steps to get my daughter talking?

Ariana - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 48 moms have responded )

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my daughter is one now and shes still not talking... she babbles and she mimics and she understands what i tell her but she wont talk... what should i do

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Laura - posted on 05/15/2011

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As a mother of a special needs child and also a 2 1/2 year old, I have some experience in speech development ( 10 years of speech therapy with my daughter). First at 1 year they are still developing their fine motor skills (tongue, lips, cheeks) so don't be overly worried about not talking. My 2 1/2 year old son really did not start completely talking until a few months ago, now it is non-stop of "whats this??? whats that???" So be careful for what you wish for and relish in the quiet right now. LOL

What you really should be working on is communicating rather than actually talking. It is so important for children to learn that they need to communicate their needs. Whether it be pointing, moving their eyes, using picture symbols. At speech therapy it is the first thing that they got my daughter to do. They got her to make choices, does she want the blue block or the red block, does she want a cookie or a juice. Get her to point or look at them and then label what she and you are pointing to. Also work on turn talking, as in order to communicate they need to know that they have to talk and then you need to talk.

A really good book on communication is called "It takes Two to Talk" http://www.chapters.indigo.ca/books/sear...

Hope this helps give you some strategies while your daughter develops her verbal skills.

Sarh - posted on 05/14/2011

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I take it she started walking early? My 11m old isn't talking, but he does the same as your daughter. He's been walking since 9m old. They do one or the other first. Talking will come on it own, when she is read and has mastered walking and running. They can only work on one or the other at a time.

Kristin - posted on 05/17/2011

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Is your daughter ahead with physical things? My daughter is 21 months and she is ahead in her ability to do things like climb, run, jumping, clapping, etc. But she only says like 7 words. We had her evaluated yesterday for speech help. She didn't qualify but when they were going through her scores they said she's ahead in the things I mentioned and it's normal to lag in speech bc they r focusing on the other dev things!

Emily - posted on 05/16/2011

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Repeat everything she says, even if she repeats a couple of times to reinforce and build confidence.Continue to talk and explain everything you are doing. You are putting words with actions and things.

Karrie - posted on 05/15/2011

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my daughter turned one just past march. its usaul read to her daily talk to her like ud talk to anyone else. work with her on words..like point at a dog and say dog a couple times and keep doing that and she will my daughter says few words but her speech is getting better. u just have to take the time and read and talk to her. plus its fun. good luck

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Allissa - posted on 05/24/2011

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When my daughter was younger, I would go over the alphabet w her & let her see how 2 form her mouth 2 make the sound of the letters. I would tell her 2 copy what mommy does and after about a month, she was saying a few words. She was an early developer. she is now 19 months & speaks in full sentences. It just takes a lot of patience and work. best time to work w her is when she is in her high chair, eating her meals

Lacie - posted on 05/23/2011

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My daughter turned 1 on January and she still isn't talking either. When she wants something or isn't happy she has gotten into the habit of squealing and grunting . I am starting to teach her to sign. She is picking up a little bit slowly but even the little bit she has picked up is helping her communicate what she wants.they have books with baby signs and movies or you could just check the internet. Good luck!

Vicki - posted on 05/19/2011

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My daughter is now 2 but when she was a baby i used 2 sing to her and talk to her, people thought I was ma but at the end of the day if thats the reason she's now a chatterbox then I am proud of it!!!

Point new things out to her all the time and tell her what they are, explore books and stuff with her. It all helps!

xx

Tarina - posted on 05/19/2011

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If she is one, it sounds like she is 100% on track!! MY son is 2 yrs and 4 months and is just now starting to open up and try talking more than just a few words. Always encourage her to talk, use simple words, repeat things, ask her things like "bring mommy the ball" and work with her until she learns the words, but you cant force a child to talk, and honestly to me it really sounds like she is JUST FINE! :) Most 1 year olds only have a very small handful of words, if any. Also, if your daughter is physically active (already walking, etc) its quite possible she is focusing on that instead, which is also perfectly normal :)

Lana - posted on 05/19/2011

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i agree with the others here she is only 1 dont push it if she feels she is being preasured to talk could cause some of it if it is a case of you wanting to know what she wants try using simple signs but dont insist on words at first. then when you use the signs say the word as well and she will learn to associate the sign and the word she may be more inclined to talk. I only suggest this as my now 4 year old stopped talking when she was nearly 2 and as soon after we took the preasure of her to talk again she started talking again.

