Soon 2 be very yng mom
Jessica - posted on 02/23/2010
hey sweetheart! wow 13 ur still so young u must be really scared, but if u've choosen to keep this precious bub u obviously understand the resposibility of it all. and im glad to see that only one person on here was rude to u about ur age, ignore that woman for this is a website to help teen mums, and u've only just made it lol but u are a teen! so can i ask u how did ur family take it when u old the and how did u tell them. i really hope all goes well for u!!
Shelley - posted on 02/21/2010
Dear Jennie, Im old enough to be your mom so I wouldn't say Im like you but I did want to tell you about a support group called MOPS, Mother's of Preschoolers. You can find a chapter in your area online putting in your zipcode at mops.org I believe. They also have teenMOPS so be sure to check out the website. It's a great support system. I attended when my children were young and I now volunteer at a chapter near me.
Jamie - posted on 02/21/2010
hey congrast darl.... i know how you feel, i fell pregnant 2 mths after i tured 16. scared as all hell, i dropped out of school before o knew tho. but havent looked back since. i turned 17 3 weeks after giving birth. the stares and the glares scared me too! but in the end i just gave up on them.... as for breastfeeding, i couldnt cause my son is tongue tyed. but its good, i went to tafe and done 3 certificates and i qualified to do what i want having my son hasnt stopped me living my life, sayign that i dont go and blow my money on gambling and drinks. im a resposible mother, and you will be too! yes its hard but you'll get there, the outcome is the best thing any woman can get. btw my son turns 2 on march 28th. and i now 18 turn 19 in april.... again congrats and goodluck xoxo feel free to add me on facebook
Christine - posted on 02/20/2010
hello jennie! my name is christine i am 20 now but i had my son when i was 17. i also agree with kat matthews dont listen to people like Lindsay Mcdonald they only bring you down i took a year off highschool after i had my baby. i went back to school but an adult education center where there is a day care on site so you arnt to far away from the baby! i am a graduate of highschool now and im a year away from having my nursing degree so dont give up and dont let anyone tell you that you cant! i wish you all the best hun and i hope you have a happy healthy baby girl ♥:)
Michelle - posted on 02/20/2010
hi .. im an older mum now but i had my first at 16 2nd at 18 and 3rd at 19 so i know what like .. its great growing up with them and i would not change it for the world the only problem i found was when they hit teenage years i found it harder to relate to them as when i was their age i had 3 kids and a house to look after but you have a long time to worry about that ... you will find it hard but you will cope as for the people that will call you everything under the sun dont worry about them but one piece of advice i would give you is use protection from now on .. it seems a simple piece of advice but dont go getting pregnant too early not for the sake of the kids but for your own health as it is common as you get older to be more prone to cervical cancers ( i know).. and remember its not all cute and cuddly when they are screaming at 3 in morning and you are knackered but it will pass and remember you will not be a failure if you ask for help good luck and contact me any time xxx
Kat - posted on 02/20/2010
Hey Lindsey Mcdonald, Jennie has come on here to ask for help, not to be judged on her past! Give the girl a break. The fact that she has come on here shows that she will be a great mum and is looking forward to being a mummy.
This group is meant to be here to support teen mums/ mums to be.
Jennie congrats on the pregnancy I hope everything goes well, you will be a great mum, before I had my little girl Maddy, I was terrified, I hadn't so much as changed a nappy never mind looked after a baby!! It all comes as second nature sweet trust me!! I'm now changing nappies in my sleep!!
Good luck! If you ever need any advice, I'm happy to help! =)
Lindsay - posted on 02/20/2010
what the hell are you doing having unprotected sex at your age anyway?
obviously not going to school because your spelling and grammer is shocking.
If your going to take FULL responsibility for this child, and your literally willing to give up the rest of your life then good. but if not I think you should seriously get some help.
13 with a child isn't the way to go. I hope it works out, but for your childs sake
Beth - posted on 02/20/2010
hi i was 18 in my last year of sixth form when i got pregnant, the dad was never around, and i have looked after my son by myself. he's two now and i'm planning to go back to college this september. i think it's easier this way personally! if you are supported financially (i'm on benefits) and it's possible to stay at home, i think it can be the best thing, you get to see you child grow and develop and you really grow up with them! i know i did, and still am! having my son has motivated me back into studying because i didn't really care about school or knew what i wanted to do before, and now i know i want to be a midwife, and specialise with teen mums. i'd never had known how amazing midwifery is and how much i wanted to learn to be a midwife if i had never had my son! it's not for everyone to stay at home till their kids go to nursery school (the first free childcare!) i have friends who went to work when their kid was young because that's what they felt they needed to do for their kid. know yourself, make your decisions and stick to it! and don't get caught up in trying to be a perfect mum, just be the BEST you can be for your baby! good luck! :)
Katelyn - posted on 02/19/2010
I was 18 when I had my daughter and 21 when i had my son. I remember going to school and the looks and attitude i got from people and i knew everyone. I cant imagine how it is for you right now. You are a very brave strong woman!
