Stuck with his family!

Grace - posted on 06/14/2010

Thanks everyone who has posted a reply its really helped me stand my ground to what i know to be the right thing to do, just wasnt sure if i was overacting but now i know its the right thing to do :) Thanks again. Grace.

Katrina - posted on 06/11/2010

if he thinks this behavior is ok around his daughter than you need to leave. once you become a parent you have to have your childs best interest at heart even if it means not being with dad. he thinks it ok because he grew up like that and all that is normal for him. you are not making him chose between his family and you, you and the baby are now his family and everyone else becomes 2nd. you dont want your daughter to grow up like that or think its okay for people to take to her any kind of way because they dont like something. maybe if you leave he will see that you are serious and come with you guys and if not so be it. take care of your daughter first.

Rebecca - posted on 06/10/2010

you have to think of you child first and for most she should matter more then anything and if he loves u and that baby he will understand or come to understand that the enviorment ur living in isnt safe to have a family. before somthing realy bad happens like god forbid but ur child gets hurt sory to say but it would be ur responsibilty bc u knew u shouldnt be there to begin with.

Ashley - posted on 06/09/2010

STAND YOUR GROUND!! You're not over reacting, your child will be in so much danger if you allow her to live or even go over there. Then the wrong person is going to see all that going on, notice your daughter there, and then guess what? Child Protective Services will get involved. Does your finance not see the danger it can really cause? Does he want to lose his child? I know I wouldn't. Infact, when my sister in law was living with us, my daughter was 7 months old and she was 5 months pregnant, still smoking weed and cigarettes, etc etc, and non stop cursing and fighting with everyone. It got to the point where I ended up having to kick her out a week later because my daughter is not going to be put through that. Because of what I did, it's been causing so many problems now, that I had to get a protection order against her. If I could go back, I wouldn't change a thing. I could say I wouldn't have even let her stay here but she was 5 months pregnant, no where else to go, no car, no job, etc. But after a week of her crap, I couldn't do it and it got to the point where its like okay either your sister goes or me and your daughter go. He chose us, and that pissed her off even more but we really don't care. She needs to just get over it.

Cassie - posted on 06/09/2010

NO WAY! you keep your daughter safe even if that means you make him choose..you and her are his family and he doesnt know the people that come over especially in that kinda of enviroment. just takes that one "friend" to do something with your little girl...i'd do everything in my powers to keep her out of that

Penny - posted on 06/09/2010

stick 2 ur ground chick ur daughter cums b4 anyone even ur boyfriend n if he cnt see wot is bad aboutwot his familys doin then hes blind n he is goin 2 b the 1 losing out on seeing his daughter grow up she dnt need 2 b around stuff like that a wud do the same if a was in ur situation gd luck chick xxxxx

Gina - posted on 06/09/2010

your baby is number one, no matter what. if i was in your situation i would leave nd not let my daughter around that . and ask your bf to leave with you if he dont than you should think really hard on what you wanna do

Janice - posted on 06/09/2010

maybe...if thats what it comes to...you have to put your child safety before you or his feelings...and just pray that God just help you and your family!

Anastacia - posted on 06/08/2010

Your child is first priority so do what you think is best for your baby. If your partner feels the same he will realize it and make the right choice with you. Goodluck :)

Brittany - posted on 06/08/2010

I would stand your ground hunny. if you dont want you child to grow up around all of that then i would get out of there.I would be the same way if that was me..just tell him that you dont feel comforable with it.

Jessa - posted on 06/08/2010

To be honest I kinda did the same thing with my boyfriend I hate his family for so many reasons and don't want my kid around them inless i'm there so in that case inless they accepted me into the family and did as I wanted them to they didn't get to see my daughter. My boyfriend didn't like it at first but i sat down and I explained that it's not just the rules for his family it's the rules for anyone around my daughter and they need to relieze that you don't like stuff and they don't need to bring it around your daughter they can go out to dinner with you and see her the beach or anything else but just because she isn't allowed there doesn't mean it's not the end of the world. My mom is basicly not allowed to see my daughter at all without taking a home drug test but she goes by my rules and takes it so she can see her granddaughter. I think you need to stand your ground. You carried for nine months you pushed her out, they can kick rocks if they dont' like it maybe they should think about how they are acting.