Television show 16 and pregnant?

Ashleigh - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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I was just curious of what other moms thought about this show. I've watched the first season and the Teen mom season and the first episode of season 2. I've found that they had picked out young moms who didn't want to be young moms.A few of the moms from season one I give kudos to, but I believe the show portrays young mothers in a very bad way. So I do see where some people get the "young moms are bad moms" idea from, and why so many of us get those devil eyes when out in public with our little ones or even when we were/are pregnant.
what are you guys thoughts about it?

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Taylor - posted on 02/22/2010

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ive seen every episode of this show. and i agree, they pick the worst girls. they absoluetly give teen parents a bad rep. but i do believe it shows how hard been a teen parent is. most of the girls didnt get to finish school. which might be a reality check for those girls out there going unprotected. or wanting children. i myself finished school. but not all girls are that fortunate.

Maci - posted on 02/22/2010

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I've watched a couple of shows from season 1 but I can't bring myself to watch it anymore. They are promoting teen pregnancy in my opinion. I hate how these girls talk to their family and treat them with such disrespect. The only reason I ever watched it to begin with was because I wanted to know who everyone(online) was asking me if I was.. It bothers me that these girls have their family and use them as much as they do. I don't have family that helps with my son so on the rare occasion that Grandpa will babysit I am thankful not bitchy and disrespectful towards him. They give teenage mothers everywhere a bad name. Needless to say, the show isn't high on my list of things to watch during my free time...

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Chantelle - posted on 02/28/2010

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i watch the show every chance i get, my thoughts on the whole moms who didn't wanna be moms is that its very sad and makes me mad for taken a percious life for granted if they aren't ready and fit or responsible what is the point of even having a child that can't be taken care of properly a mom who is like that yes they are mature and young and innocent but they made there choice when they didn't use protection and how is that there childs fault why do they have to be not taken care of well why just because the mom wasn't mature enough its BS those poor children deserve everything in life

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I love the show. I think it's pretty realistic actually. I like Maci cause she reminds me of me when I was her age. She has it together but most of the girls don't. I think it shows girls the reality of what its like to be a teen mom. Especially the fact that the guys are pretty much useless! I know I had this idea that "we" were having a baby but for a teen guy it does not nearly mean the same thing. It is alot harder for a teen guy to accept being a parent and the girl is often left to be a single parent or ending up taking care of a baby and a "big baby" LOL My husband eventually grew up but it took a couple of years and alot of patience on my part. Girls often have this fantasy of how having their own family is going to be like but reality sets in and you realize that your clueless. Its good to show whats its like to really have a baby when your a teenager. I would like for them to show more good moms though. Teen moms that do breastfeed (I did exclusively with all my kids) and more moms that are going to college and what college life is with a kid.

Alissa - posted on 02/25/2010

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It's just ridiculous. I watched it the other night and this girl thought it was gross when her baby spit up on her and she didn't know what to do. I also think it's sad how none of them breastfeed. They just don't seem to be as involved emotionally.

Sydney - posted on 02/25/2010

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I like it, because I think it helps me. I'm 15 and pregnant and I can really relate.

Melissa - posted on 02/25/2010

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Honestly, I think Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant are great shows!! I actually like the fact that MTV chose the teen girls that they did.Especially, Farrah (believe it or not) and Maci! Farrah really shows her true colors of what a spoiled brat she is and now that she has Sophia, its not all about her. WAKE-UP CALL!!! Maci is a great example of what it is like to pretty much do it on her own and what its like to deal with a dead-beat! Seriously, what is wrong with Bentley's Dad (can't remember his name)???. I don't think it glamourizes being a teen mom at all! I do think they need to find a couple more girls that give their babies up for adoption.. because it takes a heck of a woman/girl to do that! I also think its a great alternative to abortion! My oldest is now 14 and he watches 16 and Pregnant with me and it really got him comfortable to open up to me with questions that he has.. so I think the show was a great GREAT idea!!