I breastfed both my children for the first 4-5 months and then changed them both to formula... If you want to do it but are worried about the pain that potentially could be involved, there are creams available that not only help prepare your skin for breastfeeding but you can continue to use once the baby is born and can GREATLY reduce the pain levels as you and baby are both learning to latch on properly!
Please add me to facebook or message me if you have any questions! my kids are almost 3 years old and 7 months old and ill be 22 in a few months. I know im older and everything but every new mom/young mom has the same obstacles, its just whether or not people choose to be open minded about situations that makes them helpful:) Good luck with everything and would love to hear from you:)
Amanda - posted on 02/19/2010
Hi, I am now twenty-one. I wasn't very young when I got pregnant, but I still got a lot of trouble from different people for my age. I am in school and I breastfeed. I use a pump while I am at school. You can get a free one from WIC. I just breastfeed him normally at home. He is now 5 months old and I plan on continuing to breastfeed until he is about two. I just love looking into his little eyes while he is eating as he stares back at me. It really makes me feel like a mom. :)
Jasmine - posted on 02/19/2010
Hello, im also due in may 30th. I am also quite young baby will be born just 2 and a bit months before my 18th. I was scared to begin with but i have all the support of my family and my boyfriends family. My younger sister that turn 16 in october is also having a baby boy, and hers is due july so i know what its like. If you want you can add me to facebook if you want to chat...
And Congratulations i think i may be having girl too but i didnt find out :) x
Emily - posted on 02/18/2010
Hello, im emily. i was pregnant at 15 miscarried. and got pregnant again 6 months later. But i had maria when i turned 16. Maria was born in april of 09. so how old are you and when are you due.? and is it a boy or girl.?
Merry - posted on 02/18/2010
Hey I only have one piece of advise and that's to not give up on breastfeeding when it is hard and it will be hard in the beginning and painful but there's not one mom I've heardwho regretted breastfeeding. Formula is ok but I'm sure u want what's best for ur little baby and you won't regret keeping at it. Ask for help and be paitient. It does hurt for week or 5! But again remember you will only regret quitting. Keep ur eyes on the health of urbaby and you and breastfeed! It's the best decision I've made for me and my son. He is now 10months and we r not stopping anytime soon. I know many many moms who breastfeed till their baby is 2 or 3 and those babies are thehealthiest ones outthere! Idk if I'll stay that long but I wouldn't quit b4 erics ready cuz I'd feel selfish. I want to b able to say I did everything I could to keep him healthy. Don't worry too much if the 1st weeks are really hard and u might not really feel that happy loving feeling cuz U'll have noo sleep. But it gets so much better and try to treasure the
moments where u can hold ur little baby for hours! Soon she willbe walking like mine and not want to cuddle. Message me with ANYTHING u want especially breastfeeding questions. I wanttohelp anyone with breastfeeding problems cuz I've gotten so much help about it. Have fun being a mom! Laura
Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010
hello! first of all congrats! i am 19 i have a boy who just turned one january 29th and i am also expecting one at the end of may! so i know just how it is to be a young mother. how old are you?? one thing i can tell you is dont let anyone make you think because you are young you cant do it! i had plenty of people like that during my first pregnancy! age is nothing but a number! it does not tell how great of a mom you can be or will be that is up to you and you alone! just keep that in mind. then prove to all those people doubting you that your a GREAT MOM and you love your new job:)
Amber - posted on 02/18/2010
Hi, Congrats on the little one. My name's Amber, 27 years old. Had my son when I was 15, my daughter at 18, a baby boy at 20 and another boy at 21. Sometimes it can be a struggle, but it's so rewarding. I finished highschool, and eventually went on to college. I just purchased our first home last April, it's an old home, and not huge or fancy, but everyone has their own room. I am able to offer them a safe, stable home now.
