telling parents your pregnant!

Tiffany - posted on 10/16/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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Hi mommys! I was just wonering what your parents reaction was when you told them you were pregnant. Or how did you let them know?

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Lissel - posted on 10/23/2009

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well its kinda a long story but dont judge me..... i was about 5 1/2 or 6 months pregnant when people started to notice ( i was in denial, badly!). my sister and i worked together and this girl told my sister about it and my sister confronted me about it that night...... She was crying and i was just all calm saying that i was scared and that i didnt know wat to do or how to tell anyone..... that week i just couldnt get it out of my head ( i knew it wasnt gonna just disappear). My sister, my friend and i went out for lunch and we discussed wat i needed to do and if i wanted to keep it or not. like a couple days later at the end of work i was sooooo scared to tell my dad and on the way out one of my guy friends that i work with randomly said good luck..... so i walked slowly to the truck, got in, and was like can we wait here i need to talk to you. as i looked to the floor i just said it " Daddy, I'm pregnant" silence... then i continue " i know you are disappointed in me trust me so am i..... all i want is to be your little girl and i ruined it" he finally answered " you will always be my little girl no matter wat you do. We will get through this together and i could never be disappointed in you". I am very thankful that my family has been behind me through this whole thing.... i thank you and love you lots!! now i have a handsome 5 1/2 month old who i love with all my heart! :)

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Sandra - posted on 10/05/2012

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when i got pregnant for the 1st time when i was 17 i was foreced into getting an abortion by parents and then the second time when i was 18 i didnt tell anyone. until i was like 7-8months along

Magan - posted on 10/03/2012

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I didn't even know I was. I was in the shower and my mom came in for something as I was getting out, she took one look at me and said your pregnant. We went and got a test, she was right and I was freaking out thinking it was crazy.

Michaela (kayla) - posted on 09/28/2012

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as soon as i found out i rang my mother and when she answered the phone i was like your going to be a grandma and she was like what so i repeated myself and in a high pitched voice she replied with really and got all giddy and then with my dad hes didn't react in the same way as my mum but that's guys for you his is happy for me though :)

Nicole - posted on 09/27/2012

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I told my mom first. And i told her a few days after i found out i was pregnant. I was so scared to tell her and whan i told her she was in shock she couldnt believe it. She thought i was lieing to her. Then she came around and was there for me. But for my father i waited until i was like 6 months pregnant and i finally told him. I walked into his room and sat down and looked at him and told him i was 6 months pregnant and he said I know i see your belly getting bigger evey week. I thought he was going to freak out Cause im daddys little girl. Now Im pregnant with my second and i havent told anyone. Cause im so scared of what there going to say now.

Mimi - posted on 09/25/2012

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Let's see, I texted my mom to come to my room because I 'needed to tell her something'. It was nerve wrecking- the wait. when she came I kinda beat around the bush, then finally told her...she asked me "Are you serious?" (her exact words) And I kinda fought to hold tears back because I felt to ashamed. She reacted more calmly than I ever imagined she would and told me at first she was disappointed, but then saying how we were in this together as a family and she said she'd love me no matter what. God what an amazing mommy I have, I want to be just like her for my lil one. :')

Bridgette - posted on 09/23/2012

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Hi im 24. still living at home. just took a test today09.23.12"pos." my heart is still pounding from the shock. im feeling all these emotions...happy,nervous,scared,ect. The HARDEST thing ISNT telling my boyfriend(he's been hoping for baby), but TELLING PARENTS!!! My parents had high hopes for me. THEY'VE ALREADY GONE through this with my older sister when she was 18 yrs old and ill never forget the disappointing look on their faces!! They did however get over it, and happily supported her in every way possible. I promised myself i would do no such thing, which was to hurt them. I watched my sister over the years struggle. Now here i am, trying to break the news to them once again. I still havnt told my boyfriend. Im just blessed that god gave me a chance and by that i mean ive always been afraid i was unable to get preg. a doc asked me once if i was trying to get preg becuz if i was impossible at that time. WISH ME LUCK!! IM ABOUT TO TELL THE FATHER TO BE!