Julie - posted on 05/18/2011

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One is still young actually. A couple of my daughters didn't speak until 2 1/2. What helps is pointing to things and naming them and requiring your daughter to try to say the things she wants rather than pointing and saying, "Ah" until you guess what she wants and give it to her.

Brandy - posted on 05/18/2011

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see if you have Babies Can't Wait Program where you live.. My son is 2. And I have a speech Therapist that comes out and works with my son once a week for an hour at a time. It helps most but my son has a vocabulary of about 5 words and thats it...but just check in to it...

Kathy - posted on 05/18/2011

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I wouldn't worry too much, my daughter is almost 20 months and when we had her at the dr for her 18 month appointment the doctor told us at 18 months they should be only saying an average of 3 words and momma & dadda, and with a 6 months span its not much more than none at 1. All she was saying was momma and dadda, and what we picked up as puppy but no one else knew what it was. Babies learn at different paces, just do like others have said, sing to her, but more importantly talk to her. Once she starts she's not going to stop, and they won't always be real words. We still hear alotta gibberish that makes no sense from Fay.

Lil - posted on 05/18/2011

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Araina Please don't worry about it she will talk in her own time when she has something to say one of my kids started walking at 10months another after she was1 year old when she is ready she will chatter away and you will wish she would stop
My husband was almost 2 when he started to talk they thought he maybe tongue tide but he was not
When you give her some thing say ta she will get used to that and start to say it read to her pointing out the pictures telling her what they are she will get the idea so stop worrying
Lil

Tanya - posted on 05/17/2011

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Don't be worried. My son is 20 months old and is just now starting to talk more. At 1 he only had a handful of words. At his 18 month appointment they said the normal milestone is at least 10 words.

Julie - posted on 05/17/2011

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Don't worry. My son talked late, twenty or so words by 18 mo. Didn't really start using grammar till two and a half. They all take their own time. Just talk to her and she'll pick it up.

Alexis - posted on 05/17/2011

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I would not worry till she is over two and a half. My son is two and doesn't say a lot. My brother didn't talk till he was three and now has three degrees.

Arianna - posted on 05/17/2011

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just be careful with patience, my son is a little over 2 years and isn't talking and at his 2 yr checkup the ped put in a speech consult for an evaluation.

Rowenia - posted on 05/17/2011

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Hi Ariana my son was like your daughter and i was also worried too but he is three now and i cant stop him from talking but he has a quiet personality.I wouldnt worry to much but if your child likes reading ,singing etc try and get her to sing and dance that can help my son loves singing and dancing.all the best.x

Iona - posted on 05/17/2011

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my daughter started talking from an early age i dont know if its because i constantly talk to even if i know she has no clue what im talking about. i remember a woman in the shop laughing at me once cos my daughter was only a few months old and i asked her which scented candle we should get, yet my friend whos son is older than my daughter (he was 2 in feb) still hasnt said anything so i think the best advice is just keep talking to them. i ask my daughter what she wants and i keep asking until she says something i understand - i dont try to guess what she wants. i think that helps cos she knows shes not gonna get a biscuit and til she says she wants a biscuit - hope this helps

Keri - posted on 05/17/2011

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you shouldn't expect her to be talking at one!!! she will learn, and should be putting a few words together soon.

January - posted on 05/17/2011

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As long as she is babbling and her hearing is fine...don't worry!!! Geesh! Moms worry too much about these things, so stop. Every kid is different and learns at different rates. Read to her and talk to her and she will talk soon enough. Kids are always learning something, you just may not be aware of what it is in their surroundings that they are picking up on. If they are learning to walk, they aren't learning to talk and visa versa. I have 4 kids and they all learned to crawl, walk, talk and read at different times and their own perfect age for them.
Don't worry and enjoy the things she is enjoying with her.

