teen moms/step moms/ guardians

Rachel - posted on 09/12/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I dont normally do this type of conversation thing, but I guess I am looking for some guidance/someone to talk to. Maybe someone is going through what I am, maybe not, but here is my story...
I got pregnant at 17, the father of my son was 15 at the time. I am now 20 and my son turned 2 in August. In that time I have broken up with the father of my child more than a year and a half ago, and since then have found an amzing guy who I married in March. He is amazing to me, and such a wonderful stepfather to my son. He has a son who is now 18 months old whom he has not been able to see on a regular basis since the child was born because the mother (his ex) will not let him. We have been going through a custody battle for quite some time now and go to court for split custody on October 3rd...Im scared. I am not sure how to feel about everything. I like his son and have fought tooth and nail to help get us to the position we are now, but because he is not allowed to see him that often, I have seen him even less amounts of time. I dont ever want to take the place of his mommy, but I do want to be a part of his life. I dont think my husband realizes that It is hard on me too. It is going to be a huge change especially since a month and a half ago my husband and I took in my 4 year old niece because my 36 year old sister is not capable of raising her. I am stressed all the time and sort of freaking out. Advic? people who are going through what im going through? anything would help.

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Rachel - posted on 09/27/2011

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Thanks Elizabeth, and Jennaya my ex does have custody of my son, we have never been to court but he does get to see my son anytime he wants which is often usually a couple times a week. I have thought about everything i promise. I think its soo important for both parents and stepparents to be in the childs life if they wish to be

Elizabeth - posted on 09/23/2011

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I am getting married in October to a great guy (who is not my son's biological father) that is a great daddy to my baby! My ex has been taking me to court to get to see my son. It is really hard on my fiance because he feels like its a slap in the face saying "your not the real dad." It sucks for him because he has been in my son's life since I was still pregnant and my ex just all of a sudden decides he wants to see him after 9months goes by!

I suggest you and your husband try to get a babysitter for a couple of hours and go out to eat or to a movie to get some of the stress off your mind. Keep your head up! Things will get better! Everything happens for a reason!

I have court next thursday and am definetly not looking forward to it! I wish you all the best of luck!

Jennaya - posted on 09/14/2011

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What would you do if your ex tried to get custody of your son? I think you should look at it from the mother's perspective. Please do not take offense to this, I am not trying to be rude, just maybe show you a different point of view.

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