Amber - posted on 02/25/2010

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i like tha show alot. i watch it religiously lol
but. i think they put tha moms on there that arent necesarily ready to be moms an act to way they do to show young ppl that it isnt easy an u shld really wait.

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One comment I'd like to make about the show is about breastfeeding. Most of the mothers seem to bottle feed and there isn't much shown about the moments when they tried breastfeeding or actually did for a little while. In the wrap up of season 1 with Dr. Drew, all the mothers talked about how painful it was to breastfeed, how exhausting it was, how "gross" it was, and in episodes before there were mentions of how it made your breast 'saggy'. As a breastfeeding teen mother I think its offensive and discourages mothers and mothers-to-be watching the show from trying it. Its never been painful, or gross to breastfeed for me, and I don't believe its made my boobs look too different. I do admit it is exhausting at times but parenting itself is a job and if you didn't want to be tired, then you should have rethought having a baby! Breastfeeding has a lot of benefits, a few examples being easy for babies to digest and saves money. I'm not saying breastfeeding is for everyone, but I just wished there would have been someone advocating for breastfeeding instead of against it!

Cathy - posted on 02/24/2010

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I enjoy watching the show but I completely agree. I have not seen an episode yet where one of the girls is actually living a functional family life. I got pregnant when I was 17, and my daughters father and I have been together 100% of the time. We live in the same apartment and both try really hard to make sure we have everything we ever dreamed of without all of the drama that a lot of those girls have.

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I never really thought about it until i had read this. But you are absolutely right. I remember one episode where the mother went out and partied all night bc she still wanted to be a teenager. I thought to myself, my mother would have it in with me if i had been gone all night and left my responsability to her. But you also do have to remember, its not just the t.v show that does this to us, but it is actual real teen mothers out there somewhere who do and act the same way as the teen moms on those two shows. It is pathetic, and it is rude to have people stare at you because your young and are a mother, but to be honest with you, i brush them off and like to show them that it is not always the case. Yes you have a very good argument here, but you have to remember its not just the show that does it, in reality, people do it in every day life.

SHalene - posted on 02/24/2010

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i feel the same way..season one had me glued to the screen crying with them thru their decisions and praising them for being young strong moms..this season i feel like they picked immature girls who dont really know what it means to be a good mom..to be honest i wish i wouldve been on the show..i think i handle things very well..despite the hard work, sweat, & tears i put in this..i commend all the good moms out there..the hell with the bad looks..we are doing our jobs right:)

Betty - posted on 02/24/2010

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I love that show, how ever I don't think that they do pick the most disrespectful teens. I loved Maci in season 1, she was an amazing mother and person. it,s just alot of the teens are still immature and are not willing to give up their teen lives for their babies. I think this show is great to show teens that being a teen mom is hard and its not about going to the parks with ur kids n all the other fun moments, but its also all the other stuff that comes with being a mother, honestly if I have seen this show when I was 18 I would have thought twice about educating myself about birth control.

Hayley - posted on 02/24/2010

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they show the disresepctful bratty young mums because they are the most entertaining to watch. sure they give young mums a bad rep, but you just have to prove people wrong. if you know yourself that you're a good mother, who cares about the looks strangers give you. ignore them because they will only upset you for something they have no idea about.

Brittany - posted on 02/24/2010

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I watched that show a lot while pregnant out of curiosity but I believe they really shouldn't air that show. It is not a good look at what life is like for a teen after a baby. Then, in season 1, there was the one chick that changed her number and wouldn't even let her baby's father take part in her life, I'm sure he has MTV and he probably saw that and may have been upset she wouldn't even give him a chance or choice in being a father.

Kayla - posted on 02/24/2010

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I am a young mom but i didnt get pregnant until 18 and people would stop and stare now i go to school , support my boys , work two jobs , and make time to give them love and support and for some odd reason i got dirty looks people in todays society are just so judgemental. It got so bad i asked my mom to borrow a ring to make it look like i was married so that people would stop staring at me .