Abby - posted on 05/17/2011

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I would suggest Signing Time videos...My daughter was just stubborn and we got these for her. Now she signs the word, but at the same time says it as well. She is a little over two, knows most of the alphabet, can count to ten and says all her colors. Signing Time has cute songs and lots of colors to keep the kids interested. It is something that we do together since I took signing classes in college and remember most of the signs. My daughter loves it and will ask to watch it more than any other show. It is just an idea...if you do try it, hope it helps. :-) They do have a few things on youtube if you want to check them out.
Other ideas: start on items that your child likes...their toys, foods, etc. I got my daughter flash cards from the dollar tree and she loved them. That was when she refused to talk at all. Working with the cards, she actually would start to say the items, even if she didn't use them to talk to me. :-) Good luck.

Thirsa - posted on 05/17/2011

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My daughter didn't talk with 18 months, but now she never shuts up (24 months). Just tell her everything you do and everything she does. Read to her and sing songs to/with her. She will learn soon enough!

Valerie - posted on 05/17/2011

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the first step i would take is to talk to her doctor...it does happen that some children talk later with no worries and it also happens that there is a medical problem...i would get it checked out by first giving a call to her doctor...all the best

Amanda - posted on 05/17/2011

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Don't worry about it to much. My daughter was the same way. I worried all the time that she wasn't talking soon enough. She is now two and says full sentences and mimics. She still have some baby babble but its getting less and less. Most one year old don't really say full sentences anyway.

Barb - posted on 05/17/2011

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Every child is different. Some walk at 10 months; others don't walk until 18 months. Talking is no different. Babbling is good! It means she hears you and can use her tongue and mouth to make the sounds she wants. Read, read, read to her. And talk, talk, talk. My husband says our daughter spoke well before she was 2 because I don't know how to be quiet!

Liz - posted on 05/17/2011

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One is a little early to be expecting her to talk. If she babbles and mimics then she sounds on track. 18 months to 2 is when I would expect words to start being said.

Teresa - posted on 05/16/2011

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Wait! Not many children are ready to talk at one. Just talk to her, babble at her and wait. My daughter didn't utter her first words til 2. Then we had to wait til she was three before she spoke in sentences. I thought that was slow, but now she is a vibrant chatty 6 year old with no end of words. My son didn't speak until about 18 months and now at 2 is only putting 2 or 3 words together, but I know this time it is fine.

Ilaria - posted on 05/16/2011

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Giver her time. Each child is different. In her mind she is probably already telling you all sorts of things, although she uses an incomprehnesible language.
I saw that my daughter (who was struggling because she was exposed to 3 languages) started making sense of it singing songs and reading books together.
You might want to try that too. But just don't hurry her.
She will eventually talk... and then, I promise you, she won't stop for a second. :-)

Serafina - posted on 05/16/2011

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just talk & read to her, and if you are really concerned talk to her dr, talking will happen in time

Diane - posted on 05/16/2011

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It's not unusual for a one year old not to talk. Relax... She'll get their in her own time!

Nisha - posted on 05/16/2011

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I have tried everything, playing, singing, role playing, repetition etc...my son is 21 months old ans still not talking much at all, I have made an appointment with a pediatrician, and see what they say, more then likely my son will have to see a speech therapist

Alyssa - posted on 05/16/2011

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my daughter was the same way. she's almost 2 now, & her vocabulary is suddenly exploding! i wouldn't stress yourself too much. my daughter was walking before age 1, while her step-cousin, who was saying words before age 1, wouldn't walk. just keep singing with & talking to her all the time. she's learning, even if she's not saying the words yet. don't worry, she WILL say the words eventually. every child develops at a different pace, & it has nothing to do with intelligence.

one of my daughter's favorite games now is the "can you say..." game. while i'm cooking or cleaning or folding laundry, i'll start the game by saying "can you say...this word?" & she will immediately say the word. this is a great way for me to sneak in new words she's never said before, & she constantly surprises me.

don't give up & don't stress yourself! she will say the words when she's ready! our pediatrician started giving me a hard time, which was difficult to ignore, but through research & talking with friends, i learned that many children don't start talking until 2, & some put it off until age 3! just be patient & loving & pro-active. she'll get there!

Hope - posted on 05/16/2011

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Keep talking and reading to her. My son is almost 1 and does the same. My sister, who worked in early child speech therapy was thrilled that he was progressing so well. He was a premie. I just bought a book on baby sign language and am going to start signing and talking to him, which will help me better understand him. I don't know if this might help you, but it could be a benefit. If you want to look up the effects of baby signing and talking. good luck.

