Teenage parents under the age of 18 that want a 2nd baby.

KENDALL - posted on 06/15/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )

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Im 16 years old and my daughter is about to be 2 and i was thinking about having my 2nd baby.What do you think.

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Brooke - posted on 06/27/2010

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The age gap has nothing to do with the kind of bond one child will have with another! My oldest sister is 20 years older then me and we are great friends I then have 2 more sisters who are 18 and 16 years older than me then a brother who is 10 years... I don't get along with 1 of my sisters the 16 year gap, but again me and my brother are great!! when I was little and he was a teen he used to always play with me... we only ever had 1 fight. So stop using age gaps as an excuse to bring more innocent children into this world because of your selfishness.

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Do you get WIC, Medicaid, Foodstamps, or Welfare? If you answered yes to ANY of those then NO you shouldn't. If you can't support one on YOUR own then NO you shouldn't. If you answered no then answer this. Do you have your own place to live, your own car, your own job, savings in the bank to take care of medical bills, your GED? If you answered YES to ALL of these questions then by all means have a baby.

The only way it's okay for you to do it at this age is if you are COMPLETELY stable. I was until my husband lost his job. I want another baby but I'm smart enough to know that I have no buisness bringing another one in if I have to rely on the goverenment to support one. Get your education. Get a job. Get an adult life. If you do have them ok. But if not... grow up first. (I don't mean that rude.)

Brittany - posted on 06/25/2010

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ABSOLUTELY NOT! You are still a kid who has a kid. You should not be thinking about having a second. No offense. but you need your education and a job. You have NO idea how difficult it is to finish school then try to go to college on top of that.Well, maybe you do but that is pure ignorance to have another child at 16. You shouldnt have even had one at 14-15 years old! I was 18 going on 19 when I had my first. And I was NOT ready to be a parent. My boyfriend has 2 kids of his own. So we have 3 total and I am just now going on 21. I had to wait almost 3 years to go to college because my son was not old enough to go to day care and I could not afford a sitter. Shame on you other parents for telling a 16 year old she should have another baby. If it was your 16 year old having babies...would YOU be ok with it?! HELL NO! If I had a daughter and she had was waiting ANOTHER baby...so help me god I would have her locked in her room for eternity. No offense...and sorry for being so blunt but NO you should not. Regardless of whether or not you can afford another child. YOU NEED YOUR EDUCATION. You dont get your education, no college....no college means working @ mcdonalds the rest of your life. Is that how you want your children raised? I'd hope not because thats not setting a good example for your child and being a good parent. Get your education and wait until you finish high school make a career for yourself. Dont be stupid. WAIT!

Brooke - posted on 07/10/2010

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to be honest i think you should wait just because you are 16. i think you need to finish school and make a strong living before you have another one.

Melodie - posted on 07/10/2010

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I say that you are thinking irrationally. You think that it would be a great hoopla of a time, and you will be giving your daughter a younger sister, but I assure you, you can wait another few years - like atleast another 10 years. I had my son at 16.. he is now 9. I am sure you relate... its not easy. You need to consider the quality of life your children will have. You are only 16 and you have your entire life ahead of you to have as many children as you want. BUT WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE OLDER. Build your career. Go to a community college. Give yourself something to live for aside from your daughter because in the end you will feel better about yourself AND you will be PROVIDING for your family. Bills are expensive. Living life with children is very expensive. Seriously... not a good idea. And anyone in this message board telling you that it IS a good idea is irresponsible and not providing you with intelligent advie. Please remember.... you are 16.

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Sarah - posted on 10/07/2011

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I am 22 and I have a 21 month old son. It's really hard. :( But if you think you are financially able and you are emotionally able, go for it. :)

Monta - posted on 07/30/2011

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Hey!! Just joyned here and im really glad i did.. I found this strite away.. I just turned 18 on april.. Had my first baby when i was 16.. Hes 20 now.. And im 7 months pregnant.. I'd say if you know you will be able to care about the baby than sure why cant you have it.. :)
Are you in a relationship and who you live with? How old is your first one?? :) xxx

Lori - posted on 07/30/2011

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Being 16 and already having 1 child is enough I think for now. You are still basically a child yourself, no offense intended. I know someone who is now 21 and has given birth to 4 children. The oldest lives with her mom, the 2nd with a friend (both are boys). The 3rd, a girl, she has and the 4th she gave up for adoption. She hasn't graduated high school. I really think you should wait until after you've graduated before you start considering the thought of another child.

