scared about giving birth

Emmily - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 127 moms have responded )

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Im 16 and im 8 months pregnant i have 8 weeks left, this is my first child and im starting to get scared about giving birth as it is very soon to come. Is child birth very painful and as bad as some people have said it is?

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Ashley - posted on 01/28/2010

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Well yes the contractions do hurt bad i was in labor for 2days i had my epidural the 1st day i was in labor the 2nd day i had to have a c-section bc my babys heart rate dropped to a 30....but yeah labor does hurt but if u have gud support and breath rite u will be ok

Stephanie - posted on 01/28/2010

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hello im 20 yrs old and have a 4 month old daughter, i had her 2 months before i turned 20. im not going to lie but yes it was painful but everyone is different and just be prepared if you need a c-section. i was in labor for 12 hrs and shes my first.i went in at 8pm thurs night and they started the pill that they put inyou at midnight and at 4 am they started potocin, then at 8am they broke my water but i was only 2 cm and stayed there for ever. i was induced of course but by choice and i heard its more painful. but i went thru a couple hours of painful contraction i was almost hyperventalating. i got the epidural at 11am but it would of been sooner but every mother wanted it when i did lol the epi doesnt hurt but usually when you get it your going thru a contraction like me so you dont notice it and it worked AWESOME for me but some people it doesnt work or you need a second dose. i passed out for an hr and woke up and was ready to push, so from 11am to 12 afternoon i went from 2cm to 10cm. i pushed for 45 min due to my contractions, they stopped for some reason dont no why. i had 10 mins or they were going to use forceps and 20 before i needed a c-section but i pushed her out without contraction and tore badly but i didnt feel a thing. ITS WORTH WAT EVER YOU GO THRU TO SEE YOUR BEAUTFUL BABY AFTER!!! GOOD LUCK

Astey - posted on 01/28/2010

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Its different for everyone. i myself wasnt that scared and had a pretty bad labour. After 25 hours of labour and 2 epidurals i was given an emergency c section. I then had to have 2 blood transfusions.



The epidural i had during labour took all the pain away. I was having contractions and not even feeling them.



Honestly after everything i went through i wouldnt change it for the world because now i have a beautiful little boy. It was worth it all

Ashley - posted on 01/28/2010

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hey hunni dont stress to much i only had gas and morphine and it was painful but its not as bad as people say dont listen to the horror stories you will be fine

Jessie - posted on 01/28/2010

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im 17 and gave birth 2 my son at 16 who is nw 10months old nearly its not as bad as ppl make out i was in labour 4 17hours after 11hours i had an epidural and if im honest i think i should of had it earlier it really worked it took all the pain away all u feel is pressure but like every1 has said wen the baby comes out its da best thing ever nd u 4get bowt everything x

Alexis - posted on 01/28/2010

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Everyone had their own different experiences with giving birth. Some have it hard and painful, and some have it fast and not that painful. Its all different but at the end, it'll be all worth it, you'd forget the pain and all that. I personally think that asking for how others pregnancy when, (especially if its your first one) is not really a good idea coz thats only going to scare you more...but thats there OWN experience NOT YOURS. You are going to go through YOUR own, NOT ANYONE ELSES...so it might be different. I m just saying dont let other people's experiences scare you..especially that this is your first.

Caroline - posted on 01/28/2010

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hi emmily, everbody is different, everybody has a different pain threshold, it is a scary thought when u have ur first child even ur 2nd, u hear all these horror stories about other peoples labour how it hurts how it doesn't how long they were in labour for the thing u need to consentrate on is u and ur baby don't listen to anyone else as there labour will be different to urs but everyone is right when they say that once the shoulders are out it is pain free, i have 3 children and yeah there was pain but i wouldn't say it was that bad it is like trying to have a pooh when u are constipated.. i think u will be fine just think of u not what other people say hun.......

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2010

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Emmily you will be fine i was so nervous about it, i was 19 when i had my son and its been 9 months, i did the epideral and didnt feel a thing...i was in labor for 33 hours and 17 of it i had no medication for pain and im a huge baby when i comes to pain! i think the first few days after havin for baby is worse but now lookin back at it i dont think it was all that bad! just relax and think when is all done you have a beautiful baby!!

