Single Teen Mom Still Talking to the Daddy.

Arielle - posted on 10/28/2009

Girl it is truely not worth trying to keep a man in your child life. True it is your childs father and want that relationship, but if they do not want that bond you cant force it. I tried for the last 2 yrs of my sons life and now I am back at the single parent of a 2 yr old. The dad might call to check up on him but what good is that doing for you financially or mentally. You have taken all of your time to play with your child and educate them to give credit to a man who did not care about you. I dont think its worth it.

Kimie - posted on 10/15/2009

thank you all for you input on my situation. It's really helpful reading what you all have been through and with the tips you give me on what to do. Thanks so much!

Danica - posted on 10/15/2009

I was in the same postion you were in besides me and my boyfriend dated for about a year. We were always together and had the relationship where friends didn't really matter to us anymore. I found out I was pregnant and soon freaked out about him leaving me and money and not being able to support her on my own. A month or 2 after arguing and fighting over the same thing he broke up with me and started drinking with friends. When she was born he came straight back to me and I took him back but that lasted for about a month.. He says he doesn't want to be tied down & that he doesn't want me to get mad when he wants to do things with friends. It's really hard to let him go out and have fun when you're sitting at home with the baby. I've had a very hard and emotional pregnancy but now my baby is almost 5 months and I'm beginning to move on. Getting out of the house helps.. Instead of reading comments or calling him (if that's what you do) because that's what I did and it made it 10 times harder.

Chloe - posted on 10/14/2009

Yeah i agree it is to do with imituraty, my ex broke up with me when our second baby was a couple of weeks old his reason being i was always 'moody' even though he is 4 years older than me he is still alot more immature than me. I jusy found the best thing to do when we started to argue was not talk for a couple of days rather than carry on argueing. Its 4 months on and we don't argue anymore apart from the occasional disagreement but its alot better this way. I like it better being single because i can make all the decisions and things by myself. I felt like it was horrible that we broke up but it does get alot easier :)

Kimie - posted on 10/14/2009

I think another one of the issues is that he's younger than me. I'm 19 and he's 18...so there's a gap in our maturity. he said the reason for breaking up was because I was too "bitchy" as he says. but we all know that's mostly thanks to hormones. Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

Mea - posted on 10/14/2009

Hay there, The same thing happend to me but we broke up before i found out i was pregnant and we both moved on straight away! but after i found out i was pregnant we started talking about what we were goin to do about our baby. We fought alot, but worked it out. the main thing tht hit me so hard is that he told me the only reason he had moved on so quickly is because he was hurting and he didnt want to let me know. i mean i was having his baby and dumped him and then started going out with someone else.. he said it was just like i had cut him out of his babys life... so your bf might be hurting aswell, me and my bf got back together and have been together for 4 years and now have 2 children!!

Good luck Kimie