My oldest son and I had a dinner date last night (we went out for chinese), and as we ordered, and he thanked the waiter, and was so polite, it made me realize that I did a good job. Keep up the good work, you're going to make a great mommy.
Amy - posted on 02/18/2010
Hey Jennie, First of all congrats, and love the name you picked out.. I was 17 when i fell pregnant and had my beautiful girl when i was 18, naturally 6p 1oz and now im 19 and she is 5 months old.. Beastfeding doesn't hurt, well it doesn't hurt me.. i'm still beastfeeding her and she is still quite happy too.. You are welcome to add me to facebook and if you have any questions i would be quite happy to help.... I have always want kids right from when i was little and now that i have my princess i wouldn't change it for the world.. Good luck with the rest of your pregnacy and keep us updated when you have your little princess.... Take care.. xxx
Charon - posted on 02/17/2010
hey i can relate 2 u i was 14 when i got preg wit my 1st son 15 when i had him then i got preg at 15 n had my 2nd son at 16 things r workin out fine 4 me n skool is not 4 er 1 i dropped out n got my ged that was what was best 4 me!!! im not sayin drop out but things happen i was 17 when i got my ged so it put me a head of most people n i know how u feel bout the new skool cuz when i had my son i was the only preg person in my skool er 1 talked about me so i did what i had to do to stay out of trouble i did go back after i had my son but shit happens i have done alot 4 my self i have 2 cars i live n my own place n married my childerns father n dont feel bad that the father is no longer there er thing happen 4 a reason what grade r u in middle skool still seems like to me but what state r u from ?!?!oh yea n im 18 now doin better than most 30 year olds so that what u have to do aim 4 the top there are things u can use out here like wic n stuff but its not there for u to use n lean on 4ever u jus use it while u need it there is nothing wrong wit that b strong 13 n havin a baby is alot cuz ive been in ur shoes trust me these other girls on here are a lil bit older n have alot of things bad to say but listen to ur heart n trust n god
Cara - posted on 02/17/2010
Hey im 16 and just recently had a little boy he is 6 and a half weeks i know what ur going through im not with the father of my baby and he dosnt have really anything to do with hes son he wasnt ready to grow up im here if u ever want to talk to ask anything xx
Sarah - posted on 02/17/2010
Hello, I had my baby after I just turned 16, I was still at school doing my exams while I was about 6 months pregnant! Being a young mum, you get funny looks, but I don't think it depends of the age of the mum, it depends on the maturity level. I breastfed for a very long 3 weeks, I found it so hard and extremely painful but my friend had a baby a few weeks before me and she's still breastfeeding 5 months on :) I found a pump a lot less painful but with some people it just comes naturally I guess, I was upset that I couldn't carry on breastfeeding but my little girls still happy and healthy :)
There's no need to be nervous, it's not as bad as all the stories people tell you ;) I'm guessing your from America? My family moved from England to Utah while I was 15 and pregnant! I don't know what the pain relief's like over there but I recommend an epidural, it worked magic for me! :) Congrats and good luck :)
Shamell - posted on 02/17/2010
Hi..I am 36 years of age...BUT..I had my first child at age 16...I finished school and attempted college but didn't ever finish college. I had a beautiful little girl...back then it wasn't accepted alot to be a teenager mom...but I made it...and NOW she has graduated from school...in the military..Air Force...and a military police officer...she is in Iraq as we speak...I tell you all of this becasue I have been where you are at....It is NOT the end of the world...you just take care of yourself and that precious gift God had given you. Just raise your child to do better than you...that's what I always told mine. God bless you and keep your head up.....if you ever need someone to talk to hit me up...my email is email@example.com....
Jessie - posted on 02/17/2010
hi, i was 15 when i fell pregnant with my Daughter (now 4); Jade Maree, i was 18 when i had my son (now 19 months) Noah and am now Due with another Little Boy Kai, Due on June 21st. the only support i have is their father, i have no friends or family support and have raised my child by my self. i know what its like to be a young mum with no support, no money, nothing.. its not easy. but dont let it get to you.. hang in there hold ur head up and remind urself u can do this.. dont fall in to the peer pressure of ur friends and ditch ur child just becasue they want u too.. theres alot of girls i know that have had their babies young adn just ditch their child/ren whenever they feel like.. its revolting! If u make the choice to have sex stand by the consiquences and accept the responsibilty u have been giving apon ur decions. being a young mum by all means is not easy but a child is the best joy any one could ever ask for! and they are worth every bit of ur youth, i know i wouldnt trade them for mine again.. i wouldve done the past 5 years of my life all over again!