Stef - posted on 01/28/2010

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i dont think labour hurts as much as people make out it does...my waters broke 2 weeks early, i went to hospital and had to go on a drip what they induce you with streight away through complications people say that the drips make the contractions ten x stronger ( plus the midwife turned it up too high) i was timing my contractions and they was coming every 20- 30 secs and i was only 7cm dialated!! i lasted till 7 cm with a bit of gas and air and meptid.....really they dint touch sides.. dint do nothing for me, i was bouncing off the bed, the contractions was strong but i lasted 7cm with what seemed like nothing!! so its not really all that bad but then after that they reccomended me to have an epidural so i had one... they are good! they really do help, i was in labour 18 hrs so id lasted a good 12 hrs with hardly nothing!! its really not that bad! good luck =] p.s SOME people end up with long term complications off the epidural but the majority dont, i had it and im fine no back pain nothing, so it might be worth giving it a go!! i dont belive eppidurals prolong the labour either, it might seem like it because they cant feel no pain but its just as fast as labour without one!!

Christy - posted on 01/28/2010

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labor does hurt . but everyones diff , dont always bealive what everyone says.
my labor was 7 hours with no epidruel.
epidurels prolong the labor.
so good luck and it dosnt last forever . the pin will go away .
goodluck !

Laura - posted on 01/28/2010

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Hi Sweetie! Im Laura and Im 28 and have 2 children. I had my son when I was 16 and my daughter when I was 19. First, I want to tell you how brave you are for taking responsibility and having your baby. You should be so proud of yourself! This is a very exciting milestone in your life. When I was pregnant at 16 I had a lot of support, but at the same time some people didn't treat me as they would if I were older. With that said, labor and delivery is very painful. I wanted to be that woman that was going to birth naturally without any type of drugs. I tried like hell, but it was just too uncomfortable and asked for pain relief. They gave me Demeral (sp?) which didn't take away the pain, but it made me feel so good I didn't care about it. LOL. Unfortunately, it wears off and you can't get another dose because it can make the baby drowsy when he/she is born. Once it wore off I went straight for the epidural. It was a miracle!! I didn't feel anything after that, no contractions and I didn't even feel my son come out and he was 9lbs! The only down side to the epidural for me was the recovery, which could have been a combo of reasons. Since I couldn't feel the urge to push I was pushing too hard ( he was out in 3 pushes) and I got large painful hemmeroids (Thank God they went away a few days after birth and have never returned!). The Dr also gave me an episiotomy, probably because my son was so big. She didn't ask me if I wanted one and the Dr usually asks or suggests one so you don't tear. The pain after I had him was terrible! I couldn't walk or even move around in bed. I had to page the nurse to help me change positions or to get out of bed. I felt like that for 5 days. With my daughter I skipped the Demeral and went straight for the epidural. I felt no pain during labor, but when it came time to push they turned of my epidural. I felt everything! It was more of an odd feeling than a painful one. Im going to give you a little to much info, but the best way to describe is: the pressure of the baby coming down is uncomfortable. It feels like you have to crap and when you start pushing it feels like you are crapping. I kept saying "OMG! I feel like Im gonna shit! " lol. My midwife said "I promise you it is all pressure you are not going to the bathroom". When the baby's head is coming out it burns a lot. I've heard it referred to as the "ring of fire", so true. After the baby's head is out your body kinda numbs itself. You give one more push and out comes your beautiful baby and the pain is gone! I didn't have an episiotomy and I didn't get hemmeroids with my daughter. I was up and around a few hours after her birth, just a little sore; for obvious reasons. Here are a few tips: #1 I see that you are almost due so you already have a Dr, but midwives are the best! If you are delivering with a midwife you will have a great birthing experience #2 DO NOT GET AN EPISIOTOMY!! Unless of course it is absolutely needed. Make sure you express that to the Dr before you go into labor and during. #3 Don't feel like you have to be a hero with a drug free birth. There is no reason to have to go through all that pain. Would you have a tooth pulled without being numbed first? NO! #4 If you decide to go for the epidural you may want to request it be turned down or off when its time to push, for 2 reasons 1: you may push to hard and get hemmeroids or 2: you may not push hard enough and have a long delivery. Labor and delivery is an amazing experience! Don't worry yourself about the pain. Just keep in mind that it's the final process before you get the most precious,beautiful gift you could ever recieve. Good Luck honey! If you need any advise or have questions or just want to talk message me any time!