Brandie - posted on 10/26/2009

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i told my mom hiding behind my friend not knowing she was pregnant too. she wasnt really mad at me. all she could say was i'm gonna be a grandma to two at i'm not even 40 yet. my dad was a different story. he got poed. after i told him he tackled me in our front yard. he wanted me to do something else with my life not get pregnant at a young age. it didnt help that i just got back from basic training. he soon got over it and now calls my daughter bug when he gets to see her. i still havent forgave him for what he did. when i told my mom about my son she was surprised and told me that i better think about what i'm doing cuz two is a lot to handle. she helped me organize my money and make sure i could take care of my kids. my dad just said its ur problem not mine. My parents love my kids to death and would do nething for them. it just takes some time for them to get use to the fact that their little girl is pregnant.

Rebecca - posted on 10/26/2009

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My step mom made me breakfsat and i threw up in it... she asked if i was pregnant.. i said yes... she told my dad.. my grandma and everyone on my dads side of the family... then my cousin's from my mom side told my aunt.. my aunt called my mom and told her that i had somethin to tell her... she called me the day i got outta school and asked if i was pregnant... and i said yes... she wsa realllly excited... but my dad didnt talk to me for like 2 weeks at first

Nikki - posted on 10/26/2009

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My parents were really supportive when I finally told them. I had no pregnancy "symptoms" not even morning sickness and I didn't really start gaining weight til I was 7months so I hid it well. I was scared bc I was 17 and a senior plus I didn't find about I was until I was about 4 months along.

Kelsey - posted on 10/23/2009

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i never got the chance...my best friend ratted me out to her parents..who then went to mi moms workplace and told her. i was so pissed me and my friend didnt talk for a month because of it..i had wanted to tell my mother but i wanted to wait three days because i found out 2 days before thanksgiving and i didnt want to have this huge family blowout over the entire thing. me mom was so mad when she found out she called my phone screaming at me..and then grounded me*lol* she got over it after a few days but still says i was way to young

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My mom was picking me up from work because we were going out for dinner and I grabbed her hand looked her in the eyes and told her she wasn't allowed to be mad at me. Than I blurted out I was pregnant and kinda ran backwards four giant steps.

My mom started crying because she was so happy (The doctors had told me I couldn't get pregnant, and I was already engaged to my now husband) All in all it was a nice day :)

Ashleigh - posted on 10/23/2009

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I didnt even have the chance to tell my mom because she brought home the test. she found out before i did... then she cried and i had to live with my aunt for a few days when she told my dad.

Beth - posted on 10/23/2009

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I was 17. I went to the dr because I thought I had a cold and found out I was pregnant *lol* I wasn't close to either of my parents at the time, I was doing my own thing. I was more worried about telling my grandma and my aunt/uncle because they were the ones that took care of me most. Well my mom was happy as can be when I told her. I kept it from my dad for a while and when he found out he was disappointed and him being my dad it broke my heart. He hated my boyfriend, my now husband, but once we had our oldest daughter they've been bubds since =) When I told the rest of my family, they seemed to ask names and everything right then. His family wasn't exactly the same. They thought I was ruining his life. But whatever lol When we found out we were pregnant again, we were 18, had her at 19, our families were extremely happy. We are both 20 now with a 2 year old and a 10 month old, it's definitely hard at times lol

But in all honesty, don't hide it from your parents, the longer you wait the more hurt they are it seems.