Terin - posted on 07/28/2011

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If you think you're ready in all aspects like financially, physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. Then I don't see the problem with it. You started early anyway. You're probably a great mom. Just make sure you're not putting too much on your plate at once. It's hard to be a teen mom as it is. Just do what you think would be best. If you have the support of your partner on this and you honestly feel like you can handle a second child at this stage in your life then best of luck to you. :) I'm 17 almost 18 and my daughter is 10 months old and i'm thinking by the time she's 2 I'll be ready for another one as well. We'll see :)

Terin - posted on 07/28/2011

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If you think you're ready in all aspects like financially, physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. Then I don't see the problem with it. You started early anyway. You're probably a great mom. Just make sure you're not putting too much on your plate at once. It's hard to be a teen mom as it is. Just do what you think would be best. If you have the support of your partner on this and you honestly feel like you can handle a second child at this stage in your life then best of luck to you. :) I'm 17 almost 18 and my daughter is 10 months old and i'm thinking by the time she's 2 I'll be ready for another one as well. We'll see :)

Kayla - posted on 07/25/2011

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I think most people want another baby when thier child hits toddler ages because they miss that baby stage! I am 21 yrs old and I have two kids my so who will be four in two months and a daughter who will be two in three months. The kids' dad and I have been split up since before I found out I was pregnant with my second. It is hard weather u think u can handle it or not! I am a stay at home mom and I live of my child support and my moms help. Not saying that not everyone will be in my situation but you will have difficulties in any situation! I love my kids and I love my boyfriend together we have four kids and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world! He is in the milatary and together we make more than enough to support our family but that doesn't mean we are ready to add more to our family!!!

Mercedes - posted on 07/12/2011

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I was 16 when I had my first baby, 17 when I had my second Im now 18 and having my 3rd. If you dont have a problem with finances, and you can afford another baby go for it. Just remember school, and do what you feel is right.

Gillian - posted on 07/12/2011

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If u think u and ur partner can handle having another baby as in the cost and u still going to school then i done see why not! I had my 1st when i was 15 and fell preg with my 2nd at 18 i wanted her soon but we just couldnt afford the cost of a 2nd child till later on im now 21 and preg with number 3 :)

Aubrie - posted on 07/11/2011

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If your able to support your babies then go for it! If moneys right n it will all work out then why not. My experience one baby is sooooooo much easier then two. im 19 had my first baby boy Anthonnii at 17 n my daughter Jemma at 18! ( pregnant 3 months after i had my son). Im able to support them buy them what they need and things they want (: ! So do what you thinks right !!

KENDALL - posted on 07/11/2011

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Plus my baby is now a grown women who wants her parents all to her self. I have my own place and am on birth control me and corey talk about anthor baby but now i just want to wait.It was really hard getting where i am today and i went threw hell ands hot water to get here.I want to make my daughter proud of me when she gets older and sees how hard i tryed just to make sure she had A better life than me and her father did as far as parents go I am now 17 and glad i waited. Thanks YOU GUYS ♥

KENDALL - posted on 07/11/2011

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For all the people that said wait i am. Only because i live on my own now and was have ne hell of a time just trying to make it. I am also still in school and gradute early. Ihave also matained my 3.0 GPA and have my CNA and start college in the spring to get my RN and BSN. My soon to be husband has a wonderful job that pays good money i also make 10$ a hour. Out here min wage is 7.25.

Amber - posted on 07/03/2010

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I'm 19, I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old.
I must say, It is very hard. It may seem easy for the first couple of weeks, but from then on its all hands on.
Takes a while for the oldest to get used to the new baby aswell.
And used to the fact that they won't be getting as much attention than have had their whole life.