Ashley - posted on 01/28/2010

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Don't be scared... I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 18 and had her at 19, I was terrified but not to give birth more so to get the epideral. So when the moment came for it to happen I was so nervous but in the end I didnt feel anything with the ep. although I didnt like how it made me feel everyone has differant symptoms I happend to receive the tingling legs (no fun not being able to move your own legs) and Because I couldnt feel the pain my body was responding my me throwing up (only when i moved) anyways when it came down to giving birth to her I pushed her out in 15 minutes and was smiling as i was doing it.. Its not as bad as everyone says all my friends were telling me how bad it was and so painful but like i said everyone is differant.. You will all do fine remember the pain will go away right when you see and hold your baby!

Kirstin - posted on 01/28/2010

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I just turned 17 this month, my son is four months old, It was painful, but I had no epidural. I remember being in pain, but I forgot how bad the minute it was over. Good luck hun.

Jenna - posted on 01/28/2010

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EPIDURAL!!! i slept through my labor after getting the epidural! the only thing that hurt before getting it was when they checked my cervix to see how dilated i was (but some people have no issues with that at all) i was woken up to push and that was that =] afterwards, you will have soreness "down there", but its not horrible (it will hurt to pee for a few days, but use all the sprays they give you for that!)

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2010

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labor isnt that bad. walking alot and staying active helps to push out the head and shoulders. i recommend it. and try to hold out as long as you can with the pain killers. focus on something else.

Heather - posted on 01/28/2010

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I was 18 when I had my son. I will be honest, it hurts! But when you hold your baby you forget about it all. You will be ok. Just remember to breathe.

Kaleisha Leigh - posted on 01/28/2010

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im 17 and my son is 5 weeks old, i was induced on the thur nite *17-12-09* at 8pm and started getting real bad contractions and didnt get to sleep till about 2.30am *18-12-09* but was woken up at 3am by my midwife as my son went into fetal destress and i was rushed off to have an emergancy c section and even tho i had an epidural i still felt the pressure of them pulling and pushing inside my stomach, i wish i could of had him natural, dont be scared, if u feel the need 4 drugs the have them cos u will still get ur baby at the end, good luck (:

Brittany - posted on 01/28/2010

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It's all worth it in the end. I had just turned 19 when I had my son and I did it all natural with no pain meds at all and it really is healthier for the baby and healing time for you. But the human body has a neat little trick where it doesn't remember pain. It remembers being in pain but not the painful feeling. So once it's over with and your home with your baby you'll def. think it was worth it. To me, the contractions hurt worse than anything. Once it was time to push I got scared because I knew since I didn't have any pain meds I would feel everything but all I could really feel is pressure and those damn contractions! lol. But after I pushed him out, it was such a relief. And I was lucky since I didn't tear or need an episiotomy. My sister-in-law got 10 stitches afterwards so hopefully you'll be like me and not need 1!!!! GOOD LUCK!

Sharmaine - posted on 01/28/2010

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i was 16 when i had my 1st and yeh of course it hurts, it hurts heaps!! even tho it heaps painfull i dont think it is quite wat i thourght it would b n once it is over, u dont forget about the pain n ur still a bit sore! but i said straight away i would do it again!! more then worth it n its amazing, u get to met ur beautiful baby n i never knew it was posible to love anyone so so much!! The best feeling in the world! :-)
dont be saced..u'l get to meet ur lovely little bubba!
best of luck with everything

