Teen Mom and all my friends left

Samantha - posted on 03/04/2012 ( 32 moms have responded )

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Hi, I was just wondering if any other teen mom wanted to talk? I am 18 and my baby boy is due in July. When my best friends found out they probably stuck around for a month, and then just completely stopped talking to me. I do have my boyfriend that I have been with for 2 years for support, but sometimes you just need that girl talk lol. It seems like nobody else will understand then another mom.

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Cindy - posted on 03/14/2012

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I was 17 when I had my first daughter (I am now 45) and even way back then what friends I did have were not there except for 1. Our children are only 2 months apart (this was not planned just happened) and we have been friends now for 32 years.



I know it is hard to have someone there 1 minute then they are not there the next.



Have you ever thought of joining a mommie and me class. That is such a great support for both you and your child...

Rachelle - posted on 03/13/2012

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I was 19 when i got pregnant and had my son at 20, I would like to say that as you get older your friends will stick around through it, but I cant. Only about 4 of my friends actually stayed around and are still around. Its one of those 'you find out who your friends are' situations.

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Hi I had my daughter when I was 18 and all I had was my family and my fiance. All my friends left and I haven't had any friends since. I'm 19 now and my daughter is 14 months old. I'm here if you want to talk since I know exactly how you feel.

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hey samantha i was 16 when i had my first my mum gave me up because i was always in trouble the only one who would take me in was my boyfriends folks. he is almost 19 now and has girl twins Hailie and Zoey his girlfriend left when she found out but when she gave birth she ran away from home and Jace looks after them with his new girlfriend Tara. if you ever need anyone to talk to you can always talk to me

Samantha - posted on 07/24/2012

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Thank you everybody for the replies(: I just had my baby boy the end of June. It has been amazing, and no friend is even worth it if they don't care :) Anybody want to talk you can message me (: Thanks again!

Harlie - posted on 06/29/2012

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I was also a teen mom 19 was when I gave birth to my oldest daughter. I understand the whole girl talk and having friends just leave.
Hope to talk soon
Harlie Goetz

Emily - posted on 06/26/2012

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Hey Samantha Im Emily Im 20 if you wanna chat im here, my son Hunter is 17 months. Congrats on the pregnancy

Jessica - posted on 06/26/2012

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Hi! I'm 17, had my son in January when I was 16. I can defiantly relate about friends disappearing, I had a lot of friends and then all the sudden I had none. Honestly, I still don't. Me and my baby's dad are together also. You can message me if you want, I love meeting new people (:

Stephanie - posted on 06/19/2012

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i was 18 when i got pregnant and and now i am 19 and i have a son that almost 5 months and i lost all my friend to talk to and everything so if you need someone to talk to i will be happy to become friend

Tia - posted on 06/10/2012

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same thing happend with me. i turned 18 on the 14th of Jan & had my son on the 29th. i have NO friends except mhy boyfriend. lol, i guess thats just what happens when you have to grow up faster then everyone else...

Cassondra - posted on 05/01/2012

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i had the exact thing that happened to me but you'll soon realise its not that bad

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The same thing happened to me......I got pregnant at 18 (probably 4 months after graduation) and then April I married my now 4 yr hubby....I had my 1st child at 18 (turned 19 at the end of the month) & my 2nd at 19 (turned 20 the next month) & then my son at 23......so not only was I the 1st of y friends to marry, I was the 1st to have kids......I couldnt do everything they did......go out at night (1st of all my friends didn't really do that but Wth my 1st I was working 330-12 practically every night. Now I'm a SAHM & loving it.....I have noone really to talk to but hubby & family & don't really leave the house with them. I have my nephews mother I sometimes talk to but she is GREAT friends with my hubby's ex so I have to watch what I say because even tho she says its between me and u (if she says something I don't tell anyone, but I can't say that she won't tell anyone & we live 1/2-45 minutes away from each other)

I just wish it was easier .....Good luck to you

Megan - posted on 04/16/2012

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I am not a teen mom, but I was almost 11yrs ago. I am almost 30 and my fifth child is on the way! I have been with the same guy since my first was born. We are happily married and have just bought our first home! I understand about friends. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child. My bff told me to get an abortion, cause she wanted me to party with her and do all the same things we used to do. Of course I didn't listen and soon enough she stopped hanging out with me. I really thought she was my bff, but turns out she was only thinking of herself. My bff's now are my hubby and my sis. I am happy not to have that person apart of my life. Funny thing is when she had her baby and all her friends didn 't want to come around, she got mad at them and couldn't understand y. But who was there? Me. I stuck around, until she stopped talking to me, again. Sometime when we think our bff's r our friends, something has to happen to see who our true friends r. I am sorry this has happened to u. U can always talk to me, if u like. Oh and my new little one is due in July too! I am having another boy! I have 3 other boys and a girl! So blessed!