Kayla - posted on 02/24/2010

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I dont think they are glamorizing teen parenthood. I think they are showing to teens who want a baby or want to get pregnant, how hard it is to be a teen mom. Especially if the dad doesnt want to be a father. I think it could be a way to discourage teens who are not ready to become parents.

Pamela - posted on 02/24/2010

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I was a teenage mother and now I am in my 30's with 4 boys and I love the show. Regardless of who is on the show they don't glamourize being a teen mom. It is not the easiest especially when the father doesn't want to grow up and you are forced to. I hope that they continue to follow these young girls and see how their lives turn out.

Kayla - posted on 02/23/2010

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I feel sorry for most of the girls. Dealing with boyfriends that are totally jerks!! They made the cxhoice to have sex. So i think that the boyfriends should have the samje responsibility as the moms.Why do the girls stay with such jerks? they are better off with out them. they dont help things.they dont offer any support.Its not fair that the girls have to go through pregnancy and then having to take care of a baby all by themselves.

Jessica - posted on 02/23/2010

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i loved the show and i think they picked girls in different situations yes they did pick some that were the ones that would get nasty looks but i think they were trying to show that this is what a lot of young teens go through for instance farrah being a popular spoilt brat thats just who she is and unfrotunatley there are alot of young teenage girls out there that do give of bad images and riun it for the ones that do so well and have achieved so much from the experience. But i do think they should try looking for a good example of being a teen mother.

Ashleigh - posted on 02/23/2010

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Personally I know a few girls who get very upset with there own mothers for not wanting to watch there babies. It just boggles my mind how a lot of younger moms are excited to be a mother, but reality doesn't hit them until the baby is actually there. Kudos to the mothers who have been doing a good job though and showing people young moms know what we're doing.

Brandi - posted on 02/23/2010

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I've seen every episode and I agree I think they need to pick teens who have more respect and dont use there family so much man if I would ever say some of those things to my parents about watching my child while I went out and Partied I would want to kill myself Its just plain out rude If your mature enough to spread your legs and have sex, your mature enough to take care of your baby!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 02/23/2010

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i liked the first season and teen mom but i was not happy with the first episode of the new season i wanted to reach through the tv and slap that chick. from the first season i loved maci and amber. farrah really disappointed me on teen mom. i cant imagine going out all the time and not being with my baby hardly ever

Natalie - posted on 02/23/2010

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yehh i enjoyed the season and i felt the same wayy, i couldnt believe how the made out that being pregnant at a young age is the worst thing in the world, i have had it really good so far lol
but i think that they wouldnt really do a show to show how good being a teenage mom would be, its hard but they went a bit over the top with it

Ciera - posted on 02/23/2010

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U are right thats exactly wat it looks like but it's females like us that prove them a lie

Maegan - posted on 02/23/2010

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i watched all of season 1 and now season 2.from season 1,maci was showing how hard it is when the dad doesnt or cant be financially supportive and how hard it is on maci to be the sole provider.farrah showed her immaturity by going out all the time and not coming home till 3 am and all the guys she dated or whatever she calls it.thats ridiculous.and amber showed how selfish a person can be how she treated gary and now shes pregnant again.thats a bad environment for lea.(cant remember how to spell it).catelynn was very brave on her part cause she gave the baby up for adoption cause she knew she couldnt raise it or provide for it.but on the other side if you cant raise it or provide for it DONT HAVE SEX.its ridiculous,like the pragnancy pact that pissed me off abd.why would you do that to your kid.its not their fault you made a bad decision.thats my opinion

Mercedes - posted on 02/22/2010

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i enjoy watching that show. && yess i think the same they picked out the most disrespectful teens to be shown but i think that reguardless of what people say we know where we stand as mothers. && tht saying will never fade we just have to show ppl tht not "all" mothers are badd mothers.

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