Suzie - posted on 01/28/2010

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labor is hard and it is hard on ur body and you feel like the pain wil not end like someone is ringing you gut with their bare hands and pushing is a burning sensation and it is extreme pressure like nothing you can imagine. it is scary and painful but after the baby is born it all goes away and you will feel like amillion dollars. i have labored with and epidual once and the other 3 times with out and i would rather do with out. your body is amazing and you can handle it. if you cant handle the pain do not be afraid to tell them you want an epidual some woman can handle labor with out it and some cant dont be embarassed or ashamned do what you need to do to get thru ur labor and have a healthy baby! GOOD LUCK

Erin - posted on 01/28/2010

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hey, yes it hurts alot but u can always have pain relief, i had the gas and epidural, i still felt the pain with the epidural but once the baby is out u forget all about the pain, goodluck :)

India - posted on 01/27/2010

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i'm not going to lie, it's painful, but you can handle it. you will be okay. and at the end of it, you will have a beautiful baby to hold! it's so worth it. i got an epidural when i was about 4 or 5 cm dialated. taking a warm bath can help but i recommend the epidural cuz it helps you be able to actually enjoy the birthing process.

Nichole - posted on 01/27/2010

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t.v makes everything more dramatic then normal it is painful but its not as bad as you think. get a epidural they are amazing and they push the needle in you when you have a contraction so its not so bad but trust me you will get through this.

Danielle - posted on 01/27/2010

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It's not that bad, I was really scared too. I'm 18 and just had my first daughter jan. 15th of this year. Just get the epidural BEFORE you feel like you are in too much pain to go without it any longer.. I waited until I was 8 centimeters and I'm telling you that is not the time to decide you want one lol. The contractions weren't that bad at all, the worst part was the pressure from the baby's head coming down during the contractions that was painful. After the epidural though it all stops hurting. The whole thing for me though and I was someone would have told me this but from what the anesthesiologist [sp?] told me I guess when they have you lean forward so they can give you the epidural you will have a contraction no matter what.. so you want to get that when they aren't that bad so it's not difficult to sit still while you're getting it lol. After I got that though I felt SO much better nothing hurt anymore I could still feel pressure down there but it wasn't painful at all. Hope this helps and good luck! :)

Chelsea - posted on 01/27/2010

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Everyone told me how bad it would hurt and i started to get nervous also. It was the most easy thing i have ever done. My period was worse than that. Sure its uncomfortable in a way that you haven't ever felt before but it was diffidently not unbearable. I only had to push for 30min. i had a very easy smooth labor so don't let everyone scare you! everyone is different!!

Brittney - posted on 01/27/2010

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i gotta admit the contractions really hurt!!!!! but if you get the epidural you will be ok, i slept the entire time until it was time to push, it was the best sleep ever. i was in labor for about 24 hrs. wen u feel like u gotta take a huge dump, lol, its time to push!! good luck. i was scared too but its not so bad!! congrats!

Becky - posted on 01/27/2010

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im 22 and also pregnant with my first child. im 28 weeks. i cant tell you how it f3eels cause i have no clue either. but im just as scared. been thinking about it a lot more lately. and it really is a terrifying thought. just wanted to share cause i can relate to how your feeling. good luck. and my prayers go out to you and your baby!

Minerva - posted on 01/27/2010

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oh i know yor pain iwas in labor for 11 in a half hours of labor and i had to have an episotomy did i mention i was 15 medication and i popped so many blood vessels in my eyes just for pushing to hard they were blood shot red for 2 weeks

Tegan - posted on 01/27/2010

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hi,

im 20 and i have a 8 months old. i was 19 when i had our daughter and yes its very painfull. i was in labour for 24 hrs. but i did it all natural without drugs. except the gas i think thats great =] i did alot of research before i was due just so i knew what drugs did what and i was much comftable to go all natural. it hurts but once the babys head and sholders are out they slip out and i didnt have to push my placenta out either that feel out to just after bub come out.Just remember to keep breathing dont just scream the whole time as difficult as it is to not scream just try and breath through the pain and try hold the pushing for as long as u can cuz if u start pushing to early you can tear, thats what my midwife said which i didnt stop cuz it was like IMPOSSIBLE lol but i torn alot so i recommend to anyone to listen to the midwife. but once ur baby is out the pain stops. looking back on it now i cant remember how painful it was all i know is that it was VERY painful lol. you forget about it afterwards. you will do great women have been having babies naturally for years =] you will be fine. my next baby i plan on a home birth completly natural lol.