Gabriela - posted on 07/01/2010

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please wait seriously if your going to school its going to be hard and for me it kind of made my relationship with my bf a little harder plus i had to leave school and its really hard to take care of them sometimes i even forget when to feed my other baby im so busy i have help but still its hard

Kayla - posted on 07/01/2010

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I guess I should ahve elaborated more on that one shawni. I meant it as make sure that you are in a stable relationship. my friend got pregnant at 20 and her boyfriend dumped her. then she got pregnant when her baby was 1 with a new guy and once that baby was born he ran scared(even though he had wanted it) I guess I meant it as make sure that the person your with is ready for a baby too, and that he knows everything involved, because it can't be undone.

Shawni - posted on 07/01/2010

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and kayla, can i just say it doesnt matter if ur not with the first babies father im not i got dumped when my son was 3 months old and now im in a new happy relationship so it really doesnt matter if its the same man or not :)

Shawni - posted on 07/01/2010

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i had my son at 17 im 19 now and i wouldnt think of having another yet i wanna be in a proper relationship and happily married first and have a good job so i can provide for my kids, if ur in a good relationship and earning good money then go for it aslong as u can handle 2 kids, im gonna wait til my little mans atleast 5 :) x

Les - posted on 07/01/2010

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well i was 16 when my eldest daughter was born and decided that having one child already would make no difference if i chose to have my family close together which i did, within 5 1/2 years i had 3 daughters and 1 son i was 22 when the youngest was born. My way of thinking was if i completed my family close together and brought them up, grew up with them in a sense, when they were old enough to enjoy life and have staggered levels of independance i would still be young enough to enjoy life with them! As things stand today i have a 19 yr old daughter, a daughter turning 18 this saturday (3rd July) which is going to be amazing! A 16 yr old son who is Autistic and gorgeous and a little girl 13 yrs old i'm now 36 and can party them totally out!! lol Our journey through the last 19 years has been rewarding, energetic, a totally unique life experience sometimes up and sometimes down but ALWAYS worth every moment! i wouldn't go around promoting teenage parenting after all if you decide it's not for you after a few months you can't exactly demand a refund! BUT i do and always will demand the recognition that many of us "teenage mums" can and do successfully raise well behaved, well adjusted, well educated children who can and do have a whole wealth of ability to offer society!! I say go with both your heart and your head and whatever you decide, enjoy the journey and good luck x

Kayla - posted on 06/30/2010

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Here are some questions you may want to ask yourself. Are you finished with school? Financially capable? In a steady realationship with the father of your first baby? Living outside your parents home? Totally sure of your decision with absolutly no doubts? Making sure that you are not having another baby to make up for something missing in your life? Doing it for all the right reasons? Happy with your life right now? Are you healthy and in a healthy situation? If the answers seem appropriate to these questions than why not? If you aren't sure about any of these things than there is nothing wrong with waiting a little longer. Good luck either way I wish you the best of luck!!

Kelsey - posted on 06/30/2010

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finish school two children is lot i have two children and i am 19 years old its not easy i have not finished school and it is hard to hold a job stay in school and when the timing is right have a child

Muffie - posted on 06/30/2010

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I Think its Up too you if you want another baby because i am in the same predictment and i want another baby

