But I am still pro choice. Simply because I know that accidents happen and that sometimes people aren't equipped to look after a baby. It's a last resort though, definitly not to be used as birth control and only under careful consideration.

Paula - posted on 07/23/2011

I believe life begins at conception. I don't see the difference in ending the life of a fetus/infant/toddler,teenager.

Brooke - posted on 07/17/2011

pro-choice..

Krystal - posted on 07/17/2011

I am Pro-choice. I had an abortion 4 years ago. I regret it to this day. So I can't completely say I'm against it. I think the choice is ultimately the women's decision.

Noreen - posted on 07/09/2011

Janeta- So if you believe that a baby is a baby as soon as sperm meets egg. What do you do for birth control? Do you take birth control pills? Just curious :)

Janeta - posted on 07/08/2011

I do not believe in abortion, I am very pro life! I do not believe that God will put something on your plate that you can not handle! I believe that as soon as the spern and egg meet the life is in making and abortion is murder. I do not look down on ANYONE who has had an abortion butif someone asks me how I feel about it I am not afraid to say what my opinion is.

Jennaya - posted on 07/08/2011

Pro-life...however unjudgemental..but! if someone asks me I will try to push my beliefs on them with no shame. And if you ask me what I think of your abortion...I will not lie about how I feel.

Noreen - posted on 07/06/2011

Madie- I am very much so Pro-Life too. But let me ask you something. WHERE does it say that God will not forgive murder?? Give me the verse right now so I can go look it up.

There is a lot of growing up you still need to do. I was once very immature and would get into cyper fights about abortion and God. But I have came a long ways in the last 5yrs and have finally realized that everyone has different beliefs and it is not up to me to judge. When I judge, I am no better then they are. You attract more flies with honey then you do vinegar. Who is to say that Christianity or Judaism or Muslims are the only true right religion? It is what you believe in your heart. Try to have an open mind and be respectful of other's beliefs. It will give you a whole new perspective on life.

I wrote that I could not share my beliefs without offending someone because I do believe that Abortion is wrong. I believe that a child is a child when a fertilized egg attaches itself to the uterine wall. There, the baby develops a heartbeat. Before implantation, it is a blob of cells that can develop into a baby. But not all fertilized eggs make it to the uterine wall. And if you take birth control (any form, IUD, pills, patches, etc) you in a sense are having a mini abortion every month. You are stopping a fertilized egg from attaching to the uterine wall.

Madie - posted on 07/06/2011

I am Pro LIFE all the way. Abortion is murder!! I was 14 when I got pregnant with my daughter and I NEVER once thought about having an abortion!! A baby is alive the very moment it is conceived, it's heart is beating! And when you stop that heart from beating end a life and that's murder. I believe there are 2 sins God will never forgive someone of committing and that is The shedding of innocent blood (abortion) and denying the Christ. I believe abortion is wrong in every circumstance! I was raped and if a pregnancy had resulted from that rape I would have had that baby and loved it with all my heart! God has a plan for everything and that includes unexpected and unplanned pregnancies!!

Madie - posted on 07/06/2011

I am Pro LIFE all the way. Abortion is murder!! I was 14 when I got pregnant with my daughter and I NEVER once thought about having an abortion!! A baby is alive the very moment it is conceived, it's heart is beating! And when you stop that heart from beating end a life and that's murder. I believe there are 2 sins God will never forgive someone of committing and that is The shedding of innocent blood (abortion) and denying the Christ. I believe abortion is wrong in every circumstance! I was raped and if a pregnancy had resulted from that rape I would have had that baby and loved it with all my heart! God has a plan for everything and that includes unexpected and unplanned pregnancies!!

Noreen - posted on 02/18/2011

I can not share my opinion without offending someone. I feel that it is murder no matter which way you look at it!

Brittany - posted on 02/18/2011

I am pro-choice. I would not agree if someone was getting an abortion just because they didn't want a baby. You should have used protection. But I think if someone is raped or maybe your 12 year old gets pregnant. It would be hard to have a kid as a victim of rape, and what do you say when they start asking about who their real dad is... they always find out somehow. Or can a child that smalls body really handle a pregnancy, I don't think I could let it destroy my child.

Brandee - posted on 02/18/2011

Well, i would just like to post that in may/june of some time i will be recording my debate/argumentation speech i will be making in my college class and it is EXACTLY ON THIS VERY TOPIC!
I of course will be taking a pro LIFE stance.
So for those who agree or even disagree, you can look forward to seeing the speech i will present and explain why you agree or disagree.