Heather - posted on 10/23/2009

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well, i told my mom and she didnt really have a reaction. more happy than sad cuz she wanted a grandbaby. But my dad, even though we live 8 states apart, he was very upset. But very quick he got over it and supported me. But my granny..was ready to beat me. Lol

Heather - posted on 10/22/2009

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i was 18 when i got pregnant, 19 when i found out i couldn't take a test until after i got off work one night, so my mom was already in bed. when i took it and it said positive i didnt believe it so i took 3 more the next day when my mom was at work. they all 3 showed up positive right away. by the time i got home that night my mom was in bed again so the next morning she got up at 5 to get ready for work and i was sitting there with a sandwich bag full of pregnancy tests and handed them to her. She wasn't mad, she just said "i'm to young to be a grandma" but she called in that day and got started making me appointments and getting everything ready. Now she loves her granddaughter

Alisha - posted on 10/22/2009

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I told my mom I was a little worried cause I hadn't had my period and she asked if she could tell my grandma so she could take me to get a pregnancy test done. Then about a week later she took me and we found out I was about 13 weeks pregnant :)



Now with my dad we tried to hide it because we were afraid he'd over react but once he found out he was really excited and happy to be a grandpa.

Corey - posted on 10/21/2009

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i was 18 when i got pregnant, and at first, i was scared to tell my parents! me and my now fiance were going to tell them together, but he ended up telling his mother before we all got together. she was extremely supportive and talked to us about my plans to go to college, where we planned to live since we werent living together then, money, etc. and my mom was more upset. she cried and asked me what i planned to do with college and money. not long after telling them the news, they were asking us about names, buying baby clothes, asking us for copies of the sonograms, and now they are amazing grandparents.

Chelle - posted on 10/20/2009

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i first fell pregnant when i was 16. i told them staight away. my mum was fine with it and didnt seem to care too much. my dad sat me down and made me go through all the pros and cons of having a child so young and helped me make my mind up on what to do. unfortunatly i miscaried that baby.

when i was 17 i fell pregnant again. i told my mum about a week before my 3month scan and i told my dad after this and showed him the scan picture. he seemed ok about this pregnancy and we didnt have the sit down and talk like he did with the other pregnancy. i had my daughter when i was 18.

3 n a half moths after i had her i fell pregnant again. this one is due may 28th 2010.(ill be 19 by then) ive told my mum and she was fine. im wating to tell my dad untill after my first scan again.

i think it was easy for me because my sister had two kids by the age of 19 and my mum had three kids by the age of 21 so all my family seem to have started a family young. and the fact that i have had a house with my partner since i turned 16 was a worry off my parents minds. xx

Edie - posted on 10/20/2009

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I texted my parents telling them i was pregnant and not sure if i was to keep it (although i knew i wanted to) and finally gained the courage to tell them i was after they asked me a million times what my decision was lol.

Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2009

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Hello fellow young mummies :)



I had a suspicion I was pregnant very early but I didn't tell my Mum until I was 12 weeks. I didn't want her to know in case I had a miscarriage. At first she flipped it! And we were both crying. She didn't talk to me for a few days, but then she rang and said she was sorry and that she was excited. Now she is a doting grandma, who spends a lot of time with her first grand son! :)



We were going to tell my partners mum on the weekend following, but he had a day off during the week and went and told her. She said that she knew because when we were up there the past couple times she could tell we wanted to say something.My Mum said the same thing.

Hillary - posted on 10/19/2009

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I am 19 years old & pregnant with my first baby. A little girl:). I told my mom one night when I had already took a test that morning & it come back positive. She was supportive & said that she wished we had waited a little while, but that she would support me as long as I didn't drop out of college & accomplished my dreams. I am now 7 months & 1 week pregnant. My whole family is excited & so his my fiances family. I know I should have waited longer, but it was something that happened unexpectedly. Its a blessing in disquise. I wouldn't trade it for anything. The hard part is telling your mom if you ask me. I just made a promise to myself & my little girl that I wouldn't drop out of college & I would somehow accomplish my dreams for her & make something of myself. The father & I are still happily together & plan to get married someday. He's amazing for us both being 19 & having our first child together.

Iysha - posted on 10/19/2009

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I told my mom at my cousin's girlfriend's baby shower. I was like, "mom, we are having a baby." and my aunt was the one that got a uh oh look on her face. My mom was happy, kind of...and she called my dad to break the news to him. lol. He said, "I'm happy for you, but I am not happy."