Sarah - posted on 05/16/2011

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have fun with her, don't push the chatter just sing songs play games and most importantly stay positive she will learn. :D

Pam - posted on 05/16/2011

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She is one - I wouldn't worry about it...our doctor told us after two if our daughter isn't speaking then we have a series of tests done.....don't push it - she will talk when she is ready.

Nix - posted on 05/15/2011

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My daughter is almost 2 years old and she also still doesnt talk, she says afew words and also understands but just wont talk or mimic after us. So i guess each 1 is different and maybe they copy others i dont know, as ours isnt around others at this stage. Goodluck.

Ambyr - posted on 05/15/2011

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My daughter babbled up until she was 2 then she just started talking and repeating what we said. I just always asked her to say the word with me. She never did until like I said she was 2. My son is 13 months now and is only saying all done, momma and dadda so I am assuming he wont talk too much until he is 2 either. They say they should be saying a certain amount of words by certain ages but I personally have never met a child that could say 10 words by the time they were 18 months. I am not saying they arent out there I just have never seen it. I just wouldn't push it she will do it when she is ready ;).

Lisa - posted on 05/15/2011

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My daughter babbled a lot and only said up and duck at one years old. She's now 21 months and the amount of words she's started saying between 18 months and now is astounding to me. They aren't always clear and sometimes I'm the only one that understands but she is definitely saying words. Something about the time between 18 months and 2 years...just keep repeating things to her and she'll pick it up. She probably already has...if she's babbling she thinks she's talking. :)

Karen - posted on 05/15/2011

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There is reallynothkng you can do. She will talk when she is ready. My oldest, now 6, didn't talk until she was 2. My youngest, now 2, talked much earlier. I wouldn't worry. She is still really young.

Carmel - posted on 05/15/2011

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It's OK she will talk. Reading to her and nursery rhymes. I got the "Your baby can read" dvd set for my daughter when she was in her first year and she started talking early because of those dvd's they are great with words. I can't recommend it enough

Tuesday - posted on 05/15/2011

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Ariana be patient. Children move when they are ready. My daughter turned two last Monday and she still is not talking clearly. She mimics everything she hears, but not completely clear. As her tongue develops, she will begin to speak clearer. That is why it is important not to speak baby language or "slang," because our children repeat us. Give her time. Once you get her started, you'll wish she would stop. LOL

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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just keep on talking, my lil guy is now 2 and he has lots of words that we did not understand. it takes time for them to get to the real words and ideas. establish time together say ABCs together and do the vowel and consonant sounds together and she'll keep up with that.

Jade - posted on 05/15/2011

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I would not worry about it because my daughter is almost two and she is still not talking. You don't want to push it. She will start talking soon enough, just be patient.

Neva - posted on 05/14/2011

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Just continue talking to her. Read to her, point out pictures in books and magazines and play the "what's that" game. Point to a picture, say what's that and then say what it is. Does she say "mama, dada"? I wouldn't be too concerned at this point. Babbling, mimicing and understanding are all important first steps in language. If she has older siblings, she may not have to talk because they might do the talking for her. There is a wide range of what is normal. At 12 months of age about 50 percent of children have a one word vocabulary. By 17 months 50% have a 6 word vocabulary, so don't be concerned at this point. It sounds as if she is developing normally.

Ashley - posted on 05/13/2011

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Sing to her and get her around kids her age and maybe slightly older that talk. Talk to her like a person not a baby and really encourage her efforts. when she does try reward her and show her that you understand her. Don'e encourage baby talk or pointing and lots of los talkedve. If it doesn't work don't get frustrated all of my kid at different ages she may able to talk but just not be ready yet comfort wise. Good Luck!

Louise - posted on 05/13/2011

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The best way to get a child to talk is by repetition and play. Sing nursery rhymes with her all the time. Row Row the boat is a good one as it has actions as well. Humpty Dumpty is another. When you are playing with her lots of smiles and over exagerated facial movements. Eventually she will pick up the odd word and grow from there. Name everything you play with and get into the habit of not speaking for her, if she points to her juice don't just get it say do you want your juice, juice what do you want. Encourage her to speak. It will come all at once and then you wont be able to shut her up!

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