Britnie - posted on 02/18/2011

prolife

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2011

pro-life.
If you think you are mature enough to have sex then you are mature enough to deal with the consequences of your actions.
Abortions are immoral when used for ones own selfish reasons. I am glad they are available for medical reasons and rape victims but other than that i think that people should take responsibility for their actions and raise their child, or put them up for adoption! In a perfect world hey :)
I'm not reading many other posts because i don't want to get involved in yet another pro-life/pro-choice argument.
@jessika, watch out because if it hasn't already there is no way it will stay nice. Unfortunately you can't post such a controversial thing on an internet forum and have a clean informative discussion about the pros and cons because people feel so strongly one way or the other.

Alexandra - posted on 02/17/2011

Pro-Choice. I had an abortion when I was 16. I was young and with an abusive boyfriend who was the father. When I went to get checked out, the doctors said that there was something very wrong (my boyfriend tried to make me miscarry several times) so I chose to do what I did. Now, having a child, I wouldn't ever have one again of course but I don't regret doing it. I think if it's being used as birth control is wrong, just like you said. I also think that it's a personal choice. If you don't agree with abortions, then don't get one, but don't tell anyone else what to do with their bodies.

This is my opinion, I'm not pushing it on anyone, I'm just laying it out there. If you're pro-life, I respect that, everyone's opinions are welcome.

Stephanie - posted on 02/15/2011

I personally am pro-life.Yes i do agree with some of the things said about being old enough to lay down your old enough to take care of it. But I do also agree with it being the mother's and the fathers choice on that subject matter. Not sayiing that I agree with the fact of aborting a child in any sense I would never force myself into an argument with the person about it. I would take you there tell you it'll be ok and not to worry but like any other person I have my opinion on the matter.
To be quite honest when I first found out I was pregnant with my daughter..her father and I considered having an abortion...but things changed and we ended up havin our beautiful baby girl.
The only time I would really truly vocalize my dislike to the matter was if the mother decided to have an abortion when she was really far along (if it wasn't a medical reason behind it like something serious) but hey thats just mee

User - posted on 02/13/2011

@Marylea same here.

Marylea - posted on 02/13/2011

@Clara

I had watched a video of Gianna Jessen giving a speech about her life and about abortion right around the time when I had gotten pregnant with my daughter. It made me bawl. I've always been pro-life but her story just confirmed to me how wrong I know abortion is.



I would never treat someone poorly for having had an abortion but I would definitely tell someone who was considering abortion how I feel about it and what my beliefs are. There are circumstances where I understand why a girl would get an abortion (doesn't mean I support it but I do understand) but when someone is using abortion as a means of birth control I can't help but feel disgusted.

Roxanne - posted on 02/12/2011

Pro-life. I just don't like abortion at all. Even though I'm not Christian or religious I believe that a baby is a baby no matter what stage of development it is. To me having an abortion is killing an innocent baby that will never have the chance to live their life. No matter what you do, everyday that goes by that baby is growing and becoming more 'humanlike'.

If you can't keep the baby, then putting it up for adoption is much better than abortion I believe. Open adoptions are a good idea I think.

I don't hate people that get abortions, but it makes me sad they got one.

Marylea - posted on 02/12/2011

I am prolife. Abortion is murder. My daughter was born at 28weeks and she's alive and well. To think that people abort babies that old makes me so sick. I read that the youngest premature baby ever stablized in the usa was 16weeks old. If you don't want to get pregnant DONT have sex. Its that simple. Everytime you have sex protected or not you could get pregnant. Its a choice that you have to make and you should live with the ramifications of that choice. There is always the option of adoption.

Michelle - posted on 04/24/2009

I'm pro-life, but I believe that abortion should still be available. When I told my mother-in-law that I was pregnant with my eldest, she told me that I should miscarry or get an abortion. This was just after she'd been going on about how she wanted to have a baby around the house again. She now adores my daughters but still critises everything I do and bitches about me to my children.

Sabra - posted on 04/23/2009

I am pro-choice. I dont think that abortion should be taken lightly and should be thought about before making that decision. You need to have all of the facts put in front of you as Angela was saying and then with those combined with your personal circumstances should make the choice.



I had an abortion when I was 15. I was in a bad relationship at the time and a bad point in my life. I was pressured into having sex and got pregnant. I knew I wasn't in the right frame of mind to have a child and neither was the father so it would have been very unfair to the poor child I was bringing into the world. I had an abortion and it was the right thing to do at the time but I can't help looking back and wondering if I really did the right thing.

Leia - posted on 04/23/2009

i myself am pro-life but that doesnt mean i disagree with pro -choice...every woman has the right to choose what's best for them. pro-life was and is best for me but everyone is different and has there own uniqu opinions!!!