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Well, do you support yourself and your child without any assistance? Are you married? Have you graduated high school? Have you graduated college? Have you bought a house? Have you started a college or trust fund for the first baby? Do you have a well padded savings in case of an emergency? I don't think it's a good idea. I think it's a selfish one personally. The first baby needs to get her chance at being a baby, and how are you ever going to do more than just scrape by if you keep popping out kids? The kid you already have deserves opportunities in life. What if your daughter decides they would like to do sports/dance/music etc. in the next year. My little girl took dance with a 3 year old. Dance lessons aren't cheap if the school is worth anything. Focus on giving the one you already have the best start in life first. No kid should have to grow up on government/parental assistance because their mom and dad never wanted better or wanted to pop out a whole brood of kids before they could actually take care of them.I was 16 when I had my first kid. I can honestly say as well intentioned as I was that I was young/dumb/niaeve, and I was wise beyond my years at this point. A lot of women go through this stage ( the oh it would be so nice to give my child a playmate right now) I did when my kid was around 2 as well.What people don't think about is how it takes away from the child you already have.Wait until you are prepared. I decided I wanted better for my child. I have an established career, am married, and have lived out on my own for the last 5 years, and I am 21 about to be 22. I am in college pursuing my degree at this point, and I am pregnant with my second, and this go around it was nice to be prepared. It was nice to be able to buy the expensive crib, and be able to choose a crib bedding pattern to be specially made and buy the best car seat on the market, and buy the best prenatals available and still allow my daughter to do dance, and go on vacation etc..Had I not waited I would still be in the hole financially, and while money isn't the most important thing in the world, security is very important, and so is knowing that you have a truly committed partner. I can't see my feet right now. I am in my last 2 months, but I have no qualms about my husband. I know he'll be here today and tomorrow and the next day etc etc..Get your own life figured out first before your bring more people into the world.

Channing - posted on 06/28/2010

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I'm 17 and have one baby. I think it is wise to wait until you are finished with college and have a job so you can support your kids.

Cherelle - posted on 06/28/2010

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hi i had my first child at 17 and she is now 2......... i have been trying for about the last 6 months to get pregnant as i feel i would love another child and could handle it well...i u feel that thats what ure life holds for you then go for it if u think u could handle it x

Jasmyn - posted on 06/27/2010

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hey im 18 n my daughter is 6 months old n im pregnant again n im scared i dont feel im ready for two babies ione is enough for now i at least wanted to wait 3 years but yeah not sure wat 2 do

Meaghan - posted on 06/27/2010

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if your ready then sure, i got married at 17 n also had my daughter that year i wanted another child soon after that but wanted to wait a little bit now she is 2 and a handful i cant imagine having another one at the time now. and i think it would be really hard if you need a night without the kids to find a baby sitter for 2 (just to keep in mind)

Brittany - posted on 06/25/2010

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well my oppinion is go for it.i have a lil boy and hes gonna be two and i look at other people and see lids so far apart that they dont have a bond with each other so i agree with u i want another one my self.and i think u should ask ur daughter cuz it will help to have her oppinion and if u can handle it go for it

Clara - posted on 06/25/2010

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i say finish school first. and wait till you think you can handle two...if you think one can be stressful two is SO much more stressful! yes you'll love them...but it is honestly exhausting. wait a while hun...you'll be happy you did

Chandra - posted on 06/25/2010

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i think you should wait. I am 21 with two kids and it isnt easy. It might seem easy but it's pretty hard. Espesically if you are doing it alone and at the age you cant be sure that the dad will always be there. My second sons dad is 21 and has said that he would sign over all rights to his son to me.

Samantha - posted on 06/25/2010

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I say go for it babe =D if u feel u r ready and u can support a second baby then do it, i have a 5month old baby and i am already planning to have my next when he is 1 and ahalf =D xx

Samantha - posted on 06/23/2010

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i had my daughter at 17 (she wasnt planned) then had my lil boy at 21(planned) im pregnant with our third the lil guy is 6months old and im 12wks (planned)
id wait i know that at 17 i had no idea what a responsibility it was to raise a baby and that gap helped to get us finacially stable and to be metally prepared for the next

Careen - posted on 06/22/2010

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If financilaly you can support them all go for it havin a baby is a gift and a joyful time yet it can get stressful if you have no support

Mandy - posted on 06/22/2010

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I would say yeah if u think you are ready then go for it but i made the mistake with school i am 19 with 3 children and pregnant with my forth i do regret having children sometimes because i might of left school with some good grades but on the other hand i love my children and i have a lovely life now with them so i would say school first

Kimberly - posted on 06/21/2010

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To get you by with having another one try babysitting someones child with yours and see how that works out. It is very stressful. I seriously think you should finish school first bc then you have so much more to offer your children in a long run. I can not have any more children so that is what I do. I play with babies that I can leave with there parents later. That way it works out for us both. They get time away and I get time with a baby to satisfy my needs.