good luck and i hope its a breezy birth for you like mine was

Sam - posted on 01/27/2010

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Dont worry hun. Make sure you have a good support team/person. I would highly recommend the epidural. I got induced and it was much more painful then if i would have had him naturally. I was in labor for 15 hours, and i thought it flew! Once you have your baby, you wont remember the pain, you wont even THINK about it...its soo surreal when you get to hold and see your baby for the first time. Good luck! Just remember the pain is temporary and is for a good cause. And it just feels like menstral cramps. Make sure you breathe slow otherwise the pain will get the best of you.

Rebecca - posted on 01/27/2010

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I'm 22, I had my first child at 18 and my second at 20. I had epidurals with both, and that helped ease the pain, mostly. It doesnt get rid of the feeling when you are ready for birth. The head and shoulders are the most difficult, especially depending on your size and the size of the baby. My first child fell out, and I don't actually remember much about the birth as I had gones through contractions for 4 days and was very tired. My second was more difficult and a little more painful as he was bigger. The more annoying part was the placenta which they have to make sure is completely removed. Find some things to keep you calm, pay attention to your breathing, and keep someone you trust in the room for you for comfort. My husband was making me laugh with my second child, and it helped pass the time. Both my pregnancies were officially 6 hours of labor. Just relax and talk to your family and doctors about it, because it's gonna happen anyway, and your already tense enough, I'm sure. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 01/27/2010

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it's not actually as bad as everyone says. i was petrified of going in to labour but when it happened i didnt even realise i was in proper labour, the pains came every minute and lasted about 30 seconds and just felt like a dull period cramp!! it wasnt until the midwife told me i was 8 cms dilated that i realised i was in labour. pushing out the baby is not that bad either, tbh it just feels like you really need a poo but cant go (sorry tmi) and it burns a little. for me the after pains are a lot worse but i have been very active and pulled all the muscles down below n in my stomach so i dont know if it hurts for everyone afterwards?

i would say just dont worry about it coz its over before you know it and when it is over you will wonder why you were so scared, just relax and get as much rest as possible because being pregnant and giving birth is the easy bit, when buba arrives thats when the hard work starts!! xxx

Terri - posted on 01/27/2010

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I had my first baby at 16. It was a wonderful. I had a natural birth without any medication and found it to be a powerful and beautiful expierence. I thought of it not as painful but as powerful. Allow your body to do what it must, (ie walk,drink, move use your voice, whatever it tells you) Your body is a smart machine allow it to work for you and your baby. "We have a secret in our culture. It is not the labour is painful but that women are strong." I love that quote and believe in it fully. Best of luck in your new journey as a mom.

Naydean - posted on 01/27/2010

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i jus turned 17 i fell pregnant at 15 an had ma gawjus little boy 15 wks ago it is scarey but jus think wat u get out ov it a beautiful little baby b proud of urself its the one thing u feel rele good about jus ave gas and air an u wil b fine bab x

Amanda - posted on 01/27/2010

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i was in labor for 2 days with my daughter , n i didnt evn no lol. i was at the hospital for a checkup n the midwife acidently broke my waters . n then from there on i had the gas non stop lol. was great. hav the gas!!! it doesnt affect the baby once u stop suckin on it , it leaves ya body. if u hav a epidural make sure they do it right. they stuffd mine up twice and i ended up havin local anistecitc n i was practicly aslleep wen alivia was born. it does hurt wen at the end tho. wen the contractions get close together. but ull b right. i was scared as too. lol wen she broke my water i was cryin.n saying i dont wanna hav the baby lol. but its so worth it. my lil girl is so beautiful n im glad i have her. id go through that pain anytime. just to hold something so precious that ive made. and that is mine!!!