Shavon - posted on 04/13/2012

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i understand where you are coming from! i was 18 when i had my son n now im 20 and we are expecting again in June. I lost everyone even ppl in my own family. The only person i really have anymore is my fiance. If it wasnt for him i dont know what i would do. I know what it feels like you cant talk to your Bf the way you would your girl friends. its just not the same. I have came to the conclusion that if they were your "true Friends" they would stick by your side. Just look at it this way if they dont want to talk to you over something like this then you didnt need them anyways. If you want to you can add me on facebook on something and if you need anyone to talk to you can talk to me. Im always looking for someone to talk to about these things also!! :) keep your head up everything will work out for ya! :)

Patricia - posted on 03/31/2012

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dont worry about them so called freinds they left they werent your freinds in the first place..your freinds are ones that stick with u bad or good.. what your freinds had a date and time when they wanted you to have a baby.. they are girls they will be pregnant one day and they will need you even if its for advise.. that baby is gonna love you so much and your gonna love that baby right back you wont even think about them so called freinds.... i wish you luck withyour baby... you can message me whenever you want.. i was young too having a baby and freinds do come and go...

Hannah - posted on 03/30/2012

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If you want to add me on facebook, go ahead.. Hannah j thompson.

I kbow how you feel.. I got pregnant at 16 and that wasbit. I havent had a night out since the day before i found out i was pregnant, so naturally i have no friends lol. Im 18 now and gave birth to my second baby 4 weeks ago tonorrow. I live with my husband in a province thay i dont knoe andbi know no one here. Being a mom can be frustrating but i wouldnt change itbfor the world. You definitely find out who your friends are. Where are you from?

Megan - posted on 03/30/2012

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I was 16 when I had my daughter, I lost every single one of my friends... every one. I've been raising my daughter alone for the last 11 1/2 months, I know exactly how it feels!

Valerie - posted on 03/17/2012

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I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first, and my friends still stopped talking to me. Its the way it goes. People without kids don't want to hang out with people who have kids because people with kids have to be responsible and can't just take off at the drop of a dime to go party. Its no fun, I just said whatever and let it go, they obviously weren't worth it anyway.

Ciera - posted on 03/13/2012

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Hey , I was 17 when I got pregnant and everyone stuck around until after my son was a few months old. and I was 18 years old.. It's really hard and I know exactly how you feel. If you need to talk, you can always talk to me :]

Jessi - posted on 03/13/2012

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im in the sam position as you im 16 gunna have my baby in aug. &ever since my friends found out they arnt the same we ustu talk all the time and now i dont even get a hello its kinda sad i miss being around them but i have to wait till aug. for my little one to be here so i can talk to him/her since friends dont seem like they dont wanna talk.... well im here if you ever want to talk ill be your friend :)

Verna - posted on 03/11/2012

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I'm 24 now but I was 17 when I had my son and I became a bit of a longer because even when you have friend around they don't understand that you can't always do the things they can. It's a lot easier to talk to and understand other people who have kids.

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2012

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I was 16 when i got pregnant. Had Spencer at 17. Now, my friend pool is down to my family and my sons godmother. No one else cared to hang around. What 16 and 17 year old wanna drag a baby that isnt theirs around with them to hang out? Yeah. I understand the being alone thing. You can shoot me an email if ya wanna chat a bit. Ajflemming@hotmail.com

Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2012

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Try not to feel too upset about your friends leaving. People change when they have children..your priorities change. You will see when your little angel arrives. The things that made you happy before you had her/him just won't be important anymore.



It's weird ..when you are a mom the thing that brings you the most joy is watching your little one do things that make him/her happy.



Good luck with everything.

Anitta - posted on 03/08/2012

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are their any support groups for young mums or play groups for young mums in your area? i found them to be life savers because i could talk to people my own age in the same situation.

Mollie - posted on 03/06/2012

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I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND! I'm 15 & had my daughter in November & that's not the kind of girl everyone wanted to hangout with :p The texts stopped coming & no one ever wanted to hangout D: & my boyfriend was around but He didn't understand/care about anything I ever had to say! So if you ever wanna talk I'm here!

Leann - posted on 03/06/2012

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i was 18 got preg. i had my son July 2011 it was my last year of school but once school was over only 1 friend kept talking to me and now even she doesn't even come by that much.



I hope everything gets better for you and once you lo is born it will be better beacuse you will have someone to hang out with all the time..



it sucks not having anyone to talk to but its not like my friends really know what life is like with a baby so its not like they would really be much help.

Tracy - posted on 03/06/2012

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I was a teen mom myself. My son was born when I was 17 (almost 18). My son is 15 now and my daughter is 2 1/2. You are very lucky to have your boyfriend around but I completely understand how much it helps to talk to other moms. If you want to, you can find me on facebook www.facebook.com/NohbdyCan. My friend started a group there for moms and dads to get together and talk about anything. This group is awesome and honestly special because there have been some sensitive questions posed but everyone is very supportive. There are moms of all types there.

Brittney - posted on 03/04/2012

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I was 18 when I had my daughter, 17 when I got pregnant, I lost all my friends as soon as college started up for everyone but me. I found that I had more in common with past friends who had babies than my best friend of 14 years. I just turned 20 and I'm a stay at home mom, if you ever need to talk to someone, I'm here.

Kristine - posted on 03/04/2012

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hey i was 17 when i had my son. I was completely alone friend-wise. Part of it was my fault i pushed everyone away because i guess it was hard for me to talk to my friends about pregnancy stuff. When you get pregnant everything changes. Which means that you don't have as much in common with your friends anymore and you cant do much so its not fun for your friends to hang out with you. I still dont have many friends and the ones i do have dont live near me.

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