Support Teenage mums

Leandrea - posted on 01/18/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Who are teen mothers? We know who we are. We are individuals, each with our own story and our own dreams!

We are women who had our babies in our teens. We know who we are...but do you? We hear people talk about us on the street, and in the store. We read about "teen mothers" in the paper. We wonder--"Who are they talking about?" This is what we hear and read: "Babies having babies." "I hope you're babysitting!" "Your life is over now." "How old was she when she had him?" "They just think their babies are dolls to dress up and show off!" "They will be welfare moms forever." They don't know us. Do you?



If you did, this is what you would learn...We are individuals, and our lives are not over. Many of us stay in our high schools, vocational schools, and colleges, and we intend to finish. We are confident that we can reach our goals.

We look upon parenting as a challenge, not an obstacle; we are committed to our children and don't take the job of parenting for granted. We seek information and help when we need it. Of course, we like to show our babies off (What parent doesn't?). We are rightfully proud of them, not ashamed, and we know they are not dolls. We love the individuals they are, and we are excited and pleased to see them grow and develop.



We are excellent role models for our children because we are working hard to attain our goals. And our children are not doomed or deprived because we are young. They are happy and smart, loved and cared for very much. You'd see that if you really took the time to observe before you judged us because of our age.



So--please don't talk about us as we pass. If you are so concerned, talk with us and listen.



If you are a parent, you'll find we share many of the same concerns, joys, and challenges. Be role models for us--save your negative comments and your unasked-for advice. Give us information and good access to birth control. But remember that a high percentage of all pregnancies are unplanned, and some of these will be teen pregnancies. All the posters in the world will not make us go away.



You can help us do our best by continuing to provide us with emotional and educational support--peer support groups and programs that help us stay in school make a difference in our lives. Support quality subsidized child care programs so that we can work and/or go to school. Support parent education and family recreation programs that are affordable, with child care onsite. Support temporary shelters for women with children (as we struggle to become independent we sometimes need a safe place to stay for awhile).



And most of all, acknowledge and appreciate us for our commitment to the challenging job of parenting.



We know who we are. We are building good lives for ourselves and our children. We can struggle and do it alone, or you can lend us your confidence and assistance. You can continue to view us as statistics or as part of an epidemic social problem, or you can look beyond the stereotypes and know us for who we are...



We are young mothers, each of us with our own story and our own dreams.

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Danielle - posted on 01/28/2009

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i love what you wrote, its so very true. I had my son at 16 and i remember the harsh words and stares and things in high school, in the stores, and even in college. My baby will be 8 in a week and to this day i get comments when they do the math. But i have learned that i AM the better person in that situation. Thank you for writing this. Its wonderful!

Katelyn - posted on 01/27/2009

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I am 14 years old and i am a mother of a 5 motn old baby boy. I never imagined how much having a baby would change things. before i had him i was very irresponcible to say the least. But the second i had him everything changed, in good and bad ways... i stopped drinking and swearing but doing that i lost allot of my friends and my social life. Now my days are all the same, cleaning, homeschooling, and caring for my son. i have no life any more and i have no one i can talk to that can relate to what i am going through. i am so stressed because i have to try and finish school and take care of a child. then i have to get a job so that i can provide for him. at the moment i am living with my parents who are very supportive.

Eva - posted on 01/23/2009

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Elysia, stay positive. I know its tough but you have to be strong for your children. You dont have to be in your own place as long as you have some people around you supporting you. Its tough but there is a brighter future just hang on in there. If you need to talk you can add me as a friend. Im also 18 with 2 kids!

Elysia - posted on 01/19/2009

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im 18 and have to kids i fell pregnant at 16 and had my son when i was 17 then i fell pregnant again straight afta the birth of my son with my daughter. My son is now 14 months and my daughter 5 months. I find it hard because im not in my own place i have lost contact with friends and me and my partner aint getting along and fell very depressed is there any advice n e 1 could give me?

Amy - posted on 01/19/2009

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hi my name is amy johnson i was a young mother i had my son when i was 16 he is now 5 it was very hard being a young mom i am now just finishing school , i also got married to my sons father when my son was 6 months old we have been together ever since i was so lucky to have found someone who is not a dead beat dad. we know have a 15 month old daughter. we were on welfare when we first had him now i am finishing school and my husband has a good job this all has turned out for the best i would not know what to do without my son if any one needs advice on being a young mom i am here.

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