Tasha - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hey, i'm 19 with an 11 month old,I was so scared about giving birth that i cried for the 9 days that i was overdue.I didnt have no pain relief what so ever n it was my first baby, it hurts yeah, I had 2 hot baths while i was in labour n that helps so much! its only really the head crowning that hurts loads, and the contractions, once theheads out the rest just follows in one small push, as soon as she was out everything was forgotton, cause when you have a baby straight after your body releases a hormone that helps you sort of forget what happened :/ your sore for abit afterwards but you dont really care about that cause your babies oredy there. to be honest... it just feels like your having a ginormous poo :S cause when you feel like you need to push-your feel like your gonna poo lol then you push from the bum. Hope this helped you :) try not to worry, good luck!! xx

Lydia - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hello! I was quite worried about giving birth and i had just turned 20. I think that the contractions are uncomfy but i didnt hhave any pain relief until 5 hours into labour. I tried gas and air and it made me really sick so i had an epidural and i would DEFINATELY RECCOMMEND IT!! I was 4 cm and i fell asleep and woke up fully dilated!! A few things went wrong, my baby was laid back to back and they should be laid on their front, they didnt realise this and i pushed for 1hr30mins, he didnt move! I went on a drip to increase my contractions and then they realised, so took me into theatre for a forceps delivery, when i was in theatre his heart stopped and they had to do an emergency c section, it turned out he was not only back to back but the cord was round his neck 3 times! He was being strangled which is why his heart stopped. He is fine now and even though it was a very tricky birth it was no where near as painful as i expected! It is also such an amazing feeling to do that with your partner, I have never felt closer to my fiance as i did that day!! We now have an amazing 8 month old boy named archie i cant wait to do it again!!!!good luck , you wil be fine!!

Ashleigh - posted on 01/27/2010

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hey yes it's painful. Trust me every1 is different and it isn't as bad as some people make out. I didn't take any drugs so the contractions felt like an extremly bad stomach cramp (that hurts way more than the baby coming out). When i was pregnant i thought the pain would of been downstairs (if you know what i mean) but it wasn't it was in my stomach. Hope it helps sorry if i've scared you but the truths the truth

Carol - posted on 01/26/2010

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I dont know if your still reading, but I had to jump in after having three VERY different labors with my three boys. I am 44 now and still fondly remember each labor. I was 19 with my first child and remember the worry about pain............I hope to encourage you that fear of the unknown is the worst enemy, and if you focus on what it "MIGHT" feel like you will not be intuned to what your body is telling you, so please take some time to calm down. After that the best description I ever got prior to birth whas the difference between healthy pain, and damaging pain. Healthy pain is what you remember from pulling teeth, and damaging pain is your arm being ripped off my a machine slowly. There is nothing about any of my births (without drugs and natural) being painful until the actual moment of birth. Contractions feel like cramps and they get worse and worse until you dont think you can stand it anymore (which is when you ask for drugs but they wont give them to you) all of a sudden you will have a feeling like you must fart in a crowded room at a formal dinner. You MUST, and there is no helping it! Thats pushing, and each person is different, but I can tell you at that point, you dont care what you will be feeling at that point, It is always new, it is always different, and by the time anything registers............. it is over.....and THEN your thoughts formulate about the pain, which in hindsight is REALLY no big deal compared to having your arm ripped off. I have had episiotomy, then, ripped up down and sideways actually, then a head stuck in my vagina, None of that actually registered as pain. Your eyes might get wide at critical moments, but it will be over before you know it and you will be fine. Have faith in your body to do its work, and the doctors to help should you need it! Good Luck! Before you know it you'll have a naughty teenager! *grin*

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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I was induced and had 30 hours of labour....I went 18 hours with no pain meds just a birthing ball and I used mental pictures of happy places like the beach and just tried to keep breathing ....then it got too intense and I was exhausted so I had the nitrious oxide (laughing gas) and I didn't like that and then I tried morphine and still felt intense pain so then I finally had the epidural and it helped but i still felt stuff. I think the best advice is just go into it trying to stay as relaxed and calm as possible..have someone with you who will make you laugh or calm you down if possible and if you start to feel pain dont panic and dont try to put yourself through unecessary pain...if you cant handle it get some meds caus you want to be able to look back at the birth of baby with good feelings about it. I quickly forgot about the pain once I saw my daughters face and I had to have an episitomy with 42 stitches that I didnt even feel caus she was so beautiful. Hopefully this helps...good luck :)

Christyna - posted on 01/26/2010

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18 now had my baby girl when i was 17. its painful but as soon as you see your miracle all the pain disapears!