Cynthia - posted on 06/21/2010

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that is EXACTLY where i'm at right now!! i'm 16 almost 17 now and my baby is one and a half and i really want another one =) so if you can handle it go for it. good luck

Kimberly - posted on 06/21/2010

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I honest had my first child at 17 and waited till I was 24 for the second. I think you should honestly think deep within yourself, if you are not on welfare and raising your child well without hurting. I think you should think what you want out of life. Do you want your children to do as what you are doing? Do you want to go to college still? I tell you I am going to college with 2 children now and I am 32. I think I am setting a great example for my children that I am even going back to school after having a child young and I developed a health condition after my second child which nearly took my life several times. Just think hard about it before you make this step.

Megan - posted on 06/21/2010

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I am 17 I had my son at 16. My son is 9 months old. Me and my husband are currently trying for another baby. We want a little girl. To me the age doesn't matter as long as you are a good mother. I say go for it.

Lyndsay - posted on 06/21/2010

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If you can financially and emotionally support your first child, I don't think that age should be a deciding factor. However... since you're 16, I doubt that you've finished your education or have any real job prospects. So unless you've got a rich boyfriend who is going to provide for you and your babies indefinitely, I would suggest waiting until you're in a more secure position.

Angelica - posted on 06/21/2010

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well i am now 18 and pregnant with my second child. My son is 10 months old. and i found out the day he turned 10 months. it was not on purpose but aparentaly God wants us to have another child because im around 4 weeks pregnant.

Brooke - posted on 06/20/2010

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What I would like to know is what is more important, a short age gap between children?? OR getting your life together... PROPERLY? How many teenage mothers would be able to support themselves if something were to happen to the father of there child, what happens if he up and leaves? YES it is possible to raise your child/children as a single parent but what do you have to give them apart from love?
At 16, 17 or even 18 many are still in school or atleast SHOULD be.
If anyone asks me what is the one thing in life I regret... It's not finishing school. Why?? because I can't easily do things the way I could have if I were to finish school.
I want to be a midwife, at the moment I am an uncertified nurse. I have to do 2 certificates to even have a shot at getting into university to beable to get my RN. But I have to wait until I'm a mature age student aswell.
The point I'm getting to is stop and think before you throw your life away.
Don't bury yourself, Having children is hard work but having children and making sure that life is complete in so many other ways is even harder!

Mollilyn - posted on 06/19/2010

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I am 17 and my daughter is about to be 2 and I feel the same way! people keep telling me not to but i dont want to have a big gap in my childrens age!

Natasha - posted on 06/19/2010

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im 19 and i have a 2 1/2 year old son and i want another one too, but im enrolled in college right now and i think its important to get ur education and a stable job before you overload yourself with more than you can handle. also having a two year old is a hard job and adding a baby on top of that would just be rediculous. im waiting til my son frows up a lil more and i get outta school so i can make a good living for myself and my kids, and i would suggest the same for you

Katrina - posted on 06/19/2010

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trust you'll never regert having a baby years later. i had my daughter when my son was 8yrs old and he is such a good help. i also was older (had my son when i was 18), had more money, my own place, car, money in the bank and a good job. it is a way different experience when you are mature enough. my daughters first couple of years were very different from my sons'. i had more money to be able to take care of her the way i want to and more maturity to make better choices for me and my children.

Katrina - posted on 06/19/2010

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whats the rush? you have plenty of years left to have another baby. i dont know what your situation is but if you had your first at 14yrs old i think you should finish school and not just high school get a good education and be able to provide for your children and not just have one cause you want another.as you get older your mentallty will change and you will see things in a different light. you might have a kid now but you are still a kid.

Jessica - posted on 06/19/2010

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I had my daughter who is 2 when I was 16. I just had my son who is 2 weeks old and I am turning 19 in a couple months! If you are ready I say go for it. But, make sure you can afford it and handle two children!

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