Kristen - posted on 02/17/2010
I just turned 18, and I had my son when I was 17. Honestly Jennie, you will do amazing, regardless of your age. No matter what comes your way, you will get through it! Being a mom is the hardest job in the world, but it's so rewarding. Do you have lots of support?
Karissa - posted on 02/17/2010
Well first off Congrats! i know it can be scary but hang in there it gets easier when your baby gets here and you can see her face :) I would be more than happy to talk to you any time i know it can be lonely i didnt get the option to change schools which i think sucked because all my "friends" quit talking to me when they found out i was pregnant so maybe going to a new school could be an advantage but idk. I was 16 when i found out and im only 19 now so eventhough i wasnt as young as you i can still relate. Good Luck and God Bless!
Jennie - posted on 02/17/2010
omg i so sorry didnt no so many responded lol....thx all.....im so happy im not alone....ill try to answer all ? in 1.....im 13......im livin with my aunt now.......new school.....no friends.......im not with the guy.....my mom dont no who it is i just said idk.......erin is name i plan to name her and shes due may 3...thx you all that responded :D
Amanda - posted on 02/17/2010
Hey I was 17 when I had my little girl this past June. Before I found out I was pregnant I was at private school so I had to homeschool my last semester of high school and almost no one from there talks to me anymore so it was really rough. I love being a mom though. I still remember the first time I felt her move it was so awesome! I also breastfed for about the first 3 months. I had a fairly easy time with it. She just had reflux so bad that we had to put her on formula so we could thiken her liquids. Kinda hard to thicken breast milk. lol. I used a pump. I didn't mind it too much. I used a medala symphony at the hospital and a medela pump in style at home. I much preferred the one from the hospital. I know the medelas are more expensive, but they are worth the extra money. Also if your hospital where you deliver as lactation/breatfeeding specialists don't be afraid to ask for help. It's not all natural to get it right. It takes time and somebody that knows what they are talking about. Don't depend on just your mom's help if other help is available for breastfeeding. Be prepared for it to make you tired at first too. It did me. I hope all goes well for you.
Nicollette - posted on 02/17/2010
Hey sweetie my name is Nikki uh I was 19 when I had my lil girl so i dont know what its like being 13 and prego but i know what its liek raisin a girl..when i was 14 my brother had a baby i pretty much took care of him all the time (the baby) so its alot harder raisin girls than boys..breastfeeding is so enjoyable too i mean the bond that you and your baby will have while you do it its unexplainable..i breastfed for a month i regret quitin sooo much i wish i still was my babys 7 months old now shes a hellion let me tell you..love her to death tho..and girl enjoy while you can because it goes by sooo fast.. one day you had her the next day shes crawlin tryin to walk..the name you picked out is soo cute my lil girls name is Sabrina I wanted to name her Triniti Rayne (weird huh im just like that) But my husband so wasnt goin for it..huh and about the baby daddy i grew up without a father its gonna be hard on you even if your mom helps its just hard to say hey my babys daddy aint around but its his lost not yours not the babys just take good care of her i think youll be a good mom you sound like you care about her already good luck and congrats..
Jess - posted on 02/17/2010
hey, im jess, i fell pregnant at 18 and my bubs due in april, little girl.
its so good to hear that u have a supportive family.
and beeing young doesnt mean anything, but be prepared to be looked down on by alot of people.
if u ever wanna talk add me.
im always up for a chat and im a good listener.
hope all goes well
Shona - posted on 02/17/2010
hey hun my names shona and i fell preg when i was 15. I have a baby girl now called suzie who is 6months old. feel free to add me and ask any questions you feel you need :) i know its very hard to find mums your own age when your young.
Cassi - posted on 02/16/2010
I was 16 when i had my daughter, that was 2005, shes 4yrs old now. I was due in may too. it seems like it would be hard to stay in skool and raise a child but it is easier then it sounds. but if you think you need to talk to the skool they may have an altunitive skool that u could go to. now im even going to college and am maintaining a 3.0 gpa. if u stay mainstream it will help u learn to study now if u want to go to college.
KaSandra - posted on 02/16/2010
im 17 and due june 21 with a little girl and im a bit older than you but i can say it will get better and like the previous post you being on here shows you want to be a great mom and that will most likely push you to becoming one :)
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