Keira - posted on 01/26/2010

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dont be too worried about the whole labour its not as bad as it seems..i was in labour for 18-20 hours with my boy n never thought once about the pain until half way through the second stage if you need to ask for the pethadine it does wonders believe me..once you give birth n hold your baby you will forget the whole thing i promise...just pray that its not a big baby my first was 9 pounds..dont freak out when you do go into labour just relax you wont regret a thing..im almost 20 n got 7 weeks to go with this one you might be amazed n realise you enjoyed the wqhole experience i know i did...

Celeste - posted on 01/26/2010

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YES it is painful, im not trying to scare you im telling you the truth! They call it labor cause it's HARD WORK! Get the epidural, i know some women dont believe in getting an epidural but F*CK that it takes some of the pain away lol, I'm 19 and my son is a month 2day =) you will do just fine it's natural for women lol it's way better than a c-section for sure! You should add me on your circle! You gotta My space or Facebook so we can talk? =) Well good luck hope 2 hear from you soon p.s. this is gonna be the best thing that has ever happen to you, i love being mommy!

Catalina - posted on 01/26/2010

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Hi emmily, my names catalina but u can call me cathy,
im 32 weeks and abt to give birth 2, ive heard from all the moms around me that birth is hard but one thing theyve all mentioned is to try not to be nervous, because when the day comes u are more excited than u are nervous, im having a regular birth so im getting the epidural but if the situation gets worse and i hafto do a c section although it doesnt hurt the after effects are worse than a regular birth. point blank im nervous too but it isnt as bad as people say because once u are giving birth just the thought of your baby being in your arms is all you'll be thinking about. hope im of some help.

LaWanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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It is painful at the time being! I was 18 when I had my little one, which was six months ago. The whole time your in labor it hurts but once its over you feel a lot better! I had some trouble so it took me a little while to feel better but it was worth it! I had a natural birth and that was really special to me and my husband knowing I could do that and our son came out smiling!!!! All will go great just wait and see

Cynthia - posted on 01/26/2010

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i was in labor for about 49-50 hours all natural, its not quite as bad as people make it out to be but it definately hurts and is tiring but its all worth it and you will know it =) good luck

Kelly - posted on 01/26/2010

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hey i had my son when i was 16 it does hurt but as soon as you see the baby you forget all about the pain its all wortth it in the end good luck your be great :)

Jodie - posted on 01/26/2010

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hey i was 17 when i gave birth and to be honest even though yes it was painful and everything it was so very rewarding. I didnt think it was as painful as some people let on. My labour was 6 hours long after my waters were broken i had no pain releif for 3 and half hours even though she was spine to spine then after the 3 and half hours i tryed the gas and air but i didnt like it so i had an epidural ( i didnt want pethidine cos it crosses the placenta). Im not going to lie yeah it was painful and the worst part was when the head was coming out cos it stung! lol but seriously as long as u take it all in ya stride it should be okay. Just keep your mind open to the pain relief options and have the people there that you want and try not to freak out and remember to BREATH!!

Cynthia - posted on 01/26/2010

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Not gonna lie to you it hurts. For my birth i had alot of problems. and ended up getting a c-section. I tried to stay away from drugs as long as i could and i recommend you do to. If you just knock out all the pain you wont be able to love and appreciate your baby as much as you can. Plus when i got my morphine shot my daughter stopped moving because they get the drug to so that also was a huge scare. Im not saying don't take them but try to hold off as long as you can. In my situation i didn't have a choice to get a spinal tap or anything like that. but if you can, don't get an epidural they cause problems in the long run.

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