We told my boyfriend's mom at Thanksgiving since we found out just the day before. I told her that we were going to have a baby and she said she "knew it." How did she know when I didn't even know? She was thrilled =]

Brittany - posted on 10/19/2009

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I told my step-mom the dya after i found out. She was disappointed but happy she called my dad later that night and told him. They all seemed to be ok any VERY suppotive.

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2009

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i told my mum that i had some symptoms and she said they sounded pregnancy related so she told me to do a test.

i text her the result .. and she was and always has been completely supportive .. she was a young mum herself. she was excited too!

she told my sisters as i was nervous about telling them .. my big sis fell out with me for a month .. she had an abortion and felt that i was making the same mistake as i had my life set out .. i was gonna go uni to study law that september.

i dont live with my dad .. we've not got a close relationship .. he's lovely .. but i just hardly ever see him and i only used to see him when i was little so i was nervous about he'd react.

i text him too .. and he was fine about it .. he said i wondered why you had missed an exam. (i found out a day before my psychology a level exam and my head was messed up so i didnt go)

he also said that he can't really criticise me since my mum was young.

Jennifer - posted on 10/19/2009

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with my first I told my mum two days after I found out; I stayed home from school so I could talk to her when she came home from work and into my room to harrass me for not going to school I asked her how she would like being a grandma she was taken back for a minute then asked me when I was planning on telling her I looked at her like she had grown an extra head and told her I just told her lol then she looked terrified and said she'ld tell my Dad, he was not happy about it but he was okay it was when they found out that my boyfriend/babydaddy was 25 that they flipped. my boyfriends mum was giving him the "use procection" speech and by the look on his face she knew it was too late the second Baby I told my mum that we were planning on a second baby and she was very supportive my Dad was grumpy about it. and my boyfriend's parents found out because I had my ultrasound appiontment time posted on my fridge; they wanted to know if I was OK LOL

Tara - posted on 10/19/2009

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well i was 15 and pregnant and didnt wanna tell my mom at all so four months' into my pregnancy you could tell a little bit that i was, but things like that get around in school and sooner or later my mother found out she wanted me to get an abourtion but i wouldnt do it... but now my mother wouldnt regret any of this she loves her grandson.

Amanda - posted on 10/19/2009

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well with both my kids i told my mom about an hour of finding out myself..



with my first she was upset.. but she got over it fast and asked what i planned to do about it.. i told her i was keeping the baby and after a week she adjusted and was fine.. i had to tell her when she was at work because i needed to borrow the money for prenatal vitamins.



with my second it was a little rougher.. she flipped out yelled got very upset kept saying i had to get rid of it ( my son was only 8 months old and i had had a c-section so she was also concerned about my health).. but once again after a while (longer then with my frist) and she settled enough to except it.. it took her longer to become happy about it... but in the end she was fine.. i belive because i told her so fast.. with my second i told her in the kitchen after getting home from the doctors..



with my ex's parents HE put off telling them about our first... when i was almost 4 month pregnant they found out from someone else... and needless to say.. they were pissed right off. he had lied to me and told me he already told them. with our second we weren;t together and were on oppisite ends of the country not long after i found out so i have no idea was he did with that one.. but i know he spent months deny it was his child so...

Tiffany - posted on 10/16/2009

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wow thats crazy. My story is kinda like yours. I was on birth control too and she had a suspiction that i was pregnant cos all the signs were there, tired all the time, morning sickness, And of course i was not taking my pills anymore since i was and one day she asked me to bring her the pill contaner and thats when it happened.

Nichola - posted on 10/16/2009

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well actually my mom was the one who bought me my pregnancy test cuz i was switching birth controls and she just asked me to tell her when she needed to fill the prescription and I was to quiet I guess so she was with me when I took the test and she just hugged me and I dont really know I had to go to school after I took the test so I was all kind of a blurry day

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