Amy - posted on 04/23/2009

I am pro-choice. I say if your not ready then please don't bring the child into this world. Personally I could NEVER have an abortion. This is evident in my 10 month old boy. I was 18 and everyone said to abort. I couldn't I felt his life in me and I could not take that and I made myself ready for him but that is me and I understand not everyone feels that way and I would rather someone have the choice rather than feel pressured to have the baby inside them and continue drinking and smoking and damage the baby further and still not be ready for the joys his/her life holds. I would rather a baby be brought into a loving and prepared environment rather than a resentful one. Abortion is not the quick fix answer many people assume. The emotional journey the people who chose that path must embark upon is one I was not prepared to take. That is something which will be carried with them for life. So I do not judge. everyone unto thyself.

Jade - posted on 04/23/2009

Quoting Stephanie:

Well I am Pro-Choice, i b4 thought the same way a lot of u pro-lifes think, but until u experience it 4 ur self, u will neva understand, u think dat ppl who get abortions r bad ppl, & in reality ppl do make mistakes, we r human, & sum ppl dont want their child 2 suffer so they decide 2 get an abortion or wateva the case may b, ppl who do it do not c it as an escape from havin dat child, they c it as givin dat child a much betta life, me personally i have had 1 abortion almost a yr ago, im wit my bf still but we mutually decided we wasnt ready cuz i was raisin my 1 1/2 yr @ the time by myself wit his ocassional help, & he isnt the bio father but he still helped me cuz he loved me, & we got pregnant afta bein 2gether 4 a 1yr, & usin birth control, condoms but things happen, i wasnt ready 2 have another child, & make them suffer, itz all bout wat u think & want best 4 ur child, aint nobody gonna help u, or have the baby 4 u, so even though abortions r wrong in sum ppl'sz eyes sumtimes they look like a solution in other ppl's eyes.

i dont believe that your a bad person, nor anyone else who has an abortion for that matter, i believe that everyone has a choice. I myself am pro-life because thats who i am! I understand that it was a mutual decision and i respect your decision as i would with any one else!

Im just very stong minded when people ask my opinion on things like that. but as i said everyone has their own choices to make, and each person is different! x

Casi - posted on 04/23/2009

Hmmm.. honestly its hard to say how I feel about this.. even about a year ago I used to think I was prochoice. I figured, "Hey, it doesn't affect me any, so why should I care??" Untill a girl I went to school with got pregnant about the same time that i did. Her choice was to get an obortion ((and like you said.. she was using it as a form of birth control)). And, her choice effected me alot more then I thought it ever would. I actually saw myself getting angry with her. As a mother now, I could never see myself being able to do something like that. Even if I had a good reason.

Stephanie - posted on 04/23/2009

Well I am Pro-Choice, i b4 thought the same way a lot of u pro-lifes think, but until u experience it 4 ur self, u will neva understand, u think dat ppl who get abortions r bad ppl, & in reality ppl do make mistakes, we r human, & sum ppl dont want their child 2 suffer so they decide 2 get an abortion or wateva the case may b, ppl who do it do not c it as an escape from havin dat child, they c it as givin dat child a much betta life, me personally i have had 1 abortion almost a yr ago, im wit my bf still but we mutually decided we wasnt ready cuz i was raisin my 1 1/2 yr @ the time by myself wit his ocassional help, & he isnt the bio father but he still helped me cuz he loved me, & we got pregnant afta bein 2gether 4 a 1yr, & usin birth control, condoms but things happen, i wasnt ready 2 have another child, & make them suffer, itz all bout wat u think & want best 4 ur child, aint nobody gonna help u, or have the baby 4 u, so even though abortions r wrong in sum ppl'sz eyes sumtimes they look like a solution in other ppl's eyes.

Jade - posted on 04/23/2009

pro-life! when i was pregnant with my lil boy many people said that it would be best for me so that i would be able to go to uni! i said no because it was a life that my partner and i had created so therefore couldnt get rid of it! I would never get rid of a life.
The baby didnt tell you to have sex and get pregnant so why should it suffer for your actions.
If someone was to choose to have an abortion however i wouldnt judge them its their choice and if they feel that they cant continue with the birth then thats their decision to make.

Dara - posted on 04/22/2009

I am pro-life. i know that life starts at conception completely from a scientific standpoint. i also believe abortion hurts the woman emotionally as well.

Amber - posted on 04/03/2009

Quoting Ashley:

I'm Pro-Life .. if you choose to have sex at any age you should still have the child .. that is my opinion .. I feel a baby shouldn't have to suffer .. if you didn't know .. abortion is pain to a child .. they can feel pain when they are aborted .. and it tears their body all apart .. and some methods will suck out their brain .. its wrong .. i feel if you have sex .. no matter what .. you need to take care of that child and not kill it ..

This is true! Abortion is morally wrong, no matter what the circumstances are. Life starts at the moment of conception. From that moment on there is a soul. abortion seperates the body from the soul and is therefore murder. there are other better options other than abortion. Pro-life!