Valeria - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I've been best friends with him since the beginning of high school and now have been with him for 3 years. Our baby is 2 months old.
We have loved each other deeply all these years, and we were prepared for a baby mentally (we always said we wouldn't mind having a baby with each other) and we were always super compatible, and we love our baby very much.
We now live in our own house with the baby (renting from his grandma) and living completely different from what we're used to. When we found out I was pregnant, we were broke up (reasons out of anger) and pretty much partying, literally up to two weeks right after we graduated high school. His senior year was pretty much consisted of partying. All of a sudden we're settled down together and him working 8 hours a day on weekdays, coming home to me and baby and occasionally inviting friends over. But most of his "friends" in high school stopped coming around since he wasn't partying and giving them rides anymore. I can tell it gets to him sometimes.
I still hang out with my friends, they were all real friends and I don't care that I "missed out" on that "be single, go out and party" stage.
This situation is probably rare, but I think we have a great chance of staying together. Its weird living with him though, even though its what we've always wished for. We bicker sometimes and I wonder if its enough to separate us, and I would really appreciate advice from other moms who are still with their baby daddy or tried to be and separated later, and even from ones who it didnt work out at all. I want this to work because I love him so much and want my baby to be raised by his two parents. In what situations is it worth the effort and what situations is it not worth the effort?